Mixed emotions about miscarraige
I havent had a period in 2 year since i've been on the shot. I had to get a pap smear before my next series of shots but couldnt book one until a month after my BC window. Since I still didnt get a period I figured it would be fine to continue the unprotected sex with my boyfriend.
A couple of weeks after i was off the shot waiting for my GYN appointment i had very heavy bleeding and i just thought it was my period.
So I went to the doctor and got the pap and they gave me a blood pregnancy test before i could get the BC shot and it turned out that my blood showed i was pregnant. But it turns out there is no baby...
Obviously i didnt wanna get pregnant but now i am kinda bummed out about it and so is my boyfriend. Has anyone else gone through this? Its so strange to me that im not excited/relieved about it cause i would never want a baby where i am in life right now. I dunno...
Re: Mixed emotions about miscarraige
That does sound tough, and confusing. I'm sorry this happened to you both. Just remember that it is a good thing because you really didn't want a baby right now. Hey, at least you know you're fertile!
Re: Mixed emotions about miscarraige
this is actually a pretty common emotion for a situation like yours. it will pass. *hugs* i've been there before.
Re: Mixed emotions about miscarraige
Hey luv..not sure if your doc told you or not but you are EXTREMELY MORE fertile right after a misscariage. So if you're not ready then be extra careful hun.
I got pregnant about 4 yrs ago..started bleeding at 8 wks. Went to see the doc and they confirmed the baby had no heartbeat. It literally was like someone ripped my heart out. I was soooo devastated..and my husband (bf at the time) took it as hard as I did if not harder. I ended up having to carry it an extra month bc my body wouldn't pass it. So I had to go in and have a D&C done (doc goes in and cleans everything out of the uterus). But I had the D&C January 23rd then got pregnant again early March. She is a healthy babygirl that will be 3 in Dec. When January rolls around I always think of that baby. But I'm blessed to have the one I got!! =)
Good luck doll!!
Re: Mixed emotions about miscarraige
No, but I have a friend who has. She does want children but not yet. She would, however, continue an accidental pregnancy because her fertility is questionable. She miscarried an accidental pregnancy earlier this year and felt much as you do, despite not being ready for a baby just yet. You sound quite normal to me. It's usual to have all kinds of feelings about miscarriage, even with an unplanned pregnancy.
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Girl, I'm a big believer in everything happens for a reason (i know it's corny but true). I could totally understand how your emotions could be mixed up and I feel for you girlie. I always think "this too shall pass" to help me remember that (while i'll never forget it) I will be able to move on (any so will your boyfriend). I would talk with him about talking about it whenever he needs so it says something you openly discuss.I'm sure a lot of girls can relate to this so your most def not alone. Good luck to you girl :)