Newbie attracted to customer...
Hi there, 19 year old newbie dancer here. My next shift will be my 3rd week. I'm getting pretty used to most of my customers being wealthy Asian businessmen and 70 year old men...until on my shift a couple weeks ago this cute, awkward throwback hipster type guy came into my club looking totally lost. I talked to him and was immediately infatuated, he spent a bunch of money on me and left, saying he would come back next week. He did, which I wasn't expecting. I am getting lost in the line between my work life and my personal life. I ENJOY giving this guy lapdances, and get confused when he tries to pay me! AHHHHHH I'm single too, so this is hard. I know I'm being ridiculous, but this has to have happened before. What do I do?
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I would hang out with him in the club for awhile more so you get more of a feel for him and are sure that he legitimately is paying you and coming to see you because he likes you, but still respects your time in the club and isn't just trying to throw a lot of money at you in the beginning to try to "get you" and then get mad when you don't fall for it...
But if you end up really connecting with this guy and after a couple months you feel he's legit, there's nothing wrong with going after what you want. If you want him to remain a customer because the money is more important to you, then just enjoy your time with him and be grateful you have such a loyal regular. There's nothing wrong with wanting that and not taking it OTC. But if you truly like him and want to pursue it, you can always initiate what you want. You're a strong, independent, fascinating woman - you can totally go for it if you want to. Just be careful and smart about it... A lot of girls meet boyfriends in the club - guys who were really good regulars. But other girls have very strict rules about never meeting customers outside the club, no matter what. Take your time, figure out what you want to do. And there's nothing wrong with enjoying your time with him in the club while profiting off it... don't feel weird about being paid for a lapdance that you enjoyed giving. It's your JOB! And if you enjoy your job, that's just a bonus for you.
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Learn from the 9,000 other strippers who've dated customers in the past - JUST SAY NO.
Seriously, there's like a 0.1% chance of it working out.
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Don't do it. Enjoy and appreciate him as a customer, and give him amazing clean dancers every time he visits. Be glad you may very well have a regular who you genuinely like to be around.
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I did it once -it didn't work. I was just a fun time for him even after i waited ages to sleep w/ him. Ugh. But then on the other hand, one of my best friends met her husband in the club. So it could go either way. Your gonna get alot of mixed responses on that question. The only thing i can say that I almost definitely see never work is dating the staff. Most of the time it is just better not to shit where you eat girl.
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Why shouldn't you enjoy giving him dances? Enjoying our living is one of the heights of life!
Just always appreciate having him, & treat him well. Don't move it beyond that though or you'll risk a lot... including losing him in your life.
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You need to spend a really long time getting to know him within the club before you decide to date him outside of the club. Think of it this way--if he genuinely likes you he *will* keep coming in to see you and if he knows how the game works he will have no problem dishing out money for your time. I say give it a good year =)
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*shrug* if you like him, great. take all of his money, go one ONE DATE, fuck him, then be done. get it out of your system.
i have had to do this twice with certain customers, once when i first started dancing, once in november. i never spoke to them again. it was probably the best way to get it out rather than pining for what i couldn't have.
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dont. you will be the story of the year in his social circle and forever be 'the stripper he picked up'
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Just don't "accidentally" give him a BJ in VIP like this other newbie ::)
http://forum.stripperweb.com/showthr...light=blow+job
Sorry devy nothing directed at you, I was just remembering this thread. It's good for laughs
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i read that and i was like whaaaa....?
i cant even comprehend a coherent response right now.. srsly. whaaaatttt????
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Thanks for the helpful replies, ladies. Like I said, I'm sure this has happened before. And a bigggg LOL to the blowjob in VIP....that's fucking hilarious. I work next on Saturday, so we'll see if he comes back in. I'll just take it super slow. He hasn't asked for my number or anything (like I said, I doubt he's been to a club in his life and he has no idea where the boundaries are) so God, who knows. Maybe I just really need to get laid?:-\
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ugh. really? we have all been newbies, but seriously. you go to this job to hustle and MAKE MONEY, not to find your soulmate/next fuck buddy. drain his wallet, and when he has nothing left, on to the next one. the POINT is to make them infatuated with you, so that they will drop loads of cash on you.
unless you'd rather have loads of cum up your snatch... go ahead and sleep with him.
sorry so harsh, im just irritated with all of these "i'm in love with a custie" threads and girls doing lots for nothing, which is bringing down the business in general. even though, by your post, you haven't fucked up yet.
PLEASE, just think about making money, don't waste your brain cells on fantasizing about custies.
find love OUTSIDE of the club. you don't want to be "that girl" that everyone trash talks about in your club. it will probably get you fired.
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I'm the ".1%" and unashamed of it! We've been living together happily for a year now.
My attraction to him gradually built up over six months and then I decided to go for it. There were a few absolutely crucial factors that led me to act on my feelings. First, he came in at least once a week and spent enough that I could enjoy my time with him without worrying about money. This allowed us to get to know each other very well and genuinely have fun together. Because of this, we had something like 30 four hour long first dates. He also never once had a problem with me dancing for other customers while he was there, which proved to me he could handle what I do. Also, he never got a dance from another girl while I was there. He'd gotten a few very early on, but it was because he was hoping to find me when I wasn't there (he didn't remember my name and kept coming in at the wrong times). This proved to me that he was interested in me rather than any random stripper he could pick up. He made his intentions clear that he wanted to date me, but never once was pushy about it. Months would go on without him even mentioning it. So, he was very respectful of my boundaries.
There's a lot of room for deception in clubs, but genuine chemistry can't be faked. If your situation turns out like mine, why not go for it? Just spend a lot of time together and make sure he always pays you for it until you're sure it's a real connection.
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lol1337a
I'm the ".1%" and unashamed of it! We've been living together happily for a year now.
My attraction to him gradually built up over six months and then I decided to go for it. There were a few absolutely crucial factors that led me to act on my feelings. First, he came in at least once a week and spent enough that I could enjoy my time with him without worrying about money. This allowed us to get to know each other very well and genuinely have fun together. Because of this, we had something like 30 four hour long first dates. He also never once had a problem with me dancing for other customers while he was there, which proved to me he could handle what I do. Also, he never got a dance from another girl while I was there. He'd gotten a few very early on, but it was because he was hoping to find me when I wasn't there (he didn't remember my name and kept coming in at the wrong times). This proved to me that he was interested in me rather than any random stripper he could pick up. He made his intentions clear that he wanted to date me, but never once was pushy about it. Months would go on without him even mentioning it. So, he was very respectful of my boundaries.
There's a lot of room for deception in clubs, but genuine chemistry can't be faked. If your situation turns out like mine, why not go for it? Just spend a lot of time together and make sure he always pays you for it until you're sure it's a real connection.
congrats!
i guess, the bottom line is, if you REALLY think there is chemistry, wait it out. at least 3 months. if it's still there, it's probably for real.