Recruiting for the Dark Side
I'm actively trying to help my friend who works as a vet assistant come over to the Dark side... she is fascinated but apprehensive as well. She says she may not have the skills to be a stripper. I told her "Strippers aren't born, they're made".
Am I right? None of us started off knowing how to point our toes, how to cut off tags, etc etc.
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i know a lot of 'unlikely' strippers. i guess everyone has big-boobed wonders from 80s movies on their mind when they think stripper.
i am the most unlikely stripper i know
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Its a job, just like another job, we either like it, hate it, learn it, leave it.
I dont think every girl can become a stripper (the drunk guys, being naked and other crap) but as long as she wants to try - why not?
Then she'll know whether she wants to go further or not -- She shouldn't quit her day job though, just in case if she's thinking about it.
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I absolutely think that any girl can learn to be a great stripper - its just a matter of practise..(and with your coaching, I'm sure she'll be there in no time!)
Only exceptions to that rule - girls with alcohol tendencies or existing drug problems (obviously) and girls with severe self-esteem issues who couldn't handle the emotionally draining side or couldn't grow a thick skin...you know the types - that burst into tears if someone is mean to them on the street, and who would end up sobbing on a corner of the dressing room floor and hating herself forever!!
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I've been interested in stripping since I was 13. It took me YEARS to actually do it. Part of me wishes I had started sooner but that's besides the point. My friend showed some interest mostly because she needed money. She did go to a club as a customer and had a great time. I told her we could work in another state or city to avoid anyone knowing about her. In some ways I could see her doing well because she's pretty with a great personality personality. She is also sensitive and I would worry about her if she had to deal with an aggressive guy. I don't think everyone was born to strip. If you mean skills like pole tricks - they are teachable. I still haven't learned any lol. If you mean dealing with drunk men, selling dances, taking off her clothes, a lot of these either comes naturally or don't. You can learn to be a better sales person but you might never be comfortable having drunk assholes attempt to over step their boundaries. Maybe let her read this site to get an idea of the good and bad of this industry
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I think nearly anyone can become a stripper! I was very innocent and knew nothing about stripping when I saw the ad in the local newspaper. My roomie suggested it and I laughed cause I thought she was nuts. I was very shy at first. lol
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I think it has a lot to do with mindset than anything else. Out of shape, bad hair, acne, glasses, shy: all things that can be fixed. I think getting comfortable with the idea is the most important thing though, it took me over 2 years from when I initially thought of dancing to get comfy enough with it and work up the balls to try it. I dunno what your friend means by "skills" but print that girl off some hustle hut and newbie board threads and get her to the club :) recruiting is kind of fun!
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ManyRoses
girls with severe self-esteem issues who couldn't handle the emotionally draining side or couldn't grow a thick skin...you know the types - that burst into tears if someone is mean to them on the street, and who would end up sobbing on a corner of the dressing room floor and hating herself forever!!
i used to be that girl. one of the reasons im happy i got into stripping is that side of me vanished, or i became better at hiding it. however i still struggle, when i started i hardly had enough self worth to justify the $80 men are gonna pay to watch me dance. i guess im still behind, not pushing for as much as i should be worth but hey i came this far.
most girls can be strippers yes, but to be successful its important you have a strong sense of self worth and confidence, preferably good acting skills. and boom i just described my top earner friend
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I used to be one of those girls with low self esteem but dancing actually showed me I was very pretty. I think some stripper tendencies are long hidden. For instance when I was a child I loved to strip off my clothes and dance, and I showed my panties to boys so they would give me candy. However other parts were learned on the job. I think it requires a certain mentality.
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IMO it takes two things to be a stripper
1. Ability to handle rejection
2. Ability to flirt and get what you want
If she can do those things, then shell be fine.
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its all about the mentality. when i first started at my club i had never been into a club before, and except for lurking on here a couple of times, had no idea what to expect. i youtubed videos to figure out what a lapdance was and asked if for a tabledance we had to get on the rinky-dink tables. i was going to bridal stores looking for a garter to wear. i had never used a hair straightener before working. my first couple of months i wouldnt even approach a custie because i was so scared i would be bothering him, that guys would have to come find me at the end of the bar as far away from the stage as possible. (once i got couple 2-3 months later i would be on stage and tell guys "hey im new, i could use a encouragement" to milk the newbie money : p )
definetely not stripper-born though
i think its more of the mentality of the girl rather than her experience or lifestyle. there are a lot of different girls who dance-its evident from the girls who post on here and the girls who we work with. i dont know where your friend is looking to dance but she could always try it for 3 months and see if she likes it
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I think most girls are "unlikely" strippers, because what people think of as a "likely" or a "typical" stripper is just so far off from reality. She has nothing to lose by trying it. If a woman is outgoing and friendly naturally with a talent for flirting she will simply have less to learn. Dealing with the bullshit is where most people start to believe they are not cut out to be in the industry.
Wish your friend good luck!
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I think I was one of those "unlikely" strippers. I auditioned because I just needed first and last months rent for my apartment when I got kicked out. I was a pretty good, college girl. Not really the flirtatious, sexy type. Then I auditioned, had a pretty awkward first night, but then it kind of clicked. I just changed my attitude towards it. It's kind of a dual personality for me and it works. It's sink or swim. If she's interested, it doesn't hurt to try. It helps to have someone mentor you--I had no one and no clue.