Managers "playing favorites" with me...
I have pretty good relationships with the staff/management of my club, probably because I'm clean/ responsible/ make good money/ don't give anyone any trouble. The bouncers, hospitality guys, and DJ help me out, and the two out of four of the managers like me alot, and tell me they want to "get a room" with me if they weren't working as managers...
I've also noticed that lately, whenever I check out at night, my fees are way lower than they should be. The two managers who like me have been cutting my fees down, and sometimes they even take out the house fee, so I end up paying half, or even nothing!
At first I thought they just slipped, or made mistakes... but then its been happening almost every time, with the same guys. Once I asked one of them what was going on, and he sort of gave me a weird look, and told me in a quiet voice, "well, did you want to pay more?" and I shook my head, he just nodded, and we pretended that it doesn't happen.
UMMMMMmmmmm....
TO BE HONEST,
I mean, I think it's pretty sweet that I get to pay less and skip house fee and stuff, BUT... it also makes me REALLY uncomfortable... because I feel like, I have to stay on their good sides... or maybe the other girls think I'm doing extras... or whatever.
It just seems like life might be much easier if everything's what it's supposed to be, fair and square... and if management isn't flirting with me everytime I'm checking in/out of work shift.
What would you do in my situation? Is it good/bad thing? Would you say something, and if you would, what would you say?
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Uh. Jeez. That is a little weird. I would be really careful about this. Ask them if it's what all the other girls are paying. It sounds like to me that they're lowering your fees so that one day they can "trap" you and claim that you "owe" them and try to blackmail you into giving them head or sleeping with them.
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Well, in my club they treat me a bit better than the other dancers, but is also because there are some military people working there too, so I guess the manager/owner is nice to military in general.
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Are these the only two managers? Does the owner come into the club ever? If so, does the owner know what is going on?
Personally, I'd start requesting receipts for paying your house fee & make sure something about "paid in full" is written on it & signed off by a manager.
I agree that if you are easy going & tipping out staff either appropriately or really well, sometimes managers will give you a break on the house fees... I've had it happen many times.
Are they flirting with you or just being nice? You need to make sure you aren't taking things the wrong way... & sometimes the best way to find that out is simply to ask.
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one day they will add up all of those fees that you did not pay and give you the option of paying the large sum of money or doing "something else" :O
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I would be very wary of this. It could come back & bite you in the ass. I don't trust sc managers; its just not smart. I would start getting receipts like Kylea said.
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eh, i had this happen at every club i worked at. i was always managers favorite.
Enjoy it while it happens and just dont brag about it to other girls or try to take further advantage of it with the management.
none of the places i worked wanted something in return for it. They just wanted me to keep being a good worker.
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Hmmm wow. Thanks for all the feedback, girls. This is really something i gotta think about. I guess I'll see if this keeps happening the next few shifts... and I do save my receipts, but I double-check just to be sure too
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Originally Posted by
Lillionaire
I have pretty good relationships with the staff/management of my club, probably because I'm clean/ responsible/ make good money/ don't give anyone any trouble. The bouncers, hospitality guys, and DJ help me out, and the two out of four of the managers like me alot, and tell me they want to "get a room" with me if they weren't working as managers...
I've also noticed that lately, whenever I check out at night, my fees are way lower than they should be. The two managers who like me have been cutting my fees down, and sometimes they even take out the house fee, so I end up paying half, or even nothing!
At first I thought they just slipped, or made mistakes... but then its been happening almost every time, with the same guys. Once I asked one of them what was going on, and he sort of gave me a weird look, and told me in a quiet voice, "well, did you want to pay more?" and I shook my head, he just nodded, and we pretended that it doesn't happen.
UMMMMMmmmmm....
TO BE HONEST,
I mean, I think it's pretty sweet that I get to pay less and skip house fee and stuff, BUT... it also makes me REALLY uncomfortable... because I feel like, I have to stay on their good sides... or maybe the other girls think I'm doing extras... or whatever.
It just seems like life might be much easier if everything's what it's supposed to be, fair and square... and if management isn't flirting with me everytime I'm checking in/out of work shift.
What would you do in my situation? Is it good/bad thing? Would you say something, and if you would, what would you say?
OMFG! The same thing happens with me! My weekend dayshift manager John is probably stalking me. Girls, he follows me around the bar trying to talk to me all the time. He never lets me pay house fee, in fact, he has paid my house fee before. (:O) WTF! I am by no means saying that I object to the this, but it makes me a little uncomfortable because I don't want the doorgirl and other girls to think that I am doing "things" for the manager to get favoritism. you know? The door girl sometimes throws me the stink eye (heh) whenever John says "It's cool. Don't worry about it." when I go to pay my house fee. There is no tip out so that's a good thing. I guess he sees that I try. I never give them any problems, I am not an extras kind of girl, I don't drink on the job, and I tip the DJ appropriately whenever I have enough money to tip him. I would like to think I am a good employee. The weekend dayshift manager John, the DJ Sean Lee, and the waitresses Margot & Stephanie all like me. Even the bartenders Brittany and Doug are cool with me. The only person that doesn't like me is Dave, the weekday dayshift manager. He HATED me whenever I worked there back in June and July. so I don't know. He played favorites really bad....and I was not a favorite of his.:-\
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i don't know why male managers do this. it does make things awkward for us. just appreciate the fact that you don't have to pay those fees (it is highly doubtful you will ever owe the club anything) and as long as you don't persue their advances outside the club, i don't see how it should become a problem. i find it a little humorous that 2 out of the 4 are playing the same game and if they both told you the same thing about getting a room if not for being manager then they might be running some sort of "fraternity" type game to see if they can actually bang the strippers and who gets which girl first. who knows, they may just generally like you, so take advantage of it while you can as you know with any man, they will only chase you for so long before someone else catches their eye and you'll be back to paying the fees like everyone else. just thank them kindly. i had a manager that was kind of like that, i would always owe less for the private dances i did when i worked with him or he would always intorduce me to customers who he thought would spend alot. enjoy it while it lasts...
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I wouldnt worry about it. Just never ever tell anyone. Always play down your relationship. Fuck its a strip club... even if it did come back and bite you.. work somewhere else. They arent going to take you to court for house fees.
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thanks for the support! I go in for my first weekday after getting hired back on Saturday. This manager HATES me. He doesn't like me at all. It's frustrating because he hangs out at the bar and is always watching what I do. It makes me a bit nervous because I can feel him staring at me and can see in my "side vision" that he's staring me down as I talk to a custie. Prettyyyy nerve racking if you ask me.
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Jessie_tinydancer
I wouldnt worry about it. Just never ever tell anyone. Always play down your relationship. Fuck its a strip club... even if it did come back and bite you.. work somewhere else. They arent going to take you to court for house fees.
Exactly - if they do give you receipts or pay stubs, hang on to them, make sure your papers are in orders and there is nothing that they can do. If they don't do receipts, then there is nothing that they can do anyway! Scope out a couple other clubs so that if things go tits up, you can move on quickly, and then sit back and enjoy the free ride!