Lap Dances... With Out Grinding?
My very first lap dance was in VIP with someone that just wanted grinding. No dancing around, no prancing or preening just me straddling his lap grinding. Not very comfortable for me or fun. (My lady bits were screaming ochiewahwah that whole night :crazy: )
I’m still in my first week now and I’ve had a chance to do more lap dances since but this style of dancing is all the guys seem to want. I don’t know how to add more of a “tease” factor to the lap dance if I am just sitting in their laps the whole time! At my club we have automated machines where the custie has to pay before each dance and I’m having a hard time getting guys to go for more dances.
Somehow I think that this has to do with the grind happy lap dances. Is there any way to vary it up a bit while still keeping them happy with the level of contact? How would you turn this around to work for you? I don’t want to keep grinding away and losing multiple dance chances and the $$$ just to keep them happy for a cheap two minute dance when I so badly want to keep them going.
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I don't think grinding leaves very much to the imagination. This is probably why it you are having a tough time selling multiple lapdances--they are getting what they want right away. Think of a lapdance as an experience in a whole. Take your time. Seduce him, create sexual tension. Make him willing to pay everything he has in his pockets to get you to finally sit on his leg.
Have you ever been in the pre-sex stages of a relationship where you could just cut the sexual tension between the two of you with a knife?? That is exactly what you want to duplicate =)
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Grinding is best done in moderation, just a few 10 second bits scattered throughout the first song, maybe a saucy sliding of your hand up the customer's leg, or down their chest. I make sure I'm straddling at the end of the first song, it shows them that you do have some naughty potential and that they can definitely have a good time with you if they stay. You can add more and more grinding the further along you get in dances, but intersperse it with other things as well. The same goes for the actual stripping too. Even if you work in a nude club, most customers are not going to be upset if you don't get naked all in the first song, I leave bottoms on until the end of the 3rd song. This and the grinding routine I said above makes it pretty easy to get 4+ dances out of most guys. You can also straight up ASK the guy what turns them on or what they like if you're running out of ideas of what to do to keep them interested.
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Thanks so much for the advice. I will be trying to put it to good use tomorrow night when I return back to work. I love the idea of trying to sell multiple dances upfront rather than doing one and trying for another.
I guess I still don’t know what to do when I get back there and start with my ld. I will save the grinding and closer contact until the end of the dance, but what else can I do? I feel like a joke swaying in front of them trying to be sexy. Are there any favorite moves you can bestow upon me ladies? I would looove you for it!
P.S. I had tried asking the custies what they preferred as far as dancing but they all said “it’s whatever you like to do.” Come on! Really?! I even told them I was new and they still didn’t even hint at what they liked :-X
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I agree with the other girls!
but......If they really really want a grinding, sell them a champagne room! Say you can only do it "in there" cause you have a reputation to hold up or grinding is frowned upon and dont want to be seen by the other girls doing it. I absolutely do not grind unless I'm getting paid/tipped ALOT more! This is a pay to play business and if they want a special request, they should expect to pay for it.
also if you notice a girl who you like style of dancing, go talk to her and ask if she will dance for you. Negotiate a price beforehand. Then go up to a custy and make him pay to watch her give you that sexy sensual dance! Split the $.
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First of all, if what a customer WANTS is not always what we should be doing. Sadly, lots of guys would want us grinding them raw for hours on end for free. It's up to us to give them just enough of what they want so that we remain comfortable and make our money.
For example, you and a customer are doing a dance, do your thing and slowly give him more contact/ grinding. Increase the "friction" to a level where you are comfortable and then begin to slow down again. At this point the song will be almost over and you will ask him, "do you want me to stop?".
Then since you have given him a hint of what he wants he should agree to do another dance in the hopes that it will happen again.
That's sort of my method anyway, hope it helps.
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I've noticed that guys are all the same. You can usually turn them on the same way. After following some tips I've read on this site (because I started off not knowing dick) I've learned to give more seductive dances and I'm generally able to sell more after the song is finished. We collect our money up front too.
One thing that a lot of girls overlook is enthusiasm. That will set you apart from the other girls who make it obvious that they don't want to be there. Stripping is really a golden opportunity. People pay you their hard earned money because you are hot. It's great! So after you collect your money for the dance, take him by the hand, smile seductively, and lead him to wherever you do your dances. Playfully push him onto the chair (or bed. We have bed dances.) and tell him to get comfortable. We have to be in a thong and bikini top before the song begins so I take this time to undress in front of him while maintaining flirty eye contact. Then I straddle his lap and sort of nuzzle into his neck. I also use the time before the song starts to slowly caress his chest with a light touch or gently play with his hair. This can be hard to do with gross guys, but hey, you're here to provide a fantasy. Go hard or go home.
Don't underestimate the power of a believable compliment. Saying he has sexy eyes or lips or even that you like how soft his shirt is will make him feel like you care, which in turn means more money for you. Once the song starts I grind REAAALLLLYYY slowly on his lap facing him while breathing on his neck/playing with his earlobe. There's lots of teasing and excruciatingly slow movements. If he tries to control the action you can put on a devilish smile, try to hide your irritation, and pin his hands up. He'll think it's sexy and hopefully the perv will get the message to let you take control.
I do a lot of ass motions so I like to stand up on the couch close to his face and dance for a bit then sit back down, arching my back and facing away for him. A move a lot of guys love is when I slide the back of my body up against his and rest my butt on his lap. I use one hand to play with his hair and GENTLY grind into him. The key here is to look like you're having the best fucking time. Moan slightly, caress your thigh, let your hand rest somewhere on him. Basically, you need to sell it. Right before the song ends is when I grind more intensely. Like, right before it ends. He's all worked up and I get really close to his face making the "hair curtain" and say in a low whisper "You don't want me to stop?" He shakes his head no and hands over his card. I sold 4 $100 dances to one guy this way last week :)
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Whenever I say, "You don't want me to stop, do you?" The guy always says yes at first. More like, he goes, "yes..I mean, no. I mean, keep going. Do this song"
It's like he's already decided he wants another one, is expecting me to ask him, but my wording throws him off. I guess I'll just start asking if they want me to keep going, but I like(d) the idea of 'no' means 'yes'
freaking awesome post, BTW, Jada Diamond.
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Thanks! I moonlight as a writer while moonlighting as a stripper :)
I also like the "no means yes" but try it a few ways and see what works for you. Sometimes it's good to have them confused.
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we're taking customer requests for how we perform dances? it's your show. you have to be in control of what's going on.
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^^
Agree! I'm going to quote myself, haha.
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Originally Posted by
Kat w
First of all, if what a customer WANTS is not always what we should be doing. Sadly, lots of guys would want us grinding them raw for hours on end for free. It's up to us to give them just enough of what they want so that we remain comfortable and make our money.
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If you dance slowly right from the beginning, breathe on their neck and caress behind their ears they'll get aroused as much as if you are grinding. Run your fingernails down their thighs and they'll be turned on but less wound up. I make my customers scared to move because I'm so gentle that if they try to pull me down onto them they'd ruin it.
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I basically stopped grinding altogether. I still do a little bit here and there but I've realised that my dances are way cleaner than they ever have been. Not that they were ever dirty but grinding used to be a huge part of them. A girl right next to me will be heavy grinding and I still make more than her. Go figure.
I start my dance not even touching him and move my way into that but if he grabs me or tries to pull me down or whatever I stop him and stop dancing completely and tell him to relax. Sometimes they say things like "you're holding back" and depending on my mood I'll say too bad, or I'm a lady. or just get pissed and finish the dance then.
no amount of money is worth my dignity or me compromising what I am comfortable with.