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Camming & Health Issues Diary
So - I said awhile back I was going to do something like this - only because I wondered how many their were out there that were like me and had health issues.
I am no stranger to health issues myself. I have the following medical conditions - endometriosis (stage 4), intersitial cystitis, irritable bowel syndrome, chronic fatigue and pain syndrome, osteoporosis, a screwed up sciatic nerve in my lower back, migraines, nerve damage from the endo in my pelvis and abdomen. I have had 34 surgeries since the age of 13. I am now 27.
I left home when I was 19 for college to start on my 1st degree, but I got sidetracked till then because of a brain tumor when I was 18. Things really started to hit the fan when I turned 21 with the massive bleeding from a non-stop period, cramps, pain, fatigue....
I still worked off and from the time I was 20-24 when I lost my job as a security manager. At which point - surgeries started happening back to back and I had no choice but to file for disability.
I went to camming because it was to the point leaving the house was difficult. I couldn't find a job that would reasonably allow me to work from home, take off every 3 months for a month for a surgery, work with me at all - because most of the time I can't sleep or I have bathroom accidents with the intersitial cystitis. It's rough when you are 27 years old and your bladder freaks out all the time. It causes many more problems that some people like to realize.
Camming allowed me to do my own thing and create my own lifestyle around my health issues. As much as I have tried to not let it control me, I have to adapt the best way I know how to - which was make money on my own. This way - I don't have to worry about leaving the house when things are bad. I get to stay home because it works for me.
These days I am just in a strict pain management plan and I am facing probably another 3 surgeries before the end of the year. The problem with ENDO that many do not realize - is that when you have a kid or a hysterectomy, it usually goes away. This is not my case. I have zero kids, a hysterectomy at 24, cancer drugs for 4 years when I was only supposed to be on them for 1 and anything and everything birth control wise never worked for me. I am one of 5 cases in the country that ENDO has returned at least 3x-5x times worse than it was before a hysterectomy.
I am writing this as a diary because I hope there are some other girls here that have some health issues and need an outlet - because I know I do. Keeping it bottled inside has never been good for anyone especially me because I will snap. It is important to me more so because MANY MANY women suffer from Endo - and the frustration of getting a diagnosis is rough. Dr's say it's all in your head or you are just dreaming - I get it because I went through it.
I wanted to create this section so we could talk about our health problems and camming. Whether it be a disease or a common cold - I figured - why not. Everyone is stressed, depressed, anxious or something else so why not have some place where you can to read and relate to your fellow workers in the camming business.
xxoxox I hope you all will enjoy this diary thread as much as I will.
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i really hope everything works out for you i will pray for you everyday you are really strong and there are so many blessings coming your way you have no idea :)
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*hugs*
i can relate a lot. part of why i cam is because my disability and chronic illnesses make it really difficult to work in a regular job. i was born with spastic cerebral palsy and developed spinal problems when i was five which have worsened over the years (degenerative disk disease, spondylolisthesis, and osteoarthritis in the spine), and was diagnosed with fibromyalgia at 17. i have migraines and osteoarthritis in my hands and feet. i also have ptsd and some other mental health issues, mostly anxiety-centric these days. i've had horrible horrible experiences with the medical industrial complex & haven't yet found a doctor willing or able to treat the conditions, so i mostly stay away from doctors. my main problem is that my day-to-day level of pain is really, really horrifically high, and my back problems and fibro make it difficult to stand for long periods, so i can't work in food service or do other labor intensive, minimum wage jobs anymore (which are about the only jobs around here that are hiring). i started using a cane a couple of years ago which helps with standing or walking up stairs/inclines.
i've found doing disability activism to be really empowering, though, and getting to know other folks with disabilities and chronic illnesses who are struggling with similar things helps me not feel so isolated. i'm glad you started this thread and i pray your surgeries go well and that things get better for you <3 :)
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I appreciate that chick.
I, too, just won my disability claim at the beginning of June. I don't cam as much as I used to anymore and I just stick with passive income only because I keep myself below the amount I am allowed to make. I haven't gotten my payout yet because it's going on 3 years of backpay almost - but I am happy I started here too....
Yeah - my pain tolerance is hella high these days and my new pain management has me on a wicked pain regime medication wise. I am happy that I am doing what I doing though.
Daily, I do my stores, my blog and my website I am working on and I put together a self- taught degree program for Forensic Psychology. I am also working on getting my student loan debt wiped out due to being disable. 3 degrees and can't do a damn thing with them really - and I axed law school. I will probably self-teach myself that as well.
I download TONS of e-books on law subjects. :) Keeps me busy. I hope everything goes well for you too love. We will hang in there!
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First of all *hugs*! Second of all I was dx'd with Endo when I was 16, had a diagnostic laparoscopy done and also found out I had a cyst. Was on Lupron Depot as treatment (chemical menopause) but it didn't help. Stayed on back to back bcp with no period until my husband and I decided to try to have kids. During pregnancy I was having intense pain which tests revealed was fibroids and gallbladder issues. Oh and having a baby didn't make my endo any better. Also on top of all this I have lactose intolerance, intermittent IBS, nerve pain in my hips too (I always suspected it was related to my endo).
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ruby49
I am so sorry that all these bad things have happened to you! *hugs*
I have Chron's disease- it causes severe stomach aches, makes it difficult to work and go to school. And something else is wrong with my colon that no specialist has been able to figure out (literally been having test after test done for 2 years now). I was told a month ago I needed to have sugery to remove my colon (they keep like an inch, remove the rest, and I think the colon is a few feet- this is major major sugery). I don't have the money for it, nor do I want to do it, but I am at a high risk for colon disease and gangreene and all these nasty diseases that kill people, plus I get severs sudden sharp pains all the time.
I am 22 years old, it really sucks to be told you have to have a major sugery that people get when they are like 80 years old. I am done with conventional medicine, I am saving up money to see a homeopathic doctor who specializes in bowel disorders, which is not cheap as health insurance doesnt cover these kinds of doctors. And many people have had their health problems go away from raw food, so I am about to try that.
I am still in school, but very behind because I have had to medically withdraw a few semesters. Camming is also something I got into to work around my health issues.
My mother has Crohns. She has had it for 25 years. She is currently on Remicade which is the last thing for her that she can try. My mom has been a pioneer in getting Remicade approved for you guys only because of how well it did for her in the beginning.
I grew up with her having it severely - so I know what you are going through. She has had 45 surgeries since 1989. I will tell you this. YOU CAN get disability for that AND make sure you get the surgery - Mom is a stubborn woman and it almost took her from us. I know of a great DR in PA if you are near there also. :)
I understand your pain hun - trust me I do!
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AudrinaCams
First of all *hugs*! Second of all I was dx'd with Endo when I was 16, had a diagnostic laparoscopy done and also found out I had a cyst. Was on Lupron Depot as treatment (chemical menopause) but it didn't help. Stayed on back to back bcp with no period until my husband and I decided to try to have kids. During pregnancy I was having intense pain which tests revealed was fibroids and gallbladder issues. Oh and having a baby didn't make my endo any better. Also on top of all this I have lactose intolerance, intermittent IBS, nerve pain in my hips too (I always suspected it was related to my endo).
I cannot stress this enough. STAY AWAY FROM LUPRON. The side effects are lifelong and trust me when I say that it is a EVIL drug.
Yes, the nerve pain in your hips is from your endo.
I have been a representative for endo for years. There isn't enough research for it. I feel your pain as well sister!
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Wow ladies! I'm sorry you are having to deal with all those health issues and at such a young age. I have Crohns and chronic pain but I'm older. Thank you Kitana for starting such an important thread.:flower:
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ruby49
That scares me that your mom has had so many surgeries. Numbers like that make me think surgery is not worth having, sounds like they dont fix anything... All this is very new to me, I was perfectly healthy until 2 years ago.
I don't want any sugery, the dr's don't even know what is wrong with me, and they are telling me removing my entire colon is my only option to make the pain go away. I would rather die than have to carry around a colostomy bag.
Online people are telling me I have to go see homeopathic dr's, that I have thyroid issues or hashimotos, even though my blood tests come back normal. It is kinda sad when it feels like strangers online are putting more thought in trying to diagnose you than your own dr's.
My advice to you is to do your research. Not many people have bags this early on. To be honest - I think you need to start researching DRs that specialize in gastro-intestinal disorders. YOU NEED TO GET MORE THAN ONE Opinion. I cannot stress this enough sinve it seems like you are being pushed into things you don't want to do. I think you should find another DR and if that doesn't work - Cleveland Clinic and the one DR in Pa I told you about is an option.
Don't be afraid to be your OWN ADVOCATE. Research the Crohns & Colitis Foundation - READ READ RED everything you can and DO NOT be afraid to ask questions about ANYTHING. Any DR that makes you feel like shit - put them in their place and if THEY get shitty with you - move on. I saw 15 DRs before I found one that helped me with my issues.
I hope that helps you some.
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and if I have to - I will get a web-conference set up so you ladies can talk to my Mom.
She is a pioneer of the Crohns' fight and she will tell you to do the same thing I am telling you.
1. Do your research. Read and get your hands on anything you find.
2. Write down questions and where you heard them from. Take notes.
3. Treatment options - the INTERNET IS YOUR FRIEND. There is a foundation for everything.
4. ASK YOUR DOCTOR.
5. Get more than ONE opinion if you aren't satisfied. Get twenty if you have to.
6. ALWAYS SPEAK UP. Don't ever be afraid to ask a question about anything. WE only have ONE body.
7. Have someone you can talk to. THIS IS SUPER IMPORTANT. Depression sucks balls.
8. When you get new meds, do your research....DO your research all the time.
9. Be your own advocate.
10. Self-Help. Books, the Internet, support groups.
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I have disabling IBS and CFS, depression and anxiety since I was 14. No drugs have worked and I am ill nearly everytime I eat even though I'm on a strict diet. I keep a duvet in the bathroom so I can rest on the floor during my bad days. It's why I started camming as my IBS isn't classed as serious even though it has devastated my life.
Thank you girls for sharing. It can be such a burden and loving and supporting each other is vital to keep strong and fighting.
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KitanaBlades
I cannot stress this enough. STAY AWAY FROM LUPRON. The side effects are lifelong and trust me when I say that it is a EVIL drug.
Yes, the nerve pain in your hips is from your endo.
I have been a representative for endo for years. There isn't enough research for it. I feel your pain as well sister!
The lupron was several years ago, once a month for 6 months. I actually had so side effects other than hot flashes. Everyone told me I would gain weight on it, and I didn't. What are the long term side effects?
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I have no period!
Yep, a regular camgirl's dream. But I still PMS and everything, just no bleeding. Been that way for a year. First it was "let's switch your birth control" and then it was "hmm let's give you a combination of this birth control so you actually bleed, and this pain killer, so that you don't collapse from the pain of the cramps when you actually do bleed" and then it was "you're just stressed out, relax more, meditate.." and then "you might have a blot clot which is stopping you from bleeding... come back in three months and we'll have a look" etc.
Did I mention those were all MALE opinions? No women doctors here.
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I was raised by a family too poor to afford healthcare, and a mom too selfish to think about it. I was a tiny baby, and was told the entire time I was growing up that I was small and malnourished. I found out I was, at the very least, gluten-intolerant at 20, after being raised in a household primarily subsisting on pastas and breads. Ergo, irreparable damage.
I was a ridiculously sickly kid, and spent a month unconscious because of tonsillitis, and my tonsils were never removed and continually plague me.
At about 14 I got health insurance finally, and that's when I had the first tests done on my legs, which had been bothering me since around the time I got a superficial knee injury. It only covered three hospitals in the area, because most doctors refused to take it. Nothing showed up on an X-ray, so.... mysteriessss
I never found out what was wrong with my legs, and every 2 years or so I try to go to a doctor, only to be told that they can't see anything, so there mustn't be anything wrong (also that I was probably going to die from lung cancer from smoking pot for the pain, wtf??? I almost exclusively use waterpipes...) The internet has told me it is probably nerve pain, and that it will likely continue along this decline.
I also have hemochromatosis, and some sort of heart disease that I've not been able to get looked at, despite complaining to multiple doctors of chest pains.
I also have random spells of overheating and getting dizzy and passing out! This usually happens due to a temperature change, but not always. I actually almost did this on MFC while doing a cooking show the other day.... laaaaaame.
I saw a therapist for about six months after I tried to run away to Canada (long story, tldr; moved out of mom's house ages ago and she forced me back in) who diagnosed me with depression, anxiety, PTSD and possible psychopathy. She decided I was surprisingly logical, but warned me that triggers would stack.
ANYWAY, that's all I know about my health problems. The state of healthcare in this country is fucking ridiculous.
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AudrinaCams
The lupron was several years ago, once a month for 6 months. I actually had so side effects other than hot flashes. Everyone told me I would gain weight on it, and I didn't. What are the long term side effects?
and that's just some of the horror stories.
I am living proof that the drug is evil. I experience most of what they are talking about, if not all of it.
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ruby49
Thank you, your info is really helpful. Being told I need this surgery was literally a month ago, so I dont have any idea what to do next. I've read about raw food curing these things, it was my only plan lol. I will check out the foundation. I'm in SF, I appreciate the dr recomendations, but too far away.
I see a cronhs specialist who teaches at Stanford med school. He is very impersonal and so busy that appointments are very quick. I feel like he is too busy to care, and since I don't fit the list of normal symptoms, he doesnt have time to try to truely help me. He doesn't have any more tests he can do, so he is like if you want the pain to stop the only solution is to remove your colon.
Diet is your friend with Crohns. BE aware of what you eat on Crohns as well - raw food WONT be your friend.
There should be MANY resources in your area. I will see if I can find some for you.
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MissEgo
I have no period!
Yep, a regular camgirl's dream. But I still PMS and everything, just no bleeding. Been that way for a year. First it was "let's switch your birth control" and then it was "hmm let's give you a combination of this birth control so you actually bleed, and this pain killer, so that you don't collapse from the pain of the cramps when you actually do bleed" and then it was "you're just stressed out, relax more, meditate.." and then "you might have a blot clot which is stopping you from bleeding... come back in three months and we'll have a look" etc.
Did I mention those were all MALE opinions? No women doctors here.
I'd keep NOT having one - unless you want kids of course.
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Kitana,
Although your constant ordeal is much more than I ever had to deal with, I feel your pain with endometriosis. I never even knew I had it until I had an ablation (burning of endometrial lining to stop/greatly reduce extreme menstrual bleeding) and a tubal ligation via laparoscopy performed last summer.
After having all my babies, my periods became so heavy and severe that the veins in my right leg would burn, I felt like I was having miscarriages every month from all the tissue discharge that would only be expelled in chunks when I sat down to pee (I never soiled any pads but wore them just in case) , and the migraines were a pain too. I had to have the surgery performed at the hospital because my uterus is enlarged and they didnt want to take a chance with doing it at his office. He found endometriosis on my left side (which is where I always had the worst pain during ovulation). Since the surgery, I really don't have any more of the symptoms and if I get a period, I rarely spot at all, if any. No more tissue discharge. I think as a whole, the surgery has affected my sex drive and I have gained some weight, but other than that, I can cam pretty much whenever I want.
I just get UTI's every now and then if I don't watch where I'm putting my fingers. A camgirl's golden rule should be "right in pink, left in stink" .
Pussies can really be a royal pain!
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I couldn't have been more relieved when I got all my parts ripped out. I am more than happy to deal with menopause rather than periods and excessive bleeding.
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KitanaBlades
I couldn't have been more relieved when I got all my parts ripped out. I am more than happy to deal with menopause rather than periods and excessive bleeding.
Yeah, I was hoping I wouldn't have to get a hysterectomy. so far, so good. I don't know how Mrs. Dugger (the gal with 19 kids and counting ) has managed to keep her junk inside her body, although it's obviously taking a toll on her now. I had 3 and that's all I could handle!
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I had a laprascopic hysterectomy. I was good in a week.
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Good LORD ladies, this is some serious shit. I'm so sorry to hear that you've been working through all this and I hope that it gets better for you asap.
I used to wonder if I could get on disability but it seems like my problems are small cookies now. I have a hyatal hernia and bipolar disorder with schizophrenic tendencies. I've been hospitalized for both several times, the hernia more often (sometimes, for no reason I barf blood! WOO!) and after about a decade of going coo coo in the coconut someone finally got me to the right doctor and I trusted that everyone was not trying to poison me and [goes off on a paranoid rant] and I started the right medication. I see a therapist every other week and between that and the medication I feel like a human being for the first time since I was...umm...16? no, that's when hormones started making me insane....14? Probably 14. (I'm 30 now...tho my modeling pages all say 25 ;))
My brain medication makes me thirsty most of the time and I shake so slightly that I don't notice it until I have to stay absolutely still for something. It also occasionally causes stomach cramps. My stomach medication occasionally causes the opposite kind of poop problems. Sometimes they happen at the same time and I go through the intestinal version of unstoppable force meets immovable object. As I frequently say when I'm "camping out in the bathroom" "This would be funny if it weren't happening to me" As it is, it's mildly amusing. Like when you're at the gym and you can't do an exercise. "It's funny because it hurts." -Stranger in a Strange Land
Of course, now that I've been in a good mental health regime for a little over a year I'm starting to notice that I'm NOT a normal human being, but pretty much MOSTLY one. I sub-function. On one hand, I'm SOOO much better than I used to be. On the other hand, now that I'm not across the field from the normal people, I'm right on the other side of the fence and I can see what I'm missing.
[ETA w/bipolar disorder and depression things like general health maintenance are important to keeping yourself not crazy. Getting up at the same time, eating at the same time and eating healthy things (too much fat or sugar will send me into a depressive spiral. ManCreature says, "I've never known anyone who gets this depressed over cupcakes" I'll eat a cupcake or 2 b/c they're so tasty then an hour or two later I'm in bed sobbing, "fucking cupcakes, why are you so tasty?!" and he's looking at me warily like, "I'm not going to say I told you so b/c you may actually stab me but damn.") working out, getting enough vitamin D, not getting to bed too late. All those things help but it's a serious cramp in my style. And try telling someone that you can't come to work because you're wailing on the floor because you forgot to work out yesterday. Well no, not that you're sad that you didn't work out but..*sigh* No, it's a brain chemical thing. No boss, I don't know how it works either]
Anyway. At this point, I'm not complaining. I can get out of bed, I can walk without assistance and I can 90% of the time poop and pee fine. I feel like a serious poseur coming in here and talking about my comparatively minor problems. I am totally ok and I'm so sorry that you ladies have had to go through such a terrible time.
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kittykrane
Yeah, I was hoping I wouldn't have to get a hysterectomy. so far, so good. I don't know how Mrs. Dugger (the gal with 19 kids and counting ) has managed to keep her junk inside her body, although it's obviously taking a toll on her now. I had 3 and that's all I could handle!
uhhhmmmmm ive never had children, pardon me for being ignorant but IS THIS A PROBLEM?!? I'm having way too vivid pictures of that Duggars lady tryna hold her guts in...=X
you guys are all very inspirational. these sound like serious scases and it's amazing you gals are able to still work. i've been having health issues lately, nothing that serious. i had acid reflux problems when i was younger but it really hasn't been a big deal til now. the past month ive been in and out of er and am having difficulty eating do to intense chest pains that are followed by a nights of vomiting. i'm tryna put myself on a raw diet and to be really careful of consuming trigger foods. it's embarrassing really because i feel like a frail old lady. i usually sit comfortably at 105 and am now near 90 lbs. i guess it's somehow affecting the iron in my diet (probably lack of) and i'm bruising very badly all over my body. A lot of customers are even asking me what's going on, am i getting beat on, do i have an eating disorder blah blah...i used to be able to eat anything without blinking an eye, now not so much...
i just wanna look and feel healthy again. its a definite eye opener though at how important it is to pay attention to health. sometimes i'm so gogogo all the time about working and making money that i forget to stop and make sure i'm doing okay.
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IsobelWren
Good LORD ladies, this is some serious shit. I'm so sorry to hear that you've been working through all this and I hope that it gets better for you asap.
I used to wonder if I could get on disability but it seems like my problems are small cookies now. I have a hyatal hernia and bipolar disorder with schizophrenic tendencies. I've been hospitalized for both several times, the hernia more often (sometimes, for no reason I barf blood! WOO!) and after about a decade of going coo coo in the coconut someone finally got me to the right doctor and I trusted that everyone was not trying to poison me and [goes off on a paranoid rant] and I started the right medication. I see a therapist every other week and between that and the medication I feel like a human being for the first time since I was...umm...16? no, that's when hormones started making me insane....14? Probably 14. (I'm 30 now...tho my modeling pages all say 25 ;))
My brain medication makes me thirsty most of the time and I shake so slightly that I don't notice it until I have to stay absolutely still for something. It also occasionally causes stomach cramps. My stomach medication occasionally causes the opposite kind of poop problems. Sometimes they happen at the same time and I go through the intestinal version of unstoppable force meets immovable object. As I frequently say when I'm "camping out in the bathroom" "This would be funny if it weren't happening to me" As it is, it's mildly amusing. Like when you're at the gym and you can't do an exercise. "It's funny because it hurts." -Stranger in a Strange Land
Of course, now that I've been in a good mental health regime for a little over a year I'm starting to notice that I'm NOT a normal human being, but pretty much MOSTLY one. I sub-function. On one hand, I'm SOOO much better than I used to be. On the other hand, now that I'm not across the field from the normal people, I'm right on the other side of the fence and I can see what I'm missing.
[ETA w/bipolar disorder and depression things like general health maintenance are important to keeping yourself not crazy. Getting up at the same time, eating at the same time and eating healthy things (too much fat or sugar will send me into a depressive spiral. Husband says, "I've never known anyone who gets this depressed over cupcakes" I'll eat a cupcake or 2 b/c they're so tasty then an hour or two later I'm in bed sobbing, "fucking cupcakes, why are you so tasty?!" and he's looking at me warily like, "I'm not going to say I told you so b/c you may actually stab me but damn.") working out, getting enough vitamin D, not getting to bed too late. All those things help but it's a serious cramp in my style. And try telling someone that you can't come to work because you're wailing on the floor because you forgot to work out yesterday. Well no, not that you're sad that you didn't work out but..*sigh* No, it's a brain chemical thing. No boss, I don't know how it works either]
Anyway. At this point, I'm not complaining. I can get out of bed, I can walk without assistance and I can 90% of the time poop and pee fine. I feel like a serious poseur coming in here and talking about my comparatively minor problems. I am totally ok and I'm so sorry that you ladies have had to go through such a terrible time.
You probably could get disability for the mental issues only because it's a long lasting condition and will not go away. My advice - try. The worst they can do is say no. If you are better off not applying, then don't. Whatever works for you.
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xfatrabbitx
uhhhmmmmm ive never had children, pardon me for being ignorant but IS THIS A PROBLEM?!? I'm having way too vivid pictures of that Duggars lady tryna hold her guts in...=X
you guys are all very inspirational. these sound like serious scases and it's amazing you gals are able to still work. i've been having health issues lately, nothing that serious. i had acid reflux problems when i was younger but it really hasn't been a big deal til now. the past month ive been in and out of er and am having difficulty eating do to intense chest pains that are followed by a nights of vomiting. i'm tryna put myself on a raw diet and to be really careful of consuming trigger foods. it's embarrassing really because i feel like a frail old lady. i usually sit comfortably at 105 and am now near 90 lbs. i guess it's somehow affecting the iron in my diet (probably lack of) and i'm bruising very badly all over my body. A lot of customers are even asking me what's going on, am i getting beat on, do i have an eating disorder blah blah...i used to be able to eat anything without blinking an eye, now not so much...
i just wanna look and feel healthy again. its a definite eye opener though at how important it is to pay attention to health. sometimes i'm so gogogo all the time about working and making money that i forget to stop and make sure i'm doing okay.
No - it is not a problem that you have never wanted kids. I never wanted kids. I mean never. I was pregnant, three times. Once at 18 and I terminated at my own decision and two other times I miscarried during the full blown endo episodes before my hysterectomy. I have dated people that have had kids and I have more than been a best friend than a mother and I am OK with that....and I haven't let anyone sway me on that either.
I don't want kids nor do I want to adopt. I am fine with my animals being my babies. Period. Anyone who tries to make me think about it or make me change my mind I tell them hit the road jack because I do not care.
It's not a rude or ignorant thing. Children are a choice or something YOU as an individual want. If you want them and cannot bear them, you can adopt. If you don't want them, don't have them. I wish other women would take that approach instead of bearing children into poverty conditions. Let's not start a political debate on abortion or children or anything - it's just an opinion I hold. I believe in a CHOICE not a philosophy or what is right or wrong.