Re: two guys tipped me last night for being "cool," but no dances
I've had this happen to me too. :( One night, a guy tipped me 1 whole dollar for being "cool" and liking me for not pressuring him to get dances - after dropping 20 on another girl that he complained about being annoyed from because she kept pressuring him.... so stupid
Re: two guys tipped me last night for being "cool," but no dances
I would of said "So this is what a girl gets for being a good girl." And walk away. I understand that its good to not to pressure but we have bills to pay.
Re: two guys tipped me last night for being "cool," but no dances
I would've said "Thanks, but I'm secretly after your wallet just like everyone else. So you should probably go do a dance willingly before I have stop being cool and start with my high-pressure sales techniques! ::eyelash bat::"
Re: two guys tipped me last night for being "cool," but no dances
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
lol I would totally want to do that!
Re: two guys tipped me last night for being "cool," but no dances
This is my main setback.. being too "bro" as my significant other puts it. Turning everything perverted and acting really horny, so basically amping up the sexual energy, has helped me overcome this. Dirty jokes, humor. Giving the guys "the wanna fuck look" while talking to them. Closing with an "I'm ready...u ready...lets go" or "all this talk about shift knobs makes me wanna go back and shift your knob" or whatever.
Next time I find myself is the "too cool for dances" mode I'm totally going to say what DesuvsDeath posted! Yes!!!!!!
Re: two guys tipped me last night for being "cool," but no dances
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Sparxxx
This is my main setback.. being too "bro" as my significant other puts it. Turning everything perverted and acting really horny, so basically amping up the sexual energy, has helped me overcome this. Dirty jokes, humor.
I'm guilty of this as well. All of a sudden I find myself talking cars and shit, and I am totally not a girly-girl IRL.
I have to consciously put on the sex-kitten act, but it works when I remember to do it. :)
Re: two guys tipped me last night for being "cool," but no dances
Honestly it sounds like your hustle/work persona isn't a good fit for your current club. I'd either try a different club or try to copy the girls who sell lots of dances at your club.
Re: two guys tipped me last night for being "cool," but no dances
Being "Cool" means you pushed the Friendship Hot Button too soon and lost that sale.
Men will tip for "cool" they will drain their wallet for the girl who pushes all their hot buttons.
It's the same thing as the "nice guy" who we like....but just not in "that" way.
Use the persuasive communication techniques to figure out why they are in there and then sell them what they want.
Re: two guys tipped me last night for being "cool," but no dances
in this situation it's either one of three things:
1. the guys didn't buy dances at all. they seemed into you and if they were gonna buy dances they would have gotten them from you for sure since you were their favorite. it has nothing to do with you being the "cool" stripper. guys LOVE the low-pressure sales techniques. I always use low pressure sales tactics. I always say things like "well whatever it's up to you" and more often than not I sell dances when I act like I don't care.
2. you didn't fit their fantasy. some guys want a girl who's real, but some guys go to a strip club and JUST want the giggly tall tan blonde with the big fake tits in the schoolgirl outfit. they probably liked you, but wanted a barbie. strip clubs are fantasy world and you won't always fit the fantasy. it's not you--it's them!
3. they were looking for extras and didn't get the extras vibe from you
Re: two guys tipped me last night for being "cool," but no dances
xGigi made some good points.
1. There ARE customers who just don't buy dances. At all. Ever. Usually the younger crowd who have read the stupid David D'Angelo "How to Date Strippers" ebook and use the PUA tricks.
2. This is an example of pushing the friendship hot button too soon. They want a fantasy, not a friend. Be the fantasy FIRST.....then the friend.
3. They are looking for something you're not selling. Move on.
Re: two guys tipped me last night for being "cool," but no dances
^lol I've read those how to date a stripper tutorials and could NOT stop laughing. guys are soooo dumb.
I want a bumper sticker that says STRIPPERS ARE PEOPLE TOO
Re: two guys tipped me last night for being "cool," but no dances
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xGigi
2. you didn't fit their fantasy. some guys want a girl who's real, but some guys go to a strip club and JUST want the giggly tall tan blonde with the big fake tits in the schoolgirl outfit. they probably liked you, but wanted a barbie. strip clubs are fantasy world and you won't always fit the fantasy. it's not you--it's them!
I'm attracted to petite, flat-chested, tomboyish girls in real life, but when I go to strip clubs for my own fun, I go for the wildest, fakest, most flamboyant girl there. I don't go expecting to meet someone I could date - simply to be entertained.
I'm really low-key outside of work, but at work I love fake tan, cleavage, I bleach and straighten my hair, and make myself up like a bad drag queen. I do best when I hit the floor looking and feeling like a stripper, not just little old me doing something for kicks. I play it up and flirt up a storm, and just have fun with the whole persona.
I understand that not every girl looks their best like this, or feels comfortable and sexy like this. But one important skill I learned from an experienced dancer is not to be overly self-deprecating. E.g. If a guy told me he liked my blonde hair, and how down to earth I was, I'd joke that I was totally fake except for my tits. Or that it costs a lot of money to look this cheap. Fake hair, fake tan, a truckload of makeup. Let them believe that you're this fantasy girl, who wakes up looking with flawless skin and hair, and who never chills out in tracksuit pants or poops or whatever normal girlfriends do.
Re: two guys tipped me last night for being "cool," but no dances
I have this problem ALL THE TIME and im really struggling with it. I'm a good hustler in general but this is my downfall, especially on nights when I'm tired, I'm naturally chatty and end up being told I am "nice" and "cool" which doesnt get dances!! I try to redirect and say "you must not know me yet...I am crazy and horny!" but it often feels too late.
Any other tips on how to be the hot girl and not the cool girl?
Re: two guys tipped me last night for being "cool," but no dances
haha STRIPPERS ARE PEOPLE TOO.
"i am crazy and horny!" ...toolate.
LOVE IT.