Opinions...... Seriously......
Ok, so here is my situation. Been camming for about 5 months now. Love the flexibility, the work, the money is good. But how do I approach telling the new GF what I am doing????
I am a guy, have a vanilla job that I do well at finacially, but the whole male camming thing is a supplemental income, and is way out there for most girls. I am listed as Bi, and do do butt shows, but relationship wise, I only look for girls. This girl is fairly adventerous, but I am still not sure how she would react.....
I guess my question is, if some guy you were dating told you about this, how would you react????
Hopefully I don't get many witty posts.... Love the honesty, huh???
PV
Re: Opinions...... Seriously......
Hmmmm....well, is she into strap-ons and what not? I would say if you both get to that point in your relationship that she's comfortable doing assplay on you, than she can probably be in a better frame of mind. Hell, depending on her viewpoint and financial issues, she might be useful to have in a cam-show...
I would probably drop a couple of questions like, what's the craziest thing you would ever consider doing for money? Or, hell-- for entertainment, watch a couple girls on MFC together either for porn or entertainment-- my boyfriend and I watch a couple of girls who make us laugh (some on purpose, some not :) )
From there I would probably ask, "hey hon-- what would you think if I did that?"
and see how open she is.
That's the tentative route.
Otherwise just say you talk to lonelyheart men online for money and don't bring up the sexual acts, and emphasize the companionship angle.
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oh man I would find that so refreshing! seriously, to know that the guy I'm dating has dealt with ogling men like I have? in fact, my boyfriend has had some....questionable activities he's been paid for, and I thought it was so cool he told me - it was off-putting at first, but I asked questions and it was just not an issue. he still gets paid for some questionable activities, but they're as harmless as what you're doing, and again it's just not an issue.
I'm probably rare though - I can never seem to keep a man around because I'm TOO honest and open and see the best in people....
but good luck and let us know how it works out!
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Thanks for the advice. She is fairly adventerous in the bedroom, yet I haven't posted the whole assplay question yet, let alone the camming I am doing.
I guess it really comes down to the person then. Will they accept you for everything you are, liberated, adventerous, and enterprising or not. How has that treated you in the past?
Thanks again for the posts FG and DV.....
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sometimes you'd be suprised by people's reactions- i think she'd be happy that you are being honest. tell her that it's only for extra money- you aren't looking for a replacement/to cheat/or anything like that. i'm sure she will be supportive in the end, and if not- maybe that's not someone you want to be with anyway (that's how i see it- i don't want someone "telling me" what i can or cannot do.. telling me how they feel about is a totally different story though!) and maybe, if you are insecure/shy about the butt thing- maybe work up to it! you don't have to tell her everything all at once! or at all if you don't want to.. atleast until you guys get comfortable with it ;) i was shy telling my husband about stuff at first- but he loves hearing about it!!
good luck! and welcome :D