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"Can I buy you a drink?"
I don't drink at work. After too many drinks, I get tired and don't feel like doing much, so it's not conducive to me making money. That, and alcohol obviously make you less aware of your surroundings, which is definitely something I don't want to deal with when working in a nude contact club. I have tended to work day shifts, so I rarely get customers asking me if I want a drink, but when they do, I always say no. I'd rather the money went directly to me via dances anyway. But am I going about this all wrong?
I can totally stand to have a drink or two and not even feel it, so should I be taking advantage of these offers to buy me drinks? I've declined drinks and had customers come for dances anyway, but I've also declined drinks and not got dances. I don't think there's a strong relationship between them buying me a drink and then getting a dance, but I'm just wondering if I should be more open to accepting free drinks, especially since I plan on working later shifts, when there is more drinking going on in general.
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drinking is very social. if someone buys you a drink you're inclined to sit and talk with him until you're finished with your drink. he also wants to loosen you up a little so getting a non-alcoholic beverage might put him off. I always accept drinks at work. if you don't feel like getting drunk, sip it slowly and the next time someone asks to buy you a drink you say "I already have one thank you"
when a customer buys me a drink I say thank you and smile. it helps when you don't act entitled like the other dancers who are like "damn it's about time someone bought me a drink." the nice girl wins almost every time. show you appreciate even the smallest offer he has for you and he'll want to spend more.
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ugh. i don't drink at all, but now i'm at an alcohol club, and asking for water puts off a lot of guys.
the thing is, I KNOW how i am when i drink. the only inhibitions i've got are the ones that keep me acting nice. i'm not gonna give more contact with a couple drinks in me. i'm not gonna break rules. i'm just gonna walk out on their dance instead of politely telling them to not touch my pussy or not squeeze my tits like they're trying to get milk out. i'll yell, i'll hit them. drinking doesn't make me more fun. handing me cash makes me fun. that's not stripper bs. that's a fact. if i wanted to drink, i'd get a rich middle-aged boyfriend the way other girls do.
i'm tempted to just accept their drinks and not drink them. but i'm not sure. i wanted to ask the bartenders to give me virgin drinks, but i'm not sure they'll actually do that. i'm pretty new, and they don't seem to pay much attention to any of the dancers.
i'm gonna be working at more alcohol clubs next year, and i need some ideas on how to handle this.
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Good points. I just don't want it to turn into an excuse to put off dances, like "We can go for a dance once you finish your drink" which is what I find quite a few guys try to do with their own drinks. I guess I could just chug it and then hold off on other drinks for a while if that happens though.
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No, how about using that money to watch me dance on stage instead?
Works everytime!!!
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There's a girl who works days at my club who won't drink @ work, but will order a fake shot that's named after her. i always order the same thing, and no guy notices that it's not real alcohol.
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It pisses me off that clubs don't offer fake drinks where you can make a bit per drink.
I don't drink at work either. Just order soda and say you did a shot a few minutes ago.
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xoAnnaBanana
And if they give me a kind of weird look when i just say soda, I'll say cutely "Oh, I have school tomorrow morning at 8AM so I HAVE to be good tonight! ;)"
Works like a charm. (Unless it's a Friday or Saturday lol). Then I have to admit that I'm not 21 yet.
you're lucky that works. anytime i say that, they tell me to have a drink anyways.
for weekends, you could always say you've got to be up early for a family thing.
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xoAnnaBanana
Whenever someone asks me this, I always say "Sure :)" and when they ask what I want, I just say "I'll just have a soda please." Accepting a drink is just polite & I think it helps build rapport. It helps me get my foot in the door, so to speak.
And if they give me a kind of weird look when i just say soda, I'll say cutely "Oh, I have school tomorrow morning at 8AM so I HAVE to be good tonight! ;)"
Works like a charm. (Unless it's a Friday or Saturday lol). Then I have to admit that I'm not 21 yet.
there are classes on weekends.
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carmen_b
It pisses me off that clubs don't offer fake drinks where you can make a bit per drink.
I don't drink at work either. Just order soda and say you did a shot a few minutes ago.
Thanks, that's a good one! I'm gonna tell them I took a shot a few minutes ago and order a soda next time! :)
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Oh thought I'd add to this....I'm personally a beer drinker and when I drink a beer every now and then at work I drink it VERY SLOW that way its not affecting me at all and also so that when they ask to buy me a drink I've already got one!
Now to my problem cuz it's related to this......This happens to me alot and it's bugging me to death as to why this always happens.....I will be sitting with a group of guys and usually there will be another dancer or two with us and a guy will say "Im gonna buy everybody drinks what do you want?" and the guys normally get some shots and the girls will get some fru-fru mix drink and I order a beer and then the guys will pay for everything but my beer because they get pissed off that's it's not liqour and they know I'm not gonna get plastered off a beer. It's just so rude! And last time I checked it was hot to see a pretty girl drinking a beer! lol! Asses! I normally just take my own cash and reach across the guy who offered to "pay for EVERYBODY'S drinks" and hand it to the waitress and then say "Thanks for the drink!" to the guy and leave. Sounds bitchy but hey...they were bitchy first! :)
Geez I always sound like such a jerk on here, I guess this is just where I get everything off my chest! :)
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Talk to your bartender and waitresses before you start your shift. I simply tell them that while I NEVER refuse a cocktail or bottle (refusing drinks is NOT allowed in the clubs I work at) I do not drink. Usually what this does is that whenever I order a drink that a customer gets me the waitress or bartender knows off hand to make it non-alcholic and the customer is none the wiser. Alot of times this is an icebreaker especially for men.
I simply say after the drink order, we should go have some fun/play/spend some private time together when she comes back with our drink huh (nod) it usually works. You always always want to thank the customer for the drink too it shows you have class and alot of clients like this (especially the ones with money)
Now if its a bottle he/she/they are buying you can work out a system as well, either spill some of the drink, sip it, have the waitress bring you a new one (oops lipstick on the glass) etc.
Also what works if they are really insistent on getting me to drink ALOT "oh sweetie I don't have to be drunk to have fun and be attracted to you!"
let me know if you need anymore advice. I have sucessfully been working sober for 6 years!
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Stage tipping is all but non-existent in my area, so telling a customer to spend money on me while on stage won't go over too well. I also tend to only go on stage once a shift, and it's at the start of it, so by the time I'm getting into hustling I'm done with stage (which is quite nice!).
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XAnastasiaX
I simply say after the drink order, we should go have some fun/play/spend some private time together when she comes back with our drink huh (nod) it usually works.
I like this a lot. Thanks!
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she sells sanctuary
you're lucky that works. anytime i say that, they tell me to have a drink anyways.
for weekends, you could always say you've got to be up early for a family thing.
To me both of these seem a little too vanilla. I mean the guy wants you to be "naughty" right? At least give the illusion. Saying you have classes or a family function isn't sexy and don't point his mind in the direction of spending money. Order a shot. Fake if u want. You can pretend you are so "loosened up" after a good shot, and it's quick so you can see if u will close the sale without wasting time sipping a drink. I like to order a wet pussy. It gets the guys attention and it is very weak. Cranberry juice and peach schnapps
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Customers that offer to buy you a drink I've found are more than likely to buy dances, because by offering, they're indicating interest in you. That or they're one of those customers that pull the "I love to buy ladies a drinks in exchange for their company, but I just don't get dances." Either way, you'll be popping the question of dances by the time you're done your drink anyways, so you'll either make money or move on. Having a drink with them also gives you something to talk about with them. There are a lot of guys that really like to sit and have a drink with you and get to know you a bit, and then will go for dances. I will accept 2-3 drinks per shift (5 hrs), and maybe a shot if a shooter girl I like is working. Not nearly enough to get even tipsy, and only 1 from any particular customer in general (again, theres no need for more, one drink is plenty of time to pitch). When I would drive to work, I didn't drink at all after midnight (3 hrs to get everything out of your system), and custies were really understanding of that obviously.
I would say that unless its a drink that will impact your ability to function (like say your 3rd one in 1 hour), it doesn't hurt to accept, and it may have a *small* benefit, especially during night shifts, more so on weekends when people are there to party, and want you to party with them. And if you're concerned about getting a bit tipsy at work stick to really low alchol content drinks like wine+juice, bitch drinks, mixed drinks, etc, and drink them really slowly so the ice melts and waters them down even more.
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she sells sanctuary
ugh. i don't drink at all, but now i'm at an alcohol club, and asking for water puts off a lot of guys.
the thing is, I KNOW how i am when i drink. the only inhibitions i've got are the ones that keep me acting nice. i'm not gonna give more contact with a couple drinks in me. i'm not gonna break rules. i'm just gonna walk out on their dance instead of politely telling them to not touch my pussy or not squeeze my tits like they're trying to get milk out. i'll yell, i'll hit them. drinking doesn't make me more fun. handing me cash makes me fun. that's not stripper bs. that's a fact. if i wanted to drink, i'd get a rich middle-aged boyfriend the way other girls do.
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WOW this!!! ^^
haha thats me to a T ..
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I always get drinks, when I dont even want to, I get sometihng mix and light and drink it SLOWLY, I mean a sip or two out of the whole drink (usually "forget" the drink after im done with them) and try to engage into the conversation, so I get the guy buying LDs. There were times when guys said "Why arent you drinking more, take a sip, heres your drink"etc in hinting for me to drink more. I would say "Im having fun, heres your beer" That always makes them change the subject to chug their beer away, while I get to not to drink.
Another suggestion is to, talk to the bar, maybe they could work with you. But my club didnt allow me to do "fake drinks" when I asked them. You say ask for a soda or something and say you're a student and need to get good grades *wink*.
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A lot of times guys will say "Can I get you anything?" & I'll respond "Can I have anything I want?" when the customer says yes, I say "Great, I want to take you for a dance!". It works amazingly well.
As for drinking, I don't really drink at work. If I get paid on drinks I am more likely to ask for something that pays me higher. Some clubs have the faux alcoholic drinks, & I try not to trick customers unless it's impossible not to. Generally I'll ask for something like a cherry bomb or some other sweet drink that can be made with juice, so the customer doesn't know if there is alcohol in it or not. The problem is that if they want a sip of it they will know there isn't alcohol, which is another reason I try to avoid tricking them beyond just feeling like its dishonest.
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I HATE it when customers sip my drinks! Ugh! Why do they think it's okay to do that? Bothers me....
But yeah, I've had men flat out refuse to pay unless i order something with alcohol. I've also been told he'll only take me to the booth if I drink with the other girls..., so I just always order a vodka cranberry and drink it slow. It's sort of frowned upon to refuse drinks/shots if the customers are willing to buy, so I'm stiuck either way.
Booze, ahoy!
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I've had guys grab my drinks and sniff them to make sure they're alcoholic!
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Kylea2
The problem is that if they want a sip of it they will know there isn't alcohol, which is another reason I try to avoid tricking them beyond just feeling like its dishonest.
really custumors sip your drink? Thats kinda odd to me...I guess unless its a regular your really comfortable with. But I never considered this happening..hm
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Um, a customer putting his mouth or nose anywhere near my drink is gross. If someone did either that drink would not be touched again. Ew
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^ Yeah, I didnt know it was common! I had never guys go near my drink, more ask to smell or sip it. Hell no!
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kitinboots
I've had guys grab my drinks and sniff them to make sure they're alcoholic!
Me too! And then if I act put-off or weirderdout they act like they're entitled to check and make SURE I'm drinking alcohol! And i cant count the times men have just swiped my drink to have a sip. Fucking men...
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I'm a newbie, but I think I'll just be sticking to redbull in a glass with ice and saying it's mixed with vodka if custies ask. Can't imagine that anyone would be a pisser about the way it might smell, especially since it has such a discerning fragrance, and vodka is nearly odorless. Has anyone tried this? Does it work?