Re: Drinking while dancing.?
When guys are boring me, I tend to talk more about myself and things that I like in an effort to steer conversation towards more interesting topics. You can also try to find something you have in common, even the littlest thing, being interested in the same sport, growing up in the same city, talking about where you like to go out, your pets, kids, whatever. What do you talk to complete strangers about when you go to parties with your own friends? The same kind of conversation can be used on customers at work.
That said, yeah there are some guys that are a complete bore, don't want to be social at all, and just sit there awkardly. At this point, you have to start acting: the more friendly you seem, the more likely the guy is to come out of his shell, so paste a big smile on your face and laugh and touch his leg, etc, for as long as you can bear it (1 or 2 songs) and then just be up front, ask him for a dance. Some guys are just socially awkward, or are loner types, and just because they might seem like they don't like you, doesn't mean it's not worth it to ask, in case they say yes. And if they say no, you're free! :)
When it's dead I usually talk to the staff, or read a book, text my friends, call in regs, maybe play a game of pool with another girl or nice customer, or just play pacman on my phone lol
Good luck with staying sober at work! Just think of all the extra cash you'll be leaving with as a motivator :)
Re: Drinking while dancing.?
It will seem tough at first, but just like anything else, you will get used to it. Customers will appreciate that you are sober. As far as staying interested in custys, treat each person with the open, loving attitude you would a new friend. Make your time with them special, even if you never see them again. Everyone has something for you, and I don't just mean money. Wisdom, a joke, some piece of info you will use later, etc.
Good luck with your sobriety. I got sober 3 years ago because alcohol took over my life and had very ugly consequences. You can do it. :)
Re: Drinking while dancing.?
When it was slow I would either hide in the dressing room and do other things (study, play video games,etc) or in the main area and sit with other dancers. Sometimes I sat with customers but not always.
Drinking at work is a bad thing. I rarely drink but I created a stripper persona. She was far more sexual than I could ever be and she loved men no matter what. I considered it a form of acting.
Re: Drinking while dancing.?
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pipermonroe
It will seem tough at first, but just like anything else, you will get used to it. Customers will appreciate that you are sober. As far as staying interested in custys, treat each person with the open, loving attitude you would a new friend. Make your time with them special, even if you never see them again. Everyone has something for you, and I don't just mean money. Wisdom, a joke, some piece of info you will use later, etc.
Good luck with your sobriety. I got sober 3 years ago because alcohol took over my life and had very ugly consequences. You can do it. :)
so true, I cut down by drinking white wine with soda water and if I'm near the bar I also have the bargirls keep topping up the same glass with soda water. Have a bottle large H20 backstage or in the DJ box and keep refilling it throughout the night. Order a water/soda water with every alcoholic drink.
As you recognise you're drinking to excess I would also suggest you never buy your own drinks, if you tend to stand by the bar ask for a non-alcoholic drink (water and soda water are best) in the LARGEST glass you can find.
Some customers will bore you, however you are there to entertain them and not the other way around- how does that song lyric go ... "if you're bored then you're boring" :). You will need to invest in your conversational skills, scan the paper, google ice-breaker questions, there is a series of books called "if" that pose interesting questions.
I suggest weeding through Hustle Hut/Stripper General for tips on conversation leading to sales, limiting time spent talking if you're not being paid already, conversational topics. Once you start researching your confidence in being able to handle the situation will rise, its worth the will power.