Flirting Outside the Relationship
I know, and my guy has told me, that he flirts with girls. It is just his personality, and it's not in a gross let me get your number way, just a bantering way. If I sit around dwelling on it I can get a little uncomfortable but honestly I do it too. I'm flirty with guys and I understand that flirting keeps a fun sexual energy that I desire in a partner. Also, I understand the basic need for some shallow reassurance that flirting gives us.
But what do you think? Is it OK as long as both partners are doing? Are you allowed to flirt but your man isn't? When does it cross a line?
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Flirting is just normal imo. Everyone does it to an extent. It's a reflection of how you feel about yourself, more than in your interest in the person you are interacting with in most cases. As long as he isn't blatantly hitting on girls or collecting numbers and isn't being disrespectful by doing it right in front of you while ignoring you, I personally wouldn't worry about it.
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I think it’s very normal to flirt. If I see something I like, I tell that person. Whether it's a woman's nails, her hair or even the outfit she's wearing. I even give attention to women I don't find attractive just to make someone feel good & get a smile.
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I think it's normal. J is hot so it doesn't really bother me when other women try to talk to him . As long as he keeps it fun / flirty but also respectful to me. I mean .... when he's alone ...he can do what he wants, but if I'm right there , I expect an introduction as " girlfriend " , not turning his back to me , ect. He does this. He's pretty good about it unless there is a temptress in hot high heels around ( his fetish ) . Luckily, it's getting cold in our area and there are not many high heel wearers out. If it wasn't for std risk .... I'd let him fool around with other chicks though, so I guess our views are a little different.
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My view is that it can be inappropriate but isn't cheating. it's fine if you've both agreed it is, of course. I think I'd personally prefer that it not happen at all. I'm the least flirty person ever, so not hard for me to stick with.
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My boyfriend isn't a flirt, but he gets approached by girls a lot. In fact one of the girls from work went after him in front of me, claiming she didn't know who he was! I'm glad he doesn't flirt back but he is friendly to everyone.
I get most of my inner flirt out at work, but if I'm in a bar without my bf and want a drink I do flirt for drinks....I feel bad for it though (partially cause as soon as I have the drink I walk off)
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I will flirt without even thinking about it, and typically don't mean anything at all about it. Though if I'm out with someone I do try and curb it. I like to think women will understand its just part of my personality and not take it the wrong way.