Help me be a good regular?
Hi! I hope you ladies don't mind me posting on your forum... I wasn't sure where else to go with my question.
I am a girl and I had my first visit to a strip club with my boyfriend and some friends the other night. There was one dancer I really really liked. She was so cute and fun! I don't really have much money, but my group was super cool and they bought me about six dances with my favorite girl. I definitely plan to mooch more visits in the future, but I want to go back by myself in the meantime.
How much money do I need to budget in order to avoid being obnoxious? Am I wasting her time if I just get one dance? Also, for a $20 dance, is a $5 tip appreciative enough? I am in Seattle so there is no alcohol there if that is helpful to know.
Thank you!! :-)
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Aw, I'm glad you had a good time. A customer with a positive and understanding attitude is always welcome. It sounds like you understand that $20 doesn't mean she has to be attached to you all night and $5 is a perfectly reasonable tip. Have fun!
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Just don't go beyond respectful boundaries. Even if a dancer tells you something is OK (touching, kissing, etc) doesn't mean she likes it. And a $5 tip on a dance is nice and is appreciated.
I wouldn't expect a ton if attention from her though if $20 is all you're spending. I'd tip her well when she's on stage too.
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Thanks for the advice! I had assumed $20 only gave me 3 minutes and that I'd just pop in briefly in between big trips for fun. I'd love to see her on stage, but think that would have to be some lucky timing, right? I mean why would I just sit there alone not getting dances?
Sorry about posting in the wrong area! See why I need sexy dancers telling me what to do? Hahaha.
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Omg. So my bf and I went to the club tonight even though the girl I like wasn't there. What a mistake. We hit the ATM first and he was going to buy me a few dances and then a VIP thing but we sat there and waited and waited and no girls came up to me the whole time. :-( I don't get it. Some of them were sitting and talking with guys and some of them were standing in the corners and none of them were willing to hang out with me. I was a little drunk so I cried in the cab all the way home. What a terrible night. :-(
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Unfortunately, this is a problem lots of couples and female patrons seem to have. Don't take it personally, it's not you.
I think there is a few reasons for this.
Many times lady strip club goers have nasty attitudes. Maybe it's because they don't really want to be there, but wanted to seem "cool" to the guy(s), or maybe they get drunk and emotional which leads to them being jealous/insecure and acting like assholes. I'm not really sure, but it happens.
Also, some dancers may feel like they aren't going to get that many dances out of a a couple or a single lady vs a regular dude customer, so they focus their efforts on the dude customers instead.
I know that these aren't always the case; I have had some really cool couples, and some of them I have made good money off of. But when a dancer has a couple negative experiences from a "type" of customer, it can tend to turn them off from approaching that "type" in the future, especially if there are other "types" she can approach.
Also, I think some girls might be a little unsure of how to approach a couple/lady, so they just stick with what they know (lone penises).
If you see a dancer you like, you can always approach her (just make sure you intend to spend) or ask a waitress to get her for you. Or, something I like to do when I'm out w/ my boyfriend as a customer, is tip the girls on stage. I don't sit at the tip rail, but when I see a girl I like I go up and tip her a few bucks. If I want dances from her, I tip her a few extra dollars, tell her where I am sitting, and let her know I want to buy dances when she is done. Doesn't work 100% of the time (sometimes girls get busy or forget) but I've had pretty good success with this method.
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If you're a female cust, you just have to approach if you want to get attention.
Now, OTOH, I am not going to beg anyone for my money. Here is something my BF and I do. We like to start at the bar or near at a stage, tip every girl on the stage, chit chat with them...we have no trouble getting attention....
...except for one time, when we sat a table not near stage and were ignored. But some strippers really don't care for couples and that's just something you have to accept.
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Omg. So my bf and I went to the club tonight even though the girl I like wasn't there. What a mistake. We hit the ATM first and he was going to buy me a few dances and then a VIP thing but we sat there and waited and waited and no girls came up to me the whole time. :-( I don't get it. Some of them were sitting and talking with guys and some of them were standing in the corners and none of them were willing to hang out with me. I was a little drunk so I cried in the cab all the way home. What a terrible night. :-(
Cried in the cab all the way home?
Wow.
You took it waaaaaay too personal.
You just happened to run into a scenario that virtually every couple runs into in a SC - being invisible. It used to happen to me too, years ago, when I would go clubbing with a male friend. It doesn't happen anymore, though, since I now club solo ;).
Like others have said, best to get used to the idea that if you want attention, you'll most often have to approach the dancers. It's a crappy price to pay if you like the idea of dancers approaching you, but there you go. Unless you're willing to club stag (which I'm sure you're not), you'll learn to accept the arrangement. It can also be a perk - there's alot to be said for choosing the girl you want, instead of getting the "wanna dance" robots hitting you up constantly. :)
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Don't be so harsh. It's like everyone here forgot what it was like to be new.
Not sure where you're coming from there, Doc.
I don't think any of us were being unusually mean-spirited. Advice about an already well-covered topic was offered in a firm, no-nonsense way. To be perfectly honest, this topic has been addressed ad nauseum, and if the OP had taken a minute to search it, she would have discovered that there have already been many posts about it, and that couples being ignored in clubs is fairly common - it's nothing to freak out about.
I honestly believe that both the topics of "Why are my bf & me ignored in the SC?", along with "How can I be a good female SC customer?" should be sticky notes here in Cust Convo. Both topics come up often enough to warrant it.
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I know I shouldn't take it personally. Like I said, I was drunk. It doesn't help that no girly lookin women ever want to do anything with a straightish girl so this is sort of the only chance I get to be around pretty women and when I finally had some real money on me, I wanted to spend it.
I've approached two girls before and felt really awkward and uncomfortable during both dances. I don't know if they were just not as good at their jobs or not as friendly or if they felt weird because I was a girl or what.
Anyway, I'm sorry for the topic repeat in your forum. I had lurked quite a bit before asking my question... I'll just run a search/not post next time.
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I know I shouldn't take it personally. Like I said, I was drunk. It doesn't help that no girly lookin women ever want to do anything with a straightish girl so this is sort of the only chance I get to be around pretty women and when I finally had some real money on me, I wanted to spend it.
I've approached two girls before and felt really awkward and uncomfortable during both dances. I don't know if they were just not as good at their jobs or not as friendly or if they felt weird because I was a girl or what.
Anyway, I'm sorry for the topic repeat in your forum. I had lurked quite a bit before asking my question... I'll just run a search/not post next time.
I've never had a problem with getting attention from girly looking women. But, you need to be comfortable with the fact that you are not the target market demographic of the strip club, and a majority of dancers will be uncomfortable with women..mostly due to bad experiences..maybe some due to ackwardness of dancing for their own sex...but since dancers aren't attracted to 99.9999999% of the men they dance for, that's really only an issue for strippers who are homophobic..and you don't want to give assholes your business anyway, right?
Look for strippers talking to other couples, to females, being flirty onstage when other dancers tip them, being flirty with other dancers at tables.
Fuck it, sit at the stage for a while. You won't get approached there because strippers generally don't approach the stage anyway...but don't get so drunk and do a little bit of observing, you'll eventually find someone.
Its not always going to be what you want though...its like going shopping. Even if you go to the mall with the best intentions and money in your wallet, you may not find something that fits right that day. So, you let that money accrue some interest and come back!
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Seems to me that the same advice I have given guys would apply here.
Sit at the stage when you see a dancer you like. Tip her quite a bit, two or three dollars at a time. Tell her you would like some lap dances, and if she says OK, tell her where you are sitting. She may tell you she already has two or three ahead of you, in which case unless you want to wait, you should try another dancer.
Another option is to tip the waitress, the dj, or the bartender to tell your dancer that you want some dances. You could even ask them which dancers will sell lap dances to girls or couples.
I've seen couples getting side by side lap dances with a lot of friction, so it is possible. Give it another try.