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Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
I am so sick and fucking tired of guys coming in once or twice, getting maybe 2 dances from me and then expecting me to remember their goddamn names. Then they get all butt hurt and say stupid shit like, "Gee thanks." or "Wow, that's real nice." or "I bought a dance from you the last time I was here and you can't even remember my name?!" Do they realize how many men I meet on a weekly basis?! Sorry to say that I usually only remember names if A. The guy spent more than $100 on me or B. He's a repeat customer.. It's so frustrating because they try to make you feel like shit about it or they think that they are someone special and I SHOULD remember him. Nope. Sorry buddy.
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
I can agree but you know what, like you said when I spend $100-200 on a girl (I never spend less than atleast $100) two or three times, or four times and she can't remember my name by the 3rd or 4th visit, I take that as just lack of simple social skills or lack of giving a shit, both of which i'll say goodbye and move on to the next dancer.
It's no big deal but to me it's a sign of disrespect, to ask someone their name 5 times when they've done business with you 4 or 5 times.
Remember this is a business, most customers or men, will think they are 'special', as in they should be worth remembering after only giving you $20 once or twice, lol or try to make you feel bad for not remembering to give them the upper-hand but if someone is truly providing you good business and is a repeat customer, like you said, it's good to remember names when it comes to that.
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
Doesn't really matter to me that she remembers my name. I'm more interested that she remembers me or at least pretends to early on (she'd better after awhile or I move on!),
Known girls for years, spent $100's on them, they have no clue what my name is as they've never asked (either don't care or too embarassed). Doesn't matter. Funny thing is that I'm pretty good about using their names (once I've got it down, which may take a couple of trips or so).
I would never try to embarass a dancer by quizzing her about my name. What's the point?
The visit is more about the fantasy and quality of the interaction. Not saying that remembering and using my name isn't a plus, but not a requirement!
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
^True as long as she can remember how you like your dances!
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
Next time......
Him: Hey, remember me?
You: No
Him: Why?
You: How much did you spend on me last time?
Him: ???
You: That's why I don't remember.
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
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Originally Posted by
NeedsHelp123
^True as long as she can remember how you like your dances!
LMAO! Dude, if you like her dances it is because you like the way she dances, not because she is taking notes on your likes and dislikes...
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
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Originally Posted by
yoda57us
LMAO! Dude, if you like her dances it is because you like the way she dances, not because she is taking notes on your likes and dislikes...
Not entirely true, it's circumstantial, some girls will tailor how they dance for me just the same way they will give some guy a GFE in the club, or only grind for the guy who only wants to be grinded on. or massage the guy who only wants a massage or to pet their feet, whatever etc etc
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
lol
I've got the opposite problem.
There's one club I frequent where it seems everyone knows my name now - even the mens room troll says "hi" and calls me by name if he's sitting outside the door when I walk by him on my way to the ladies loo!
At first I was flattered, but now I'm just horrified at the whole thing.
Dammit - bouncers, floaters & janitors should NOT know your name unless you work there (or they have a restraining order against you).
Jeez....I gotta cut back on visits to that place :-\.
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
I always make a point to know someones name. Some guys will deal with "baby", "sweetie" fiill in whatever pet name here, but it isn't good sales skills. I don't dance anymore. I escort and use hotels on a daily basis. Just today I got checked in four hours earlier just by knowing how to connect with a person. I used his name! Hello ""John"! How are YOU?!" Showing that you care a bit helps, too. There is a nice way around not knowing someones name. Be a bit more tactful.
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
Wow - I wouldn't expect my name to be remembered, even dropping decent cash. Hell all I expect is some friendly behavior (You know, like 'hi') before I'm asked if I want a dance.
I'm pretty easy to deal with I guess lol
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
Even if a customer (in any business) is stupid, just kill them with kindness (unless they are rude, i do not accept rudeness in any form)
when i was a salesman and didn't remember someones name (for good reason) I would just apologize and make up some excuse blah blah, usually when someone is an ass like that, i'll remember their name next time just because I didn't like them lol, even if they aren't special the trick is to make them feel like they are.
not that any of you need advice, just putting my thoughts out there ;)
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
I can't even get to the names because I'm so bad with FACES.
I've always been that way. I can look back to my first job at 15 at McDonald's, working the drive-thru. Someone would come back around because they forgot to order something, and be like, "We're back!!" I'd be like, "Back from where??" not even realizing that I had just dealt with them less than five minutes ago.
This happened the other day in the club. I was spending time with this gentleman, gave him a few dances, and he said he had to leave and he would be back. An hour or so later, a man comes in. He looks at me, I look at him, say to myself "what the eff are you looking at?" and go back to doing what I was doing. Needless to say, it was HIM.
A few minutes later, he walks over to me and asks if he pissed me off. I'm thinking, dude, who the hell are you? He says, "it's me - from earlier!" I'm like ahhhh [email protected]#*!!
So I made up some cockamamie story about how I wasn't wearing my contacts and everyone's faces were just blurs to me. He bought it, but I can't use that same excuse next time I see him. I remember his name, though lol if that helps?
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
Remembr my name? Shit, I'm thrilled if a dancer or even my ATF manages to hide her revulsion long enough to dance for me without a look of disgust on her face! lol
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
Over the course of about 4 years from when I first met her and then seeing her regularly on and off, and a couple hundred spent per visit, I'm not sure if the current fav knows my name or not and it really doesn't bother me. She knows a lot about me, my job, my car, my favorite activities, how i like my naughty dances but most likely not my name. I've been tempted to bring it up in conversation but then, eh.. its been going good this way so why worry about it.
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
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Originally Posted by
jannisary
Over the course of about 4 years from when I first met her and then seeing her regularly on and off, and a couple hundred spent per visit, I'm not sure if the current fav knows my name or not and it really doesn't bother me. She knows a lot about me, my job, my car, my favorite activities, how i like my naughty dances but most likely not my name. I've been tempted to bring it up in conversation but then, eh.. its been going good this way so why worry about it.
Agreed...why worry about it if it's going good? :)
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
Well, I've had dancers remember the nickname that they gave me- does that count?;)
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
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Originally Posted by
NeedsHelp123
I can agree but you know what, like you said when I spend $100-200 on a girl (I never spend less than atleast $100) two or three times, or four times and she can't remember my name by the 3rd or 4th visit, I take that as just lack of simple social skills or lack of giving a shit, both of which i'll say goodbye and move on to the next dancer.
It's no big deal but to me it's a sign of disrespect, to ask someone their name 5 times when they've done business with you 4 or 5 times.
Remember this is a business, most customers or men, will think they are 'special', as in they should be worth remembering after only giving you $20 once or twice, lol or try to make you feel bad for not remembering to give them the upper-hand but if someone is truly providing you good business and is a repeat customer, like you said, it's good to remember names when it comes to that.
I do believe I said that I remember a name if they have spent a significant amount on me or have bought more than 1 or 2 dances from me. I know it's a business. I'm talking about the asshats that I've met once or (they tell me) twice before who maybe bought a dance or two and they get butthurt because I don't remember them. What really annoys me is the fact that I didn't even sit with these guys but rather asked them for a dance, took them up to the booth, made small talk and asked their names, danced a song, and sent them on their way. Then danced for 40 other people after him. Yeah, not going to remember a name. I wouldn't call that "bad business".
And I know ranting about it on SW isn't going to change anything but I'm pretty sure we're allowed to vent on this forum, right?
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
FWIW, I have trouble remembering thewir names as well unless I spend a significant amount of time with them. When I was a very steady customer, I met girls in there but couldn't remember their names the next time.
Amusingly enough, the last time I was in the club, a dancer approached me at the bar. I told her I was there for another girl's retirement party, but we had a drink and talked. Ten minutes into our conversation about remembering names, we both laughingly admitted we couldn't remember each other's names.
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
Honestly, I either remember names or I don't. There's a guy who came in several times and tipped me, and only me, $5 onstage whenever I went up and bought 6 dances from me after buying me a drink. I have no clue what his name is and am far too embarrassed to ask whenever I see him now. On the other hand, there's a guy who came in for the first time a couple months ago, who didn't buy dances, was even too cheap to buy anyone a drink, but the next time he came in I remembered his name and he was shocked. Not that it changed anything - still has never bought a dance or dancer's drink. The most I get out of him for remembering his name is a couple bucks on stage each time he comes in... woohoo lol
It's really not personal, and I wish customers understood that. If I'm going to remember someone's name, it'll happen within the first few minutes. If a couple minutes later, I've forgotten, no matter how much money he proceeds to spend on me, I'm not going to recall it and probably feel too embarrassed to ask if he just spent a bunch on me. But if I happen to commit someone's name to memory, even if they don't spend anything, I'll remember the name forever... Idk why lol I recognize faces just fine. I can remember someone and even the details of their life and will ask about their son or their job or remember the type of banter we do and what part of my body they like best. If I can remember all that, I don't think the specific name should matter... I hear so many names all night long!
And I can't tell you how many guys also forget my name.... after sitting with me and then watching me leave to go onstage (they announce my name when I go up on the stage and when I'm coming back)... and they can't remember something they just heard announced on a loudspeaker twice in 10 minutes? So honestly, I can't feel bad about it.
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
My favs always remembered my name from day one. Obviously a dancer can only remember so many due to the volume of customers but I made a point of making sure they remembered me.
FBR
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
Had a dancer ask me if I knew the guys name she was sitting with as her mind had totally gone blank and he had been in numerous times spending money and there was no way she could ask him. I waited til she went on stage, made small talk with him and then introduced myself. After getting his name...went to stage tipped her and gave her his name. All happy ....except I was out $5. ha........
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
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Originally Posted by
Raider
Had a dancer ask me if I knew the guys name she was sitting with as her mind had totally gone blank and he had been in numerous times spending money and there was no way she could ask him. I waited til she went on stage, made small talk with him and then introduced myself. After getting his name...went to stage tipped her and gave her his name. All happy ....except I was out $5. ha........
Sounds like she should have tipped YOU! ;D
Nice move on your part.
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
I meet so many dancers in a year that I have the same problem in reverse. Fortunately, however, they don't usually get worked up over it.
Some have called me on it, saying something like "You don't remember my name, do you?" with a smile and sometimes a raised eyebrow, but that is it. When this happens, I usually put on a grin and say, "I have to admit that I don't, but I'll bet that you don't remember mine either." Then we both laugh and move on to other things from there.
I only had one situation, ever, where this backfired. I had met the girl once, had not seen her in nine months and did not mortgage the farm for her when I did, but somehow she remembered my name while I did not remember hers. I was so impressed by that, and no doubt the fact that she was cover model hot did not hurt, that I spent my allocated $$$ for that visit with her. Good times.
But this last instance was an anomaly. It is absurd to think that a dancer is going to be able to remember the names of even a large fraction of all the guys that she has to deal with in a given timeframe.
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
^I'm with Rick... I'm more shocked when someone remembers me after several months, and me not doing anything even remotely memorable.
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Re: Rant: Most dancers don't remember your names!!! Get over it!!!
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Originally Posted by
strippername
I always make a point to know someones name. Some guys will deal with "baby", "sweetie" fiill in whatever pet name here, but it isn't good sales skills...
Just today I got checked in four hours earlier just by knowing how to connect with a person. I used his name! Hello ""John"! How are YOU?!" Showing that you care a bit helps, too.
This is very true! When I mentioned preferring men with good manners & etiquette in the "How Shallow Are You Ladies" thread, part of one of my queues of which men I tend to like are the ones who remember the names of people like the bell boy, front desk clerk, & waiter. Knowing a name is a common courtesy & a sign of respect... & showing respect with kindness can get you far!
I do try to log the names of customers & details about them when I can. This is actually a technique that Strip & Grow Rich really presses on for building regulars. While I am not good at remembering names, I can search my database for certain things I remember about the person, & generally figure out who the person was.
So the more amusing thing is when the conversation goes like this:
(make eye contact, pause for him to initiate the conversation)
Him: Hey! I haven't seen you around here in awhile. How have you been?
Me: Good, I've just been traveling.
Him: You don't remember me do you?
Me: Sure I do. (smile coyly)
Him: Okay, what's my name?
Me: Your name is [insert his name]. Now, what is my name?
Him: Uhhhhh.....
Me: Ha! See, now you owe me a dance to make it up to me!
He feels sheepish & I get money out of it... perfect solution.