Boyfriend's ex posted on facebook that I'm a stripper
My boyfriend was confronted by his best friend today about my stripping. Apparently his psycho ex posted a somewhat vague (but not really, since his friends put 2 and 2 together) facebook status about me being a stripper.
I'm not really sure yet who told her, but I have some suspicion (that's another problem, obviously someone who I thought I could trust turned out to be a blabbermouth).
I don't mind telling certain people about me being a stripper, but I want to be able to choose who I tell and when I tell. And now all his friends, possibly some of his family, and 500 other strangers know.
She has since deleted the status, because my boyfriend couldn't find it anywhere on her facebook.
I need advice on how we should handle this situation. Ignore her? Confront her? Should he block her on facebook? We don't want to stir up more drama but we are also very pissed off at her. They broke up a year ago, he basically ignores her, and he avoids her as much as possible. It's like, seriously, get a life, bitch.
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Ignore and delete her from fb.
Re: Boyfriend's ex posted on facebook that I'm a stripper
I personally would make sure that somebody in your trusted circle keeps their "fb friendship" with this girl in case she decides to post anything else nasty in the near future. You can report posts that are injurious to you and have them removed rather than waiting for the girl to remove them herself - hell, nothing on facebook is ever truly deleted and if this comes to affect your life dramatically with a bunch of people knowing, you could even sue her for public disclosure of private facts. (No, no, not saying that you should get sue-happy - but maybe somebody should clue the ex in on the fact that you very well could if she insists on making these kinds of claims on fb). Even if you would never do it (and I honestly wouldn't waste the time and energy on a relatively weak case), it wouldn't hurt to scare her by letting her know it's possible if she doesn't keep her big mouth shut on the internet. But I would only say anything like that if she pulls something like this again... in the meantime, the status is already gone.... maybe. Have your bf's friend who originally saw it check - it's possible that this girl just blocked your bf from seeing this particular status (which is totally possible to do - I do it all the time). If it's not gone, have him report it. But if it is gone, I think the only thing you should focus on in the moment is damage control.
Have your bf talk to people who may have seen it who you wouldn't want to have seen it. (I would narrow it down to family and close friends you don't want to know). Decipher if they read it, and have him do a little white-lying by saying that "so-and-so psycho bitch ex has been causing trouble lately and wanting to hurt you" and he's heard that she's posted some nasty things about you, and if they see anything like that they should ignore it because she's just trying to mess with your rep out of jealousy. Then he should ask them all to just delete and block her off facebook (he can offer to show them how) because it makes him uncomfortable that they're still in touch with this ex that is actively interfering in his life and who he would like to cut all ties with. Once all his family, and hopefully his close friends, are cut off from the girl, then he can delete and block her as well, and I wouldn't worry about her otherwise.
Then confront the person who told her, ask them why the hell they would do that, and if they can't provide a proper explanation as to why they would tell your bf's psycho bitch ex about you being a stripper, dump them as a "friend."
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Ignore her. Who gives a fuck. He's dating you not her. So she's being a jealous, hateful bitch. Be the better person. Your job doesn't define you hon. Your actions do.
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JayATee
Ignore her. Who gives a fuck. He's dating you not her. So she's being a jealous, hateful bitch. Be the better person. Your job doesn't define you hon. Your actions do.
This is so true. When shit like this happens, all you have to do is do nothing. Seriously, let her dig her little hole, and the deeper she digs the worse she looks. When you just serenely go on with your life and refuse to acknowledge it, it makes her look like an obsessive bitch.
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Why not just deny it & then ignore her. Just let it seem like she's making up lies cuz she's still into him. & then ignoring her will only make it seem more believable that she's making it up, right....
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Brandi_Lynn
Why not just deny it & then ignore her. Just let it seem like she's making up lies cuz she's still into him. & then ignoring her will only make it seem more believable that she's making it up, right....
This is a fantastic idea, two thumbs up lol