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LOL i have this problem with my boyfriend if i havent seen him in a while after the first sex omg i feel like my pussy is on fire(last month when i hadnt seen him for a couple weeks due to distance i had to hold ice on my kitty he thought it was hilarious i was nearly crying) and after a couple days of sex i get baad stomach cramps... basically use lots of lube..i get really wet but i still would say use lube, take it slow he has to like stretch it and after some regular sex(usually about 2 times a day for about 5 days is when mine stops hurting) it doesnt hurt anymore honestly but then as soon as i dont see him for like a week its like my pussy shrinks back to original size... I find that playing with my clit alot helps mask the pain into like a pleasure/pain sort of feeling other than that im not sure but for the first time i wouldnt advise fast or deep sex otherwise it is going to reeallly hurt as you found out.
Ooh..ouch. I'm sorry that you had such a painful ordeal with this. It's something that I've never had trouble with - but rest assured, you can enjoy this thing of his. It's amazing how supple and accommodating a woman's vagina is.....if she's stimulated properly.
First off....talk to him about this. Don't be embarrassed to tell your boyfriend that he's enormous! Not only will it allow you guys to chat about what you like and don't like - it'll also give him a massive ego boost to know that he's HUGE in your book.
Next - FOREPLAY! You need to be as relaxed and as moist as possible to allow yourself the best chance of accommodating his massive member (sounds LOOOOVELY!). So kiss and cuddle and stroke and caress each other - long kissing's good. You can always use a lubrication if needs be.
Take it easy - there's no rush is there? I mean - you're both into this so just take your time and get used to each other's bodies and how you react to different types of stimulation.
There's always one other method. You can bring him off first so that he isn't quite so hard and forceful when you actually get to the act itself.
Finally - enjoy it. Sex is supposed to be a pleasure - not a pain.
Oh My.....I'm gonna have to stop now...it's all getting too much!;D
I had the same situation. My ex was kinda small, and my now boyfriend is monstrous...and I'm little!
The key is to take it easy...hold off on the weird positions or going fast until you're used to it. Go slow, use plenty of lube, and just ease into it.
Relax, take it easy. You'll get used to it.
But by all means take the good advice above about foreplay, going slow and easy at first, lots of lube, etc. Lube is your friend...
Oh, how I hear you. I lost my virginity to my SO who has a cock about that size which is also seriously thick. First time I was sore for about half a day, lol. But I was never in such pain as you, because he has a huge amount of patience when it comes to putting it in: if it takes 15 mins of slowly trying, he'll take 15 mins until it fits. I like rough sex and always had a high pain threshold, though.
I concur with everyone who posted before me: take a lot of time doing other things before actual penetration, until you are very, very turned on, that way your kitty will be more relaxed and capable of taking larger things. :P If you don't naturally get really wet, use lube to help yourself. And going fast and in strange positions is a no-no for start, you need classic positions in which you'll be comfortable and the angle won't be weird.
I mean, good ole missionary, for example. It's much more relaxing to be laying on your back while he's slowly fitting it in, than balancing on three fingers of your right hand, heel of the left foot and two eyelashes while he's ramming it in under a 75 degrees angle in your pussy. No? Oh, it's just me then. ;D
Seriously, though, leave anything rough and demanding positions for later, when you're used to him. Not only used to, you'll enjoy it!
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Have sex everyday. I also went from 5 with my first to 7.5 with my husband. I just did it everyday even though it hurt. I usually sat in a small bit of cold water in the bathtub after to help soothe the pain. Eventually it stretches. I really dont consider 7.5 large anymore. I would consider it minimum. Now 9 inches... fuck no!
Ugh... I remember being so relieved when I went from bigger cocks to a regular/small sized dick. Honestly, I felt like i was in love. Rough sex was awesome in its own way, but being with a little guy my size somehow felt like magic. Suddenly I could, like, move in ways I couldn't, etc... or maybe it was just him.
This reminds me of one of my ex's. He was at least 9 inches. Did I mention I am small and have Vaginismus to boot? Yeah not much fun. All I did was cry. Now I am in the minority but I want a small guy.