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Re: How many girls on here have told their family about them camming?
i haven't...i would if i was a stripper because then they know whats involved..but camming i would have to answer way too many questions lol
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ive tried, they know ive danced for bout nine years...but whenever i try to tell mom she changes the subject///
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Re: How many girls on here have told their family about them camming?
It's as personal as your sex life. Unless your family is openly talking about who and how they perform in their bedroom, it's probably not a good idea to bring it up. I know many performers choose to tell all, but to me it's human to have secrets, otherwise everyone could hear what we think. Most likely your family doesn't tell you everything. You are an adult and you are entitled to keep some things to yourself. I like to think of it as my lil secret life. I feel like I get away from the world when I cam, and it brings me some relief in a sense. I wouldn't be embarrassed if family found me, I would just tell them it's my life and leave it at that. But I would never open it up otherwise. Another thing, you voluntarily tell your family and word will spread, next thing you know their neighbors and friends will be trying to search you out on the net, and that's not cool. I don't trust the zone blocks. Some things are better left unsaid.
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No my family has no clue what I do. Super awkward when they are like "so how do you pay rent anyway?" My boyfriend is the only person that knows. I tell my friend that I'm working at another friend's store doing retail. Whatever, no one catches me.
I don't intend to tell the family unless someone tells them. :p
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Mine know
my mom, dad, brother....
And they do not approve of it.
And I dont blame them.. I would not want my kid doing this...
As much as we models can argue that THIS is an OK job, most of the society disproves of it.. and as much as we got used to it and think its OK, we still have to obey certain society rules and morals.......
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Re: How many girls on here have told their family about them camming?
I told my mom and although she was pretty concerned at first, she's really supportive now though. She always asks how its going and offers me ideas about outfits and such. My cousin also knows and is considering trying camming out for herself!
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I've told my mom. I tell her everything though, except for escorting because I think that would scare her too much. But my family pretty much knows that I'm going to do what I want regardless, so I don't think anything I do shocks them anymore.
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my sister, who i'm closest to, and probably one or two of my cousins knows. my parents passed away five years ago and most of the rest of my family chose to become estranged after that (if not before). a couple of my aunts still talk to me but they definitely wouldn't understand, nor is it really any of their business...they're not that involved in my life. my fiance, who is my primary partner (i'm poly), knows, and i usually tell other partners when i am dating other people.
i don't announce it generally speaking but i am open to some other friends, mostly fellow crips/queers/poc/activists, that i am a sex worker.
the only people in the world i really can't tell are some friends i have who are like my adopted family, but it's unlikely they would find out anyway - they have bandwidth-capped internet access and live in a very rural area, and my friend is the only one who uses the internet, and he only really uses it for gaming, not for porn. i have a pretty good excuse for a cover job since i do non-adult work as well :) i really, really hate hiding things, which is why i've decided not to lie about it to other people in my life if it comes up, but in their case they would not understand at all and there's no need for them to know.
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I absolutely hate lying because it's just so much easier to tell the truth, but I would never voluntarily tell my family. That's one area that I would rather lie. I talk about my sex work in front of pretty much anyone else, but not my family. They would freak out, cry, threaten to disown me (they probably wouldn't actually do it) and even if they did calm down eventually, they would still not look at me the same way and would constantly try to talk me out of it. They would also probably leak it to the rest of my relatives who are conservative Catholics and that would just be the ultimate shitstorm.
Basically, it would just be way too much drama for the sake of full disclosure. I agree with Lusty Laken - all adults have secrets. No matter how comfortable you are with your choices, some things are just better left unsaid to certain people for the sake of peace. Even if I could get over my mother's anger, do I really want my dad and uncles thinking about me talking dirty and performing sex acts for men their age over the internet? Hell no. If, for some reason, it ever came out, I would own up to it and not be ashamed, but I see no reason they have to know. It's not like they really need to know the minute details of my job beyond that I have one, it's not making me want to kill myself, and it pays my bills. It doesn't weigh on my conscience that I tell them that the job that does all that is waitressing, especially when I do it half for their own protection. I gather enough stories from my waiter roommates and bf to bitch believably about "how much I hate my job" and no one ever needs to know the truth.
Maybe one day I'll tell my sister if we get close enough, but for now I don't want to give her the burden of also keeping the secret from my parents.
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I have told no one except my husband/boyfriend (domestic partnership) because, well, he lives here and he would probably wonder why all the moaning was happening lol
I really do want to at least tell my mom- it is just hard ya know. I have this career that I am proud of, this is my only job, and I really do like it. My husband asked the other day when I would be going back to work and I said I wasn't planning on ever going back to 'work'. Now every night when he goes to bed he gives me a kiss and tells me to make that money because he knows I get online after he goes to sleep and get offline just before he wakes up so I can make his breakfast & lunch before he goes to work.
The other day I was at my parents house talking about how me and my husband are going to Vegas in October, Mexico for a cruise in December and back to Vegas early next year and my Dad started shaking his head at me telling me I am unemployed and need to spend less time planning trips and spending money and more time looking for a new job. I told them I was planning on just going to school for a few semesters and they seem so disappointed LOL
Anyway, I do need to tell my family because I have been looking into going to some of the adult expos and starting to do magazines and films in the adult industry and I would rather they hear it from me than from someone else.
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My mom came into my room and we were having a conversation one day and she was telling guys to tip me. :D
That was funny.
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I told my best friend and my fiance told his sister. I'm thinking about telling my own sister when she comes to visit in a couple weeks... I know she'd be cool with it. I'm not planning on telling anyone else but if my mom finds out I don't think it would be the end of the world even though she probably wouldn't be too happy. I may tell her I do phone sex instead, that seems like less of a shock than webcam.
I really wouldn't want my dad to know though. I dunno, it just seems weird to me. I don't want him knowing his little girl works in the sex industry! :-\
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It wouldn't be the end of the world if my family found out, but I'm not going to volunteer the information, because I don't feel they need to know what I do. I don't really want them aware of my sex life in any way, it's awkward. And I wouldn't want them to think that my boyfriend got me into camming or think less of him for letting me do it, he doesn't have anything to do with it but I know they would want to make me into a victim instead of accepting the reality that I make my own decisions. It would just be unnecessary drama.
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I told my mom and two of my sisters. My mom says "you gotta do what you gotta do to make money" she gets it. My bf is the one who told me I should go for it. I wouldn't tell my grandparents or anything. I think one of my sisters thinks its shameful or something, She can go "f" herself, her and her husband make over 100 k a year and she got a job right out of college. She has never had to struggle for money since she moved out of my dads.
I am not ashamed with what I do I can make more money in a week of doing this then I ever could at something locally, since all I can find is $9 an hour jobs even with a bachelors. My goal is to use the money to start a non sexual business.
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Hell to the no! I wouldn't tell them because we are not that open. I can even kiss my bf in front of them because is to embarrassing for me, so to tell them about this..hell no. We didn't even had the "sex talk" I had to learned it by myself watching porn. So if they were not brave enough to talk to me about sex and protection, I don't have to tell them either. I know they won't like it at all and they would be extremely sad and dissapointed. They didn't even like when I had a professional job. So why bother? I love them and they love me, but they have an old traditional mentality.
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No one in my real life knows. The only people I talk to about this are you girls on SW. :) It's weird, I know...but my family would just not understand.
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My family knows. I told my mother, my father found out through other means, and I was forced to tell my aunt because of an issue I'm going through right now.
I don't have a good relationship with my parents. So my father freaked out like a crazy person. But I just told him to fuck off because I hadn't spoken to him in years and he is mentally unstable. I could care less what he thinks.
My relationship with my mother is complicated, so I don't care about her opinion either. She mostly keeps it to herself. But if she expresses something that doesn't sit well with me then I will correct her.
I was most upset by my aunts reaction. I thought we had a good relationship and while she has a very 'normal' life, she isn't religious or politically conservative. But she decided to tell me that she didn't like what I did because of her values.
I can understand people being concerned or disapproving (to a point) because of safety issues. But don't bring your values into it and judge me.
I'm an adult and if you can't support me like I support you just because of what I do for a living then you are cut out of my life forever.
So think carefully before telling your family. It could go either way. Of course, they might still find out without you telling them because this world is a fucked up place.
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My dad and brother know I do pso, my mother is just to high strung to tell anything. I don't worry much about them finding the cam and vid stuff because I am non-nude. So I think they won't think it's as bad. All my friends and partners have known, and when I meet people and they ask what I do I'm honest. I'm not ashamed of what I do, and I love doing it.
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I don't speak to most of my fam but my sister knows and supports 100%, then again i take "raunch tips" from her since she was a FREAK before she got married, nothing shocks her. Most of my friends know.
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NO ONE knows except my best-guy friend...who actually introduced me to cam land when stripping didnt work out for me..
thats all who i want to know for now...
id never tell my family..and bc this industry is looked down on soo much, i dont think i ll be telling my other friends either..
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I've only told my sisters. We are really close and it feels comforting knowing that at least they know just in case anything ever happens. I mean i guess i have it a bit easy because i don't have my parents to have to explain it to but i do have my close aunts and my older brother and as of now i don't think i ever want to tell them and i hope i never have to either. I just feel that they would not understand. Some things are better to keep to myself rather then causing any unnecessary drama in my family.
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My friends know, my family doesnt. My mom would be ok with it but its just too much damn effort. If they find out eventually its all good.
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Not a chance! If they find out, like most of the others above I'd own up and hold my head high, but there's no way i'm offering that info voluntarily. My partner knows, because we live together and he's my best friend - he helps me make clips and pic sets lol. And one of my friends knows too, but she's already in the sex industry practically (makes fetish videos).