how long do u let a guy stay in fee chat before kicking him out?!
i find it so rude when u say hello, how ru and they dnt reply! just sit in your room!
do you allow them to carry on sitting there or do they get booted!?
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how long do u let a guy stay in fee chat before kicking him out?!
i find it so rude when u say hello, how ru and they dnt reply! just sit in your room!
do you allow them to carry on sitting there or do they get booted!?
I can't stand it either. I will say hi how are you a few times, and if they don't respond, I kick them out. Sometimes they come back, and say "Hi I was on the phone, sorry I didn't respond"
I agree that it's rude. What, you can sit there and whack off looking at my body but you can't bother to say hello?
I say hello when they come in, I wait a few minutes, then I type "hello?" (some don't have sound, and some don't speak English, but should respond in some way to a typed remark/question). If they don't answer after I've typed, I kick them out. If they come back right away, I wait a minute and if they still haven't said anything, I ban them for a few days. I have list of people to unblock after a few days.
If they come around after they've been unblocked and do it again, I tell them not to "squat" in my free room. Be polite or be banned again.
I say "they" because there is usually more than one in my room at a time.
THANKS so much Blond, for this thread, & also to lovely ladies that responed!
Also, it's aggravating to have guys come in & out, so I stop my show every so often to clear screen, sometimes I refresh.
I like to have it nice & clear.
Oop *slight thrdjk*
I haven't been booting too much, but I am now, wtf as busty/camj said. Sometimes I stop my show, start again, & they come right back in w/their shit!
hehe thank you girls!
yeh i kinda do the same thing, they get kicked and then when they come back in, all of a sudden they say hello! lmao! idiots!
glad its not just me that gets annoyed!
^ That's funny. One day all the guys were just sitting there begging or just being weird stalker-types not saying anything, so I said, "Ok, I'm going to stop my stream for a minute and get rid of all the beggars and freeloaders. Maybe I'll get some real men in my room when I turn it back on." Haha.
I ignore them and let them carry on. If I'm in a good mood i'll be chatty and say hi but generally i don't expend the energy unless they come to me. I don't mind them sitting there. After a few mins generally they will bugger off or take me private :)
this used to bother me so much..but not really anymore
i would much rather them sit there and say nothing than begging me to show my ass :P
and a lot of times i will say hi how r u to someone and they dont answer back but then a few minutes later they take me pvt.
The quiet ones tend to be the ones that go prvt with me, it annoys me when they lurk but I won't kick them because of that. The guys that are chatty in free chat never go private with me they just wanna bug me with questions and lame jokes
I actually like the quiet ones too, if I'm comparing them to the ones that make endless requests and ask me all about what I'm willing to do so they can get off on the answers. However, if I say hello a couple/few times and they completely ignore me and then come back and do it again, I think that's really rude.
I know it's possible that there are some spenders that I'm losing that way, and I know that for everyone it's different. But... for me, I get weirded out by that. I know that I'm not the ideal cam girl and don't have the ideal money-making mentality. I know I could make a lot more money if I was willing to be more patient. I think the fact that I have been in a different profession for so long and plan to go back to it in a few months has made me a lot less patient because I'm not used to the disrespect. I'm used to being an authority figure. So... I guess that explains a lot about why I choose to kick guys out if I feel like they're being disrespectful. Probably why I don't tolerate being called "bitch, slut, whore, dirty slut, dirty whore, fuck slut, cum whore," etc. Just my own hang-up. Surprisingly, despite being somewhat of a feminist, I admire girls who can tolerate all that in order to make money... if that's what they're choosing to do and not being forced to do it by someone.
When I cammed, I didn't say hi to anyone unless they said hi to me first. I didn't mind the quiet ones. I only kicked out beggars throwing out requests and guys who were rude.
I'm on AW, and yes I hate it when they don't respond but equally I hate the ones that reel of questions or try and enter into dirty convo's. Now I have set a time restriction on Freeview, 5 minutes, they automatically get kicked and can't come back for 24 hrs! Persistant offenders who come back day after day with no shows eventually get banned by me. I used to kick out the silent ones but was taught a valuable lesson when one guy I kicked out emailed me and told me he didn't respond cos he was busy topping up his credits to go pvt with me but wouldn't bother as I kicked him out and he thought that was rude! lol
Sometimes I know they are reading my profile at the same time as looking at my cam and I've also had the 'sorry the phone rang' story, and don't forget, during work hours they might be in an office and have to minimise the screen/sound. Don't forget the newbies, never used the site before and just looking around to see how it works, they might also be a bit shy/nervous of making convo maybe thinking they might get charged just for that. A little patience can payoff:).
I ignore them if it's in free chat unless they are begging hard or being rude. If they come in to paid premium chat though and don't say anything after I say hello a few times, yes, I'll kick them out if they never reply back. Some are fiddling with cams trying to get those to work so I at least give them a chance.
^ Interesting. I've had many many guys who never say anything during a show. Those are my favorites. I mean, it's nice when they are polite and say hello, but I've had guys who did 20 or 25 minute shows and never said anything. One time I started to worry that maybe the guy had fallen asleep or passed out drunk and I started to feel guilty. Then I though, wtf, it's not my credit card, I'll just keep going. The guys thanked me at the end of the show, left, and I got paid. I don't care if they don't talk as long as they're paying. It really bothers me when it happens in free chat because I guess I have this image in my mind of some loser jerking off while watching me in free chat, ignoring me, just hoping he can get off before I kick him out or someone else takes me into private. Maybe my overactive imagination is an issue :)
It's interesting how different we all are from one another. We all interpret things in different ways, have different experiences with life and with the sites that color our interpretations and reactions to comments and situations. And we all have different preferences. I did a solo show the other day and the guy told me to spit on my tits. I ignored him for a minute and then he repeated himself. I finally told him I wasn't going to do that, and my husband couldn't believe I did that b/c he couldn't knew the guy would leave the show and that I probably wouldn't see that guy again. But, at that moment, I was imagining someone spitting on a person lying on a sidewalk. I always associated spitting on someone as a demeaning act, and I'm just not into feeling degraded. But you ladies who tolerate that or even enjoy the acting, more power to you.
I think our differences make this site really neat and useful. There have been so many times when I thought, "I wouldn't have thought of it that way." I will think of the things you ladies said before I kick someone out now.
Let me rephrase...
If it's just me and ONE guest in private, I simply want an acknowledgement that they are there, that they can hear me, and what they would like to see..After that, they don't have to say a thing. As CamModelJess said, might as well make something off them; however, I like to check first to see if they are having tech problems and if they want to come back. We just have to make a judgement call on those.
Now when I'm in group and I"m busy with the first guy who came in ( first come, first serve in my Premium chat), most are pulling the "30 second peeper" bit, but sometimes I'll get one who just wants to quietly watch the show in progress...so he's welcome to stay. I do try to catch the repeat peeper offenders. I've got my eye on one who sometimes takes me private, will pitch in for a gold show, but he loves to peep on my Premium shows... I already asked him not to do that because everytime he jumps in, it's distracting. He isn't a big spender, so if he starts that crap again, he will get booted.
yersterday;'s situation on SM
him: I just came for free... and ur in free chat! ha
me: more power to u, u and half the world does
him: oh so its not upsetting u
me: i have other things to worry about, like talking to the nice people in here
him: weird, I got banned for telling other girls this same thing
me: oh, well I' m not gonna ban u for it
him: nice.. ur nice.... does ur mom and dad know ur doing this
me: ok now ur getting banned
him : ha! thats annoying huh..
me: * clicking the ban button*