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What do you say when they are ugly?
A lot of times in a show I will ask them if they have a cam, they tell me yeah hold on a second and then I see them and they are hideous :-X It's easy when they are good looking or at least decent to give compliments but I have no idea what to say when they are ugly. I mean like fat, old, hairy, etc...how can I possibly compliment them without sounding like I'm lying? ::) I mean if they are one of the above I can easily say, "Oh I love older guys, or "Oh I love men with a little meat on them". ;) But when they are hideous I usually end up saying something stupid like "I see you" lol
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Please tell me your getting paid before you ask..
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h0ttie
A lot of times in a show I will ask them if they have a cam,
yes...
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Well Hottie when that happens to me "in a show" :D I usually asks if they can put the cam on their penis,which is usually really small anyway. I'd just rather look at that head,than the one on their shoulders!! Besides when I compliment them on how big they are,it gives them a (fake)ego boost.
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Honey I know girls that call free chat a show.. You don't need to ask for a cam, you can do the show without knowing what they look like. If you need to see to connect for some reason you just think of something cute or lie your ass off. The best I can give is to smile, give alittle giggle saying "Hey there cutie/darling." And get to work. Hopefully someone else can give you a easier answer.
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One of the joys of domination, is that I just tell them they are fug and they have to tip me extra for seeing them. LOL In a non-fetish setting though I would just go with "I see you" or maybe say he has nice eyes or lie. Hell it's all fantasy and any guy that believes this is real is just simple, so a little lie won't hurt. They probably know they are ugly and will think you're sweet to care about their feelings. It may turn them into regulars. Sometimes you have to lie.
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That"MODEL"Chick
Well Hottie when that happens to me "in a show" :D I usually asks if they can put the cam on their penis,which is usually really small anyway. I'd just rather look at that head,than the one on their shoulders!! Besides when I compliment them on how big they are,it gives them a (fake)ego boost.
haha you are so right..the ugly ones really are always really small..and then i feel worse because i'm like god i can't compliment that ugly little thing..but i guess i should start lying :).
side note...one time a guy showed me his cock, it was little, and i wasn't thinking and said "...so are you into small penis humilation?" oops :O lol
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sananeko
Honey I know girls that call free chat a show.. You don't need to ask for a cam, you can do the show without knowing what they look like. If you need to see to connect for some reason you just think of something cute or lie your ass off. The best I can give is to smile, give alittle giggle saying "Hey there cutie/darling." And get to work. Hopefully someone else can give you a easier answer.
I don't know any girls that call free chat a show lol..but I don't ask for a cam to "connect" its just one of the sites i'm on they have to pay more to send you their cam, and it helps make the show longer, and also it find it makes them more polite because there not just some anonymous person anymore. but i think thats a good idea to say hi there cutie/darling that way your not flat out lying but still making them feel special.
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h0ttie
side note...one time a guy showed me his cock, it was little, and i wasn't thinking and said "...so are you into small penis humilation?" oops :O lol
Hahahaha,I guess you lost him :D
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hidarlin
One of the joys of domination, is that I just tell them they are fug and they have to tip me extra for seeing them. LOL In a non-fetish setting though I would just go with "I see you" or maybe say he has nice eyes or lie. Hell it's all fantasy and any guy that believes this is real is just simple, so a little lie won't hurt. They probably know they are ugly and will think you're sweet to care about their feelings. It may turn them into regulars. Sometimes you have to lie.
Are you independent? or do you work on a site? I wish I could do all domination shows. I love getting paid to be mean..or honest lol ;D.
... But thats a good point that they probably would think I was sweet to care about their feels, I was kinda thinking if I lie too much they're just gonna think I'm a complete actress and everything is fake (which it is...but still lol)
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That"MODEL"Chick
Hahahaha,I guess you lost him :D
pretty much...he called me a bitch before he left ::) in my defense tho he was stroking it with two fingers lmao
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h0ttie
Are you independent? or do you work on a site? I wish I could do all domination shows. I love getting paid to be mean..or honest lol ;D.
... But thats a good point that they probably would think I was sweet to care about their feels, I was kinda thinking if I lie too much they're just gonna think I'm a complete actress and everything is fake (which it is...but still lol)
I started out on IMlLive about 3 years ago, but now it's mainly through NF or just guys finding me through my blogs. I just signed up for Streamate and I have been on MFC. I just say right up front what I do. I still get guys who ask for other things. I just say no and tell them learn to red. }:D I have an Ifriends account as well but have never used it but now they are letting fin dommes go up to 19.99/min so I might have to start using them more seriously.
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hidarlin
I started out on IMlLive about 3 years ago, but now it's mainly through NF or just guys finding me through my blogs. I just signed up for Streamate and I have been on MFC. I just say right up front what I do. I still get guys who ask for other things. I just say no and tell them learn to red. }:D I have an Ifriends account as well but have never used it but now they are letting fin dommes go up to 19.99/min so I might have to start using them more seriously.
I have never advertised myself as a domme but I still get a ton of requests for it and have a bunch of regulars that want to be dominated. I just really hate switching between cruel evil mistress and then the next show i'm cute flirty naughty girl. I wish I could just be a domme but I worry I won't make enough consistently just doing domination/humilation shows. But shit 19.99 a min makes me want to sign up on Ifriends and just try it out there!!
How have sites with free chat worked for you? I feel like it would be just guys trying to piss you off so you call them names or getting off when you ban them lol.
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h0ttie
I have never advertised myself as a domme but I still get a ton of requests for it and have a bunch of regulars that want to be dominated. I just really hate switching between cruel evil mistress and then the next show i'm cute flirty naughty girl. I wish I could just be a domme but I worry I won't make enough consistently just doing domination/humilation shows. But shit 19.99 a min makes me want to sign up on Ifriends and just try it out there!!
How have sites with free chat worked for you? I feel like it would be just guys trying to piss you off so you call them names or getting off when you ban them lol.
Well I would never have been able to make nice work. I couldn't even do that when I did PSO LOL. Honestly I have always done fetish only. It's what I like. It's a lot of work for sure, and it can take time to build a fan base. I do most of my biz in clips and PTVS and it has made me so lazy about camming. I haven't tried the 19.99 yet, but they do have it. I think it can work especially if you can do a raise the rate game.
If you want to try domination because you like it go for it. You don't always have to be evil. I know of at least one awesome real time and cyber domme who loves pink and dresses in sneakers and she always say that she is a nice girl. Nice enough to crush your ego if that's what you need. :P Also some guys like a mean girl next door. Check out clips4sale's femdom section. There are lots of variations on the fetish. You can always keep one foot in vanilla while you explore other things.
I would say however that if you are going to be doing things like guided cbt, sounding etc, you do your homework and take a class at your local sex shop if you can. For things like sph and orgasm denial etc, just read, get to understand all of the things that can motivate the fetish. if you like and it feels good for you run with it.
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I'm into fetish too (a lot) and I've found that my in-person approach to domination translates reasonably well online. The only thing that trips me up is variety and creativity. In person, there are plenty of things I can do and say, but sometimes I struggle to come up with ways to keep privates dynamic and varied when there isn't a lot that I can do from my laptop. Usually this isn't a problem until the same guy's taken me private three or four times, but once those privates run long or I've seen the same guy for a couple of weeks, I start scrambling for ideas.
Hidarlin - What would you recommend for ideas? Any books or clips? I'd really like to expand my range when it comes to specific acts, scenarios, games, etc. (And no worries if you don't want to go into it. I understand.)
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*giggles from the title of thread*
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h0ttie
"I see you" lol
Me tooooo! Altho.. I do try to be like how size or age doesn't matter and i blow them a kiss or something silly and cute.
Today, I did a two thumbs up to a guy that showed me his cam and asked "do you like?" I had to hide behind the thumbs because I was grinning so hard u could tell I was faking it... ::)
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h0ttie
A lot of times in a show I will ask them if they have a cam, they tell me yeah hold on a second and then I see them and they are hideous :-X It's easy when they are good looking or at least decent to give compliments but I have no idea what to say when they are ugly. I mean like fat, old, hairy, etc...how can I possibly compliment them without sounding like I'm lying? ::) I mean if they are one of the above I can easily say, "Oh I love older guys, or "Oh I love men with a little meat on them". ;) But when they are hideous I usually end up saying something stupid like "I see you" lol
Lol, well, we are actresses. I doubt that you are always actually horny when you get on cam, right? And you fake orgasms? Well use that same energy to hide the fact that you don't think they're hot! If you can fake all the other stuff, you can fake this too :) Don't tell them you like men with meat on them lol, tell them how horny they look and lick your lips, tell them what a big c*** he has, or like you suggested you can tell him you've always fantasized about being with an older man ::)
If alll else fails and you can't look anything but disgusted without looking at him, then tear out a small picture of your favorite celeb out of a magazine and tape it to the corner of your laptop. Or a picture of money haha
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I just act like they are the hottest thing since sliced bread.
After all, it's my job to make them feel good. :) Even if I find them repulsive, I just think of someone hot and I am just fine. Normally - I don't view cams unless I am paid to anyways.
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I never, never, never ask them to turn on their cams. I do "accept" two way cam requests (in PTV only), however its up to them to initiate that with me. So if he says, "can we do cam2cam?" I will say, "yes I would like to see your cam too!" but really I leave it up to them to bring that up.
As for uglies, well I have a funny story to tell you. I had a cam2cam about a week ago where the dude honestly thought he had a big dick. As soon as he turned on the cam I saw like a 4 incher on the screen so I automatically went into small penis humiliation mode and started laughing. He said, "you love that big dick in your pussy?" and I said, "are you kidding me it looks too small! I can barely feel it" he left the room ASAP.
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Noa
I'm into fetish too (a lot) and I've found that my in-person approach to domination translates reasonably well online. The only thing that trips me up is variety and creativity. In person, there are plenty of things I can do and say, but sometimes I struggle to come up with ways to keep privates dynamic and varied when there isn't a lot that I can do from my laptop. Usually this isn't a problem until the same guy's taken me private three or four times, but once those privates run long or I've seen the same guy for a couple of weeks, I start scrambling for ideas.
Hidarlin - What would you recommend for ideas? Any books or clips? I'd really like to expand my range when it comes to specific acts, scenarios, games, etc. (And no worries if you don't want to go into it. I understand.)
The transition from in person to online is pain. It's really hard to deal with one off guys. For guys who are repeaters, there are some that seriously want the same thing over and over, those are maybe about 30%. The rest I try to raise the ante with each show and push their limits a little further introduce them to something new. I had an ass worship guy that eventually moved into guided spanking. Also role play. Those are infinite. For everything play to your strengths. The fetishes that you like the most run with them, also don't be afraid to try new things. 10 years ago I hated feet, now I like foot worship. I still have limits with feet but not as many. Offer them distance training tell them each session is designed to bring them one step closer to being your perfect pet. Then come up with a series of exercises to do that. Not only can you do this with sessions, this idea can aslo work for vids, mp3s, and ptv assignments.
Books I also rec the classics LOL Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training and SM 101 if you haven't checked those out, they are a good place to start.
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Lie and still act like they are cute.
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I hardy get anyone on cam that I see is cute. Usually I just keep smiling and I am totally polite. To me all of this is just great customer service and also I know these guys can't touch me and its all fantasy anyway, so seeing them and having them watch me on cam does not matter to me.
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usually i can fake thinking they are attractive, or find some part of their body that's attractive to me. it helps if they are nice...then honestly i don't care what they look like. if they have a decent personality i can come up with all kinds of complimentary shit to say.
if it gets really bad - they're fugly and have no personality - i just pretend i'm looking at jamie bamber :) or some other celeb crush i have.
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if you give me your money, you suddenly become worthy.
It doesnt matter how they look like, they are nice enough to pay. period.
and thats what I say too " I can see you, HI, Im glad you have a webcam, how cool!, how are you". and thats it.