Back in the game, or thought i was gonna be..then..
I came back to my home town after not dancing for nearly a year and I have completely lost my confidence on approaching customers.I had no problem before but for some reason, I get shy and just end up sitting at ther end of the bar watching other girls make their money.can anybody help on how to get backinto thinking on the right track?please help!!
Re: Back in the game, or thought i was gonna be..then..
Remind yourself that they are coming into YOUR domain and want something (dances/VIP) that you can offer them. This might help change the power dynamic and make you feel more in control, and therefore more confident in your approach. Also, go after the ones eyeing you first since they're more likely to be interested. This will also help build confidence in your approach since you'll get used to hearing yes and come to expect it.
Re: Back in the game, or thought i was gonna be..then..
Im going through something similar right now. I only took about a month off to heal 2 fractured ribs. And I just lost my confidence in hustling.
Its a damned shame and I'm hoping I can get motivated and not care anymore. I ended up just drinking excessively the last time i tried working. Of course the diet pills I was taking only made things worse.
Ugh. I want to get back into it, I miss working, I miss enjoying my job. I miss being able to work sober, I miss it all. I just can't get over this social anxiety.
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I'm going through the same thing too! Thought it was just me... :)
Re: Back in the game, or thought i was gonna be..then..
Years ago I had a similar situation I tried making a come back first by intering a wet t shirt contest. The next night I worked I just did not feel sexy I had recently had a short haircut I missed my long hair too I just did not feel right , several months later I tried again and fell right back in the swing of things .Sometimes I think you just have to get your mood right.Francinista
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I don't dance anymore but i used to as well as working at brothels in neveda and now as a camgirl and anytime i take some time away from the adult industry in general i feel awkward, not a beautiful ect. I work from hom so i get up take a nice shower, coffe and put on fun exciting music to get me pumped up to work, dance around sexy at home in front of mirror, anything really that makes u feel sexy. tanning always helps me too.
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i sorta feel the same way... i left the whole club environment last year and now i'm just waiting for my birthday to dive back into it. LADIES KEEP IN MIND... theres is money to be made and we're are there to get it.
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Yeah, I'm wanting to cam, but in additon I also want to go back to dancing a couple shifts a wekk.
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Been going through it too I made some the best money a girl could make for years then I quit managed clubs and now having to come back and I wind up sitting alone at bar and getting drunk yep I dont know what cure is but when some one finds it let me know. I was a maneater dam it lol