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For the first time I'M feeling guilty!!!
Hey girls. I know you all are the only people who will understand me now. So I have this regular who did 60min exclusive block sesions 2-3 times every week for the last 6months. Most of the time it wasn't even naked sesions, we would just talk on the phone. Today he started telling me how it is time for us to "huck up" (I have never given him any reason to think it is posible), he started going on and on how I ruined his life as he was spending his mortgage money on me, how his house is now in foreclosure and how his wife just left him because of it and how I owe him a good fuck... Some one please tell me it is not my foult that this is happening to him... I know it isn't, but why do I feel so guilty about it? I don't even care I will lose the income from him- bye bye easy $300 a week
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ladyjalyn
Hey girls. I know you all are the only people who will understand me now. So I have this regular who did 60min exclusive block sesions 2-3 times every week for the last 6months. Most of the time it wasn't even naked sesions, we would just talk on the phone. Today he started telling me how it is time for us to "huck up" (I have never given him any reason to think it is posible), he started going on and on how I ruined his life as he was spending his mortgage money on me, how his house is now in foreclosure and how his wife just left him because of it and how I owe him a good fuck... Some one please tell me it is not my foult that this is happening to him... I know it isn't, but why do I feel so guilty about it? I don't even care I will lose the income from him- bye bye easy $300 a week
You feel guilty because he is trying really hard to manipulate you into doing something you don't want to do. You justify the guilt by the amounts of money he's spending on you.
What to do: Be a bitch. Pretend like you don't care about him or his money. Tell him its your way or no way, and that you'll ban him and never speak to him again until he shuts up.
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Um, you shouldn't feel guilty at all? He spent his money willingly, knowing that he may or may not have all this other shit he should have been taking care of, given that his sob story is even true. If it is, then boohoo, but he's an irresponsible asshole, who is manipulative on top of that. I would just cut him off entirely rather than let him see he's getting to you.
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Um... well. I would ask him directly WHY he thought we were going to "huck up". At what point did I specifically say that was a definite? In fact, at what point did I make it SO definite, that he decided to apparently ruin his current life? When did I say "Drive your wife away and send me your mortgage money in exchange for 'hucking up'?" Tell me SPECIFICALLY what I said.
I've been blogging since I was 14. I've pretty much heard every creepy stalker excuse ever, at least I hope I have. Usually directly asking for proof like that sets them back, and their whining trickles down. If not, yea. Ban him. He's just a jerk. Probably nothing is even wrong in his life, he just wants a pity sex. Even if everything he said is true... Well. It just would have been some other girl. Guys like that LIKE being in trouble, I swear. I even had a guy tell me that since I wasn't going to be his girlfriend, I had to find him another girl. wtf.
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To the OP:
I edited your title and changed "girst" to "first".. It was bothering me and I got the power to change it so... lol :P
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Ups... Sorry :( thanks :)
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He just made my gilt to go away by sending me a msg :"If you want me to give you money to huck up just say so..." Lol. I am blocking him as soon as I see him in my room again. Now I just feel bad for him and his pathetic life...
Thanks girls... I am on a mission now to find next guy, whose life I can ruin (sarcasm)...
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This guy is an asshole - trying to manipulate you into feeling like you owe him something.
Sex work can have a weird level of commitment or personal obligation because sex in the real world presupposes those things. If you were in a relationship with him, and asked him for lots of money, and he gave it to you because he loved you, and then it fucked him over....you still wouldn't feel responsible, and wouldn't be responsible, but you would feel some guilt. And that would be appropriate because you were in a relationship.
The guy here is not in a relationship with you. He is paying for your services. You have rendered your services. The rest of his life is not your problem.
And lets face it, as nice as it would be to think that we are so phenomenally hypnotic and irresistable that we could personally become an actual addiction for the guy.....thats not the truth. Every time he logged in, he made a conscious decision to give you money, and you performed for that money. You owe him NOTHING except a quick ban if he doesn't start showing you a little respect for what you do.
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I wouldn't believe a word of that damned story. Even money says he is lying to try to get some free sex. Seriously I bet he has told this story a million times. Don't let yourself believe these customers when they put on the "innocent I was overwhelmed by you" act. They are trying to simultaneously blow up your ego, hey you are irresistible,right, and bring the guilt. This also makes you responsible for their actions. It is bullshit with a capital B
But let's suppose he is telling the truth, well as Gordon Gekko would say, "a fool and his money are lucky enough to get together in the first place." His financial problems are his own fault he is a grown man and if he was stupid enough to spend the mortgage money on camming his wife should leave him because he is damned fool. If he can't pay for his house, how is he paying for internet. Hmmm? So if he is telling the truth tell him you are going to help him out, because you feel bad. He is just not able to resist your siren song so as an act of kindness you will block, ban, and ignore him forever. Then do it. One monkey don't stop the show. Just like you found him, you will find another to replace him.
PS Never forget rule number 1: Customers are adults and they and they alone are responsible for their own actions, end of.
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Should salespeople feel guilty when they see someone with a shopping addiction come in their store to spend money they don't necessarily have? Should people working at a casino feel guilty that they're literally watching people throw away their lives for a gambling addiction? Should bartenders feel guilty when they see Joe Schmoe getting wasted every nite? The answer is no - because its not their responsibility to take care of someone elses finances and lives. So no, you shouldn't feel guilty because you were there, doing the job that someone paid you to do. Dude needs to man up and accept responsibility for his own financial and marital ruin, and more importantly, stop being a douchenozzle to you about it because it ain't your problem.
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what a wanker. he is probably lying anyway. he probably didnt have no wife or mortgage and if he DID then that just shows how much of a wanker he is. and if he hadnt spend his cash on u he would have spend it on something else. if he wanted a girlfriend he could have bought a bride off one of those internet bride sites for much less. tell him look honey this aint no dating site lol.
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Think of it in a business sense, nothing more, nothing less. You sometimes have to be cold but it wasn't YOUR finger pressing PAY GIRL on his end ;)
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Oh FUCK this guy!! :mad:
You have a good heart but he deserves none of your sympathy. He's probably lying through his teeth and this was probably his plan from the beginning. Who the fuck does he think he is? So what if he spent some chump change. Your time and company is so worth every penny! You don't owe him shit and he can go fuck himself with no lube if he really believes that.
Excuse all the profanity lol. It just infuriates me when guys try to take advantage of us! Unfortunately this is how it is with a lot of regs. I know when I get guys like this it'll only last for so long before they get beside themselves.
Lol @ that message. How about no amount of money in the world would make me fuck you. LOSER.
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What a manipulative fuck.
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LOL What an ass.
Honey, you don't give two shits about this guy and his problems. You aren't his therapist or his Mother. He's a grown ass adult who should have managed his money and taken care of his wife. He's probably angry at his own situation and is trying to malnipulate and take it out on you because he has no outlet.
This is business. If we all sat down and listened to everyone's sob stories and I.O.U's none of us would make any money.
Fuck him. Too bad, so sad. ::)
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Be a bitch - tell him it's not your problem.If he wants to keep talking to you then he has to keep paying,you won't meet him. And f he doesn't like it then go elsewhere.
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Thank you girls for your support!!! I am so over it, not going to respond to his msg, going to block him as soon as I see him again with no explanation. Even if he would be coming back and keep doing his block sessions- it's not worth my sanity, especially now, when I know what kind of fucker he actually is... Why is it, that these guys, after a while, keep getting so stupid with thinking that they eventually get to "hang out" with cam girls? I been camming for 2 years now, this is not the first time I had to cut someone off in order to keep my sanity in tack, but this guy topped all of them... He seemed so "normal" and cool for 6 months I just talked to him yesterday and it was all good and today was like out of nowhere- booooom!!! lol...
Now I am just thinking how many girls out there are too nice to say no to guys like him and put up with it. I don't take shit from guys, I think I have a pretty tough skin for it, but this one got to me. Just imagine how many naive girls in the camming world loose sleep over morons like him...
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He's blaming you because he can't take credit for his own actions. Face it, most of the guys that we talk to aren't "supposed" to be talking to us. A lot have wives, girlfriends, who would hate them if they knew what they were doing. Whatever. We are a fantasy. They have to learn to control themselves. If it wasn't you, he would have been spending money on another girl, or something else useless in general.
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Please dont feel guilty about this. I understand where you are coming from feeling guilty, but that is exactly what this guy is trying to accomplish. On a serious note.. If this guy really has a serious porn addiction he has to hit a bottom at some point and get help. I would (as a person) tell him this and then stop all contact with this person. if you remain in contact you are in fact enabling him...if he has this addiction that he claims.
On another note, you never know how far these guys will go to get FREE shows/meets/sympathy sex whatever from you. It does cost them alot of money to see us, and sometimes when they realize their habit must come to an end they take it out on us in any way possible. WHO REALLY KNOWS FOR A FACT WETHER THIS DUDE HAS A MORTGAGE, WIFE, PENDING DIVORCE....he could just be some loser in his ma ma's basement for all you really know who had money to spend (probably an unemployment check) but doesnt anymore.
Id say this is a classic case of good custy gone bad. Id stop all contact personally.
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You didn't FORCE him to spend the money on you, he made the decision to do it. You owe him absolutely nothing, other than what he has PAID you for. He is probably lying anyway, just to get you to sleep with him.
If a woman gets raped, it is not her fault, no matter how she dresses- it is the man's fault for ACTIVELY DECIDING to rape her. Similarly, if a man spends money HIRING a woman to do things, it is not her fault if he goes broke doing it, because HE was the one making a decision. He just wants to shift the blame of his bad decisions onto you. Don't make a bad decision just because he is a moron.
If I were you, I'd drain him dry. It's the only way he's gonna learn the consequences of his actions, anyway. He deserves it if he is that stupid, or that much of a manipulative douchebag.
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He is a fin sub. The problem with many subs is that after the initial high of being taken for their money they try to TAKE BACK. Now he feels he's entitled to you. FUCK THAT BITCH ASS LOSER!
Tell him to come back and spend more fucking money. You don't fuck married losers that spend money on other women. If he wants a whore , it's time for him to start walking the streets bent over!! Tell him he has a hole just like you do. If he wants to get his money back then that's the part that should be facing the street corner. "backside".lol
There was also a Prepaying for Pussy in the cam section not too long ago. There are dozens of guys that try this to ensure a future piece. Don't be surprised if he starts calling you a scam and harassing you.
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One of the draws for me to this line of work is having fun and being sexy with no drama or strings attached. Run from anyone online that tries to bring that stupid shit into your life (sounds like that's your plan) :) and on that off chance he's telling the truth about his personal life....I feel bad for his wife being married to that douche.
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cherryblossomsinspring
You don't fuck married losers that spend money on other women
I've used a variation of that line in the past, on-line and off...feels sooo satisfying}:D
everything else I could possibly say has been covered already, so re-read as many times as you need to while slicing this fool out of your life. You did NOTHING wrong, know that.
peace and $$$$