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Hmm...I'm very new to camming, but I think I'll weigh in a little. I am not completely fake in my persona, I will divulge that I am a mom of 3, married and what state I live in. I will not tell them what city though. I've had a couple of guys ask why I didn't have a wishlist up yet and I was honest in the fact that I do not have a mailing address set up yet and they were cool with that. I've also been asked about how I choose my name and I told them the truth that it was connected to my husband and a persona that he uses for something else entirely. They obviously know that this is not my real name, but did not even ask for my real one.
I also will sell a phone number, but it is a Google number which I can set who and when I will accept calls from. It does connect to my cell, but only if I want it to. The number comes up "Unknown", but it will tell you who is calling and you have the option to send it to voicemail without connecting. You can then screen the voicemail while still on the call and connect at anytime if you want to. You also have a digital record of the missed call and voicemails are recorded into the site and never auto-delete like real voicemails.
I will never reveal anything about my actual address or city even, only vague metro area at the most. I will never reveal more about my children besides sex and age, no names what-so-ever. No one will ever get my real name common or not, nor my husbands.
I think that's about it. Plus hubby is an excellent shot and I "have to"/get to learn. I have absolutely no qualms about protecting myself or my family from some crazy.
Re: Secrecy and the twist...
This is an interesting post...
When other cam girls ask me for advice on starting up camming one thing I always point out is that you need to make up your mind from day 1 if camming is a secret or if camming is your job.
After I got my first paycheck from Streamate, I decided the money was good enough for it to be my job. I was honest with my customers from the get go that I wasn't married, I was single, I lived in California/ I told my boyfriend (of the time) told my family and that was good enough for me. Everyone is supportive and I am a very lucky girl.
I don't go by my real name. I don't have my phone posted to the site. I use audio in my video and if you want to talk to me you have to do a cam2cam with audio with me. Even the e-mail address that I use is a secondary e-mail where everything is registered to 'Holly Jayde'. The only thing that has my real name on it is my paychecks through SM, EdenFantasys online sex toy store, etc.
I don't think that is dishonest. I think that is smart. If you met someone in a chatroom online you wouldn't tell them what street you live on right?
I am worried about safety. I think everyone is. It is not really bad to be worried about privacy and safety.
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SupaByoch
Ehh, I wouldn't go so far as to say our customers aren't normal - they're just horny guys and that doesn't mean they're abnormal. But ya, I'm not giving anyone the chance to fuck me over if I can help it. I take enough risk by being as public as I am. I'm taking as much precaution as I can.
Maybe I sound like a bitch but no, they're definitely not "normal" guys if they are paying to see us perform for them, even less so if they keep coming back for more. Sure there are the odd few guys that are holed up on oil rigs and what not, and there are also some who have a genuine fetish they cannot share with anyone else, but those are the minority. We have created a culture of online stalkers who are obsessed with us and return time after time for their "fix". These are the guys who dream about us, fantasise that we will one day meet, that they can save us, we can have a relationship etc etc. The horny guys usually just go watch free porn they can find anywhere. No, the ones paying us who don't fall into the above categories, are definitely... how can i put this... NOT people i would wish to meet in every day life.
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MrsHollyDDD
This is an interesting post...
When other cam girls ask me for advice on starting up camming one thing I always point out is that you need to make up your mind from day 1 if camming is a secret or if camming is your job.
After I got my first paycheck from Streamate, I decided the money was good enough for it to be my job. I was honest with my customers from the get go that I wasn't married, I was single, I lived in California and if they asked where I said the Central Coast but I am moving. I honestly live in the Central Valley but have a house at the coast and was thinking about moving there full time but that is none of their business. I told my boyfriend (of the time) told my family and that was good enough for me. Everyone is supportive and I am a very lucky girl.
I don't go by my real name. I don't have my phone posted to the site. I use audio in my video and if you want to talk to me you have to do a cam2cam with audio with me. Even the e-mail address that I use is a secondary e-mail where everything is registered to 'Holly Jayde'. The only thing that has my real name on it is my paychecks through SM, EdenFantasys online sex toy store, etc.
I don't think that is dishonest. I think that is smart. If you met someone in a chatroom online you wouldn't tell them what street you live on right?
Now I am moving my way into mainstream porn videos through different sites and setting up shoots and all that fun stuff. For my own safety and for work purposes, I am moving to LA. I will be honest with my customers that I live in LA. My building has 24/7 security, a doorman, 24/7 vallet car service, etc. So I feel safe living there. If customers want to meet me then they can meet me at a club appearance or something. I am fine with that. But no one will be following me home.
I am worried about safety. I think everyone is. It is not really bad to be worried about privacy and safety.
For instance; celebrities have it known where they live because everyone wants to know where they live which is why they all live in gated neighborhoods AND have gated homes. It's like 'sure I live at 123 boulevard street, but you won't be able to get in my house!'
If you are going to be honest just make sure you have good security and a can of pepper spray.
I can't believe anyone would be crazy enough to post where they live. Being a cam host with sexually oriented content is not like being an actress or the usual type of celebrity. Any time sex is involved men get obsessed and crazy.
"Honest" really seems like the completely wrong word to use there. I would not call that being honest. I would call that being stupid.
To me that's like saying you aren't "honest" because you didn't post your social security number and your credit card number and pin for anyone to see. Any guy who tries to accuse a host of not being "honest" is up to something bad.
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I just give regulars "fake" real info. Its like dancing. When they ask about the "real" me, I give them my fake "real" story & info.
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MrsHollyDDD
I am worried about safety. I think everyone is. It is not really bad to be worried about privacy and safety.
For instance; celebrities have it known where they live because everyone wants to know where they live which is why they all live in gated neighborhoods AND have gated homes. It's like 'sure I live at 123 boulevard street, but you won't be able to get in my house!'
Agreed! Honestly, I don't trust anyone at all. I'm forever going to live in place where, if you know where I live, there's still no way in hell you're going to find a way in. I need at least 3 doors into my actual apartment before I feel safe. /paranoia lol
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I had a regular escort client for over four years. He was my big spender. I would see him once a week or every two weeks, and he would always mail gifts to my mailbox under the "name I used". He bought me jewlery, clothes, and whatever I wanted. I thought we had a great relationship. I made the mistake of trusting him and giving him my real name. He came to my house, and placed lawn ornaments outside, and later hinted at what type of home I lived in and I knew it was him. He followed me and always knew where I was, he would text several times a day and call me. He also piggybacked on my computer (which is why I am very weary of giving my email address out, and only use a prepaid phone for clients. He invaded my privacy, and I cut off all contact with him, and will turn him in if he continues to stalk me. This is why I will never trust a client again.
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I feel the need to contribute to this thread because of something that happened to me.
I had a big tipper. A really nice guy to be honest, was in the military of some sort, and bought me many gifts off amazon even. I had a p.o.box but it still said my general city area because I don't have the means to go far to get packages and drag them back home. I ended up trusting him with my real name after 8 months. Worst. Mistake. Ever. He found my facebook, he found my phone number, he found my address, he stalked and sent creepy things to my house. He got mad when I told him I didn't want to date him when he got back to the states (i'm across the freaking border) and I really tried to lay down the law softly. He threatened me, went crazy and said we loved each other. And in the end he posted pictures of me on sites with my REAL name and info. It was a nightmare.
I ended up moving, using an alternate way of my name on a new facebook, and in a fucked up way not having any family has saved me some grief of them finding out. But still, I don't trust anyone online. ever. I'm grateful I wasn't as well known when this all happened, but to this day I still get a tad paranoid it'll come back to haunt me.
Making money is one point the op brought up (sorry ik this thread is resurrected from however long ago), but $ is NOT worth your safety and privacy. People may seem one thing online, and be completely obsessive in real life. They can lose themselves in this fantasy idea they've come to believe is true. Not to mention when they feel close to you, I don't know about all situations, but my tipper stopped tipping because we were more then just a business transaction. :O This isn't to say all guys are like this, in fact I'm betting most aren't. But how are we to know which ones are and aren't? All it takes is one guy with too much info to bring this whole thing tumbling down on you.
Sorry for the long post, just nowadays, I give no info out. I have a fake 'real' name, but that's literally it. I dont give out an amazon wishlist, twitter, skype or anything besides the site I cam on. It may seem a bit paranoid, but honestly I like it that way, I feel safer and I tell the guys straight up I like my privacy. Sure I may lose a couple custies for not feeling 'real' enough or whatever, but my regulars respect my decisions and would rather me feel safe to have fun online then worrying about who's arranging to walk by house >.<
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i hope you are careful...i see the merit on some things you say tho but please just be cautious
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laurielegs
I can't believe anyone would be crazy enough to post where they live. Being a cam host with sexually oriented content is not like being an actress or the usual type of celebrity. Any time sex is involved men get obsessed and crazy.
"Honest" really seems like the completely wrong word to use there. I would not call that being honest. I would call that being stupid.
To me that's like saying you aren't "honest" because you didn't post your social security number and your credit card number and pin for anyone to see. Any guy who tries to accuse a host of not being "honest" is up to something bad.
she makes an incredible point...ty