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Don't worry
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Yes. It's called polyamory.
How do you know its infatuation? Love has to grow from something new doesn't it? It might not be an old love but it can still be strong at an early stage. I definitely love my husband the same now as I did the first month we got together. Only now I probably like him less sometimes :D
I think it is totally possible but unfortunately it will probably fuck with your head and emotions because it goes against everything we are taught.
I think it's entirely possible, but unless you all go in with some sort of understanding about a "different" sort of relationship, then you have to choose one of the two. It's not fair to either of them that you are not committing to one or the other.
For some people, I believe it is. I'm in love with two people right now actually... neither of which is my husband. Yeah.
one i feel i love because of the time weve had together.
the other i feel i love because of how we are together.
its a head fuck
Yes. This is possible . I've been there. I have different "loves" currently. One is my ex M that I was with for 7-8 years total ( most in a relationship, some as a friendship ). He is the person that if either on us got sick of needing something .... the other would basically stop their life and help. One is D ( the person I had a super passionate things going with for 4 months earlier this year ) . One is my almost boyfriend J ( he is newest but it's the most "real" relationship is terms of time spent together ect. ). I always faced issues throughout my 20's because I though I was not capable of falling in love. Then I realized .... I have love. It just looks a little different than many peoples vision of it.
So .... what is sound like you may have is a very strong emotional bond with the person you've been with . The new person is that starting passion / intense sexy feelings ect. but it doesn't mean that it's emotionally hollow with the new person.
The question is ....... what do these man want and expect from you ? You have to most honestly and ethically in these situations or it can be very hurtful to the people involved.
If it's a relationship that doesn't have a physical spark .... you can move this into a strong friendship type of thing. M and I did this. After 7-8 years total, we are still good friends. We see each other still , co-parent a dog, and sometimes travel together.
Yes. Humans are not naturally monogamous.
If you are confused, maybe you should take some time and space from both of them to give yourself a chance to figure out your feelings.
i don't belive so, i am in love with my husband, i think about him all the time, i love everything about him, everything he says, everything he does, when i am apart from him i miss him, when he is asleep i miss him, he owns my whole heart and i can't imagine being able to love two people that much at the same time, i would never be able to devote myself to two people, i would never be able to re marry as no one else would ever be as good ever, i always believed no one was perfect until i met Qiang.
just because you been with someone so long doesnt mean its "true love" and thats what you have to settle down with.
of course you love the one you been with for so long, its your best friend you appreciate and cherish the time youve been together.
i think its more important to love someone because of HOW you are together. in the present. the other person made you the lover you are right now, maybe its time to move on.
i love my ex boyfriend- weve been together for 5 years. he helped me learn how to love and other life lessons, however he is not the one. he helped me prepare for the one.
and to answer your question, yes its possible.
Yes, it's possible. There's the love that comes with knowing someone completely. You know what they're going to do/say before they do it. You finish eachothers sentences. It doesn't matter what's going on or where you are, you can call them and they will know exactly how you feel and laugh with you, or know exactly what to say to make it better. You can't see your life without them in it (in whatever capacity).
Then there is the love that comes with discovery. Discovery of a new person. Discovery you can know someone else. Discovery that the someone else can give you something you never thought you wanted or needed in another person. The discovery of that same want and desire...
Just be careful you're not loving in the past while ignoring the love in the present.