Timewasters getting a little bit too aggressive...
Last night was awesome for me earnings wise. I made great money off of my stage sets and sold dances left and right.
Here's the issue, not once, but twice during the night a couple of timewasters (separate guys, they did not know each other) literally grabbed me by the arm and pulled me back with such force that I almost fell. Only so they could get my number. I tried hustling them but it was a no go and even as I was walking they were still yanking at me to come back. Security was called and I went on my merry way.
I'm wondering especially with recent posts if this is a new trend of guys who feel sooo entitled for a dancers attention that they use force to get it. Or if I've been lucky so far not to have dealt with this. It's a little disturbing :/
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P.S. I havent had coffee yet this morning so if theres errors in the grammar please let me know.
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They are getting worse.. I have been grabbed, yanked, cornered.. And some are getting more childish.. It didn't happen to me but I saw a guy trip a girl just cause she passed him twice without even talking to him.. I would of ignored him.. he was wagging his tongue at every girl that got close..
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sananeko
They are getting worse.. I have been grabbed, yanked, cornered.. And some are getting more childish.. It didn't happen to me but I saw a guy trip a girl just cause she passed him twice without even talking to him.. I would of ignored him.. he was wagging his tongue at every girl that got close..
Eww thats gross. I havnt had that problem with time wasters being agressive. When i realize that ive wasted time with a time waster i tell em to fuck off and not waste my time. In my ideal world as soon as i apporach a guy he tells me hes not getting any dances and then im free to move on, but thats my ideal world::).
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jeez! i been out the game 2 years, thanks for the warning! i wonder why theyre being like that? maybe stressed from the economy?
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Yuck, timewasters. I can't tell if they are getting worse or I am getting less patient.
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I almost got followed into the dressing room last night, which was pretty scary. I work in a tiny club and I would have been caught in there alone with him. Thank god for eagle eyed doormen.
And that was after he did the standard , grab yank and pull trick they seem to think is so clever. When I wouldn't dance for free he started following me around the club. Ughhh.
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mia_fey
I'm wondering especially with recent posts if this is a new trend of guys who feel sooo entitled for a dancers attention that they use force to get it. Or if I've been lucky so far not to have dealt with this. It's a little disturbing :/
Yes, this is a new trend because, as a desperate attempt at collecting *some* money rather than very little (door fees and drinks add up), strip clubs have began to advertise themselves as a party place. That's why you now see a lot of women, a lot of couples, and men who won't get any kind of dance. They just want to drink & party. They feel like your job is to party with them. For free.
This is one of the biggest reasons why I pretty much stopped dancing. If I wanted to be in a party atmosphere wasting my time drinking, I'd go to a real club instead. Dive bars get the cheap guys who view it as a bar (though you can bank if youre hot and everyone else isnt), mid-tier clubs get the young guys who just want to party and drink & not get dances (stage money though usually adds up), and upscale clubs, while there is money, the pressure they put on dancer to be underweight & perfect just became too much for me.
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This is why I decided against going back to club dancing. I keep in contact with a few dancers at clubs at they tell me this is happening more and more.
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I hear that! Friday nite here at Baby Dolls Dallas was $1K plus for me BUT I did have two assholes. With the first, I sat and semi grinded and talked two songs, then he wanted two lap dances. As I was going he took "it" out assuming a blowjob was included! Grrr! When I finished he would only give me $20, instead of the $40 for two dances. I was sooo pissed, but stupidly I didn't wanta make a scene so didn't call in a bouncer. Then the SOB snuck out. After an hour wasting time mope-ing in the dressing room another jerk agreed to a $300 (for me) plus $150 club fee, lower level VIP hour. I went but at the end he'd only give me $100. This time I did call a bouncer who only kicked him out, and I lost $200 f-n dollars! And after only two weeks here I've learned to steer clear of the smelly, handsy, jerk, India men. I am so sick of their endless groping, licking, and propositions for pennies! Just my two cents.
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in tampa, i was dealing with that stuff for years. i'm about to go back there (holidays/family stuff), and y'all are making me worry.
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it happens to me a lot. i just tell them im here to make money and if they want a dance then ok but if you dont have money to give me then move on! walk away look back and give a smug smile. they usually leave me alone after that
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yes i have it too,i went to the vip with one guy for 200$ and he was expecting blow job
when i finish he was pissed and he yield at me !
i was thinking he left but after i went out from the club he was fucking weitiing on me at the fucking parking lot. tnx god the bouncer saw him and he came to help
but the guy was refusing to leave without his his money !
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