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Boyfriends who come into the club and think they don't have to tip....
I'm on a roll tonight!
So on Saturday night I was walking the floor for tips and this guy says, 'nah I'm not tippin' my girl works here.'
I don't get this, I do not give a fuck if you have a girl, if she works here, or that you think you're some kind of VIP. Why do guys do this shit? At my old club there would be guys who just sit by the DJ booth and not tip. It ended up being an area that I hardly went to for tips or I watched carefully before going over there. I think those were some girls' pimps.
I just don't think this is right, I don't see how guy dating stripper = some sort of special status in the club.
I went to the DJ and asked him if there was a drink requirement or tipping requirement. He said there was so I pointed out the jerk who thought he was something special.
I know that at my old club the day shift manager would not tolerate that shit. He did not want anyone's boyfriends in the club, if he realized someones boyfriend was in the club he would make him buy a drink for him (for the manager) and tip all the girls, or they could leave.
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Boyfriends and husbands should not be in the club.. period! So irritating because youre right they all think they have some special status and Ive known many who end up killing the vibe for even girls theyre not with... customers pick up on that!
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enh, that guy sounds like an asshole...I think it depends a lot on the nature of the club you work at, and why the boyfriend is at the club. If he's just hanging out all night taking in the sights, of course he should tip, but if he just popped in to pick up his gf or drop something off, I think it's fine if he doesn't tip. Maybe I'm biased because my bf often pops in for the last fifteen minutes of my shift when he picks me up, especially if I had a terrible night. I just don't think it's fair to expect a guy to tip if he's only there as a favour to his lady, not there of his own accord. And how is it really different from all the guys who say "we just came in to grab a beer and watch the show" Some dudes have no manners and just do not want to give the strippers money. It's annoying, but inevitable.
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My bf will come in when I'm working. He goes on nights I'm not working too. Tips, has fun, buys drinks etc... all the girls love him. I'd be incredibly embarrassed if he came in and said something like that. He knows it's a job. He respects that. Sounds like these guys need to learn that.
Now if bf is code for pimp, that's something else entirely.
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I've never gotten this before, but that would be really annoying. At my old club the waitress' boyfriend used to come in, but he would always tip on stage.
I can't drive right now so my boyfriend often takes me to work and hangs out at another club for me to get off.... and I would be so pissed if I found out he wasn't at least tipping the stage. In reality he always spends money (sometimes a little too much lol). But as a dancer I just wouldn't be happy knowing my boyfriend was out being one of those lame ass cheapo customers.
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This is why many clubs I worked had a rule that SO's couldn't come in unless they were picking up or dropping off someone.
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exactly!
bf's or so's do not belong in clubs unless theyre outside to pick you up and only when the valet tells them they can drive to the door!
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Kellydancer
This is why many clubs I worked had a rule that SO's couldn't come in unless they were picking up or dropping off someone.
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My bf would come in and blow almost 1000 when we first started dating 600 on me and the rest in drinks and tips for the girls and some select patrons. Management tried to kick him out once because I was spending all my time with him (like I'm really going get groped for twenty bucks by some idiot when I can get 600 just to hangout) untold I brought to his attention just how much my bf was spending (and just how many girls were sitting in the dressing room bitching about a shitty night) management shut up real quick.
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This happens where I work as well. It really annoy me when they sit or stand near the stage and won't tip until their girlfriend comes on stage. What gets me even more is when the dancer/gf is standing or sitting there with them near the stage, staring at me, and not tipping.
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Mine comes in, collects me and leaves. But that's on the rare occasions when he drops me off.
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What gets me is when I mistakenly hustle them for dances.
I sat with a guy for 5 minutes once not knowing his gf was there working. I asked him (after chit chatting and trivial things like the weather and news) "so what brings you here tonight?" and got the response "oh my girlfriend Marla works here". A minute later she walks over and says, "oh I see you met my boy". She was friendly and cool about it, but I felt way too awkward.
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If the guy is there to pick her up at the end of her shift, that's one thing. But sitting there all night, not tipping is retarded and disrespectful. Why are they even there? Unless their gf is sitting with them all night, and they're paying her to sit with them all night, I don't understand why they're in the club in the first place. If you're not getting dances from your gf, you're watching other dances. You need to tip. And if you're not watching other dancers, and not with your gf, why the hell are you there? My bf only came in once, and he was told to tip every dancer that came around and asked. I wasn't going to stand for him thinking he didn't have to.
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I think its weird when they come and hang out with their gfs all night. I see some girls bring there bfs in...and will just sit with them the whole time they are not on stage. and the guys dont tip. ITS RUDE. and I think that unless the guy is meeting the drink requirement...tipping the girls...and tipping the damn bartender...then they dont belong. BFs do NOT deserve special treatment
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I never said anything about guys dropping off/picking up their girls. I'm talking about them sitting there for hours without tipping. Fuck them.
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OJenni!
What gets me is when I mistakenly hustle them for dances.
See this I don't get. He's a guy ITC. Of course I'd ask about dances. I fully expect my bf to be asked. I don't get the girls that get pissed over this either. If my bf is ITC he's a wallet like anyone else.
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My last club had a rule about no boyfriends being allowed in the club, but it wasn't really enforced. There ended up being a lot of fights...one dancer's boyfriend would approach a second dancer and buy lapdances, and then the first dancer would start a fight with her because, "That's MY man!" And then she would start screaming at her boyfriend in the club... this happened more than a few times, and it usually ended up weirding out all the other customers and they would leave.
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If a dancer brings her SO to the club and he/she doesn't tip, I don't care. I mean, I wouldn't like if my SO comes when I'm working to do that.
However, if I'm off I'd take him to the club...but we'll be tipping the dancers together. I even tell him which dancers I find attractive and we'll get a dance from her simultaneously.
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I remember this guy coming in because " he traveled up with one of the dancers " . He was not tipping so I informed him that there were other bars in the little town / that there was a bowling alley / a movie theatre / and plenty of other places he could go to kill 8 hours if he didn't feel like tipping. I still remember this particular guy though! He wasn't even there a lot. I remember "enabling " he cheapness because I was getting drunk and my customer loves to take me up to sit stage side and tip the girls before he gets his dances from me . The guy joined us up there and somehow I agreed to it ! Once I sobered up in the morning, I was like " OMG, I LET that cheap moron come up and sit next to us onstage " . I was horrified at myself. I think I got my point across though because despite my one friendly blip when I was buzzed, he stayed Cllleeaarr of me and stayed in the corner furthest from the stage after I gave him a talking to.
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I've always call my hubby in on slow nights about once a month when I am doing ok and the other girls aren't and I dont feel like being there any more and we just turn the rest of the night into a get dances and every one in the club party on us night. It lets me blow of steam and feel like I still get a party night even though I am always working on fridays and saturdays and can't go out and it lets the other girls still make money. I don't see and issue with that sort of thing, though I do REALLY hate the awkward "hey baby wanna go in the back and have some fun" *rubbing dudes arm* oh, hey thats you baby daddy and now your all pissy WTF
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sorry, y'all, but i think inviting a bf in the club is just a recipe for drama.
he could not spend anything, but then he will seem like a cheapo taking up space. and we all hate that.
he could spend, but that may make your jealous if he goes for another girl. or you may become resentful because he is spending while you bust your ass.
his presence could make you uncomfortable to work, meaning less $$$ for you.
he could cause drama.
i think this can become a safety issue as well. you really never know what custy may become obsessed with you. he may get jealous and try and cause harm to your bf or you.
really, it's just not worth the bs to me.
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Basically a boyfriend coming into the club and not tipping is like him saying "even though my girlfriend relies on tips to make her living I still have no respect for this way of making a living."
This just wouldn't fly in any other setting. Imagine my boyfriend came into my vanilla day job (waitressing) ordered some food from a different waitress and then paid for his bill without tipping because "he's just there to see his girlfriend"? Umm, hell to the no! He better be tipping that waitress top dollar!
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I can't stand guys like that! Its too bad clubs don't enforce the rules against boyfriends and husbands in the club.
A customer from one club liked me enough to come visit me at the next club I worked at. I would have been fine with this had he continued to buy dances from me and/or tip me on stage. I kicked him to the curb real fast when he began bringing along his co-workers and they'd only tip my co-workers and not tip me a thing.
Its not like I ever went out with the customer but WTF????
Now when it comes to boyfriends and husbands in the club, I don't feel they should be allowed at all. Call me a hypocrite but while I dance for a living, I don't want a scantly clad girl sitting on my husband's lap. Therefore, he is to keep his ass out of the club!
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I tell whomever I'm in a serious relationship with that they are only allowed in my club if they:
Bring rich friends that tip and buy dances from me and my friends
bring me dinner/housekeys/babywipes/hairspray ect and leave promptly
are picking me up to take me home
Boy/girlfriends or husbands or whatever are allowed where I currently work, but I prefer if mine just don't. I have become friends with the few of the girl's husbands just by them being there ALL THE TIME and they are a perfect in between customer drink dispenser.
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i worked at a divey alcohol serving bikini bar place and boyfriends came in a lot to hang out, play pool, keep us company on shitty nights...it was never an issue and kind of an unspoken rule that you just don't expect tips or dances from a chick's boyfriend, but if they do then bonus. but this place was tiny, only 8-12 dancers a night and everyone knew everything that was going on...
at the place i currently work (nude, no alcohol, not a party atmosphere) i feel it would be more awkward. i wouldn't want my guy to hang out there.
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I just hate on any1 that walks into the club & thinks it's a free show for them. That includes boyfriends, gfs, drug dealers, pimps, friends of bartenders & bouncers, the owners spoiled brats, females, male strippers, freaking Elvis could come back from the dead & show up at my club I'll still be there asking for my tip & expecting it .
Pretty much i don't care who they are or why they feel they should not be tipping strippers when at a stripper club, but it's rude lame cheap which is how I'm going to treat them if they insult me with some nonsense about how they can walk in there & look, but not hand over any money. Please stay outside if that is the case, cuz I don't want to see you in there if your not paying my bills. As simple as that, but no a lot of people come in acting like they are special VIPs when I just see them as Cheap SOBs.
Any gf or friend of mine that ever walked in the club bought tip money, bought a drink, was polite to every1, & offered to go on a food run 4 us if I so much as mentioned being hungry. Why becuz I have my people trained where they are going to be extra good to the staff & act right as customer even better becuz they are some1 special to be or they can just wait till I get off work & see me outside. I don't even want to know cheap SOBs in the club yet along associate with them after.
My not so recent fling w/ my coworker ended & during 1 of out fights she had the nerve to bring her bf at the time 2 the club. Anyhow the guy was a drug dealer scumbag jailbird loser reject that would come in like dating her & being a dealer made him special smelling like pot & like he doesn't ever shower as he surely never bothers to shave. Anyhow not only does he not tip any1, but knowing the drama between her & I you would think he would keep his distance & just be there 4 her. Nope asshole would just creep me out checking me out like as if it turned him on that I had been with her. Like as if that meant he had a chance at a 3way. I was just so grossed out & she would try to make me jealous of him being all over him. Seriously I was annoyed, but most of all that he is her bf staring, not tipping, & just being the SOBs creep that he is.
My gfs never came in & drooled over other girls, they tipped everyone, & even though my bosses would offer them jobs & sexually harass them they were never there for more then 5 mins to pick me up & take me out after or run an errand like drop off a pair of shoes for me when my heel broke.
In my club no bfs or gfs are supposed to be there hanging out, but no1 really pays attention on nightshift & my gfs were always an exception cuz my bosses always like my gfs & try to get them to work there. Still I don't personally care just tip & be respectful to the fact we are working there. I don't want to know who's dating who & if you make it my business you better act extra polite with me on top of tipping me.
If a girl has a SOB cheap bf that wants to drool over me well that only reflects poorly on those girls that will put up w/ those kinda guys.