How to juggle communication wit regulars n custies when in very serious relationship
Hey girls this is my first post. So glad I found SW. . . it's comforting to know other girls go through and feel the same things as a dancer that I do.
I am engaged to an awesome guy I have been with for over seven years and we live together and have a daughter together so it is a very serious relationship that I do not want to mess up. However, I know that if I could keep contact with regulars and potential regulars more often via phone, emails etx. . . I could get a whole lot more money out of them. I never know what to say when custies (that I believe I can make continuous money off of) ask me for my phone number. I don't want them calling me at wrong times and causing problems in my relationship. My man knows what I do and is fine with it but I don't think he would be comfortable with me always talking to guys from club. Should I get a separate phone? I do not advocate being sneaky with boyfriends but sometimes they just don't understand the business and they don't realize the importance of staying in contact with guys who you make $$$ off of. What if they ask me to go out to dinner (nothing sexual)? How should I handle that? I have also thought about making a dancer facebook page for just customers but I am scared of people I know finding it that I absolutely would not want to find it. Have any of you ladies ever been or are in any situation like this and what was your approach? Sorry about the long post. . . but any advice is appreciated :)
Re: How to juggle communication wit regulars n custies when in very serious relations
Let your partner that every time you meet with a customer is like meeting with a business customer; is for the money. Do not forget to charge customers if you're meeting him OTC. Remember that time is money. Let your fiancee know all the details of where you will meet the customer in case of an emergency.
Give the customers a specific time of the day and/or night where they may or may not call you. Also, have specific days of the week and times of the day where you will meet them.
The separate phone is also a good idea, but don't hide it from your man.
If a customer calls when you and your guy are doing something together, like having dinner or watching TV, don't feel the need into going to another room. Keep the call short, no more than two or three minutes. See this as work, not as cheating.
In other words, treat this the same way you would treat any other vanilla job. Is still a sales job.
Re: How to juggle communication wit regulars n custies when in very serious relations
I have a dancer email that I give out to customers who ask for it or to guys who spent a lot on me and indicated an interest in returning to see me. Some girls have dancer phones so they can call/text, but I'm happy with the money I'm making and, personally, don't think it'd be worth the headache to make a bit more. I'm very much a part-time stripper though, and perhaps if this was my full-time job, I'd feel differently. Also, it's very much about your comfort zone, and I wouldn't feel comfortable blurring the dancer/customer boundary like that. Email is one thing because it's easy to ignore and keep focused on returning to the club, but in text/phone it feels less business-y. That's just me though.
I also don't see customers OTC for dinners or anything. I've had offers, but again, just not something I'm comfortable with or interested in. I'd rather keep it in the club, rather than giving them the idea that we could be something more. Too much headache again, yanno? You can still make money without leaving the club, so don't feel obligated to just because customers make the offer. There's a plethora of excuses you can use to get out of seeing them OTC - we just met, I've been hurt before, I'm so busy with school/my kid/whatever excuse, it's against the rules and you'd get in trouble, etc. You can also just be open about it and say that, as much as you like them, you wouldn't feel comfortable doing that. Sure, you may lose a sale from a customer looking only for OTC, but a lot of guys will continue to pay for your time ITC anyway.
As for setting up a Facebook or any other social networking page - be prepared for it to be found (since the point of it IS to draw in customers, after all) especially if there are photos of you. Maybe if you're in a big city it'll be less likely, but that 'mutual friends' feature could possibly turn it up. You never know who knows who.
Re: How to juggle communication wit regulars n custies when in very serious relations
I put a profile on DancerDetails.com and refer customers there. If you aren't comfortable putting up a picture, just put a picture of something. Also, they have a way where messages can be forwarded to your phone or email. You can even reply to messages from your phone. Your number stays private. If you have any other questions let me know.
Re: How to juggle communication wit regulars n custies when in very serious relations
I second the google voice number.
I used to have a second phone, but it was a pain in the ass, google voice is 10 million times better.
I also have an email I use for customers.