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one of my best regulars was this really quiet shy guy. he would come in twice a week and do a 30min champagne room with me for about 5 months straight and I would ALWAYS do the talking and he just sat and listened. you just have to compliment them a lot to make them feel comfortable. be like "I feel so happy when I'm with you" don't point out the fact that they're shy it makes them feel socially awkward.
have YOU ever been in a situation where you felt shy and someone goes up to you and is like "wow you're really shy!" it's kind of embarrassing right?
With guys like that I just try to keep the conversation going without it seeming weird. Just act like you're completely comfortable and happy to be with him, and if an awkward silence starts to form, ask him questions or talk about whatever comes to mind. I always ask guys for a dance within two songs, and one great thing about that is it doesn't leave much time for awkward conversation.
Usually shy guys don't want you to know they're shy, because it's something they're very conscious of. And if you are open about knowing that about them, it can make the problem worse. Because they probably don't want to come off as shy--they want to come across as quietly confident, coolly stand-offish, etc.
So if you're getting a shy sense from him, then i would tone yourself down and slowly start pulling his personality out. Make him laugh and feel good about himself.
Your hustle for dances will depend on the personality underlying the shyness. Some shy guys are hyperintellectual, some are blue collar. So you have to do a bit of gentle digging for the personality before you bring on the hustle.
MMMmmm I want to find myself a hyperintellectiual shy guy, sounds hot }:D
Anyways, back on topic. I'm not that great at hustling shy guys but it seems once you can get them to open up, theres lotsa potential.
you're new at this you can't expect to know how to hustle everyone it's NOT easy and there's no stripper training. you have to pick everything up on the job for the most part.
the main thing with guys is to stroke their ego. don't use words like "shy" or "quiet" be like "you seem very pensive (thoughtful)" or "mysterious" or "insightful"
a man who makes a big show of being intelligent, using big words and whatnot, wants you to be AMAZED by his intelligence. so act amazed.
a guy who's successful wants you to be in awe of his hard work.
an athletic guy loves to be praised about his dedication to fitness.
the main thing is to keep a balance between flattering the guy and maintaining your personality. don't agree with him on EVERYTHING. if you hate sports and he asks you if you watch football, be honest! don't be like "oh yeah I LOVE football? what about you? who's your favorite team? OH ME TOO!" it comes off EXTREMELY fake.
just find out what they like and be like "wow that's awesome!"
don't volunteer much information about yourself. always switch the focus of the conversation back to HIM.
this is a simple but effective hustle.
x353223532674 Everyone's favourite topic is themselves, so let them go at it. Convince them that they're leading the conversation by doing all the talking, while you're really the one doing it with the few things you say to lead it. You'll come off as a great listener and very genuine, and this often leads to sales.