Too Scared to Get the Ball Rolling =/
I am a giant weenie. :-\
A couple of months ago, I ran into a good friend of mine. Over coffee, I decided to open up to her about maybe dancing for the first time this summer, and as it turns out, she used to do it! Also, she needs to make some extra money this summer for journalism school. So we talked about being "partners in crime", which would benefit both of us. (Plus, she has a car and I don't, so in a way I would have to rely on her anyway. My financial goal is to buy a car by the end of August.)
Around Easter, I ran into her again. She was with her daughter so I didn't want to mention anything, but I texted her later saying, "Still keeping this summer in mind!" She responded, "Ditto!"
Now it's May, the weather is finally getting warm, and I got my tax return yesterday, so ideally it would be time to start shopping for dancer gear, get my nails done, etc.
But I'm being such a sissy about contacting her, because I'm not sure what to say exactly. I'm afraid she's changed her mind since we last spoke, although that's probably not true. I keep psyching myself out! Can anyone offer any suggestions or words of encouragement to get this ball rolling? :-X:-X:-X
Re: Too Scared to Get the Ball Rolling =/
Do you have a club in mind you'd like to dance at? Maybe shoot her a text asking if she worked there or knew anything about it. It's a pretty easy way of gauging her interest. Otherwise, just go for it! I promise you it's not as nerve-wracking as you make it out to be. :)
Re: Too Scared to Get the Ball Rolling =/
Just go for it, she's almost definitely still thinking about it. I was in a similar situation, and when i finally got around to arranging a time to go check out a club, I just let this person know and they were more keen than I realised to come along.
Re: Too Scared to Get the Ball Rolling =/
She has already danced and obviously is considering it again so it's not like it would offend her. Although I am worried that if your hesitant in contacting her if you will thrive as a hustler...
Sorry just my 2 cents
Re: Too Scared to Get the Ball Rolling =/
what is it that you're scared of, exactly?
Re: Too Scared to Get the Ball Rolling =/
If you dont have a club in mind yet I'd just shoot her a text and say hey I'm planning on going and checking out XXX club this friday night, wana join? plus then if she worked there before or knows anything about it she'll let you know although things in clubs change so I'd check it out anyway to see how it is NOW.. and if she says she cant go for w.e reason go anyway and jst say "If you want I can let you know how it seems!" and then you can know forsure or not if shes really interested.. but eitherway just go for it!!!
Re: Too Scared to Get the Ball Rolling =/
Honestly I dont know if I could of done it with someone. I imagine i might of wanted to get "stuck" to that person instead of just jumping out there and going for it (like asking for dances) also since she has previous exp if she did better to you at first it might be discouaging.. Id just maybe ask her for a lapdance/give her one to practice/get some tips, but thats all, this is your thing dont get stuck on someone else..
Re: Too Scared to Get the Ball Rolling =/
Quote:
Originally Posted by
tampadancer
what is it that you're scared of, exactly?
I've prepared for this mentally and otherwise, and I think I'm scared she won't want to do it most of all, and feeling really foolish if she doesn't want to.
I don't know, I have weird coping mechanisms. But I think even creating this post helps me get over my stupid nerves. ::) Ideally, I want to contact her before this weekend ends.