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interview with your mom about sex work.
with everything going on in this thread I figure this would be the best place to post it
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http://titsandsass.com/?p=543
interview with your mom about sex work.
with everything going on in this thread I figure this would be the best place to post it
Well I do believe people change, boundaries can change. When I was 18 I considered myself "straight" and would never have ever imagined sleeping with another woman. Now my longest serious relationship has been with a one.
I'm not saying that once someone thinks/feels something is wrong for them then that's just it and they should never do it in life. But I mean when you (not you specifically pamand but the figurative "you" for anybody who feels dirty about being a sex worker yet somehow manages to do it over and over again anyway) decided to go buy your webcam and filled out the application for a sex work position online... like... what made you do that? And after doing it if you still haven't reconciled those negative feelings with this job, why do you keep doing it now? Over and over again?
Wow, I needed to hear that. Thank you for that! I HATE when people make me feel bad about what I do for a living, and I needed to hear something like that because I know camming is MUCH better then making $8/hour at some shitty job working 8-10 hours a day. I make my own schedule, I have an unlimited earning potential. This beats any other job ANY of my friends have!
I for one just got in the industry through camming only which is why I'm having a few issues. As time passes by it gets easier though. If I had already been an escort or even a dancer,I'm pretty sure that camming would be a walk in the park(at least for me). I wouldn't say that I'm ashamed. This is simply something I never saw myself doing. As I said before as long as I find other stuff to do and am not on cam 24/7,I'm just fine.
Personally I LOVE/LOVE/LOVE doing sex/adult work. Put it like this if I was not getting paid for my sexuality, I would probably just be doing the same thing for Free (within reason).....I get paid to do what I was already doing anyways..*shrug*
Now there are things about this work that I don't like , like other people's negative thoughts on the industry (family, friends, future career opportunities), also the fact I was brought up Baptist so you know how that goes, and I would love for every guy who comes to see me to be legal age, single, and have deep pockets to spend a truck load of money on me...LOL
But beyond that, I love doing what I do honesty. No job is perfect, even your dream career will have pros and cons, so I don't expect anything to be peachy all the time.
But for the most part, I do like what I am doing too. I would like even more money but that is a different story..
I feel more empowered when I do this work , if anything. I love the fact that I can be a totally different person in real life ( normal college educated/professional woman) and then also make money doing professional adult type work. I feel like a rare breed or super woman chic or something...hahahahahaha
I don't think any woman or man should do anything that makes them feel like shit, period. I don't care if it is a adult or non-adult job. If working as an administrative assistant makes you feel depressed change gears and both holds true for this work too. Life is too short to be doing something that you do not really want to do or has an negative effect on your emotions.
I just want to make money doing things I like to do and that is what everyone should strive for....=)
And Yes I hate when people say any adult type job is not a REAL job as if we are over here making BUBBLE money or something.LMAO We still get very REAL money which people gladly take in exchange when we BUY very REAL shit...LOL
It is not a "traditional" job but it is REAL. I am not imagining myself making money and just getting paid out of thin air over here, I mean...*smh*
Yes, there are some lazy sex workers as there are some lazy non adult workers, I never understood people's point on that one either....LOL
But I do actually like this work and I don't feel degraded at all. It is my choice and I was okay with my decision to enter this field with all the pros and cons before hand
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I'm with you. I love sex work. I've been clinically depressed, and taking my clothes off for money helps like nothing else. That sounds simplistic, and it probably is, but I'm a simple beast. I don't feel bad about my sexuality, I don't feel degraded. My sexuality isn't bad, and I'm not being degraded. I have agency. I choose this. I choose this daily.
I think if you listen to what main stream media says about taking off your clothes for money you will always feel bad about yourself. Personally Im with Sexandgrammer! When I get done working Im in a fan-fucking-tastic mood because Ive had over 400 guys give me compliments and pay me to hang out with them for 3 hours.
Ive never been one to play by the rules though. I dont think camming is for everyone. If it makes you feel dirty or degraded thats ok, it just might mean its not for you. Or mabey you need to rethink your boundaries. Are you doing something specific thats making you feel that way? Im very vanilla in my cam show (no toys or cum shows) but thats what keeps me happy.
Fucking LOVE this thread and fucking LOVE you guys. This is the most intelligent, well-spoken, caring group of chicks and sex workers in the world. I am empowered and rejuvenated after reading all of your responses. Thank you. :)
^ Yay! I agree! I'm constantly inspired by this board. It goes a long way in making me feel not alone in doing this often incredibly ostracized & isolating work.
I wanted to say that every single woman involved in the sex industry needs to be applauded and praised for being intelligent, hard working, resourceful, determined, and self-sufficient. Each and every one of us has taken her destiny into her own hands. We are attempting and striving to provide for ourselves and our families. We are creating our futures rather than waiting to see what manifests. I say "fuck you" to every single person who will scorn you for your choice to use the adult industry to better yourself and improve your condition and situation in life.
I came to the adult industry two years ago after I was laid off from a senior marketing position in corporate America. I have never felt so in control of my life, my future, and my finances as I do working as a sex worker. I found this board and received the advice and encouragement I needed to venture into this industry and become successful as an independent performer. Let us support one another and lift each other up!!! You ladies on Stripperweb inspire me everyday!!!
Nope, I don't feel bad at all. Maybe i've already dealt with the bad social stigma that comes with being an industry girl when I was a stripper, but I am okay with what I do and who I am. I look at it this way. There's nothing wrong with sexuality. To me, the only reason why people deemed sexuality outside of marriage and procreation to be shameful was because of the standards religions set to control people. I'm an atheist and a pretty secular person. There's nothing wrong with sex or using your sexuality to make money. I'm a service provider, I just specialize in the adult field. My job isnt much different than other jobs to me except I make what I earn and the only person whom I exploit is is myself. I "whore" out my services, keep my money, and dont waste my days slaving away. To me that sounds better than whoring myself out to some other capitalist industry, working all day for a fraction of the profits while some big wig yoyo who was blessed enough to win the genetic lottery to be born into property and capital sits back and collects all the profit. I have other options, I'm a semester away from my accounting. I know numbers, and i know the economy. I'm making way more than an accounting entry-job and maybe more than some senior accountants. I go where the money goes. You can question my morals and look down on me, but I probably make more money than you in less amount of hours worked, and I work whenever the fuck I want. That sounds like a successful life to me. I'm proud and so should everyone of yous.
I'm fine with it, especially when I see the other neighborhood ladies busting their ass for Avon, pampered chef, stampin up, etc.. only to make what? $150 or $200 a month in commission? and that doesn't include the supplies they have to buy out of their own pocket!
I'm banking $800 to $1000+ a month working 6-8 hours a week. No complaints here. My husband supports me and so does our oldest child (can't hide much from a smart teenager) and their opinions are really the only ones that matter to me.
Thank you ladies soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much! You have no idea how these responses have given me empowerment. You're right fuck the people that say "I'm better than this" because truthfully they are not helping me survive. Some days I absolutely love caming and thats when I start to think about what others may think. My attitude is slowly changing this is what I do and it's my life. Whether its long-term or short-term. I have nothing to regret.
I do have boundaries and some days I cross them but nothing too crazy. I am in control and it does feel good not to have a damn boss. BTW I def. just quit my waitressing job yesterday, sick of those 5 dollar tips they can suck it. :)
You ladies are wonderful :) It helps to know some of you feel the same way.
I didn't think I would have a problem doing it. I'm a very sexual person, so I was like why not try this job. privacy was my biggest concern. (not just because of my family, but my future jobs in the tv business) I started as non nude, and gradually started topless, now im full nude.
At first I didn't feel all that bad but then it started getting me after awhile. I start doing things i wouldn't normally do. That's why I think I started to feel bad and then my friend comment, just through me over the edge.