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You know what I also did that was stupid was spend like $200 on new clothes for work before I knew what looked best on me, what style I was going for, or what colors were most flattering on my skin in the club setting.
I ended up having a whole lot of nothing and to this day (its been a long time) I still haven't found use for all that crap I bought.
What the hell was I thinking. :O
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azaleanola
Not investing the time to learn about hair and makeup and whatnot. When I started dancing the only makeup I owned was a tube of mascara and a concealer stick. I didn't own a blowdryer, much less any styling tools. I thought makeup looked tacky. I made/scavenged my own outfits because I never spent money on clothes in real life, so why would I at work? When I started the only spenders I got had a crush on a punk girl in highschool or something like that. Now I'm a drag-queen version of Marilyn Monroe.
Sometimes agreeing to meet customers at the casino/their hotel/a bar after work. I wasn't sure where the stripper/whore line was and on which side of it I wanted to be.
Doing drugs with customers. Thinking nobody notices when your champagne room keeps asking for bottles of water. Having to explain to your manager that you have to hide in the bathroom because you accidentally did angel dust.
Wow, I used to be one of those girls everyone here complains about!
When I first started I didn't know anything about hair and makeup either. I was shy so I just sat by myself in the dressing room and other dancers would come up to me and be like "Girl, you need to get your hair trimmed and get a tan." I did have some gnarly split ends and was blindingly white, so I took their advice.
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Spending all my money instead of keeping some!
Trying to be friends with or help some of the other girls.
Believing customers who try and tell me "the other girl did it! "
Learning my boundaries by letting customers walk all over them.
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not knowing when to WALK AWAY. letting guys talk my ear off for 20 minutes without getting dances from them
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My biggest mistake (and still is a mistake of mine after 10 months of dancing) is being negative. I get burned out so easily when people say no to me that sometimes if I've heard enough no's I just go in the back and pout or mess around on my phone. It hurts my $$ but I sometimes can't get out of my negative funk and I think customers can tell. I am still trying super duper hard to work on getting out of this habit.
Another mistake was giving my phone number out to guys who spent a lot of $$ and I thought it would be a good business move to keep in contact with them. The truth is, most guys abuse their privilege of having your digits. I really had no interest in meeting anyone outside of the club, even for a paid dinner. I had no interest in accepting any offers for sex, even if it was thousands of dollars. And I had no interest in being "friends" with customers, clubbing with them, or traveling with them. Most of the time guys see the number as a sign that their odds are increasing that they will have sex with you. They usually don't just use it to contact you to say when they're coming to the club. I know that some do, but I wish my experiences had been as respectful as that!
I, too, made the mistake of having conversations with guys that lasted 10 songs, because I thought they were "nice." And at the end of the conversation, they only bought a 10 dollar or 20 dollar dance, or no dances at all! I couldn't help but be furious with myself, thinking that my personality would merit a couple VIPs! One thing I recognize is that any guy who comes into a strip club to hang out on a regular basis probably has something a little bit wrong with them. They may seem cool if you talk to them for a long time, but lurking in there is some kind of maladjusted behavior! I'm so careful of chatting it up with guys, because now I see that they LOVE to get whatever they can for FREE, but when they have to think about coughing up actual money, they all of a sudden seem to think you're not their type!
My last and final big mistake is blowing all my money away... And I couldn't even tell you what the hell I blew it on. Clothes, nails, food, gas, makeup, shoes, weed, alcohol, cigarettes, etc. These are all relatively small purchases that add up extremely swiftly. I am pissed at myself because now I don't have much to show for all that I have worked so hard to make! And now when I NEED the $$ for a car, I am stuck having to shift into overdrive to start from scratch. When they say easy come, easy go, they really do mean it!