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horrible first day... help!
So this manager hired me on the spot. He asked me when I could work and I said now. All the girls were complaining about how slow it was. Heres the thing.. I can’t see myself through others people eyes but honestly, honestly I’m sure I have one of the prettiest faces here.. Really.. I don’t in my heart of hearts believe I’m unattractive but after tonight I’m not so sure....
I worked floor.
Basically that means we’re required to solicit customers for floor dances. I went along with it. I was sweet and said hello to everyone. There was one guy a couple girls had already approached who had refused dances...... I offered him a FREE dance. I hoped he would like it and buy more... or that customers would see that I was “in demand” he flat out refused. He was like “no that is very sweet, but I don’t feel like getting a dance now” That strung a little but it got worse....
I offered another nerdy “off” sort of guy a free dance... DENIED again...
I offered one black guy a “free” dance... He took it didn’t buy more. He bought dances from another girl ....
I was walking by and the dj pulled me aside and was like “you need to touch them, get to know them better, and wear less”
So I was aggressive with one guy and he’s like listen “you’re cute you’re sexy but I like women with a little more breasts” in so many words wowwwww....... I felt cheap.... in that moment b/c i was doing what i was not comfortable with... I walked away mid sentence..
All night I made $80. 1/2 of that was from an adorable regular who wanted to give me some pointers.
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Re: horrible first day... help!
exactly ^
Try out a few different hustle techniques until you find something that works!
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x3 on taking "free dance" out of your vocabulary. Not only do those undervalue yourself (why buy more dances when they can get one free? Even if it does get them back there, this gives them more leverage in trying to negotiate more free/discounted dances from you), but they make for a pretty cutthroat working environment as other girls charge for their dances. Basically, don't give anything away for free in the club.
Another thing to keep in mind is that it's February, a notoriously slow month across the board, so, yes, it's very slow. A lot of girls at my club only make money because they have regulars, and others are hurting. My average has certainly gone down this month. As an inexperienced dancer, you don't have a strong hustle, and that makes it even harder for you to sell dances.
There's a steep learning curve in honing your hustling skills as a new dancer, so I recommend taking it step-by-step and for now, just getting comfortable approaching customers and chatting with them.
1. Pick a customer.
2. Say hi, ask if he's having a good night/day.
3. Ask if he wants come company/you can sit down (some girls like to just plop down, but I think it's a good way of not wasting your time if they just say no).
4. Sit (or leave if he says no, but still, tell him to have a good night and let you know if he changes your mind - sometimes they just got in/got dances, so they want to chill with a beer for a few minutes alone).
5. Make small talk for 2-3 songs. Keep it light and err on the side of sexy. Lead the conversation while letting them do most of the talking.
6. After a couple of songs, or if there's an awkward pause, ask if he'd like a dance.
7. If he says yes, go to the dance room. If you get a no, tell him to enjoy his night and come find you if he changes your mind, smile, then get up.
8. Repeat.
Being new can be advantageous as club regulars will want to try you out and some guys just like a new girl. Milk it, but don't let anyone take advantage of you and make you do something you're not comfortable with or get something for free.
Best of luck on your next shift, let us know how it goes!
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At my club every girl will hustle the same guy 3 or 4 times.. It's almost like if you walk up to them to say anything their automatically like "oh no thank you i don't want a dance" i pulled the "resting me feet" card a few times.. i think tonight ill just determine the ones that seem attracted to me and be like"hey im *****. what is your name? would you like to dance?" I'm not even going to bother with the A LOT OF small talk b/c i think quite i few them of feel like their being played... if they buy a dance i'll talk...
ir's also such a tiny club if you go up to one you might make him feel special for a few seconds but then he SEES you do the same thing with another guy...
it will be better tonight....
i'll let you know how it goes...
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Have you considered transferring to a more upscale club?
Here are a few tips that helped me out A LOT when I first got started:
First of all, I had to change my MINDSET. When I first started, I felt really uncomfortable asking guys if they would like private dances. I worried that they might get mad at me for "hustling" them. Now I tell myself, LAPDANCES ARE WHAT THESE GUYS CAME FOR. I've convinced myself that every guy in the place is just WAITING for me to ask him-- because he's too shy to ask me himself.
I don't bother approaching a guy unless he gives me some sort of signal- like he tips me at my stage or he smiles at me or catches my eye... If he's flat out ignoring me then I know I'm not his type. (I'm very tall, slim, and small breasted-- lots of guys find me VERY attractive so I try not to take it too personally when I happen to meet a guy who prefers curvier women.)
When I do approach a guy, I smile at him and look him directly in the eyes, like I'm so glad to see him I can barely contain myself. I sit down beside him (or directly in his lap if he leaves his lap open) and shoot the shit for a little while (a few minutes tops) and I try to keep the conversation on the sexy side. If he starts to lose track of what's important (me,) then I'll bring his thoughts back by gently grazing my breasts with my fingertips or pulling my hair up so he can take a peek at my neck. It helps if I stay nice and close to him so he can smell me (and I always smell really good!) It also helps if I sort of absentmindedly play with his hair or rub his shoulder or something...
As soon as I can get a break in the conversation, I turn on my sexiest "come-play-with-me" voice and say something like, "Shall I take you in the back and rub myself all over you?"
(Note: if he doesn't seem like the type who appreciates an aggressive woman, then I'll turn on my "sweet-as-an-angel" voice and change it to "Would you like to go with me for a personal dance?")
In our club we're not allowed to offer free dances- but even if we could, I wouldn't do it. KNOW THAT YOU ARE WORTH EVERY PENNY!!
When I do get a guy in the lapdance section, at the end of the first song, I will ALWAYS get nice and close to him, touch his neck or his ear, and ask him if he'd like me to keep going... 90% of the time, when asked like this, a guy will say YES!
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OH-- and one more thing!
I think part of the reason you had a horrible first night was because, at the start of the night, you got stuck with a bunch of assholes who were rude to you.
It NEVER FAILS- If my night STARTS OUT really bad, then I will be in a BAD MOOD for the whole rest of the night... and I NEVER make money when I'm in a bad mood.
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AnotherBruisedPeach
I'm not even going to bother with the A LOT OF small talk b/c i think quite i few them of feel like their being played... if they buy a dance i'll talk...
ir's also such a tiny club if you go up to one you might make him feel special for a few seconds but then he SEES you do the same thing with another guy...
Just my 2 cents, but while there are certainly some guys who will go for a dance right away, there's something to be said for establishing a rapport with a customer before going for the sale. Make the customer like you and then they'll be more likely to get more dances from you. Wanna dancing often doesn't cut it now that money isn't flowing as freely.
As for the tiny club situation, it really doesn't matter. Most guys understand how strip clubs work, and as long as you come across as genuine to each of them, the fact that a customer saw you talking to another customer isn't going to count against you. On the contrary, the more "in demand" you look, the more other guys seem to want you.
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Peach, did you get my pm?
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shanna dior
Just my 2 cents, but while there are certainly some guys who will go for a dance right away, there's something to be said for establishing a rapport with a customer before going for the sale. Make the customer like you and then they'll be more likely to get more dances from you. Wanna dancing often doesn't cut it now that money isn't flowing as freely.
As for the tiny club situation, it really doesn't matter. Most guys understand how strip clubs work, and as long as you come across as genuine to each of them, the fact that a customer saw you talking to another customer isn't going to count against you. On the contrary, the more "in demand" you look, the more other guys seem to want you.
I'm sorry I sounded rude! No I do agree with you. I was just frustrated by the whole situations :/
I just need to establish rapport with the *right* customers and identify time wasters.
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Thanks girls!!!
here is my evil plan for tonight. (using your advice + stuff from the other forums/internet) I'll let you know how it works.
#1 Get on the floor on time. A lot of the girls seem to arrive late for their shifts. That gives me more time to scope out potential customers and offer them dances.
#2) Smell AMAZING
#3) Wear my hair up. For whatever reason I put my hair in a pony tail towards the end of the shift. A customer told me he liked it. He said I have" high cheekbones and beautiful
eyes so when I wear it up you can see it from all angles and not just one :) That was very sweet I suppose. I seem to get more attention that way. Whatever works right..
#4) Approach customers who I sense are interested in me. I'm not go to talk to the guys sitting there all night and REFUSING to buy dances from anybody. If he is all closed of and making no eye contact I'll say hello, introduce myself.. ask if he wants a dance... walk away... If that..
#5)For whatever reason I'm intimidated to ask older gentlemen for dances.. There was one making eye contact with me all night. I should have strutted up to him and said hello :/ I bet he was loaded..
#6) Mimic body language. Find one thing attractive the man I'm approaching. Don't talk loud. Whisper in their ear. Determine what "type" they're. Make eye contact. Bat eyelashes, bite lip... when I'm sitting alone use "open body language. " NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS smile. I'm happy to be here. I love my job as a sex goddess/ showgirl and I'm going to make loads of money
My types I've figured out...
young guys: he probably has money for one or two dances. unless he is a certain type he is probably going to go for the blonde with giant fake boobs (more power to her) but the typical stripper look. This is probably his first few times to a club. He is not looking for intimacy or a "pretty girl/ high school look" you know. He has a girlfriend for that...
**I think there are some guys that are an exception to the rule. The "sensitive" ones. They're curious about the strippers. Who they are. Why they're here etc. Those are easy to spot and there seems to be one or two sweet boys for every group of young horn dogs that come in. I'll latch on to those...
older gentlemen: professional/ sexy :I actually think they're more likely to go for the high school pretty look. (Twice people said "you don't look a day over 16") I mean this is a nude juice bar and older professional gentleman probably come because he likes younger girls. I also have a very conservative pin up look that I think they like . I'll try a professional approach. Ask them how they're. Ask if they would like a dance. Smile. Mimic.
Time waster: Men from other countries who seem to think strip clubs are brothels. Who touch your hair as they walk by *shudders* Men who are closed of. Don't make ANY eye contact. ETC...
I need to pay attention to the RIGHT customers. Not the ass holes.
:)
I'll learn more tonight...
Wish me luck...
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My first day was just like this, but -worse-. I'll see your $80 with a $32 after house fees (which my club decided to jack up for me since I was the new girl and, therefore, couldn't adhere to their complicated rate plans). Additionally...
1.) During my audition, there was a custy there who was quite taken with me, despite my being -fucking abysmal- at dancing. I didn't even have to hustle; he straight-up asked for a dance! Not only did this give me the wrong impression -- most guys prefer -you- come to -them-, since it shows an interest in -them- -- but I ended up trying to make small talk with him during the dance. I asked him if he had any kids! He looked forlorn for the rest of the dance and left. Bad, bad, bad.
2.) My audition was right after my day job, which I absolutely hated. It put me in a pretty terrible mood for the rest of the night.
3.) I was completely unprepared and had no clothes nor makeup, which meant I had to bum outfits. It wasn't so much a problem, considering one of the dancers was a girl I'd gone to high school with (and my same size, thankfully) but it set a bad precedent with the rest of the girls -- and considering my lifestyle OTC, it really didn't help.
So, trust me, you could've fucked up much worse. Truuust me. I did much better after a girl who'd been dancing for years took me in and gave me some solid pointers -- "This is like being in high school, where all the girls are competing for boyfriends -- except you're competing for rent & food!" and "Take the dollar, now show him your pussy" -- but, unfortunately, she was preggers and couldn't dance much after that. Additionally, I made a bunch of money to save soon after that after meeting a traveling businessman who appreciated being able to have intelligent conversation with me whilst staring at my ass. It's all about being perked up and keeping in that mindframe, I think.
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Also, word the fuck up on the "older gentleman // younger schoolgirl" pointer. I'm kind of a scrappy-looking chick, have piercings and whatnot, but also look much younger than I am. My second night ITC, my housemom went right out and said, "Honey, I'mma let you in on a dirty little secret: there's a lot of dirty old men out there, and you look like you're twelve. Let's get you in pigtails tonight, and try wearing pink." As long as you're comfortable with it, playing up a young look can be quite lucrative.
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It's almost like if you walk up to them to say anything their automatically like "oh no thank you i don't want a dance"
Then offer them company.
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I need to pay attention to the RIGHT customers. Not the ass holes.
I honestly think this is a mistake. Go ahead and hustle what you think are the "right" customers first... but don't count anyone out. I can't count how many times I've approached someone for the hell of it, sure I'd get turned down... and then sold a CR or a string of dances or found a new regular.
One thing I'd like to note... while wearing your hair up is fine... PLEASE try to find something a bit sexier than a pony tail. I've never met a top earner who wore her hair in a pony tail. ;P
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JaneysGun
OH-- and one more thing!
I think part of the reason you had a horrible first night was because, at the start of the night, you got stuck with a bunch of assholes who were rude to you.
It NEVER FAILS- If my night STARTS OUT really bad, then I will be in a BAD MOOD for the whole rest of the night... and I NEVER make money when I'm in a bad mood.
I found the best way to deal with these assholes and to not let them ruin your night. LAUGH at them. even if it's a fake laugh, you'll make the guy feel like an idiot because he was trying to set you off and he didn't. the worst thing a newbie can do is let one guy ruin her night.
I got this guy yesterday who wouldn't even tip me a dollar on stage and just kept trying to talk to me and I kept asking "do you want me to dance for you? are you going to to tip me?" he evaded the question. I could tell he was one of those time-wasters who just wants to keep you there as long as possible for free so I was just like "ok I gotta go make money!" when he was mid-sentence. I walked around the stage a couple times dancing for different guys and when that asshole would glare up at me and I would just laugh hysterically and it actually made me feel better!
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My night went SO much better.
I did my best to arrive on time.
I was relaxed, ready and confident.
I made a few mistakes but I've learnt from them.
It's funny but most of my dances came from guys approaching me/ asking another dancer to approach me.
The first man I approached wanted to dance and was non english speaking. This was my first mistake. He asked me to dance the moment I sat down. He was trying to run his hands all over me. I didn't like it. I said yes I'll dance for you but I'm a dancer that doesn't allow touching. He tried to coax it out of me but I just apologized. What I should have done is agreed to the dance but got the money up front. If I didn't feel comfortable I could stop the whole thing and walk away with my cash in hand. A while later another non english speaking man approached me and was very "handsy" I don't like to say it but it seems the Mexicans from Mexico are like this.. It seems like a cultural thing. Anyway I missed out on 40 or more dollars. Next time right?
I had two dances with a regular who approached me.
Later on a bunch of men came in to celebrate their son's 18th birthday. I simply did not approach them. I flirted with the boys (who are actually only one year younger than me but seemed VERY young) I wouldn't think a dad or and uncle would want a lap dance in front of their son you know....??!!
Once the crowds died down I approached the boys father and said hello. He was like "Why didn't you come here earlier I was waiting for you all night. I love brunettes blah blah." I did my best to milk them but the more aggressive girls got to them before me I guess :/ I potentially missed out on 20 plus minimum...
I should have taken my DJs advice. He told me that if he was me he would crawl over each and every one of those older men. dfkljs Next time right... There is no time to be shy...
Later on two well dressed older gentlemen came in and two blonde girls (the same who got to the birthday father latched onto them like flies) They dropped hundreds in VIP. Once one of them came out I approached him and managed to flirt my way into one tiny 20 dollar dance Lord. I'm RUNNING across the room next time I see those two again. Not only that I actually enjoyed my time with him...
Fast forward gave two dances to a regular who approached me.. Yeah I get it I've got be aggressive. The regulars feel comfortable speaking up... others don't always.
Anyway later this guy requested me through a girl who was talking to him :/ I felt bad ...... This particular group of night shift girls gave me the cold shoulder but that is okay.. im there to make money not friends i gave that guy 2 dances and he asked me on a date.. i told him he'd have to visit me here.
I did my first stage set. As club was closing. I got another request from a man sitting in the audience through another girl.... I also got some tips..
Overall much better.. you live and learn.
plus the bouncers, djs, managers are all lovely....
had a nice time
I made a HUGEEE mistake playing up the innocent card w/ a young guy who was coming to the strip club for the first time. Stupid. Stupid. He was like yeah, yeah i'll def get a dance with you a little later. The moment my back turned he was with a typical stripper looking type :/ I knew it and I wasted sooo much time on him.. ugh oh well he wanted the typical strip club experience...
there you go :) Thanks girls for everything..
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Glad you had a better shift! Every customer's got their eye on a different look, I guess -- which is why we have dressing rooms. I noticed the more "hands-on" approach Hispanic men would take as well. Actually, it was funny, because I began waitressing for a Mexican-owned restaurant after I gave up dancing, and could note quite a few similarities between how my Hispanic customers in the club had treated me and how my boss was treating his waitresses. Unfortunately, since we weren't working a club, it was sexual harassment, but...
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Felons_Felony
My first day was just like this, but -worse-. I'll see your $80 with a $32 after house fees (which my club decided to jack up for me since I was the new girl and, therefore, couldn't adhere to their complicated rate plans). Additionally...
1.) During my audition, there was a custy there who was quite taken with me, despite my being -fucking abysmal- at dancing. I didn't even have to hustle; he straight-up asked for a dance! Not only did this give me the wrong impression -- most guys prefer -you- come to -them-, since it shows an interest in -them- -- but I ended up trying to make small talk with him during the dance. I asked him if he had any kids! He looked forlorn for the rest of the dance and left. Bad, bad, bad.
2.) My audition was right after my day job, which I absolutely hated. It put me in a pretty terrible mood for the rest of the night.
3.) I was completely unprepared and had no clothes nor makeup, which meant I had to bum outfits. It wasn't so much a problem, considering one of the dancers was a girl I'd gone to high school with (and my same size, thankfully) but it set a bad precedent with the rest of the girls -- and considering my lifestyle OTC, it really didn't help.
So, trust me, you could've fucked up much worse. Truuust me. I did much better after a girl who'd been dancing for years took me in and gave me some solid pointers -- "This is like being in high school, where all the girls are competing for boyfriends -- except you're competing for rent & food!" and "Take the dollar, now show him your pussy" -- but, unfortunately, she was preggers and couldn't dance much after that. Additionally, I made a bunch of money to save soon after that after meeting a traveling businessman who appreciated being able to have intelligent conversation with me whilst staring at my ass. It's all about being perked up and keeping in that mindframe, I think.
Lol. You asked him if he had any kids during the lap dance. There goes his boner. I love it!
Actually my manager was really nice. He let me keep all my money since it was my first night. So I would have done worse than you! My house fee is 60 dollars. I would have walked away with 20!! After paying my house fee last night I walked away with around $120. On a Wednesday night :) Had I not made my rookie mistakes I could have walked away with $180 plus. I'm happy.
I applied and worked right after sitting in traffic for 5 hours. All I'd eaten all day was a luna bar :/ I was super super dehydrated and didn't buy a drink because I was scared I wouldn't be able to pay the house fees. Your attitude ...how you feel has so much to do with it I think..
:)
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DesuvsDeath
Then offer them company.
I honestly think this is a mistake. Go ahead and hustle what you think are the "right" customers first... but don't count anyone out. I can't count how many times I've approached someone for the hell of it, sure I'd get turned down... and then sold a CR or a string of dances or found a new regular.
One thing I'd like to note... while wearing your hair up is fine... PLEASE try to find something a bit sexier than a pony tail. I've never met a top earner who wore her hair in a pony tail. ;P
I took your advice :) I sort of crimped my hair and wore it in a half up style. I actually got several compliments on it.
I also def approached almost everyone.. I feel so brave..
I walked up to one guy and I was like "I know I'm your type and twirled around lets dance" Didn't work.... He shrugged and was like "No thank you sweetheart" hmmpp. Didn't let it get me down. He got dances from a girl with a very "tough girl" look. Heres the thing.. I saw him eyeing me afterwards confidence= sexy. Regardless of type.
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xGigi
I found the best way to deal with these assholes and to not let them ruin your night. LAUGH at them. even if it's a fake laugh, you'll make the guy feel like an idiot because he was trying to set you off and he didn't. the worst thing a newbie can do is let one guy ruin her night.
I got this guy yesterday who wouldn't even tip me a dollar on stage and just kept trying to talk to me and I kept asking "do you want me to dance for you? are you going to to tip me?" he evaded the question. I could tell he was one of those time-wasters who just wants to keep you there as long as possible for free so I was just like "ok I gotta go make money!" when he was mid-sentence. I walked around the stage a couple times dancing for different guys and when that asshole would glare up at me and I would just laugh hysterically and it actually made me feel better!
Yeah I def understand the time waster thing. I wasted 20 minutes plus on that one younger guy. Dumb, dumb, dumb. If he keeps being like later.. later one more song. I'll get a dance if you go on stage I'll get a dance blah blah......I'm going to excuse myself ask him to let me know if he changes his mind... Another older gentlemen approached me. Same thing he actually asked for the dance and was being "handsy" yep another hispanic customer :/ I agreed to the dance. He was like I'm going to run to the bank I'll be right back. He never came back.... Ugh! The only thing to do is to laugh. I'm not going to get offended. Looks have little to do with it. I'm realizing that. Some of the girls who are not the prettiest make the most money. You've got to hustle and you've got to know who is there to spend money :/
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Felons_Felony
Also, word the fuck up on the "older gentleman // younger schoolgirl" pointer. I'm kind of a scrappy-looking chick, have piercings and whatnot, but also look much younger than I am. My second night ITC, my housemom went right out and said, "Honey, I'mma let you in on a dirty little secret: there's a lot of dirty old men out there, and you look like you're twelve. Let's get you in pigtails tonight, and try wearing pink." As long as you're comfortable with it, playing up a young look can be quite lucrative.
not only that their often the big spenders :)
i also think those are the ones who frequent strip clubs quite a bit or have been to several....
They ALSO seem to like an exotic biracial look... They have experienced the whole "blonde bombshell" thing. They wont always be salivating over every beach bunny sort of girl. (There are lots of those in my club.) The young guys go crazy for them...
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The Contessa
Peach, did you get my pm?
Yes :) Thank you for the info. I'll def check it out if I don't start making more money at my current club. I feel really, really safe here so far though
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Felons_Felony
Glad you had a better shift! Every customer's got their eye on a different look, I guess -- which is why we have dressing rooms. I noticed the more "hands-on" approach Hispanic men would take as well. Actually, it was funny, because I began waitressing for a Mexican-owned restaurant after I gave up dancing, and could note quite a few similarities between how my Hispanic customers in the club had treated me and how my boss was treating his waitresses. Unfortunately, since we weren't working a club, it was sexual harassment, but...
I really hate it. :/ I try to avoid them but they appreciate my "look" I suppose. I'm not an object. I'm okay if someone puts their arm around me or runs their hand down my back etc but they can't just pet me b/c I'm a stripper. Come on... Now I know why cats sliver away from people you know... That is how it feels.... Gross me out. Something about they way they do it makes my skin crawl.... I'm sure many of them are very nice. I'm really sorry to hear that. I hope you can find a better job. Have you thought of waitressing at a strip joint?? At least there are bouncers to protect you. That is one nice thing about my club. I adore all the bouncers so far. They know I'm new and they take good care of me.
Anyway more on the Hispanic customers. My friend escaped from Mexico, a man she was seeing was attempting to kidnap her and take her away :/ She was 13 at the time. She said it's very common there. They don't seem to treat women with any respect. She escaped one night with her family and has been living here ever since. She is doing amazing.
I've met some lovely Hispanic men don't get me wrong. My family owns a business and some of the workers are the most hardworking, most wonderful men I've ever met. We consider them part of the family. When one died it took a toll on our whole family.. When I used to ride horses as a little girl there was a Hispanic man who always took care of me. If I fell off he would run over to make sure I was okay. If I horse got loose or bit me or something I scream his name and he would come help me. I loved them all. However for whatever reason these Hispanic men don't seem to be the type to frequent strip joints. I wish :/
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You say you have a pinup look. IMO it is best to stay away from niche looks and appeal to the masses.
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shasta
You say you have a pinup look. IMO it is best to stay away from niche looks and appeal to the masses.
Pin up isn't the best word. I just have an extremely innocent face. Real small boobs and a big butt. No tattoos. Real hair color etc. The DJ loves to give me a hard time about it. After my set he goes "and you all thought she was a virgin" Lord. Anyway I'm attempting to counteract that with sexier outfits etc. .
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AnotherBruisedPeach
not only that their often the big spenders :)
i also think those are the ones who frequent strip clubs quite a bit or have been to several....
They ALSO seem to like an exotic biracial look... They have experienced the whole "blonde bombshell" thing. They wont always be salivating over every beach bunny sort of girl. (There are lots of those in my club.) The young guys go crazy for them...
Indeed. A close friend of mine and I have lately been having the "niche debate," you know: "Should I specialize my look and appeal to a crowd that will pay more for something unique, because it's harder to find?" versus "Should I appeal to everyone and increase my chances, but have to fend greater competition off?" As much as my Inner Feminist cringes & cries to say it, being a stripper is like selling a product.
I think you're right, though. The dynamic in the club I used to dance at was weird, though; it seemed that the much older men favored the black dancers, and the college-agers and rural regulars had their eyes on white girls with traditional looks. For some reason, a Korean bachelor party decided to sit front & center during my dances -- and the bachelor's friends were all twice his age.
Also, yes: "Do you have any kids? :)" is the biggest strip club boner-killer since "Are you married? :)"