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Failed Audition :-( Deflated ego.
Hi Everyone
I'm new here :-)
Anyway, so I went to an audition with about 8 girls all up. I have no previous experience as a stripper, but I have had dance training so I have some rhythm.
I didn't get accepted and I was honestly quite shocked. Physically, I didn't think I was any less attractive than the others girls and was actually surprised that one girl who was....not very attractive, but had pole dancing experiencing got accepted. Then another girl with no experience and a body like a 14 year old got accepted.
I was so gutted. I cried on the train ride home. I am a good-looking girl, very curvy with great natural breasts (I am a little soft, yes, but I'm still quite slim and well proportioned).
The reason they said I didn't get accepted was because I didn't seem to move as easily on the pole and table as the others girls. Which kind of baffled me.
Anyway, once I got other the initial shock of being rejected. I went to another club down the road and when I went in they were so freakin nice to me. They practically wanted me to start right away. It's a much more intimate club, but well-established and it's run by a gorgeous older woman who seemed so lovely. They introduced me to everyone on staff and all the dancers..I was quite overwhelmed by how welcoming they were to me. They were disappointed when I said I couldn't come in the next day but I am having a trial this coming week.
So..I am nervous. After being rejected before, I feel really self-conscious.
Should I take it as a compliment that this other club was so nice and inviting to me?
Does the fact that I was rejected by the first club mean I'm undesirable? I was so confused because in the one day I get rejected, then later that afternoon another well-established gentleman's club seem really really keen on me.
I'm confused, as you can see.
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Re: Failed Audition :-( Deflated ego.
Its just a matter of what they r looking for. SOme clubs wont hire u unless u r good on the pole or superskinny. Some places are quite honestly shitty bc they only have one main type of dancer the ultra slim which although is nice can get old. variety is good..Some guys like girls who have bigger butts, some guys like huge boobs..Not everyone likes super skinny pole dancers. I think a club loses out on potential satisfied customers by limiting itself to one body type. Its bad business sense imho.
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Re: Failed Audition :-( Deflated ego.
What Shift said it correct. I'm naturally pretty curvy (breasts mostly I don't have hips or butt) and have been rejected because I'm not a size 2. Most of us have felt rejection and it sucks but a way of life in this industry. Some clubs are more diverse and some aren't. The rejections can be mean and anything from size, to height, to even hair color (yep been rejected for being brunette).
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It all depends on who does the hiring. At my club a few different older dancers are in charge of the auditions so we get a range of dancers as they all pick different girls. As long as you know you are hot enough, have confidence and are smiley and friendly you have nothing to worry about. The stage comfort and dancing flow comes when you are settled in. Just remember that previous dance training doesn't always equal sexy on a strip club stage. I've seen fantastic salsa dancers and similar who look terrible on stage. Watch the other dancers to pick up the 'sexy flow'.
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Re: Failed Audition :-( Deflated ego.
That sucks that the first club rejected you :(
But honestly, this is a good time to start a good practice...NOT letting rejection get to you. You're going to be rejected. A lot. You can't take it personally. You can't control how people treat you and whether or not they reject you for stupid reasons. You CAN control how you decide to react to it. Just stay confident and don't get down about being rejected. It should be like water off a duck's back.
Anyways, some clubs go for different atmospheres, which means different "looks." Smart clubs have a wide variety of women. Some clubs only want the blonde barbie dolls with implants. Some clubs only want "ethnic" dancers who dance to rap and hip-hop. And a lot of clubs have crappy and/or corrupt management. There's a lot of elements that are out of your control. Just because you had a bad experience at the first club, doesn't mean your experience at this club will be the same. It sounds like you were made to feel much more welcome at the second club. So fuck the first club. Relax, and don't worry about it :)
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Re: Failed Audition :-( Deflated ego.
I'm normally quite confident in the way I look, so I think this feeling of being rejected was like a slice of humble pie.
The first place I went to is very well-known in the area and has about 200 girls on their books.
It's amazing how things can work out. Because the second club I went to, actually had a much classier and nicer decor, their prices are more expensive (yay for me) and I am not required to do full nude on stage. The atmosphere seemed much more glamourous and almost "old school". I am really excited, I hope it goes well.
But yes, I am trying to ready myself for the fact that I will not be everyones cup of tea. Fortunately I have a partner who adores me..So even if no one wants me out there, I gots my man at home ;)
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Re: Failed Audition :-( Deflated ego.
Maybe it was the universe working in your favor. It sounds like you may've found a better over all place to work. Sometimes, the universe works in mysterious ways. Just be grateful that you found a welcoming place to work and if you can make decent money there, all the better. I've spent a lot of time working in very unfriendly environments and it's just not worth it. And it's true, many a gorgeous woman has been rejected in this biz ... and with more and more young women interested in going into the business, it happens more often than you think.
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Re: Failed Audition :-( Deflated ego.
Shit happens and people get rejected all the time. Maybe they didn't like your outfit color. Maybe the planets were aligned against you. Who the hell knows? You can't take rejection as a reflection of your personal attributes. If I took every rejection personally by now I would have quit this business. I just move on. For every club that turns me down 5 more want me. fuck em it's their loss.
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I was told by one club manager that the competitor's managers prolly didnt hire me bc I wouldnt sleep with them. Lol..That club's manager kept asking me to have lunch with him and I politely declined all offers..I wonder why I didnt get the job? Hmmmm Sorry pal that I didnt want to fuck you to get a job at ur bar! Never have never will do that.... Bottom line: Stay at a club/s that appreciate you.
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Re: Failed Audition :-( Deflated ego.
You wouldn't happen to be working in Sydney clubs? If so, I do believe that I'm acquainted with one that matches your description... The thing you need to remember is that Australian clubs are very much in their quiet season at the moment. Things won't start to ramp up again until people start to get their tax returns. Some times they hire less girls because there simply isn't enough work around to warrant hiring more! Don't let it get you down about the other places, focus on the one that took you, pick up skills so that should you decide to move to another club, you've got your game sorted!
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You're cluey Miss Rose :P
And thank you for your encouragement. I hope you don't mind, I looked through some of your older posts (I'm new to this board and haven't seen many Aussies) and you mentioned the club that I'll be starting in next week..
The post was a couple of years old I think, but now I am a little freaked out :O
They were so lovely and the place looked even nicer than MG.. The "other place" gave me the tour, introduced me to some girls and all the staff were really really nice to me.
Have you heard any updated news on this club?
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Re: Failed Audition :-( Deflated ego.
All I know is that in the last month we've had an awful lot of girls come across to our clubs from, dare I say it, Minx, word on the street is that there isn't much money up there at the moment. Apparently in order to be able to make money there, there is a huge reliance on regulars, as very few people just walk in off the street.
The people that run the place are nice, although I encountered a fair amount of bitchiness from the girls, that said, I did only work one shift there, and it was on Melbourne Cup night, which is one of the busiest and most profitable nights you'll work in Oz. There will be horror stories no matter which club you work in.
Should you find that it really isn't your cup of tea, perhaps audition again towards summer time, I know that our club is always full, and short of girls that time of year :) Don't take the rejection badly, perhaps they'd already filled the quota for that day. i remember when I auditioned there were about 8 girls and only two of us got the job. Chin up!
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Re: Failed Audition :-( Deflated ego.
the good thing about dancing is you can move from club to club, re-audition, quit, get re-hired the next week, move to another area, get hired at a new club, etc. there's a ton of clubs you can work at so don't be bummed you didn't get your first audition. managers are weird. some prefer brunettes and will only hire a certain amount of blondes, some want you to be stick thin, some won't hire any athletic looking girls, they use their preferences when hiring which is dumb, but don't take it personally.
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Re: Failed Audition :-( Deflated ego.
I was turned down twice before I was accepted. I'm more attractive than many of the girls that work there. Sometimes they are looking for a variety of different looks to appeal to every customer. Don't take it as a put down they may have needed an ugly girl and you were too pretty : )
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Originally Posted by
BringOnTheMen
And no...you weren't "too pretty" to be hired...smh I hope none of you girls actually believe that. Attitudes on any dancer are not attractive, but on newbies...atrocious.
Who has an attitude? I didn't read anything negative or 'atrocious' in this post.
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^Weeeeelllllllllll, generally speaking I agree with you Bring on the Men and totally get your point. HOWEVER, I did get turned down at a semi-dive once b/c I was classier than the other girls and the manager didn't think I'd make any money as their clientele wasn't looking for "classy". He actually sent me to a more upscale club, told me who to ask for and I got hired at that club. I've also known a couple super frickin' hot girls (like Pamela Anderson in the 90's look a-likes) who tried to do the "big fish in a small pond" thing at dive clubs and got turned down b/c the management was smart enough to know what they were doing and it would just cause drama with the other girls. SO there is the rare scenario where someone is in fact "too pretty" or generally looks better than the dancers. I completely agree with you that when you choose a club to audition at you should blend with the other dancers.....at least at first. 8)
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Yeah Eva Rose is right about it being quiet at the moment. I'm sure you'll be fine anyways babes.
I never realised there were clubs in Australia though that had an actual audition process. I've only danced in Melbourne but my experience has always been basically you turn up and there either hire you or not on the spot.
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Originally Posted by
BringOnTheMen
No, you weren't prettier than the other girls, you dressed differently. Like I said, when you are starting out conform yourself to fit your club.
You need to calm down and stop telling people how to feel about themselves. Everyone has a right to believe what they want, we are all adults on here. No one is trying to hurt anyone. Just give your advice (which was good) and leave it at that. And I believe that sometimes being different and standing out can be a good thing at times.
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Originally Posted by
La Maddalena
You need to calm down and stop telling people how to feel about themselves. Everyone has a right to believe what they want, we are all adults on here. No one is trying to hurt anyone. Just give your advice (which was good) and leave it at that. And I believe that sometimes being different and standing out can be a good thing at times.
I don't see where BOTM wasn't calm? Perhaps you're the one who needs to calm down. She was being honest and trying to give some new dancers a bit of a reality check; girls are not turned down for being too pretty. If the management likes the dancer and her look isn't right; they'll ask her to change. They won't turn down someone for being "too classy" either; it's more common that they'll reprimand girls for being too trashy.
I don't think anyone was trying to hurt anyones feelings at any point. Just trying to keep things honest. Being different isn't always a good thing; if you can stand out and be different by having the best body, outfits, hair, etc yes, that will help you. But often being different or unconventional can hurt your chances of getting hired.
Keepin' it real.
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Re: Failed Audition :-( Deflated ego.
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Originally Posted by
BringOnTheMen
Except when you don't get hired.
And I'm not telling anyone how to "feel about themselves," I'm giving my working dancer advice on the reality of strip clubs. This is why vets don't come to newbie board much- y'all like to live in your future stripper fantasy world where you weren't hired because you were too pretty when if you just took our advice you would have been hired and working already. But whatevs, keep on taking advice from other girls who have yet to work a day in a SC because theirs sounds like more fun and rainbows.
I've noticed that you've posted before about being too young to get gummy bear implants, am I correct? You're what... 19--21ish? I'm going to assume that you started dancing when you were 18....and obviously, this would mean that even if you were 21 you would have less than 3 years of experience under your belt...which doesn't seem to make you much of a veteran in this industry.:-\
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^We have many members on here who haven't worked for 3 years, yet I would consider them veterans. An average dancer only lasts about 4-5 years, so saying that you need more than 3 to be able to give experienced (veteran-quality) advice is kinda silly. Sure there's the odd poster on here like Kylea who's been working for YEARS and will continue to dance for many more, but most girls do this for less than half of a decade.
I also don't think BOTM was talking just about herself - she was more-so referencing other, more veteran SW dancers who don't post here much because the newer dancers don't seem to ever take the advice. And even BOTM with her less than 3 years experience has a lot more to offer than someone who's never danced before and it just starting out. In fact, I would think her tips and tricks about getting hired would be all the more valuable as she's relatively new-ish to the industry and is more familiar with recent hiring practices than say - a dancer on here who has been working in the same clubs, in the same area, with the same connections for the last 6 years. If you've been doing this for a while, you can talk the talk and walk the walk and know the right people you tend to forget the newness of it all, and it's harder to relate to girls who are wet behind the ears.
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Re: Failed Audition :-( Deflated ego.
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Originally Posted by
4everresolutions
If you've been doing this for a while, you can talk the talk and walk the walk and know the right people you tend to forget the newness of it all, and it's harder to relate to girls who are wet behind the ears.
I acknowledge your point. However, I still find the situation a bit ironic.
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Re: Failed Audition :-( Deflated ego.
Bring On The Men, for your information I am dancing at a club. And this will be my last message to you because you are obviously looking to start drama. Like I said before, give your advice and leave it at that. Now, I'm going to ignore you and focus on the posts that are relevant to the purpose of this thread.
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Re: Failed Audition :-( Deflated ego.
Speaking as the token goth, being different isn't always a good thing and being hot doesn't always get you hired. I went and auditioned at this club called Silhouettes. It's a dive, they have fatties and fuglies. I auditioned, customers loved me, they said they would call me. They never did. Whatever.
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Re: Failed Audition :-( Deflated ego.
Bridgette ... sucks about the audition but like all the girls said, it happens for no good reason sometimes. I also know the club you are talking about and yes its a nice fit out but the girls are known for being very bitchy and there is a lot of heavy cocaine use in the club... BUT this is not necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes being thrown in the deep end even as a newbie is a blessing because you will learn skills that will help you throughout your career. Maybe you will have a great experience there. Sounds like they welcomed you which is a good thing. Just remember you have this board for help and advice if you need it. Good luck :)