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Uggg this is my fetish pet peeve. I approach it bthe same way I approach real life domination, by asking them what forms of fetish they are into. If they have any experience whatsoever they should know better than to just come in and say "dominate me". Of they do say that I just say I've had a wonderful day and am feeling generous enough to hear what kind of fetish they enjoy, and if I like what I hear we can do that and army they a lucky little sub that they caught me on such a benevolent day?
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I talk to fetish guys online (phone sex not cam) and I go through a Q&A process, and it helps. No two fetish guys are alike, so when in doubt ask away!:-*
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^ Interesting tactic! What are some of your questions, if you don't mind my asking?
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Aria that's a good one!
I try to ask what they're into before they go pvt but there are ones who just jump in, "I saw you on that one site. Do that thing to me that you did there!" Oh you mean, the 1 of 100+ sites I'm on! I'll just pull that ONE thing that I've done all those times out of my ass and do that thing.
For them I get all haughty and say, "I dunno little boy. Do you deserve that? I don't think you've pleased me well enough for me to do that for you. What have you done this week that would have pleased me?" Then they'll tell me whatever they think that the person they want me to be would want to hear. If that's not enough info I'll say, "Uh huh. But you did some bad things too, didn't you? What did you do? Don't lie to me, I'll know!" Then you get the other side of what they're into too.
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Some of them are just a mystery... I had a guy today, SmallDickSteve, he buys a show, asks me if I do fetish shows, I say I think I know what he wants... I then proceed to ask... how big is your cock? He says "8 inches". ??????
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missmagnolia
Some of them are just a mystery... I had a guy today, SmallDickSteve, he buys a show, asks me if I do fetish shows, I say I think I know what he wants... I then proceed to ask... how big is your cock? He says "8 inches". ??????
When they do this I usually tell them that I'm a size queen and 8 inches is waaay too tiny for me. Then I move into a cuckolding thing where I tell them I'd make them watch a REAL man with a REAL thick cock fuck me, and force them to watch and take notes... blah blah blah...
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I've had the odd guy do cam2cam with me for small penis humiliation but sitting there with a 'normal' size one!
It makes me think does he think..."ha ha what she gonna say about my NOT so tiny dick"
So if this happens and he obviously doesn't have a mega tiny teeny weeny I make sure I give him some abuse anyway and tell him how ugly his dick is and how weird it looks, tell him he needs a shave and tell him its all bent etc.
That way if he thinks he can 'get one over on me' he can think again ha ha x
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I find it so strange that the majority of guys who I get that are into small penis humiliation have average or even big dicks. Then you got the guys who honestly do have tiny ones that cant be more than 3 inches and turn on their cams just acting like they want a normal show and you dont know if you should laugh at it or oooo baby i want that cock it. Ive made the mistake of laughing at a tiny dick before when he didnt want it laughed at lol
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Oh I've seen some really tiny dicks on cam. But I think guys in the normal range are starting to feel inadequate because of all the MONSTER sized cocks they see in porn.
This is excellent because small penis humiliation is such a fun fetish. Keep feeling inadequate boys!
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I got a small penis humiliation guy who was a grower, not a shower. He was like, "You want to see the tiniest penis you've ever seen in your life baby?" Of course I said yes, thinking it was going to be normal. He wasn't kidding tho! His flaccid dick was the smallest penis I've EVER SEEN! It was just the head sticking out, nothing else. It was like, maybe the size of a quarter. LOL, I showered him with abuse and he had to turn off C2C b/c he was getting hard and that was making it a normal size.
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oooh i forgot i made this thread! lots of helpful tips so thanks ladies.
cuckold fetish is basically guys who want to watch you with a 'real man' right?
i don't really know how to transition from them coming in my room saying, i have a cuckold fetish to actually discussing it. do you ladies just set out a scenario/roleplay or is it just a general 'ooh well someone like you needs to watch me with a real man to see how to turn on a woman like me' etc?
it's such a can of worms!
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minemind
oooh i forgot i made this thread! lots of helpful tips so thanks ladies.
cuckold fetish is basically guys who want to watch you with a 'real man' right?
i don't really know how to transition from them coming in my room saying, i have a cuckold fetish to actually discussing it. do you ladies just set out a scenario/roleplay or is it just a general 'ooh well someone like you needs to watch me with a real man to see how to turn on a woman like me' etc?
it's such a can of worms!
Yeah thats what cuckolding is, They usually want to roleplay you cheating on them with another guy, usually a black guy with a huge cock, and telling them how they dont measure up and they can never please you. They love hearing that your being stretched so wide and how you'll never be able to feel their little thing again. The majority of them also like to be forced to eat the cum out of your pussy and some even want to be forced to suck the guys dick. It can be a complicated fetish since every guy likes it a little bit different and on a handful of occasions after the session is over and hes had an orgasm Ive had the guy break down and start crying because it really did happen to him and his girl left him for another man and then i had no idea what to say.
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For cuckold, I find it best to agree with them about how it's good cuckolding turns them on because of blah blah blah so pathetic blah blah blah you suck so bad blah blah blah only fit to clean my creampie blah blah blah if you were here I would blah blah blah make you watch me have sex with this BIG BLACK COCK. (white men love when you cuckold them with big black cocks).
I go through all the pathetic humiliating scenarios and then list the things that they can do.. with dehumanizing but clauses.
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Oh whoops! Didn't see you replied Alexis, but DITTO.
They always seem so tortured, poor things!
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Yeah thats what cuckolding is, They usually want to roleplay you cheating on them with another guy, usually a black guy with a huge cock, and telling them how they dont measure up and they can never please you.... It can be a complicated fetish since every guy likes it a little bit different and on a handful of occasions after the session is over and hes had an orgasm Ive had the guy break down and start crying because it really did happen to him and his girl left him for another man and then i had no idea what to say.
TOTALLY! I feel so weird about cuckolding stuff b/c some guys want total debasement and some guys are trying to get a little bit of a bisexual fantasy w/o admitting that they want to suck cock. It really runs the spectrum and you can easily do the wrong thing and either turn him off or upset him.
I had a guy last night who gave me all the signs of wanting total debasement and then when I went for it he got really upset and said, "Oh yeah?! Then I'd bring home a skinny blonde bitch with nice big titties! Yours look like crap!"
I kinda wanted to yell at him. I just took a step back and put the dildo down and said, "Woah there kemosabe. Clearly we've gone a little too far. I thought you wanted me to go all the way."
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I talk to fetish guys online (phone sex not cam) and I go through a Q&A process, and it helps. No two fetish guys are alike, so when in doubt ask away!:-*
Yup, lots of Q&A. Some just expect you do jump right in to it, but if you say the wrong thing, they leave so never jump right to it. IF they are serious about learning, they will stay and answer the questions. Even books on domination will tell you that you have to get to know your potential sub before dominating him. Find out what his limits are, what experience he has, what fetishes he has (CBT, oral servitude, etc...). The clueless guys that come in and say "dominate me Mistress" but don't say anything are usually a waste of time and will leave by the time you start asking them what their domination fantasy is. They have to have some idea in their head or what turns them on (spanking, etc..) and they have to tell you, otherwise it is pointless.
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UKPrincesss
I've had the odd guy do cam2cam with me for small penis humiliation but sitting there with a 'normal' size one!
It makes me think does he think..."ha ha what she gonna say about my NOT so tiny dick"
So if this happens and he obviously doesn't have a mega tiny teeny weeny I make sure I give him some abuse anyway and tell him how ugly his dick is and how weird it looks, tell him he needs a shave and tell him its all bent etc.
That way if he thinks he can 'get one over on me' he can think again ha ha x
LOL
Once I had a guy called TinyCock book a session... when it came to it his cock was at least 8 inches.... the surprise look on my face made him laugh... I asked him why he called himself TinyCock and he said that the looks on the girl's face when they saw the actual size of his cock was priceless. I couldn't stop laughing ;D
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I always, ALWAYS ask my customers to be honest and straight up with what they want.
In every single profile on any cam site - I always tell them to tell me what they want and what they are looking for. Why waste time? There is no reason for someone to come to me and waste time asking me if I do something beating around the bush when they could be with someone that actually does it?
I do not like to waste time because that costs me money. All of my customers know that I pull no punches and want everyone to be as honest and straightup as possible.
If I cannot do something or I will not do something, for example, fisting, I tell them politely I do not do that sort of thing and move on.
Business is business. If you cannot provide a certain service - there is no point in faking or trying to fake it to make a buck. You will go further and make MORE money if you remain honest and communicate the RIGHT way - in my opinion.
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Great post! Have you tried looking on pso boards for ideas?
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From my own experience when one step in my room and just says " dominate me bb " 90% of them are looking for jerk off instruction with some light humiliation eventually tease denial ! but light stuff
Only think you can do is just get progressive with them start light and see where the limits are with him .
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Picky fetish guys are worse. Anyone who is that picky and requesting special things should be willing to spend a little extra than what the norm is. Meaning they should be taking you PRIVATE instead of GROUP (MFC), and they shouldn't be asking for a discount (ImLive), and if you normally sell panties for $30 they shouldn't mind giving you a little extra for the trouble.
I'm new to Ebanned, and I recently got this very long message from a guy who wants to buy a plain white cotton brief panty from me. He typed an extremely looong message about exactly the way he wants the panty stains to look, etc.
I gotta go back and reread his long-ass e-mail. I've been listing panties for $30, but this guy is so picky I'm gonna charge more.