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Where is the inspiration?
I have been apart of this forum for a bit, and like most girls i peeked about a few weeks before joining :) , cautious, nervous wondering if anybody will offer the advice i needed, or be in a similar situation? When i did sign up alot of threads were soo amazing to read, so many positive people, the advice and inspiration to move on through tough times was overwhelming.
I love this forum, it answers questions that only cam girls, strippers, escorts, and anyone else apart of the adult industry can answer, It provides the insight and healthy "lets agree to disagree" that most of us have, So i stand back and read, sometimes not posting in some threads, not because i dont have the answer (when has that ever stopped us lol),but because, some of them are heading toward alot of personal arguments, rudeness, now im not saying people shouldn't say how they feel, thats why were here, and please never a sugar coater, but these negative threads, these hurtful comments and, "she wrote this and that) are scaring away alot of potential new Sw girls. We come here for that sister, or brother bonding that unites all of us rather you, are or were previously in this industry, that's something we share in common, i know it wont change overnight, but i hope some of us can see how we can affect others, or help them, no we cant change the world, but as corny as it sounds We can affect others positively,
i hope there are positive responses here thanks for reading girls, i love you all :)
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Totally agree! There are certain subjects which all people will never agree on, such as religion.
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Kylea2
Totally agree! There are certain subjects which all people will never agree on, such as religion.
Yes! Exactly.
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Couldn't have said it better myself. I think sometimes girls can get a lil too caddy either bc of jelousy or just the fact of having to be "right" all the time. Certain girls in this forum love to argue i've noticed to the point of pointing out what someone says and not even having the right impression of what they REALLY said. Twisting their words..u know? i hope girls become more supporting instead of going thru every thread they can get their hands on..just to TRY to find an argument.
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Very perfectly said, Me? i don't believe any job makes us better than the next person, rather them making 500 a hr or 5 dollars a hour, Were finding something were good at and hopefully enjoying and were doing it, We have one life to live id rather die knowing i did, and said what i could, rather than the opposite
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One problem here is some don't know when you're being funny and when you're being serious. On another thread I made a joke and people thought I was picking on a certain group of people meanwhile I was trying to be funny. If money could buy a sense of humor, I'd buy it for the majority of the members here OR is it the fact that we are sitting behind screens and can't really hear each other's tone?
Another thing: I don't see how one can be jealous of the other here. Do we know each other? No! We have never even met. This is a forum and anyone can sit here and make claims all day. So how can you be jealous of someone you don't know? have never seen work? Are you jealous of their words? If so, that is ridiculous.
3.) Most people here want to control other people's voices. You can't post a thread like the one on religion and expect people to sing "Kumbaya" it will not happen. We have members here that have very strong opinions/beliefs....don't post such thread and cry that it didn't go well when shit hits the fan.
4.) Some people just don't know how to handle discussions (myself included). However, I don't run and hide like some. I sit there and battle it out. When you have a problem with someone/a conflict it is best to talk it out so you can better understanding of the situation. Yes my rudeness and personal attacks don't help but don't attack me for NOT agreeing with you then call me "negative" or "judgemental". It happens here alot.. and it's just downright ridiculous.
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TG has a point, and so does everyone else, i wish we could talk about serious things, but!!.... We know it will be again a huge argument, Everyone wont agree to disagree,... but this isnt a discussion on that it is, and i hope it will stay on positivity, ways and ideas and thoughts
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To be fair, I've been a member of SW for around 2 months now and haven't ever been put off by what's happening in threads. I've only seen a couple of threads that were heading in a negative way, and i saw that most members picked their way around those responses and just carried on with the topic. There is a LOT of inspiration, and a lot of support here. That far outweighs the few negatives I have seen.
Anyone who has been on the internet for any amount of time will know what trolls are, and flame wars. They (hopefully) have learned to avoid them, ignore them, and even side-step right around them to get on with a discussion. Topics like religion, or anything else they don't agree with, can just be ignored. It's not worth working yourself up over something said in cyber space by a virtual character you have never met and likely never will. Just take it at face value, and enjoy the forum for the value it DOES provide :) xx
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MissKatie
To be fair, I've been a member of SW for around 2 months now and haven't ever been put off by what's happening in threads. I've only seen a couple of threads that were heading in a negative way, and i saw that most members picked their way around those responses and just carried on with the topic. There is a LOT of inspiration, and a lot of support here. That far outweighs the few negatives I have seen xxx
your right.. thats y i posted "some" not all of them are bad not even most, there is always alot of help
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@TG- For one, I know what thread ur talking about and the fact that u were trying to be funny, but u weren't the only one that had made certain comments about that subject but hey maybe the other ones were trying to be funny too so i can't say. But the way I took it was ppl were calling girls out on it and making fun like the girls were stupid for what they were doing. That is y i threw out a possible reason. Now im in total agreement of sometimes it's hard to tell what kind of attitude or tone someone has when typing it on the net.
As for the whole jealousy situation...I'm sorry if u really think just bc it's the internet that some of these girls aren't jealous of each other. Yes I have actually had a lil jeaoulsy my self but not in the way of wishing bad on that person. I'm actually happy for them. People can say anything on here like they have such and such house or man or so much money and it could also not be true. But jealousy does happen so i guess in ur eyes that makes me ridiculous.
As a lil side note..I honestly am not trying to make this thread go down in anyway at all..just trying to broaden perspectives of things. And also I'm not at all trying to attack u TG in any way. I think u truely know that I have always respected ur opinion on things since day 1 i've been here. I think u give amazing advice sometimes but yes i do disagree w/ u every once in a while. I just hope u don't take it wrong.
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you guys are all fucking great :)
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I think that as women in the adult industry, we've grown thick skins and developed a quick mouth - we always have a response for everything and are determined to fight to the top. This makes us the amazing women we are at our jobs, but sometimes it's hard for us (myself included) to put that fighting spirit aside and just RELAX on SW.
We are PASSIONATE women, INDEPENDENT women, and as such we are inclined to fight quite intensely.
We are also SENSITIVE and COMPASSIONATE women who can rationally see the other side of the argument (in most cases...) and move on.
Newbies reading this... don't let the fights scare you off, it just means we love each other enough to be honest in our posts :P
My last fight (or rather, the last "discussion" I had that left me pissed off) was with TG. Do I even remember what it was about? No. Does it matter now? Hell no. I'm already planning to be partying with her in Miami in a couple months. It's whatever.
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MissEgo
I think that as women in the adult industry, we've grown thick skins and developed a quick mouth - we always have a response for everything and are determined to fight to the top. This makes us the amazing women we are at our jobs, but sometimes it's hard for us (myself included) to put that fighting spirit aside and just RELAX on SW.
We are PASSIONATE women, INDEPENDENT women, and as such we are inclined to fight quite intensely.
We are also SENSITIVE and COMPASSIONATE women who can rationally see the other side of the argument (in most cases...) and move on.
Newbies reading this... don't let the fights scare you off, it just means we love each other enough to be honest in our posts :P
i love reading your post, you have such great things to say ... thought id throw that out :)
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^^never looked at it that way..glad u posted
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Shaebabii, I have always liked you, your attitude but you already know that. I said it in another thread. Yeah the MFC thread was a bit upsetting. I was trying to be funny (you know a side a lot of people don't see of me here) :(.
So no problem love. About the jealousy: It's only small minded/no life people that will be jealous of someone they don't even know. So ignore them.
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I don't like Miss Ego because she's always right :(. lol
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^^Thanx hun.....glad there aren't hard feelings!! =)
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TG i have to admit i love reading what you have to say, your post remind me of the strength and confidence all women should have,
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whitesancho
TG i have to admit i love reading what you have to say, your post remind me of the strength and confidence all women should have,
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TouringGirlfriend
About the jealousy: It's only small minded/no life people that will be jealous of someone they don't even know.
It's also tough to forget sometimes that we are all personas. I could tell you all I'm a 34 yr old MILF from India. Doesn't mean it's true. I could tell you all I'm an 18 yr old horny slut. Again, just because I say it here, doesn't make it true. Why be jealous of someone for something they've posted online??
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TouringGirlfriend
I don't like Miss Ego because she's always right :(. lol
:grouphug:
I want that in my signature dammit. lol But I don't know how to do that :(
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MissEgo
:grouphug:
looks like they are having a orgy lol lol ... my naughty mind
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LOL it's a grouphug!! I was looking for the hugs one but I found that one first and thought it was cuter haha
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quote=MissEgo;2119342]It's also tough to forget sometimes that we are all personas. I could tell you all I'm a 34 yr old MILF from India. Doesn't mean it's true. I could tell you all I'm an 18 yr old horny slut. Again, just because I say it here, doesn't make it true. Why be jealous of someone for something they've posted online??[/quote]
As for me, when I was telling TG that even I have been a lil jealous, when some girls say "oh i paid this off and that off" Or "worked 8 hrs today" < these are the things that kinda make me jealous...not even sure if u could call it jelousy really. It just makes me think well jeez wish i could have my whatever paid for or wished i could work all day on cam but can't bc i have a lil one at home to take care of. But i never am like mad at these girls for what they have and u guys are soo right..they could just be saying that u know.
^^ya i think i totally just confused myself. :O
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Oh I know what you mean about being jealous like that. Usually it's more because I'm a laaaaazy biotch or I procrastinate, and then I hear about other girls having awesome days. It's not really that I'm jealous of them, but more... happy for them but in a dammit-that-could-have-been-me kind of way.
The money is out there every day - someone has to earn it, might as well be me... lol