Slow nights ruining my confidence, help?
Hey I'm new to the SW forums, I have only worked 3 nights, 1 night I had a really good night and made great money but the other two nights there wern't many customers and I didn't make much. It really hurt my confidence that I wasn't making much and all these doubts started running through my mind like...
1. am I cut out for this?
2. What If i'm not pretty enough/ not good enough at selling/ will never get better at selling? (btw I have been reading the hustle hut forum to improve on selling)
3. Is it worth continuing if some nights I don't even make my house fee?
it put me in a really terrible mood and whenever I saw another girl selling a dance I got super jelous. So my main question is how do you deal with slow nights or nights where you can't seem to sell and not let it affect your confidence?
Is it natural to get like this when you start out or am I just not cut out for the industry?
any advise appreciated
Re: Slow nights ruining my confidence, help?
Just remember how well you did the first night and obviously you were cut out for dancing that night so the lack of custies doesnt mean you arent cut out for it
everyone has their bad nights-its happens. and if its super dead then theres really nothing you can do but be ready to hustle when someone does come in
try not to get jealous or youll drive yourself crazy. you cant be on top everynight you work and other girls will have better nights than you. it happens. one night you may be on top and the next, you never know-thats the gamble in this business.if a customer wants to see you again, invite him in on the slower nights, that way you have a guaranteed customer and on the busier nights you can turn your focus to new customers
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thanks for the great advise. I think at the moment I take it really personally and I suppose I've just got to grow a thicker skin.
Re: Slow nights ruining my confidence, help?
Ugh. Slow nights were one of the main factors in my dancing demise. Haha. I'm a little retirement break but danced nearly full time in 2010. Slow nights killed me, but one thing that helped was to track EVERY nights earnings minus expenses out ( and this is everything .... gas / hotel if traveling / tips outs / house fees ect. ) and then make sure I knew my PROFIT amount for EVERY night I worked. I was a little anal about it ( keeping track on my computer ) but it's invaluable to me ! It helped me come up with a number of what I'd make per week if I worked 2-3 shifts a week.
Right now .... you've only got three nights. Average those three and then try to get above that average amount made every night.
Also .... I'm not sure how comfy you feel about posting photos online ..... but you can advertise your stripper self on craigslist and backpage ( I never showed my face in my ads ). It's not suupppeerr effective but even getting one person is to buy a few dances early in your shift for example can put you in a good mood. YES ... advertising! Something that clubs NEVER think of. Haha.
Also .... keep in mind that sometimes it's TRULY a matter of catching the right person! I have caught a couple whales ( +$500 spenders ) in middle of nowhere places on randon weekdays. Seriously! I'm not sure what you scheduling is like, but I would alternate and work sometimes on weekdays and sometimes on weekends. On weekends .... I'd at least know I'd make something .... but I'd also get leared at by 100 21 year olds spending $1 each on the dancers ( it felt like it sometimes ya know ? ). Weekdays were always slower everywhere I went .... but then you'd find some quality customers who would purposefully avoid the club on weekends because they didn't want the craziness either!
Re: Slow nights ruining my confidence, help?
Don't let it kill your confidence. It's honestly the luck of the draw. Some nights you'll be top earner other nights you'll walk out with close to nothing. A bad night is never reflective of your beauty, your intelligence or who you are as a woman. Eventually you'll develop a thicker skin.
You have to become okay with the idea of leaving with nothing. Men sense desperation. Don't ask how but I'm sure they do. If you're relaxed and confident it's much easier to sell dances regardless of how slow it is :)
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thanks ladies, great advise anotherbruisedpeach I was taking it way too personally, keeping a record of my average profit and trying to break it is a really great idea. I suppose I wasn't ready for just how unpredictable the whole thing would be, I caught a whale completely by accident my first night, I thought he would only buy a couple of dances and ended up in champagne and then was just shocked at how different the next two nights were, It all takes some getting used to. I'm going to perservere.
Re: Slow nights ruining my confidence, help?
I always tell myself and other girls the same things when we start getting upset on slow nights. It only takes one good customer to make your night! It's completely true. We all get down from time to time though. just do your best to stay motivated throughout the shift...it's easy once you've been rejected a certain number of times or no custies are there to mentally throw in the towel for the night. Don't do it...slap a smile on your face and try to stay positive :)
Re: Slow nights ruining my confidence, help?
One of the things I've always told myself when I'm having a bad night is this: no matter how much money you're leaving with, it's more than you had when you walked in.
Of course, my club is in the middle of a massive slow down across the board, even the extras girls aren't making as much as they usually do, but all of us remind each other of that.
Re: Slow nights ruining my confidence, help?
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Re: Slow nights ruining my confidence, help?
Just stay focused and remember why you're there.
Try setting reasonable goals for yourself to keep you motivated through the night.
Always do something productive, never sit or stand around complaining or watching other girls take your money.
Re: Slow nights ruining my confidence, help?
slow nites r the story of my life, ive had so many nites over the years when ive made zero or little money at all, it is extremely frustrating and upsetting but i tell myself at the end of the nite that there could be much worse things, after all im still alive, and in the end the good nites make up for the slow ones
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so true bringonthemen, the minute I start panicking about how much I'm taking home I swear custies can smell it a mile away and I make so much less, probably cos I look absolutely miserable/ terrified lol.