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I was the one seriously stalked.
Have had over 30 stalkers and yes if you act crazier than them most will give up.
But when you are alone in the house, a crazy man at your backdoor banging on it hard because security light had been installed.
Do you seriously think acting crazier than him would have worked?
Called cops
Hired privated detectives
Put in all kinds of security.
Even if caught the toughest law is only a peice of paper. Now a restraining order is nothing to someone intent on harming you.
Trust men who only want to use us to get off... NEVER
Never delude yourself into thinking any of them have your best interest at heart. They have only their dicks in mind when they log onto porn sites like camming.
Also have had two ex-boyfriends try to kidnap me with either a knife or at gunpoint too.
Yes, stalkers can come from anywhere. I have managed to get them from the grocery store, my insurance agent, my doctor, exboyfriends, exboyfriend's friends, guys driving down the road next to me trying to push me off the road. Most of these incidents before I even did porn or camming.
But to we do reach many more people when we do cam. My personal life, my personal safety is important to me. Why take any extra risk with giving out any personal information? These guys also love to brag to their so-called buddies on the web and will post any personal information you give them.
Until you have someone out to kill you. Intent on harming you every single day then laugh off the actual dangers there can be out in the world.
Do I let those who want to harm me prevent me from living a full life or earning a living? NO
But I also dont take unneccesary risk with my personal information either.
Sam
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cherryblossomsinspring
I enjoy my privacy and to me men especially ones much older then you are smarter in their approach. A young guy will come and ask where you are and see if you'll tell him. Only a smart man waits for the optimal moment where you tell him by accident. Talking is not only your best asset but also you biggest weakness. Someone shouldn't feel he should spend more on me because he knows where I live and my real name. If I choose to provide that information then I want to be able to do that with a sound mind and clear thought process.
People will stalk and your best way to handle things is to keep your personal business private. Remember if these men wanted reality then they would be out on a dating site. They want fantasy and it's only greed and ego that makes them want or feel they deserve more then what they are actually paying for.
Also notice how much information the man is giving you. Is he telling you everything? Or is he acting as if he's just telling you all his business for a right to yours. I see so much bs coming from men on these sites. Some will sit there and tell me their whole life story only to turn around and think " we're sharing" so tell me about you.
Don't be fooled by this tactic. This is the oldest game in the book, for you will soon realize that whatever was told to you changes quite frequently if you were to ask it again. It never stays solid unless either the guy is telling the truth or he's memorized his own lie and can state it like some mantra.
It only takes one psychotic individual to ruin your life. If the man doesn't want to spend money on you because you will not share your city, state , address, facebook, real phone number etc then it shows that he's online looking for a something his money isn't paying for.
Personally, I chat with many men that feel after they do one show they are entitled to my personal details and when they don't get it they get irate. So what are they actually paying for? I think we heard of the "prepaying for pussy" types that will be respectful in privates and keep hinting at meeting. Some are hot! Most are ugly or hide themselves off the cam. 95% I've come across are legally married. Coincidence? No. These are the sugar daddies of the internet that are ok with spending in hopes of something in the future. When that possibility to meet is taken off the table, you'll be lucky to see them in a cam session with you again.
One must look at why these men are on these sites in the first place. If they're hot and single then they can just go out there and date. If they're not one of these two then they are either ugly (married or single ) but really who cares? Or hot (married or gf/bf) . Either way I look at these men as off limits. Ok to have fun as long as they are paying , but let's leave it at that. Trust that many of these men couldn't get called all hours of the night in fear of someone waking up their wife and kids. So they want you to respect their privacy but they want to be all in your business. Nothing new there.
I agree above that I do open up to people I've grown comfortable with , but it's still limited information that one receives.
Great info, you're totally right about how the ones to worry about it will approach it.
A great book to read related to this is The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. Good book on intuition that will help anyone.
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Sam38g
I was the one seriously stalked.
Have had over 30 stalkers and yes if you act crazier than them most will give up.
But when you are alone in the house, a crazy man at your backdoor banging on it hard because security light had been installed.
Do you seriously think acting crazier than him would have worked?
Called cops
Hired privated detectives
Put in all kinds of security.
Even if caught the toughest law is only a peice of paper. Now a restraining order is nothing to someone intent on harming you.
Trust men who only want to use us to get off... NEVER
Never delude yourself into thinking any of them have your best interest at heart. They have only their dicks in mind when they log onto porn sites like camming.
Also have had two ex-boyfriends try to kidnap me with either a knife or at gunpoint too.
Yes, stalkers can come from anywhere. I have managed to get them from the grocery store, my insurance agent, my doctor, exboyfriends, exboyfriend's friends, guys driving down the road next to me trying to push me off the road. Most of these incidents before I even did porn or camming.
But to we do reach many more people when we do cam. My personal life, my personal safety is important to me. Why take any extra risk with giving out any personal information? These guys also love to brag to their so-called buddies on the web and will post any personal information you give them.
Until you have someone out to kill you. Intent on harming you every single day then laugh off the actual dangers there can be out in the world.
Do I let those who want to harm me prevent me from living a full life or earning a living? NO
But I also dont take unneccesary risk with my personal information either.
Sam
30 real actual stalkers? Not just like "oh this guy is obnoxious" but serious stalkers? Sounds like you would almost have to try to get that many stalkers! Not trying to be rude so I hope it doesn't come off that way or as insensitive, but dang! That's a lot of stalking going on.
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I think any guy who gets upset just because you're keeping your real info safe needs to get over himself. Those are usually the types who are trying to eventually meet you in person anyway. You're not on cam sites to meet Mr. Right or to meet a fuck buddy. You're on there to make money while having fun from the comfort of your own home. The "comfort of your home" thing goes right out the window when a creepy/stalkerish guy has all the info he needs to find you in person.
If your cam site regulars truly care about you, they would want you to feel comfortable and safe, and they'd respect your decision to not reveal your personal info. Just because they've spent a lot of money on you doesn't mean you owe them personal info.
There are some vengeful people out there who, if you piss them off, WILL do something fucked up to get back at you. I had something bad happen just because I had an argument with a scumbag photographer who knew of a secret of mine.
Instead of giving guys my real name, I tell them they can call me 'Shelly.' It used to be my grandmom's nickname for me, based on my middle name. It may seem fine to tell guys your name if you have a name like Amy or Sarah or Kim. But when you have a name as different as mine, I don't think it's a good idea. Especially if you have a FB account linked to it, and your real-life friends and family are on there.
A few guys on MFC know my first name, and I pray that I don't ever regret giving them this info.
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I'm sorry but my safety and my privacy is just something that I can't risk no matter how much better the money could possibly be. I met a guy at the grocery store a few weeks ago and he called me 5 times the same we met. Immediately red flags went off so I never returned his call. Since then he has probably called me at least 50 times and I have never answered him or returned his call. And this is just a guy that I talked to in the grocery store for 5 minutes. We made no deep connection and I was fully clothed.
I don't know about you guys but I literally "mind-fuck" every guy i'm on cam with. I tell them everything they want to hear. I say it in the voice they like and I make sure they enjoy every minute of it. I should win an Oscar for my performances. And the whole time I'm thinking "ok that was $2, ok $4, ok let me squeeze 5 more minutes out of this so I can pay the cable bill". But from their perspective, they see it totally different. They're buying the fantasy i'm selling. I'm not saying every guy is falling in love with me but some of them are. A lot of these guys are lonely as hell. I mean seriously if they weren't they would just go out and meet a real girl. You never know know how far these guys take this fantasy. Some of them really would love to be with you if they could. And if i'm being "open" about my personal information, then it's very easy for them to find us. One wrong word and they can find out anything. Google has made life really easy for a stalker. I'm not making it any easier by giving them any part of my life.
I'm definitely nice to some guys and will carry on deeper conversations about certain things. But that's about it.
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SarahTime
30 real actual stalkers? Not just like "oh this guy is obnoxious" but serious stalkers? Sounds like you would almost have to try to get that many stalkers! Not trying to be rude so I hope it doesn't come off that way or as insensitive, but dang! That's a lot of stalking going on.
WE WERE just saying that ....ummm doctors and insurance agents would not only loser their licenses but jail time for breach of privacy or some law.....
30 also is far out there ......i mean 30 ?! what are you doing stealing from them?
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Avamonet
I'm sorry but my safety and my privacy is just something that I can't risk no matter how much better the money could possibly be. I met a guy at the grocery store a few weeks ago and he called me 5 times the same we met. Immediately red flags went off so I never returned his call. Since then he has probably called me at least 50 times and I have never answered him or returned his call. And this is just a guy that I talked to in the grocery store for 5 minutes. We made no deep connection and I was fully clothed.
I don't know about you guys but I literally "mind-fuck" every guy i'm on cam with. I tell them everything they want to hear. I say it in the voice they like and I make sure they enjoy every minute of it. I should win an Oscar for my performances. And the whole time I'm thinking "ok that was $2, ok $4, ok let me squeeze 5 more minutes out of this so I can pay the cable bill". But from their perspective, they see it totally different. They're buying the fantasy i'm selling. I'm not saying every guy is falling in love with me but some of them are. A lot of these guys are lonely as hell. I mean seriously if they weren't they would just go out and meet a real girl. You never know know how far these guys take this fantasy. Some of them really would love to be with you if they could. And if i'm being "open" about my personal information, then it's very easy for them to find us. One wrong word and they can find out anything. Google has made life really easy for a stalker. I'm not making it any easier by giving them any part of my life.
I'm definitely nice to some guys and will carry on deeper conversations about certain things. But that's about it.
LMAO im sorry but you dont know men .....they are aggressive by nature and have to be to get anywhere with a woman ......just tell him "are you desperate" and he'll back off.
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^Umm, a guy calling 5 times the same day of meeting a woman is NOT just a "guy being a guy" trying to get her attention. That is a crazy.
Since I'm indy I have a long list of guys on my messengers, and some of these wankers will just go on skype and call me randomly, hoping to get my attention even though they can plainly see I'm not online at the time. I have a skype# that forwards to my cell, and unfortunately that means ALL skype calls forward to my cell.
So 1-2 of these wankers have figured out they're being forwarded to my cell (they don't get the# thankfully) and will call once in a while randomly, just to fuck with me. I can't see who is calling either, just that it's a skype call because of the weird# on my caller ID. It doesn't appear as a missed call in my skype history either, because it forwarded to my phone so it wasn't "missed".
Now think what a person like this would do if he actually got hold of any of my personal info. No, I'm not sharing with ANY of these guys because ANY of them could be the wrong person to share with.
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I tell guys im from Mars. Really. My regulars play up on it too cause it pisses them off when a guy is harrassing me about where I am. Plus it really pushes that I am not interested in meeting, or you knowing where im from
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I am sorry many of you have had trouble.
See - I am pretty laidback in alot of aspects. I don't worry about guys stalking me only because I take the precautions to protect myself. I don't go over the top with it. I take every suggestion I ever read here into account and maybe I will use it but mostly I do not.
I don't see the need in going over the top. I guess I am not your typical girl here when I am afraid to shoot someone if they get into my house. I am not afraid to fight either if I have to. Personally, it's not the crazy acting - it's just using common sense most of the time on how to divert it. As far as my haters go - let them hate.
The world I live in - I do for me and me alone in the cam world. My business is what it is. I just don't see the point in being over protective of yourself when you take those precautions in the first place. I really just don't get it - I have been stalked before and all that but it really doesn't make any sense to be paranoid. Call me crazy or what not, but I just chill out on many things.
I understand everyone's points but I guess I have accepted all the risks when it comes to camming - and if I happened to get another stalker, mind you, the last one I had 10 years ago wasn't from camming, then I would have to take responsibility for that. However, I think you can get a stalker just by walking down the street so camming is just what it is. Maybe I am being too light - but this is the world we live in and I don't associate myself with the crazies if they seem to be off their rocker in the first place - I don't care how much money they offer me or what not.
You can call me crazy but I just don't worry about these things. I just go on cam, do my thing, make my money and go to sleep at night. I guess sleeping with a 38 special in my drawer makes me sleep better but I have always had that.
I don't know but guys just want their girls for the time they want them and let it ride afterwards. Like I said, I understand where all of you are coming from but I don't feel the need to be super protective all over the place when I just do my thing and jump off.
Guys are what they are in nature but I still believe if you know how to handle them, regardless if they are just crazy or become a stalker, you shouldn't have any real problems if you approach it and handle it right. Again, I know many cam girls, despite who says they don't, give their information to customers after they have been a long-term customer for such a long time....only because it's a business relationship. If girls say they haven't, 90% of them do and I call bullshit otherwise - only because it happens and I don't see the point in saying it doesn't when it does.
Bottom line - it's the risks you take being in the business and I guess I am just more laid back in accepting what could happen or what if's more than anyone else.
For example, I use an IP blocker to change my IP to mask my identity, I use a PO Box or a another friends' address that is an hour away to receive gifts IF that happens and I use a completely different persona with a fake name with a different location. I just become fake and then on top of that I can incorporate some real life things but the customer still thinks it's what it is....they know what I want them to know - because my motto is it's just business....
However - when I return to camming next month, I am going to STOP taking gifts and accept amazon gift cards or gift cards to anything only - or if I give out any location information - I can spew out 3 old addresses I had...lol. Either which way, I won't go over the top anymore. It's time to just make some money and have some fun. Customers that I have run into like the real deal but they think it's real but it's fake. I just don't take a million precautions to protect myself. I take only about 4 or 5 that's absolutely needed.
:) xoxoxo
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Avamonet
I'm sorry but my safety and my privacy is just something that I can't risk no matter how much better the money could possibly be. I met a guy at the grocery store a few weeks ago and he called me 5 times the same we met. Immediately red flags went off so I never returned his call. Since then he has probably called me at least 50 times and I have never answered him or returned his call. And this is just a guy that I talked to in the grocery store for 5 minutes. We made no deep connection and I was fully clothed.
I don't know about you guys but I literally "mind-fuck" every guy i'm on cam with. I tell them everything they want to hear. I say it in the voice they like and I make sure they enjoy every minute of it. I should win an Oscar for my performances. And the whole time I'm thinking "ok that was $2, ok $4, ok let me squeeze 5 more minutes out of this so I can pay the cable bill". But from their perspective, they see it totally different. They're buying the fantasy i'm selling. I'm not saying every guy is falling in love with me but some of them are. A lot of these guys are lonely as hell. I mean seriously if they weren't they would just go out and meet a real girl. You never know know how far these guys take this fantasy. Some of them really would love to be with you if they could. And if i'm being "open" about my personal information, then it's very easy for them to find us. One wrong word and they can find out anything. Google has made life really easy for a stalker. I'm not making it any easier by giving them any part of my life.
I'm definitely nice to some guys and will carry on deeper conversations about certain things. But that's about it.
As far as men finding out information online - you should research yourself because you can remove anything that's out there about you. That's how I did it.
For example, Spokeo - you'd be surprised what you can find out on sites like that about someone. Google hasn't made it THAT easy....but that's another precaution I have taken when it comes to real information. The majority I have gotten removed about myself but my fake personas of course are there.
Guys only take the fantasy as far as you let them. That's all I am saying. If you shut them down, say they are desperate, play it smart, normally, they move on.
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I maybe new to camming but I am not new to men in general. I meet guys all the time and they usually just send a text/voice-mail to say "Hey this is so and so call me/text me and maybe we can get up", and then the ball is in my court. They don't call repeatedly without any type of response from me. That's just crazy.
There is a difference between aggression and taking things a little too far. What could someone I just met and only talked to for 5 minutes have to say to me that was so important that he needed to call me 5 times in less than 12 hours? I mean seriously just send a text and I'll get back to you.
But that's neither here nor there. My overall point was I play it safe. If a guy shows me something that seems a little weird, I'm just going to keep it moving. I have no problem meeting normal guys so I'll pass on the weird ones.
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MzStar
LMAO im sorry but you dont know men .....they are aggressive by nature and have to be to get anywhere with a woman ......just tell him "are you desperate" and he'll back off.
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I don't think any of us are sitting around biting our nails peering out every window or peephole anticipating some crazy to come knocking. LOL! I think the point is that we just don't feel it's smart to be loose with our info.
In the end it appears we all agree - be smart about it and take appropriate precautions to keep yourself safe. Then relax and do what you do.
I personally am always mindful of the info I'm putting out in public, and I think I'd be stupid not to. I don't get all worked up because some moron calls me randomly on skype and tries to fuck with me because I know he can't really do anything. He has no idea what number skype is forwarding him to, or even what my skype# is. Even if he did get my actual cell#, there isn't a thing in the world he could do with that because it doesn't show my name. I've made sure of that.
Occasionally some asshat will post my messenger ID on some forum and sit around with his circle jerk buddies talking shit, and then I'll get a barrage of hate mail, random harassing calls and such, but it's just a minor annoyance that goes away quickly. I don't get all worked up about it - I think it's fkn HILARIOUS that so many idiots are bothered enough by my mere presence that they feel the need to actually send hate mail. LOL!
But things like this do serve as a reminder that I need to watch what info I release to ANYONE, because one never knows which wanker is crazy enough to obsess and attempt more than just stupid emails or calls.
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I mix fantasy with my real self on cam. I use a fake name because my real name is so unique that I'd be found instantly. I tell guys I'm from a neighboring city [Seattle] and when they ask which vicinity I tell them it's a secret. I've been stalked, and other awful things, and there's no way I'm getting lax. I'm just lucky that I actually live on a military installment. It's kind of why I have on my profile that I'm married- it's going to take one hell of a psycho to try and find me when every guy assumes a sex worker has a big bad man living with her if she isn't single.. hahaha..
I had a guy recognize me from high school and put my legal name in my public chat. I lost my shit. I don't actually think we went to the same school, and I really think he was some kind of weirdo. Scarrrrry.
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^I've had guys recognize me from various places and out me in public chat, but it was just other online personas and pretty harmless. I still don't like it, and I PMed them to put a sock in it. I don't think they meant any harm, but it is rather annoying.
One did go out of his way to repeat what he'd said in an "apology" so I just banned him. Idiot.
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Yeah, one guy who recognized me did the same thing! I was chewing him out *kindly* and he though he was cute and said 'at least I didn't say --- --- ---' giving my full name. Dummy.
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Avamonet
I maybe new to camming but I am not new to men in general. I meet guys all the time and they usually just send a text/voice-mail to say "Hey this is so and so call me/text me and maybe we can get up", and then the ball is in my court. They don't call repeatedly without any type of response from me. That's just crazy.
There is a difference between aggression and taking things a little too far. What could someone I just met and only talked to for 5 minutes have to say to me that was so important that he needed to call me 5 times in less than 12 hours? I mean seriously just send a text and I'll get back to you.
But that's neither here nor there. My overall point was I play it safe. If a guy shows me something that seems a little weird, I'm just going to keep it moving. I have no problem meeting normal guys so I'll pass on the weird ones.
what you dont understand .....these are not stalkers ....(I'm getting my info from a man as we speak.....They may be showing a red flag but they arent stalkers.....they are desperate , weak , insecure , and stupid. What most girls dont realize is that alot of people are retarded...LITERALLY !!!! born that way, drugs ,or accidents. But people are who they are and for whatever reason they will call 5 times, he probably thought it wasnt your number and wanted to make sure it was .... could have thought the call wasn't going thru.....the cell phone was off....it wasnt your phone so he tried to get his number to you as fast as possible....
My Guy says he has gotten numbers and within 3 days the broke females phone was off, if you dont hurry up and call her and talk she'll forget who you are , play dumb because her man is there, and the list goes on and on....straight from the horses mouth ladies.
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ok as far as the guy I was speaking of, I don't think I actually said he was a stalker. I think I just said it was a little weird and it for me (and me only) it sent up red flags. He knew it was my number because when I gave him my number, he called me while we were still in the store so that I would have his cell phone # as well.
But whatever the case may be (stalker, retarded, drugs, etc), him calling me that many times was weird to me and something I prefer not to deal with. It's no biggie. I meet them all the time. Literally on to the next one.
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MzStar
what you dont understand .....these are not stalkers ....(I'm getting my info from a man as we speak.....They may be showing a red flag but they arent stalkers.....they are desperate , weak , insecure , and stupid. What most girls dont realize is that alot of people are retarded...LITERALLY !!!! born that way, drugs ,or accidents. But people are who they are and for whatever reasone they will call 5 times, he probably thought it wasnt your number and wanted to make sure it was .... could have thought the call wasn't going thru.....the cell phone was off....it wasnt your phone so he tried to get his number to you as fast as possible....
My Guy says he has gotten numbers and within 3 days the broke females phone was off, if you dont hurry up and call her and talk she'll forget who you are , play dumb because her man is there, and the list goes on and on....straight from the horses mouth ladies.
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Steal What?
You mean when they called my house, telling me what I did that day. Followed me all around town was me stealing. No I had two of the biggest Baddest Cops in town go talk to them.
Yes, when you have 38G ALL Natural boobs, men tend to go a bit crazy.
I am a total Bitch to men in public. Found even being kind of polite is a mistake.
Cant count the times men have tried to run me off the road too. Several of my girlfriends have had this same problem.
Move into a new place. Only the cable guy came to do installation. Then at 5 am have someone trying to break into my new place.
Used to have a State Trooper live above me. He kept an eye out, but said he had never seen a girl followed around and guys trying to break into my place like I get.
4 ex boyfriends and 2 limo drivers added to the mix.
Most of this way before I cammed or did porn. Fans who recognize me are generally very polite and fun. These days I seem to get recognized by more 20 something girls.
Sam
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@Sam - wow that sounds incredibly scary. I can see how you would attract attention! (Of course that is NO excuse). Yikes though :s
I keep myself relatively safe. I use a fake name of course. One guy found out my real first name because of an error in one of the cam sites that I worked for software. Ugh. Still annoyed at that. The guy never stalked me ... he seemed nice ... I know we can't be too safe but I feel better that it was with him than anyone else. I also found out what he looked like (cam2cam) so if I saw him in real life ... :p
I was harassed by a guy when I was in college. I was 18, he was 38. Umm yeah ... he really liked me ... I didn't like him ... he didn't understand that I had a boyfriend and was NOT going to hang out with him. He was always complimenting me on everything - my shirt, my hair, whatever, telling me I was sexy. Okay, that's enough from someone who is like five years younger than my father! IRL it is super weird for me. (on cam ... age doesn't matter! lol) I told my teachers and they didn't do anything. I told security at my college and they said they'd do something and never did. One day he came up and started yelling at me and telling me what a bitch I was. He threatened to make my life miserable.
Ugh.
I'm so glad I'm done college.
I do get more "comfortable" with repeat customers. I might tell them somewhere I went. Example: I went to a club last weekend, I partied last weekend, whatever. Usually I say something I did the weekend before though. Easier that way :p
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Just a random FYI for anyone who hasn't dealt with a stalker yet: a stalker won't respond to reason, threats, violence, or the law. An obsessive guy will, and the odds are much higher that you'll attract someone with boundary issues. But a stalker isn't going to respond if you say, "I've got a gun" or "My boyfriend is a professional cage fighter with an extensive knife collection." Stalkers are tweaked. They're delusional schizophrenics or sadistic psychopaths or just someone with serious control issues and a hard-on for eliciting fear. Try to scare an obsessive guy and he'll piss his pants. Try to scare a stalker and he'll take it as a challenge.
That's why it's important to spell out your boundaries if someone's crossing the line. It's not just good to do, but it'll also tell you what you're dealing with. If he's just obsessive, he'll get upset and dramatic, but eventually he'll back off. If he's a potential stalker, he won't be fazed. If you find yourself repeating the same boundaries to some guy because he keeps violating them, that's a sign.
Anyway, it looks like everyone's more or less on the same page here that it's important to be cautious with info. Personally, I'm cautious because I like to keep my headaches to a minimum, and protecting my privacy goes a long way towards preventing hassle I don't need. But there's some info that I keep in total lock-down to protect against stalkers, because once one of those fuckers gets the slightest taste of access, it's like getting rid of bed bugs. You have to turn your whole life upside down to get rid of them, and for the next few years, the slightest movement will make you wonder if you'll have to do it again.
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It is what it is.....
I have zero problems with anything on my cam career.
I have everything set up the way I feel it needs to be and I think everyone is good in doing the same.
This post was just meant to be devils advocate. Thanks for the GREAT input girls. :)
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I will not be using your approach lol but I'm glad it works for you and I hope it continues to work for you. Stay safe boo.
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Re: Secrecy and the twist...
I see where you're coming from Kitana, but personally I'd far rather have a guy get pissed off with me and lose a customer, than i would run the risk of giving somebody info that they could one day use against me. Don't ever forget, these aren't "normal" guys we're talking to when we cam.. they are already tapped in the head to be coming online like that in the first place. Keep it real and keep them in their place. They don't need to know ANYTHING about us, all we are obliged to give them is our naked (or not) body and whatever personal freak they're into. I do this for money and money only, i don't owe anybody anything no matter how much they spend on me x
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Re: Secrecy and the twist...
Ehh, I wouldn't go so far as to say our customers aren't normal - they're just horny guys and that doesn't mean they're abnormal. But ya, I'm not giving anyone the chance to fuck me over if I can help it. I take enough risk by being as public as I am. I'm taking as much precaution as I can.