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Fetish/Domme Cam model advice needed
Hi everyone,
I am a Domme looking to explore possible Cam modeling options out there, I've never done any online Domination before- only in RL, so it's a whole new venture for me.
but I was hoping some of you with more experience might be able to point me in the right direction.
First...what sites would you say are most "Domme Friendly"?
when I say that, I mean a site that has guys who honestly understand what a Domme does, and will be happy to tip & go private for a some humiliation play...foot/shoe worship, stockings, masturbation instruction, orgasm denials....etc.
I'm not looking to do any "toy play" on myself or any heavy duty spreading of genitals (if you know what I mean)
perhaps a flash of tit...ass...etc in pvt.
Also....once a guy takes you to private, does he do a cam-to-cam type thing with the girl? is that an option?
And I guess depending on the site, multiple guys can all go private with a girl at once, right? - Just wondering how the Domme's out there handle that in pvt....I mean getting all the guys to "fall into line" in a croweded room ....so to speak.
Or do the majority of women out there on sites like Streamate & LiveJasmin end up doing toy play and oil shows...and reverting to that sort of stuff?
I guess the big question is how to strike that balance of taking requests to fulfill the client's kink.....while remaining in control of the room as the Domme.
Any advice anyone might have would be very helpful as I'm not sure how you all juggle it. I'm not looking for trade secrets, just trying to get an idea of what the fetish guys want....and how far they honestly expect a Domme to go as far as nakedness...play, etc.
Of course I know it ultimately is up to ME as far as what I'm comfortable with, but just trying to get an idea for how high the demand might be for this sort of show.
thank you !
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It's not exactly what you are looking for but Clips4Sale has a large market for fetishes and you may do well as passive income there.
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Thank you Tinsley, I'll look into the clips4sale too
Hopiing others might have some advice for me on camming too
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Amydoll19
First...what sites would you say are most "Domme Friendly"?
I'm really hoping there's a good answer for this too, since it seems to be becoming my niche. I never really set out to do it (though I do have real life experience and education, or sorts), but it seems to be something that guys want from me, and that I'm able to do quite well. It would be nice if I could have a site where that would be all that was expected of me, and I wouldn't have to switch so much.
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Originally Posted by
Amydoll19
guys who honestly understand what a Domme does, and will be happy to tip & go private for a some humiliation play...foot/shoe worship, stockings, masturbation instruction, orgasm denials....etc.
They are definitely out there, but in my experience thus far (I must admit, I'm only about three weeks into my camming career) they are intermingled with the vanilla guys and the sociopaths.
I say "sociopaths" with only the utmost affection.
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Amydoll19
Also....once a guy takes you to private, does he do a cam-to-cam type thing with the girl? is that an option?
It is an option, and it's my preferred option for fetish play. It definitely helps make it more real for me. I'm usually annoyed when the guy doesn't have a cam -even if I'm usually feeling a balance between "ugh, what a crappy cam this guy's got," and "I'm glad this guy's got a shitty cam so I can't see his ugly ass clearly."
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Originally Posted by
Amydoll19
And I guess depending on the site, multiple guys can all go private with a girl at once, right? - Just wondering how the Domme's out there handle that in pvt....I mean getting all the guys to "fall into line" in a croweded room ....so to speak.
This, I've never done. I'm not sure, but I think you might be able to opt out of group shows.
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Amydoll19
Or do the majority of women out there on sites like Streamate & LiveJasmin end up doing toy play and oil shows...and reverting to that sort of stuff?
I'm sure you could annotate somewhere in your profile or willingness settings what you will and won't do, but if there's one thing I learned quickly, it's that men with erections don't know how to read.
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Amydoll19
I guess the big question is how to strike that balance of taking requests to fulfill the client's kink.....while remaining in control of the room as the Domme.
You're always going to have some asshole out there who's going to try and take the control of the room from you, at least until you ban him. There's no real consequence for him, and lots of guys get off on it -especially once you proclaim that you are an in-control female. I'm pretty sure it gives some guys a big ol' raging hard-on to challenge that, and feel that you are getting flustered, no matter how much you're not. (Actually, I'm one-hundred percent sure that it gives some guys a literal big ol' raging hard-on.)
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Amydoll19
Of course I know it ultimately is up to ME as far as what I'm comfortable with, but just trying to get an idea for how high the demand might be for this sort of show.
The demand is definitely out there. It's just that I haven't found an enviornment in which it could be my focus, yet. Guys seek me out for it -probably because I'm the most active native English-speaking trans girl on LJ right now.
I really hope someone imparts some valuable advice to both of us, but, for now I'm actually going to go do some Googling and see what I see.
edit: Well...it seems that ImLive has quite a populated Domme category...
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AdultWork is Domme friendly, I know, Im a Domme on there :)
I do Group sessions and Private which is one on one and can do cam2cam. In Group Im never talking to more than two people at the same time, most of the time the guys realise they dont like sharing my attention and take my private.
Filling out your profile with what you will and wont do is a good start, for those who bother to read it, which will usually be the guys who will pay and obey.
Its a fine line to take their request and remain in charge, but it can be done :)
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"men with erections don't know how to read." SO fucking true...
Im like, you can type, but you cant read?! WTF?
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Oh yeah, and Clips4sale is an awesome way to bring in extra funds and clients. You can advertise your blog/website on your page and you can offer custom clip requests which will always be an earner.
Currently my C4S account pays my rent :) Camming pays for everything else! Slaves pay for luxuries :D
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I would say Niteflirt, but you do have to do your own self=promotion. For me it's been well worth it.
IMLive has a domme section, but you only get 30%. I use it off and on, most of the guys who come have at least a vague idea of their kink.
I have used Streamate a lot will ask for vanilla shows, I turn them down.
The big difference between online domination and real time for me is that you deal with a lot more novice guys who haven't a clue beyond porn and their own fantasies. Sometimes they literally know nothing. You will also get a lot of guys who are fetishists but not submissive. I don't mind these guys as long as they are respectful. I have no problem doing a foot show without domination.
I prefer if they have a cam so I can watch them, especially if it's cbt.
In the past I have avoided group shows, because I feel I can't focus, but I have some new ideas for how to change that.
Ebanned was good to me for selling used shoe, and slave assignments. I haven't done anything there in over a year though and I hear it's gotten a bit extreme. Might be worth looking into though.
I second the C4S advice, it's a great place for domme content.
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Thank you all for your input on this....
I LOVE being a Domme...and there are so many fun ways to torrment these guys online I would think, lol.
I would assume that succesful camming would be alot like stripping, it's all in the "anticipation",
the tease....to draw it out...make them drool and beg as long as possible to manuever them (and your sessions) to be as good as they can be.
I have alot of good ideas - just hopefully they're ideas that can be implemented via cam to willing
sub guys.
I may be Pm'ing some of you ladies in the future, thank you!
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I work for a site that was once a studio, and now has gone out on its own. They pay 65% of paid and there are tips and bonuses also. For some reason, we have alot of guys that like the Dom role and or like to be humiliated. It has taken me alot of years to learn how to do it, but one of my regs told me that Alt.com is a great site for this and that I have heard that before. I basically have to get into the thinking that they are less than me and treat them that way and it starts to come easy. Good luck
Cougarlicious
livecollegecamgirls.net
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Originally Posted by
Amydoll19
Thank you all for your input on this....
I LOVE being a Domme...and there are so many fun ways to torrment these guys online I would think, lol.
I would assume that succesful camming would be alot like stripping, it's all in the "anticipation",
the tease....to draw it out...make them drool and beg as long as possible to manuever them (and your sessions) to be as good as they can be.
I have alot of good ideas - just hopefully they're ideas that can be implemented via cam to willing
sub guys.
I may be Pm'ing some of you ladies in the future, thank you!
So do I! It's so much fun.
I find the easiest thing is to just ask leading questions to see what they are into. I have worked a lot of different sites and almost any of the major sites can be used for domme work. (with the exception of myfreecams, but it's entirely possible someone might crack that egg too in time).
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Originally Posted by
cougarlicious
I work for a site that was once a studio, and now has gone out on its own. They pay 65% of paid and there are tips and bonuses also. For some reason, we have alot of guys that like the Dom role and or like to be humiliated. It has taken me alot of years to learn how to do it, but one of my regs told me that Alt.com is a great site for this and that I have heard that before. I basically have to get into the thinking that they are less than me and treat them that way and it starts to come easy. Good luck
Cougarlicious
livecollegecamgirls.net
You might want to contact them right away and let them know it's down. Most of the links are broken and there are zero hosts showing when I clicked on it.
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theanks for letting me know! We are changing some software to only allow a certain amount of guests for a certain amount of time vs, having to register to see anyone. This might work..
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I agree too, i think almost all sites have some guys who may like to at least try the Dom/Sub role. I have been surprised how much I have gotten into it! I was just looking at some awesome costumes for Halloween. Are they hot!
good luck and thanks for link info!
Cougar;icious
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Thinking of camming as a Domme.
I apologize if this is the wrong place or if it has been addressed before but I have searched and there was nothing that showed up specifically addressing this.
I would love to see a thread about camming as a domme specifically, but I wanted feedback on my situation. I'll try to be as brief as possible, as everyone knows I'm a chatterbox :D
I have been camming for a month and a half now, before then I was part of the stripperweb community for about 5 months learning the ins and outs of how the camming industry works. I am the type of girl who has to feel very comfortable with my knowledge in something before I start to pursue it, this instance is no different. I have tried on a few different hats on SM, but there was this servile (servicing) attitude that was expected of me that I found hard to swallow. Some girls are SO good at being able to seduce a man, I am just not one of those girls I discovered. So I've decided to try my hat at being a domme.
I am 5'4", typically described by as anywhere from cute, adorable, beautiful, gorgeous, goddess. I want to see about embracing those upper two instead of the bottom two. I am not quite sure where to begin though. I want to be a domme because I definitely have the no-bullshit attitude, I've got an authoritative voice like a motherfucker if I want to, and I have always been interested in the fetish part of sexuality much more than the actual sex part.
#1) How do I learn more about how to do these fetishes, JOI, CEI, SPH, Cuckholding, etc. I know the basic ideas of what they are, but changing that simple idea into a drawn out dialogue is difficult because I don't know what the "average" session is like in the porn industry. Any dommes you particularly recommend?
#2) Fetish stuff is expensive, as are the clothes. What's a girl on a budget to do about gathering the odds and ends without breaking the bank? Is only red/black in or can I deviate to black/violet?
#3) I can go from a high femme girl to androgynous. I don't really fancy being the scantily clad domme. I'd want to wear hella tight leggings, a waist cincher, revealing top, heels. I can wear my short natural hair slicked back which looks awesome, or my long wigs for a girlier look. I love horsecrops. Ideas? Recommendations? I've never been a typical camgirl, I want to do something kind of different.
I adore you ladies. You have done more to improve my life and confidence more than you'll ever know. Time to embrace that confidence and make bitches pay me for it. :P
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Disclaimer: I'm about to make a sweeping, broad generalization. But in my experience it seems like a disproportionately large majority of submissives who frequent cam sites are needy, bullshit time wasters who want something for nothing. If you want to go this route I would suggest making some lite fetish vids (i.e. smoking, stockings, feet) and putting them up on Clips4Sale or whatever to see how/what works for you initially.
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A) Fetlife is good for learning about fetish. I recommend The Mistress Manual, Female Domination (Elise Sutton), and the New Topping Book, as books, and try reading some of that RIDICULOUS 'erotica' that men write. Take notes about the stupid dialogue. B) Yeah, guys love the black/purple combo a lot too. Wearing nice clothes and black lingerie works well too. I'm a personal online shopper so I can help you find what you need as you need it. You'd be surprised what you can get away with not having. C) Either of the looks you listed can work well! Manbitches love corsets and leggings and cleavage. I'd play around and take pictures of the different looks you can come up with that you like, and then put the things for those outfits closer together so you can change at whim.
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Youre awesome. Are there camming sites you would recommend because I am, like TCH said above, concerned about it being unlucrative. I have background as an addictions counselor, have a background in social work, and have the general "been through some shit" thing a lot of girls around here have. I was always the girl no one wanted to make mad. I actually think I may like making clips but I would love to see videos of good dommes doing things on clips. Not to steal, but to get the general feel. I have grown up in a queer fet community, but I don't know much about the more unusual fetishes.
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To learn about certain fetishes I did a lot of research. When I first started camming I would get requests for domme shows and I just DIDNT really know what to do or say. So I turned to PORN! I watched a bunch of tubesite porn, I bought some clips4sale clips from top stores. I also recommend the books HouseWench posted about. I bought the Mistress Manual and some other FemDomme books using an Amazon gift card through Kindle eBooks and just read the books on my iPhone every chance I got.
Im not saying I am an amazing pro-domme or anything but I feel like after doing the research I did I can cater to these fetishes and please the sub who's paying :)
Also for clothing eBay is good, Yandy.com has some nice black and pleather lingerie that looks domme-ish.
:)
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Originally Posted by
SaintSlutface
I apologize if this is the wrong place or if it has been addressed before but I have searched and there was nothing that showed up specifically addressing this.
I would love to see a thread about camming as a domme specifically, but I wanted feedback on my situation. I'll try to be as brief as possible, as everyone knows I'm a chatterbox :D
I have been camming for a month and a half now, before then I was part of the stripperweb community for about 5 months learning the ins and outs of how the camming industry works. I am the type of girl who has to feel very comfortable with my knowledge in something before I start to pursue it, this instance is no different. I have tried on a few different hats on SM, but there was this servile (servicing) attitude that was expected of me that I found hard to swallow. Some girls are SO good at being able to seduce a man, I am just not one of those girls I discovered. So I've decided to try my hat at being a domme.
I am 5'4", typically described by as anywhere from cute, adorable, beautiful, gorgeous, goddess. I want to see about embracing those upper two instead of the bottom two. I am not quite sure where to begin though. I want to be a domme because I definitely have the no-bullshit attitude, I've got an authoritative voice like a motherfucker if I want to, and I have always been interested in the fetish part of sexuality much more than the actual sex part.
#1) How do I learn more about how to do these fetishes, JOI, CEI, SPH, Cuckholding, etc. I know the basic ideas of what they are, but changing that simple idea into a drawn out dialogue is difficult because I don't know what the "average" session is like in the porn industry. Any dommes you particularly recommend?
#2) Fetish stuff is expensive, as are the clothes. What's a girl on a budget to do about gathering the odds and ends without breaking the bank? Is only red/black in or can I deviate to black/violet?
#3) I can go from a high femme girl to androgynous. I don't really fancy being the scantily clad domme. I'd want to wear hella tight leggings, a waist cincher, revealing top, heels. I can wear my short natural hair slicked back which looks awesome, or my long wigs for a girlier look. I love horsecrops. Ideas? Recommendations? I've never been a typical camgirl, I want to do something kind of different.
I adore you ladies. You have done more to improve my life and confidence more than you'll ever know. Time to embrace that confidence and make bitches pay me for it. :P
When I saw this thread I sighed because as you know so many girls come along wanting to be a domme without the right attitude. Boy was I wrong.
You seem like me actually, I tried the girly and cute stuff and I couldn't do it, just hated guys demanding to me what they wanted me to do.
And hats off to you for researching months on end before stepping into camming.
I'm going to PM you my answers to your questions x
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I wouldn't waste my money on buying the items, but rather have the clients buy it for you.
Sam
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I was in the fetish section on LJ and did very well as a Dom. I started out with about $10 worth of thrift store black and red clothes, tied them, wrapped them and ripped them to wear. Sure as hell worked for me.
I also do Dom on cams.com as well sometimes. Do pretty damn good there too. Again, anything black, red or dark works. Just sex it up, wear a piece of dark cloth around your neck (cut from anything as a choker to wear) and a couple pieces around your wrists for a 'look' and you are set to go!
Not all Doms dress dark. But it helps those guys find you pretty quick.
Good luck
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Oh, I forgot to mention:
No matter what site you're on, you WILL be asked to dom at some point. You just will. If you do it well, you'll gain a reputation for it and it'll start being a larger and larger portion of your sessions! I also record my dom cam sessions to make clips. I think my favorite is one where we're both mostly silent and typing to eachother, but still quite enjoying ourselves.
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I heart you all. I've been talking with my camming mama and figuring out a niche. I seem to be a bit of a "brat" when I'm (very rarely) a sub, but I'm almost more of a giggling humiliatrix than a dominatrix. I think fetish is fun and naughty, and I'll have no problem calling guys perverted losers and getting paid for it. More research is needed on my part. I started an acct on FetLife to get to know the world better. I am well versed in fetishes, I'm not well versed in creating a scene quite yet. But I was in thespian society in high school, so I'm sure I'll be bitchin. Yandy has become a favorite site. I can play up cute and giggly and cruel way more than I can play up my "serious voice". I was an addictions counselor so I've got authoritative down, but I want to have a lot more fun making guys cum while I'm laughing (at them). Hell, if they just want a simple JOI they don't even have to know I'm laughing at them.
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SaintSlutface, have you looked into Kinklive? Some do well on there, some don't-but it's dedicated to fetishy stuff. I'm debating it myself, but the lack of geoblock gives me cold feet. In the meantime, watching porn does help, but make it well-selling, quality porn. Anyone can make a video on anything. I could make a cooking video, it would end in a possible fire and me ordering take out. As far as clothes, make sure you have thigh high shiny boots-my pair has made me a ton in Domme shows. I have an extra pair, but I wear size five shoes, so I'm not sure if that would work for you?
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#1) How do I learn more about how to do these fetishes, JOI, CEI, SPH, Cuckholding, etc. I know the basic ideas of what they are, but changing that simple idea into a drawn out dialogue is difficult because I don't know what the "average" session is like in the porn industry. Any dommes you particularly recommend?
It's common sense really. JOI - tell a guy how to jerk off. CEI - Tell a guy to eat his cum, ECT ECT ECT. Trust me darling. go into it without thinking. setup your profile advertise FETISH / DOMME. Let the calls/shows come in and improvise... ON THE SPOT.. go for it. i was nervous at first too, I did not have a clue. I tried 2 research stuff 2 say, so i could write it down and read it back during a show. But i found that simply being put on the spot in a paid show is what worked best for me. my words came straight from the heart and i never had anything but amazing feedback and repeat customers. for example if a customer enters my paid chat and says a fetish i've never heard of, i make small talk whilst quickly googling the name of his fetish, i can get a general gist of it in a matter of seconds and give a good show. sometimes u fuck up and go wrong, it's fine, customer leaves. you get on with your life and forget about it. sometimes if ur not sure at all u can just press "leave show". its all ok. trust me u will be fine!
#2) Fetish stuff is expensive, as are the clothes. What's a girl on a budget to do about gathering the odds and ends without breaking the bank? Is only red/black in or can I deviate to black/violet?
I am so sick of seeing fetish girls in red and black, check out the fetish section on livejasmin... OMFG. U can tell they all in studios with professional get-up that they dont own. I wear normal everyday clothes, t-shirt and jeans, no make up (foundation only) and long blonde hair. i do fine. i have some fetishwear i use when requested such as stockings, boots, heels, pvc leggings. but i bought them all second hand from eBay for like $3 each. and i dont have corsets or whips or anything.
#3) I can go from a high femme girl to androgynous. I don't really fancy being the scantily clad domme. I'd want to wear hella tight leggings, a waist cincher, revealing top, heels. I can wear my short natural hair slicked back which looks awesome, or my long wigs for a girlier look. I love horsecrops. Ideas? Recommendations? I've never been a typical camgirl, I want to do something kind of different.
All those items are good, but u wanna be comfortable if ur going to be on for long hours. write that u have outfits in profile and if some1 asks for a specific look, they can pay 4 u to wear it. i can get changed in around 2 minutes, and they always wait.