Originally Posted by
PurpleSkye
So i'm going to be starting at a lap dance club soon and am nervous about a few things. Hey girly! Welcome to SW!
1. How do you end a dance? I know it's best to try and extend the dance and i've read things to do with that, but if that doesn't happen what do you do? Just get dressed and thank them? Lol sounds silly but I can just picture myself standing there having no idea what to say or do.
Well, when the song is winding down, I usually lean in and whisper in the guys ear "lets keep going, Hun" or some variation of that. If he declines, I usually give another attempt to keep selling while being seductive (by saying something like "Aw babe, I'm just getting warmed up!" or "Really? But you have seen my best angles yet...." and trail off all sexy). If he insists, saying "No, I think I'm done thank you babe" then just wait until the song is totally done (don't just jump up when it's winding down, wait unitl the very end), get up slowly and sexy (if you're at a contact club where you can actually climb all over the custy) or straighten yourself up to full height (if you're at a no contact/airdance club). and look and him smiling and say "Well thank you! That was fun! So that was X dances darling." Give him a few moments to fiddle around getting his wallet out - most men need a few seconds breather right after a LD - and that'll give you time to gather your things, and put maybe your panties/top back on (try and do it somewhat elegantly). After he pays (you can mention a tip if you're allowed too - lots of cute lines too, and if you ARE allowed to ask I REALLY recommend it!), thank the money and count it quickly (but accurately) and thank him again. Remember, as much as the view of your beautiful body is priceless, he did just spend 20/40/60+ on you, and it's nice to be appreciative. I sometimes give a little hug too (if he was a really good customer who bought a lot of dances).
This is long, but I think the general advice for ending a lapdance is
1. Wait until the end of the song
2. Be sweet and aware of the fact that he's coming out of fantasy land
3. Be assertive about the number of dances and the money you're owed and ask for a tip
4. If you have any payment issues, try and sort it out nicely yourself first - sometimes guys really lose tract! Sometimes we dancers do (albeit rarely). If he's insistent or being an ass then go to a bouncer/manager/floor host right away. Don't let anyone get away with not paying you.
Also, familaize yourself with how to quickly tell if a large bill (think $100's and $50s) are real by holding them up to the light.
2. Talking to them during a dance? Yes or no?
Not an easy answer - sometimes yes, sometimes no. If you notice he's chit-chatting waiting for the song to start, and keeps chit chatting as you start dancing it could mean he's nervous, or talkative or both. Either way, if he's talking and trying to engage you it means he probably wants to talk. Just be responsive but don't carry on too much. After a few minutes even talkative custys tend to go silent and enjoy the dance. You'll get better at this as you gain experience, but you lean to read from their non-verbal clues what they want out or their dance.
3. Best way to kill my nerves? I got hired so I guess they think i'm capable, just all these scenarios keep popping up in my head!!!