How do you deal with a 'hanger on?'
I’ve been a cam girl for over four years now and always love chatting away to guys daily never seen it as a job or a chore or a headache for that matter. Even if the guy becomes insulting.
For the first time in four years I have a ‘hanger on’. With a difference. This has been on going for about 6 months now and its starting to really rub me up the wrong way to the point i don’t do many hours like I used to anymore to avoid this person coming into my room. (don’t worry I’ve started to do phonechat elsewhere to top up my income)
I’ve humoured many guys who want to meet up for real (I don’t escort) with the ‘yea, yea sure lets do it’ and describe what I would do when we did knowing full well that it ain’t gonna happen. However this guy has taken it to the next level and seems genuinely up for it making plans on where to take me etc. I’ve told him I’m busy in the hope that he will take this as a hint that I’m not interested.
What also gets me is he wants to be ‘my boyfriend’ you know that old line so he doesn’t have to pay me! I’ll say one thing about the other guys least they had the decency to ask me my ‘fee’.
What I’m asking for is advice on how to handle this guy. Also has anyone else had this problem?
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I cam for money, not to be social. I block anyone who irritates me enough to affect my paycheck.
If he isn't spending a lot of money why are you bothering with him?
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I’ve blocked him from contacting me outside of the chatroom and ive blocked his primary screename from within chat but it only lasts a month. He has alot of other alias that he uses to chat to me.
Re: How do you deal with a 'hanger on?'
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CurvySweet
I’ve been a cam girl for over four years now and always love chatting away to guys daily never seen it as a job or a chore or a headache for that matter. Even if the guy becomes insulting.
For the first time in four years I have a ‘hanger on’. With a difference. This has been on going for about 6 months now and its starting to really rub me up the wrong way to the point i don’t do many hours like I used to anymore to avoid this person coming into my room. (don’t worry I’ve started to do phonechat elsewhere to top up my income)
I’ve humoured many guys who want to meet up for real (I don’t escort) with the ‘yea, yea sure lets do it’ and describe what I would do when we did knowing full well that it ain’t gonna happen. However this guy has taken it to the next level and seems genuinely up for it making plans on where to take me etc. I’ve told him I’m busy in the hope that he will take this as a hint that I’m not interested.
What also gets me is he wants to be ‘my boyfriend’ you know that old line so he doesn’t have to pay me! I’ll say one thing about the other guys least they had the decency to ask me my ‘fee’.
What I’m asking for is advice on how to handle this guy. Also has anyone else had this problem?
In this industry, hints don't work. Many (if not most) of the guys who frequent cam sites are awkward and can't get sex elsewhere. Sometimes it's because they're jerks, other times it's because they're ugly and many times, it's because they just don't know how to act around girls. These last guys CANNOT take a hint and will practically stalk you when you show him any bit of attention.
As for advice, block him and move on. If he follows you to another site, block him there. If you feel threatened, report him to the site you're working on. Above all, don't let some cheap ass loser keep you from making money.
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CurvySweet
I’ve blocked him from contacting me outside of the chatroom and ive blocked his primary screename from within chat but it only lasts a month. He has alot of other alias that he uses to chat to me.
Report him. Some sites prohibit the use of multiple usernames and they should be able to IP ban him. Even if they don't (prohibit that), let them know what's going on anyway and put the ball in their court. You shouldn't have to be stuck in this situation.
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Thanks Khakigirl,
Laurielegs love the no nonsense
I only really started camming to pay debts off and to help me through college. So although i shouldn't let this loser get the better of me, think i'll take some time out for a few weeks and if it returns i'll will without a doubt report him.
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Ignore him, Ignore him, Ignore him...... dont talk to him, or if u do, keep telling him you are extremely busy with your work ...
I have one who right when I get very busy he contacts me to tell me irrelevant stupid shit. He knows Im busy... wtf! I just dont reply......
Re: How do you deal with a 'hanger on?'
1.Tell him no unequivocally.
2. Block, report, ignore.
3. Forget about him
He'll get over it, and move on the bother someone else eventually, hopefully sonner rather than later.
Re: How do you deal with a 'hanger on?'
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Originally Posted by
CurvySweet
Thanks Khakigirl,
Laurielegs love the no nonsense
I only really started camming to pay debts off and to help me through college. So although i shouldn't let this loser get the better of me, think i'll take some time out for a few weeks and if it returns i'll will without a doubt report him.
can't you just tell him you are in a relationship or engaged or something? 8)
Re: How do you deal with a 'hanger on?'
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Originally Posted by
CurvySweet
Thanks Khakigirl,
Laurielegs love the no nonsense
I only really started camming to pay debts off and to help me through college. So although i shouldn't let this loser get the better of me, think i'll take some time out for a few weeks and if it returns i'll will without a doubt report him.
wow, a few weeks? Why let him do this to you?
I need to make $, couldn't afford an unpaid several week break myself. I'd ignore, block each and every screen name and keep making $. If I took off work every time that happened I'd never make any money.
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Its not just him been thinking of quitting for a while now. At times i get more ££ i mean > $$ on phone chat than i do webcam. Don't wanna go into the whole paranoia thing but i'm a big girl so that to me plays a part in that as do the recession and just general cheapness from guys who want a quick flash and BAM gone.
I was online for more than 9 hours yesterday and made next to nothing.
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When guys finally get to where he's basically trying to make arrangements that day etc I've told them that "oh well darn, wish we could have but I am recently seeing someone and out of respect to him I just can't right now." Granted last guy that I did that with - I haven't had a show with him sense but I'm at least not having to deal with the constant asking.
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I tell them this is fantasy NOT reality. I dont do reality. I dont risk my life, health or sanity.
If he wants to take you prvt and have fun with the fantasy your game, but to insist on a real thing is out of the question. Either he go private or leave you alone.
You don't go to his job, waste hour of his day, keep him from making money.
I also tell them "This is a cam site, not a dating site. I am here to go prvt & make money."
Sometimes you have to be brutally honest. He is breaking up all the fun with insisting on wanting reality. He is the killjoy NOT you.
More than likely he is married with kids and would do a no show if you were to meet him. He is just talking about the fantasy & getting off without paying you. Being more insistant while you are playing hard to get just turns him on more. Men love to chase.
Best way to get rid of a man. Talk about how much money you need. LOL
Good Luck,
Sam
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