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I always kinda forget to tip the bouncers. It's just that some clubs have soo many and honestly, I have had nights where I could have used them and they did nothing. If they help me out I will absolutely tip them. For example, one of them drives me to my hotel so I throw him 10$ a night even though he is always like "you don't have to!" when I give him the money. He won't take it so I leave it on the seat in his car.
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johnjdick
Me: "Hon, you know I can't play that song. We aren't allowed to play hardcore rap here."
Her: "But that song isn't hardcore rap."
Me: "According to management, if the song contains the word 'nigga', we aren't allowed to play it".
She then proceeded to go to the dressing room and tell everyone that I called her a 'nigger'. WTF?
:rotfl:
Again, sorry to laugh, but you are cracking me up because I have dealt with this exact kind of situation so many times.
They will turn what you say around on you. They will lie through their teeth about what kind of song you wouldn't play. They will scream and pitch a bloody fit instead of going onstage, even if you're playing a song they absolutely had to have two weeks previously.
They will tell all the managers and the owner that you won't ever play any of their music, even when you are doing nothing but playing whatever the fuck they want so they will shut up and get on the stage. Except maybe the times when you had to guess which of their suckdick songs they absolutely had to hear that rotation and it was the wrong one, and 1 1/2 minutes of the 3 minute song have elapsed and they are supposed to be onstage or you will get yelled at, and they are having a serious attack of angst for the 7th time that night.
Worst of all? They are sucking the manager's dick. Worse than that? The owner.
I actually did get fired for playing AC/DC Money Talks for a non-tipping bitch who stiffed me 7 times in a row while tipping the bouncers (who in that club did jackshit). She was blowing the owner, an 80 year old walking mummy. Moral of that story, always make sure you have backing of management before pulling anything like that.
I sort of thanked her later though, while describing her skull face and rapidly bloating ass to mutual friends--since I immediately went to a better club and made more money. Too long a story to explain how, but it was good! ;D
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^^man this shit is so crazy to me. i work in a very low drama club now... even some of the higher drama clubs i worked at i somehow missed a lot of this shit. ive also managed to put up blinders to ignore as much politics as possible (i.e. which girls are fucking the manager- i never know unless someone directly tells me, and even then i try to change the subject or flat out tell them id rather not know other peoples business).
i just cant imagine acting this way. im not a pushover and i dont take crap from management and i am often ornery with the customers, but acting like a total child? fuck that.
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Oh I have no doubt you are a pleasure to work with.
They aren't all like that, or I would have quit long ago! But there are enough of them to make it a very, very tough job sometimes.
I was training a new DJ who also did weddings, and was trying to explain to him that the hardest part of the job was dealing with the women--meaning of course the unprofessional ones. Then I stopped, remembering the very few weddings I could stand working, and said 'Just like the primadonna bride, you know what I mean. It's the Most Important Day of Her Life so she wants everyone to kiss her ass.' He said 'Right, like having 40 brides a night.'
I just about fell on the floor, laughing so hard. Needless to say he did very well with it.
It varies from club to club. Some clubs spoil the dancers rotten and it's a pain in the ass. Other clubs treat the dancers like shit, by management, deliberately--and you can actually get into trouble if the dancers like you too much!! I've had this happen in a couple clubs.
One thing I always do which helps is to write down how much every dancer tips me every night. Not only does this help when filing taxes, it helps you keep track of who is cheap, who to take good care of, and so forth. And also you won't get stiffed if you have this list and keep it updated all night.
Even so, I have to keep after certain girls or they will stiff me if they think they can get away with it. Or quite often they are drunk and just don't know if they have or not--gotta watch those! Never ask one that has stiffed you more than once if she tipped you already, she will always say yes she did.
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Djoser
:rotfl:
Again, sorry to laugh, but you are cracking me up because I have dealt with this exact kind of situation so many times.
Please. Laugh away. If you've been a SCDJ for any significant amount of time, you've earned that right.
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Originally Posted by
Djoser
I was training a new DJ who also did weddings, and was trying to explain to him that the hardest part of the job was dealing with the women--meaning of course the unprofessional ones. Then I stopped, remembering the very few weddings I could stand working, and said 'Just like the primadonna bride, you know what I mean. It's the Most Important Day of Her Life so she wants everyone to kiss her ass.' He said 'Right, like having 40 brides a night.'
LOL!!!
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It varies from club to club. Some clubs spoil the dancers rotten and it's a pain in the ass. Other clubs treat the dancers like shit, by management, deliberately--and you can actually get into trouble if the dancers like you too much!! I've had this happen in a couple clubs.
a happy medium has to be reached. my club respects the girls and management is almost always professional (the main exception is the GM who is only around part time and is on his way out anyway).... however, while they are really nice, drama queens usually dont last long and tend to move to other clubs. the regular girls who work at my club is definitely the most down to earth and friendly group of girls i have ever worked with. I think that hiring professional staff in general helps this out. If the staff is used to professionalism and hte girls are used to professionalism then i think there is less chance of DJs getting dicked over and girls making up crazy stories and crying to management about it. Things like management sleeping with the girls and then always siding with them to keep them in bed mess things up badly. thats not even about spoiling dancers or treating them badly as a whole... thats just basic workplace ethics.
oh and johnjdick i see you work in dallas... i am not as surprised that the girls there are difficult. i think that difficult women and difficult customers is somewhat regional. i mean difficult people exist everywhere, but some places seem to have more difficult people than others. I found dallas to have a very high amount of entitled people in general. especially in the male department but also in the female department.
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Sometimes I amuse myself by fantasizing about what song I would play for one of these difficult drama queens if I ever won the lottery and decided to get fired. A few of my favorites:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vxJMqQkiJNM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fY2EaxH1_EQ
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d5tg5JLClpo
And this last one is actually kind of fun... I could see playing it for a girl with a sense of humor (after clearing it with her first, of course)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sDw70iewkIA
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Athenathefabulous
The only exception is my current club... I don't go on stage but when I negotiated my contract with the management I had it pre arranged that I wouldn't need to pay the off stage fee... And at our club only the girls who go on stage are expected to tip the dj. Shitty for the dj I guess, but considering the dj was a douchebag I did not really care and I never really met the newer djs since I don't interact with them.
Are you working in a smaller club? I'd be having a fit if I was the DJ.
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its a corporate club. its medium sized, although the standard tip out to the dj if you do go on stage is 15$ minimum.
i never talk to the dj though. i dont check in with him or anything. he does not need to worry about me the whole night, as far as he is concerned i do not exist. i havent gone on stage in about 5 months.
normally, you can opt out of stage for a 40$ fee to the house and you are not required to tip the dj then. since it is corporate (shocker) this is definitely a greedy move on the clubs part and is definitely not fair to the DJ, but its standard. almost all the girls opt to go on stage anyway, even though without the 15$ tipout it really only works out to 25$ more to skip stage the entire night. i negotiated with my club when we redid my contract so i no longer have to pay the 40$ fee.
and one of hte main reasons why i did not feel guilty about this is because the DJ started doing such a crappy job of announcing at my club that i would usually end up with an additional 15$ in fines due to being late to stage. and i am pretty dilligent about listening, but the dj would not be paying attention and would not announce me 2 songs ahead like he was supposed to... once i got fined when he gave me half a songs notice and i was on a different floor in the middle of a dance. so to go on stage, a typical night was 60$ house + 15$ to the dj tip + 15$ in fines for being late to stage because he couldnt do his job properly = 90$ total to work vs. the 60$ house fee + 40$ stage skip fee = 100$. and after i got in the habit of not going on stage, i decided i liked it better this way and haggled iwth the manager so i no longer had to pay the 40$ fee. If the DJ gave me 2 songs notice as he is supposed to as opposed to half a song (which is a problem if i am on a different floor) then i wouldnt have even started going off stage to begin with.
but when i did go on stage, and the tip out was expected, i never stiffed the DJ. even if i was livid with him because he caused me to be late to stage. or was playig songs super long (this was a big problem, at the time we had dances that were 30$ for 3 minute long, done by a lapdance timer. the dj was supposed to cut the songs of at 3 minutes but if he let them drag on for 4 or 5 minutes then the customer would realize they were paying for shorter than a song and feel cheated). or whatever. i always tipped minimum 15$. and if it was club policy to tip the dj even though i dont go on stage i would as well... but it is not club policy for me to tip them if i dont go on stage so i dont consider it my problem. shitty, yes but corporate clubs are known for being greedy.
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It's surprising how many girls don't tip (not anyone in particular on here because honestly I haven't read this whole thread) the DJ. I think he is one of the most important people in the club, for me anyways. I can only really dance onstage if the music is of my liking, the DJ is the one who can promote the guys to tip and just talk you up on the mic and if you have a good relationship with your DJ he may even bend some rules for ya. (calling you off stage, etc..) I always, always make sure to tip our DJ at least $10 on top of his mandatory $10 tipout. So he's always getting at least $20 from me a night.
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and John, get on a budget bro. You can't tell me you can't pay your electric bill with what I assume you're making at The Lodge.
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Originally Posted by
Athenathefabulous
its a corporate club. its medium sized, although the standard tip out to the dj if you do go on stage is 15$ minimum.
i never talk to the dj though. i dont check in with him or anything. he does not need to worry about me the whole night, as far as he is concerned i do not exist. i havent gone on stage in about 5 months.
normally, you can opt out of stage for a 40$ fee to the house and you are not required to tip the dj then. since it is corporate (shocker) this is definitely a greedy move on the clubs part and is definitely not fair to the DJ, but its standard. almost all the girls opt to go on stage anyway, even though without the 15$ tipout it really only works out to 25$ more to skip stage the entire night. i negotiated with my club when we redid my contract so i no longer have to pay the 40$ fee.
and one of hte main reasons why i did not feel guilty about this is because the DJ started doing such a crappy job of announcing at my club that i would usually end up with an additional 15$ in fines due to being late to stage. and i am pretty dilligent about listening, but the dj would not be paying attention and would not announce me 2 songs ahead like he was supposed to... once i got fined when he gave me half a songs notice and i was on a different floor in the middle of a dance. so to go on stage, a typical night was 60$ house + 15$ to the dj tip + 15$ in fines for being late to stage because he couldnt do his job properly = 90$ total to work vs. the 60$ house fee + 40$ stage skip fee = 100$. and after i got in the habit of not going on stage, i decided i liked it better this way and haggled iwth the manager so i no longer had to pay the 40$ fee. If the DJ gave me 2 songs notice as he is supposed to as opposed to half a song (which is a problem if i am on a different floor) then i wouldnt have even started going off stage to begin with.
but when i did go on stage, and the tip out was expected, i never stiffed the DJ. even if i was livid with him because he caused me to be late to stage. or was playig songs super long (this was a big problem, at the time we had dances that were 30$ for 3 minute long, done by a lapdance timer. the dj was supposed to cut the songs of at 3 minutes but if he let them drag on for 4 or 5 minutes then the customer would realize they were paying for shorter than a song and feel cheated). or whatever. i always tipped minimum 15$. and if it was club policy to tip the dj even though i dont go on stage i would as well... but it is not club policy for me to tip them if i dont go on stage so i dont consider it my problem. shitty, yes but corporate clubs are known for being greedy.
shitty DJ
I used to work for Southwest Clubs. If girls wanted to be taken off stages, it was like $60 to the house. or unofficially $20 to the DJ. Needless to say, we did alright. (remind me to erase this later)
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Wow, at my club all the dancers have to go onstage every rotation, unless they want to pay 20$ a skip to the house (NOT the DJ or I will get fired--a legacy of the pre-expansion days when it was a small club and all they had was a fucking jukebox)
They are fined the same 20$ if they miss stage so there is little or no incentive to warn the DJ, which means that I am playing the wrong song and announcing the wrong girl multiple times a night, through no fault of my own.
And only 1 out of 40 girls or so will tell me when she is going to the CR and I have to skip her, so all night there are crises with the next girl not showing up. Some nights it's as many as one quarter of the fucking songs. I hate those nights, even if it usually means good tips from the CR girls.
Then if the manager is worried about the owner showing up or checking cameras and there aren't two girls on each stage, he will make me call the next girl up even when the damned songs are half over or more. So the next dancer has to stop whatever she is doing and try to get to stage.
In my club, with two bars and two stages (separated by a long corridor with a large dance room, bathrooms, dressing room) and most of the dance rooms way at the other end of the club from where they start on stage one, this means they might make it to stage by the end of the song, if I am lucky. Then they get to dance to the next girl's music, and go to the backstage after only one song. Often they are angry about any or all of this, and often they take it out on the DJ. If they look mad I will say on the mike 'Management orders', because that's why I am doing it. Doesn't always work.
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Athenathefabulous
the dj was supposed to cut the songs of at 3 minutes but if he let them drag on for 4 or 5 minutes then the customer would realize they were paying for shorter than a song and feel cheated)
Wow if I played 4-5 minute songs they would string me up by the thumbs. The manager will time the songs occasionally and if they go much over 3 he will bitch me out about it, in addition to the girls bitching. Once in a while there's an emergency and they go over, but I really have to watch it.
One thing, though--the guys know if we cut the songs. They hear them on the radio all the time, and they aren't entirely stupid. Especially if the DJ mixes/fades into the next song poorly. I'll wait 5-10 seconds more if I have to, for a good stopping point that has that 'end of song' feel, but I don't always have that luxury. When it's really busy we cut them at 2:45 or even 2:30. The guys know damned well what's up with that, unless they are drunk.
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I think you would have every right to be a dick about it. Perhaps they just don't realize that this happens to be business which revolves around tipping therefore, they should understand the basic concept of tipping out at the end of the night.
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You would be amazed at the number of dancers who are utterly incapable of making this connection. Including some who have been dancing for a long time and ought to know better.
I will never forget, about a year ago, stopping at my club briefly before heading to my favorite hangout (another stripclub go figure lol!), where I tip lavishly and buy drinks for my friends. I mentioned I was going there to one dancer who has the dubious distinction of stiffing me more than any other dancer in my 11 year career (until management made it clear to all non-tippers that it was really mandatory).
She said 'So that's where you spend all our money, eh?'
I couldn't fucking believe it--but hell yes I could. That's just the kind of narrow-minded, selfish bitch she can be (believe it or not she has a good side but not here). I was so dumbstruck by this colossal arrogance I didn't say much at all, I was just passing through anyway. I think I corrected her with a 'my', I forget. I wish I'd said, 'Yes, I do spend all your customers' money there, do you think they'd mind?' Or something suitably cutting. But it just would have gone in one ear and out the other.
This business does more to destroy empathy than any other I have worked in. Being a cop might be worse, but I wonder. In defense of dancers this works all ways--the male staff can be some of the worst assholes I have ever seen. And a lot of the regular customers too.
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dirtycash
and John, get on a budget bro. You can't tell me you can't pay your electric bill with what I assume you're making at The Lodge.
Combination of factors at play here. I racked up a HUGE amount of credit card debt a few years back right after I got divorced. So my bills each month are a bit higher than the average person. Also, even though I'm working at one of the best clubs in the country, I'm only working three dayshifts on the slowest days of the week. It varies, of course, but I would say that I average about $450 a week.
Quick note to any girls who use the fact that they don't go on stage as an excuse to skip tipping the DJ: Try giving a lap dance in a silent room. Let me know how that works out for ya ;)
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^shrugs it would suck, but 2 things 1. the club explicityly told me that it was not standard to tip the dj if i didnt deal with the stage. they told me if i was feeling super generous i guess i could toss him 5$. 2. i woulnt have started going off stage to begin with if the DJ did his job of giving me enough notice so i could make my stage sets without getting fined. Giving me half of a song notice when i am on a different floor in the middle of a dance is not acceptable. It seemed like every time i worked for the DJ i would have to factor in an additional 15$ in fines that would happen because of the DJ failing to do his job properly. even though i was getting fined, i still tipped the dj the minimum 15$ (not without bitching though) but when i found out i could skip stage and skip the fines and not be expected to tip the DJ-- fuck it.
oh yea forgot to add: there are 2 more places where i would have stiffed the DJ if i was allowed to by club policy
-club #1- the DJ kept forgetting my name. for all 3 months that i worked there. he was nasty to me and wouldnt play my music either (i understand that the club would not accept my first choice in music, which is totally not the djs fault. but when i made a list of songs that fit within club parameters and were not overplayed he still ignored it. maybe he couldnt find it because he couldnt remember my name?) but yea, he would get mad at me for being late to stage because he kept thinking i had a different name, or during hte cat call he would mis-announce me. my name was monique at the time... so its not like i had a super complicated name or anything. and there were not that many girls, and there were very few blonde girls on top of that... it should have been super easy for him.
2. We had a dj that got the bright idea to start doing bachelor dances. I know some clubs do this (something i am constantly at odds with) but at this particular location, the DJ came up wtih the bright idea on his own and started trying to run them and pocket 100$ for each song. I dont see why the DJ should force the girls to go on stage for free and pocket 50 or 100$ for our work. and then he got into a huge argument with us when we refused to go on stage. this was total bullshit.
in both of these situations, I paid the minimum, but if their was not a minimum i would not have paid them shit.
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Sounds like you have a shitty DJ. For that, I'm sorry. I'm going to guess that one of the reasons you DON'T have a decent DJ is because of policies such as the one you described the management having. Any DJ worth his salt wouldn't put up with that sort of thing before he found a better job.
I'm sorry if it sounded like I was directing that comment at you. Your post just reminded me of times in the past where girls have given that as an excuse for not tipping. In your case it seems to be the club's policy, not yours. I do hope you get the opportunity to work with a decent DJ one day, one who you appreciate and WANT to tip at the end of the day not because the club forces you to... but because he did a great job and you want to thank him.
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^i have worked with good DJs. at this point i have worked at over 30 strip clubs... and since most clubs have multiple DJs i have worked with plenty of DJs. I usually get along fine with them... like i said, im not a princess. I request a type of music within the clubs paramaters and tell them that i am usually pretty easy going but please dont play disturbed for me and give me enough notice and we will be cool.
And this DJ announcing my stage late wouldnt have pissed me off as much if i didnt also get fined for it. ive worked at some clubs where DJs would do this stuff for whatever reason and i would have to scramble to stage, but its no big deal. but if i get fined 15$ after running down the stairs in my 8 inch heels because i wasnt given notice and show up 20 seconds late, then fuck it , the DJ needs to get his shit together.
When i worked at this same club a yr earlier i had no problems and the DJ and I totally got along. I always tipped well and he always played my choice of music and announced me well etc.
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Djoser
You would be amazed at the number of dancers who are utterly incapable of making this connection. Including some who have been dancing for a long time and ought to know better.
I will never forget, about a year ago, stopping at my club briefly before heading to my favorite hangout (another stripclub go figure lol!), where I tip lavishly and buy drinks for my friends. I mentioned I was going there to one dancer who has the dubious distinction of stiffing me more than any other dancer in my 11 year career (until management made it clear to all non-tippers that it was really mandatory).
She said 'So that's where you spend all our money, eh?'
I couldn't fucking believe it--but hell yes I could. That's just the kind of narrow-minded, selfish bitch she can be (believe it or not she has a good side but not here). I was so dumbstruck by this colossal arrogance I didn't say much at all, I was just passing through anyway. I think I corrected her with a 'my', I forget. I wish I'd said, 'Yes, I do spend all your customers' money there, do you think they'd mind?' Or something suitably cutting. But it just would have gone in one ear and out the other.
This business does more to destroy empathy than any other I have worked in. Being a cop might be worse, but I wonder. In defense of dancers this works all ways--the male staff can be some of the worst assholes I have ever seen. And a lot of the regular customers too.
What a strange experience that must have been! It is so unnecessary to be greedy.
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The only excuse I could see for not tipping a DJ is either
1) management stresses how VOLUNTARY tip-out is, and the DJ gets paid a very good wage by management (I don't really know what the industry standard is; the DJ & bouncers @ my club make waitress-wage, and really even if the DJ were making a good wage I'd still tip him out at least something)
2) the DJ is a colossal asshole (and i don't mean like, he didn't play that one song I really wanted, I mean like sexually harassing/assaulting dancers, cussing us out, playing utter crap just to be spiteful, talking shit about dancers, etc.)
or 3) You made NOTHING that night and have to feed your starving child or whatever
DJ always gets 10% of my net profit (or $10, whichever is more) from me, bouncers get 5% or $5
This one girl at my club would have dayshifts where she fuckin banked (like $700) and not tip a single dollar out to ANYONE, for no reason. (staff wasn't mean to her, although they did start becoming assholes after about her first straight few weeks of working there and never tipping.) I just dont get it.
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johnjdick
Quick note to any girls who use the fact that they don't go on stage as an excuse to skip tipping the DJ: Try giving a lap dance in a silent room. Let me know how that works out for ya ;)
;D
It's amazing how stupid some of them can be about this. For instance, I have one problem tipper, a dayshift girl who always stays at night, but who doesn't go onstage (thank god, she is butt ugly!). She stiffs me every time even though the day girls are required to tip the DJ. Yet she will tip all the bouncers whether the bouncers ever helped her with a customer or not.
They actually have convinced themselves that a bouncer standing there all night has worked harder for them than me--with 2 1/2 to 3 minute songs all night, and severe pressure from ownership/management to always be upbeat and 'on top of my game', and to keep the crowd happy and spending all night. If I could arrange it, that girl would have all sound cutoff during all her private dances, all night.
Not to knock Athena's plight, clearly she is working with a suckdick DJ. And not to knock the bouncers in my club--there is more trouble and fights in this club than even that fucking circus up in Daytona. The staff up there didn't have to worry about too many fights, more about the occasional murderer. I have helped throw out enough guys here to know it ain't easy. Key West can be very peaceful and mellow, but there is always violence under the surface. No place for the faint at heart.
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johnjdick
Quick note to any girls who use the fact that they don't go on stage as an excuse to skip tipping the DJ: Try giving a lap dance in a silent room. Let me know how that works out for ya ;)
Try being a strip club DJ without any dancers. That can work both ways.
I've worked with some DJ's where iTunes or Pandora would have done a better job. Also, I've worked in some clubs where I've literally never seen the DJ. Explain to me why I owe them the money that I just rubbed my tits in someones face for.
I'll tip a DJ if I interact with him, but if he's not even aware I'm in the building why do I owe him money again? I'm with Athena on this one.
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4everresolutions
Try being a strip club DJ without any dancers. That can work both ways.
I've worked with some DJ's where iTunes or Pandora would have done a better job. Also, I've worked in some clubs where I've literally never seen the DJ. Explain to me why I owe them the money that I just rubbed my tits in someones face for.
I'll tip a DJ if I interact with him, but if he's not even aware I'm in the building why do I owe him money again? I'm with Athena on this one.
It doesn't sound like you have very good DJs up there. I make a point of trying to touch bases with every girl every shift to see what kind of music she's in the mood for, ask her if she needs anything from me... basically, I do try to work hard for y'all. This is the most basic thing a DJ should be doing. You're paying him, he should constantly be aware of that and working hard to make you feel like your money is well spent. I don't blame you for being a little bitter.
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johnjdick
Quick note to any girls who use the fact that they don't go on stage as an excuse to skip tipping the DJ: Try giving a lap dance in a silent room. Let me know how that works out for ya ;)
i have in fact done this. superbowl sunday, my club was showing the game, and had the volume turned up real loud, no music was playing. we were told if we wanted to give dances, to count to 4 minutes in our heads (ughhhh) and then stop. each customer bought at least one additional dance after the first one so it worked out fairly well...;D
(although later on i did tip our dj because each time i went on stage after that i banked. :) )