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Usually when I connect with someone strongly enough to think about having a relationship, it's like some sort of sick magnetic attraction and we end up inseparable for about a week. That's probably just me, though. I'm a very energetic person and when I have something on my mind, I get so into it that everything else kinda falls to the wayside. I've had relationships start where we just ended up staying awake for two days talking constantly about everything under the sun... just enjoying the time so much that neither one of us wanted it to end.
I understand that there is some sort of standard where you are supposed to wait before you call someone back, or that you have to 'play hard to get' or worry about whether the other person is really into you as much as you are into them, etc... I've never really been one to play by the rules, though.
Ordinarily I would say fuck the stupid rules about not calling too much, etc.--unless one person is doing all the calling and the other isn't reciprocating. If both people want to hang out a lot because they are hitting it off, what's the harm?
But what concerns me about this situation is that you just got out of a serious relationship, correct? In which case taking it slow might be a good idea.
I've seen for myself it's better to go slow at first. I've noticed in my personal experience is when I spend a lot of time with them in the beginning the relationship burns out fast. I don't know if this is my experience alone, but when I am into a man he's not interested as much and doesn't want to spend much time together, however when I am not into a guy and am slumming he want to see me every day or at least talk all the time. I think 1-2 times a week is fine in the beginning.
When Joe and I first started dating, we were together every day. In fact, since we started dating a year ago, with the exception of a two week gap when he was in Dallas for a job training thing, we've been around each other almost every single day.
Well it's hard to say without knowing you, or the guy, or the situation, really.
There is no hard and fast rule about relationships, because they are all different and some can be exceptional. But in general it is far better to stay single for at least a little while after breaking up a serious relationship. This is so you can get in touch with yourself as an independent woman, so you will be in much better shape mentally to start over when you do. But sometimes it's easier said than done when you seem to be hitting it off.
When you are really into someone there is no taking it slow in my opinion. I was with my fiancee for 9 years, we were pretty much inseperable since day 1. We broke up almost 3 years ago and still talk daily and he till begs me back. In my experience anyone I had a long term realationship with we were inseperable, guys I just saw briefly we weren't like this. I just began seeing someone after being celibate for a year and 8 month. Stupid someone I work with were I travel to. I had not been this attracted to someone in like 9 years. I don't really know how to act either. We saw each other like twice a week when I as in town for a month. When I left he texted every day for 4 days, now nothing. I don't know I am going back to work here and now I don't want to go. He seemed so into me after I left. I dont know.
My opinion is that you just got out of a serious relationship and you might be sort of trying to recreate what you had with this new guy. Is it possible that you are trying to rush this relationship into the stages where you feel comfortable?
With that said, I would tell you to go with what you feel. If he seems just as interested as you are who cares what's normal haha.
When I met my BF, we spent like the whole weekend together. After that, it was a couple of days and I was really needing him. The feeling was mutual, so we spent hours on the phone every night until the weekend rolled around and then it was 24/7 for two days. That went on for the whole summer. He moved in with me when he got back from his job on the outer banks. We've been together ever since.
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