Experienced Eyes Please Read
Hi this is my first post.
I am intrested in dancing and I am tryin to put my best foot forward, be safe, and get hired.
I am thinking about driving to the city to work-about and hour.
I think if I get hired I should get make money okay.
Physically, I am confindent although I am differnt looking. I am 'exotic' and have piercings. However, I look put together. Not like the pulp fiction chick or anything.
Most people enjoy my company. I am an outgoing kind of person, the one making friends with the wallflower, or dancing when no one else is.
Admittedly, it's inimidating but I think once I get into the grove I will be okay.
I am concerned, however, other girls. I don't need to be everybody's best friend but I have heard some horror stories. I guess the question what is the best way to get along? Keep to myself? Does that come off wrong. I don't want my workk place to become hell. I'm mostly asking because women really hate me until they get to know me. Once we are friends they say they don't know why they didn't like me...but usually it has to do with the attention I get from men. I would imagine this would be factor in this line of work.
Thank you
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Keep to yourself, avoid talking to other girls. The nice ones will find you. And dont try to be everyones friend, just show respect.
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Keep to yourself, but be polite when other people talk to you.
If someone flips out on you for talking to their customer, just nod along and politely brush it off with an 'I didn't realize he was yours, sorry'... but otherwise you shouldn't have any issues as long as you employ common sense: don't take forever getting off stage, don't come up and chit chat with customers at the stage, things like that.
Nice girls will always start up conversations with new girls... so if someone isn't talk to you, generally safe to assume they don't WANT to.
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Keep to yourself. Be polite and try to be aware of any existing power dynamics.
Just come in and do your job, don't try to out do anyone, break any rules or step on any toes....and if someone gets angry at you, like Desuvs said, just be polite and try to brush it off as not knowing better.
I always try to remember that I am there to make money, not friends. But for the most part, the horror stories are the exceptions, not the norm, so I wouldn't get too freaked out about it before you start.
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Again- keep to yourself. dont butt into conversations and just be friendly. work the floor
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Agreed. It will be awkward at first, but just do your thing in the dressing room, get ready and hit the floor without talking to anybody. Of course be polite and pleasant if someone engages you in conversation, but otherwise stick to yourself and make money.
Eventually girls will realize that you're decent and will open up more. I've been dancing in this city for 2 years though, and I still don't have "friends" at work. Sure, I'll chat and hang out when it's dead and in the dressing room, but I'm not there to make friends. Conversely, since I don't get involved in shit I also don't have any enemies.
It makes your life much easier when you focus on working, and keep out of the drama that goes on in every club.
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Know your limits and NEVER break them for any amount of money unless you're comfortable.
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Originally Posted by
PrettyParamore
I'm mostly asking because women really hate me until they get to know me. Once we are friends they say they don't know why they didn't like me...but usually it has to do with the attention I get from men. I would imagine this would be factor in this line of work.
Brace yourself for the honest response...
Your work life will be full of women just like you - who get a lot of attention from men.
It will also be full of the women you describe - who will really hate you (because of the attention you get from men).
Sometimes the women you work with will fit both of these descriptions! You are literally their competition, and they are yours. Remember that.
Grow a tough skin.
You will meet some women who will turn into friends, but not very many.
Think of this as a job, not a friend-making adventure.
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Agreed with the comments. Be friendly but do not become friends. If you know someone is a regular don't try to take him away from another dancer. Don't try to tell another dancer how to do her job. Don't make a wave, come in, dance then leave. Oh and avoid the dressing room as much as possible because I've seen more drama there than anywhere else.
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Originally Posted by
missyqueenb
Keep to yourself, avoid talking to other girls. The nice ones will find you. And dont try to be everyones friend, just show respect.
I would say be friendly but don't be anyone's friend. And if the other girls want to be your friends there is a good chance they just want to get some dirt on you. It's a very competitive business, there really are no friends in the strip club (in my experience) but then maybe that's just life? And working in a strip club will change your perspective of life, not in a good way.
Any time you spend making friends in the club is time wasted when you could have been hustling and that is what being a stripper is about. It isn't a lifestyle, it's a very challenging job. Today I remembered how when I was working, often times on the drive home I would throw up into a paper cup (while I was driving). It's that kind of job.
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Hmmm...my first tip would be to not reveal ANY personal info to another girl, for any reason. I used to be totally open about the fact that I'm married with a child....until a girl told all of my customers about them and I lost business. DO NOT tell them how much money you made...if it's a lot, you might just get robbed in the parking lot. I can't emphasize it enough....if they ask Q's about you, your home life or your work, be as vague as possible.
It will take a while before you're accepted by them. Some are sweet as can be and will totally help you out. Since you're brand new, you should welcome advice but only if it's offered; don't ask for it. Some dancers are really hesitant to share tips and secrets. Just don't be surprised if you mostly get the cold shoulder. If someone is nice enough to help you, try not to follow her around too much...you'll be unknowingly killing her business.
Keep your things to yourself and don't touch anyone else's stuff. I once asked another girl if she thought it would be ok to use her friend's hair dryer...she said yes but her friend freaked. Strippers are very very VERY touchy about their personal belongings.
If you do get into any sort of conflict, just kinda smile, nod and apologize. Trust me, if the two of you fight, even if SHE started it, you will most likely be the one fired. Managament is always suspicious of new girls and will bequick to get rid of anyone who is involved in drama...that does NOT mean you have to tolerate being bullied; if youhave a problem, go straight to management and score yourself some points for being the grownup.
Remember, above all else, not to take anything personally....we are hesitant to bond with each other because we have to be. Sadly there are girls who will lie, cheat, steal and take advantage of anyone to get ahead of the game. Sometimes even the staff is used when they get close to girls...someone stole a bouncer's wallet at my club, with 2 grand in it. See? Some are just unpredictable and untrustworthy, and that's why everyone will look at you funny for a while. But soon enough you will be respected as long as you show respect. Good luck girl!
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As what these ladys said. Keep to yourself and do your job. Dont be like this one girl who was a B**** to everyone in the club except customers. She seemed to purposley make herself not likable. She was rude to all the dancers and even management especially when she didnt get her way. One thing I have learned is you dont want to try to become friends with these girls because sometimes it could cause a problem in the work place. Especially if you become good friends and than have a falling out. However if there are girls that talk to you or are willing to teach u stuff they know accept the help. I think most of the time most girls are unfriendly to each other is because its kinda like a competition. They all feel like when a new person comes in its just one more person they have to compete with. You have alot of beautiful girls each with their own qualities. Thats at least how my clubs were. Anywhos just worry about you and your job. And be nice as possible, even if one is rude to you keep your head up and dont let it get to you. I like to follow the saying kill them with kindness. GOOD LUCK HUN.
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Farrah_Golden
Hmmm...my first tip would be to not reveal ANY personal info to another girl, for any reason. I used to be totally open about the fact that I'm married with a child....until a girl told all of my customers about them and I lost business. DO NOT tell them how much money you made...if it's a lot, you might just get robbed in the parking lot. I can't emphasize it enough....if they ask Q's about you, your home life or your work, be as vague as possible.
It will take a while before you're accepted by them. Some are sweet as can be and will totally help you out. Since you're brand new, you should welcome advice but only if it's offered; don't ask for it. Some dancers are really hesitant to share tips and secrets. Just don't be surprised if you mostly get the cold shoulder. If someone is nice enough to help you, try not to follow her around too much...you'll be unknowingly killing her business.
Keep your things to yourself and don't touch anyone else's stuff. I once asked another girl if she thought it would be ok to use her friend's hair dryer...she said yes but her friend freaked. Strippers are very very VERY touchy about their personal belongings.
If you do get into any sort of conflict, just kinda smile, nod and apologize. Trust me, if the two of you fight, even if SHE started it, you will most likely be the one fired. Managament is always suspicious of new girls and will bequick to get rid of anyone who is involved in drama...that does NOT mean you have to tolerate being bullied; if youhave a problem, go straight to management and score yourself some points for being the grownup.
Remember, above all else, not to take anything personally....we are hesitant to bond with each other because we have to be. Sadly there are girls who will lie, cheat, steal and take advantage of anyone to get ahead of the game. Sometimes even the staff is used when they get close to girls...someone stole a bouncer's wallet at my club, with 2 grand in it. See? Some are just unpredictable and untrustworthy, and that's why everyone will look at you funny for a while. But soon enough you will be respected as long as you show respect. Good luck girl!
I once made the mistake about blabbering what I was making. Not only did the club raise house because of me, but many of the other dancers hated me. I learned never to discuss anything besides basic things like "how was your day". Once they learn more they will blab.
I've always been one of the "nicer" dancers and I often helped the new girls. Most I worked with were nasty to new dancers.