Now & Then - The benefits of being a camgirl
I just started camming in October and wanted to share some changes I have noticed in myself since starting and hope maybe some of you will too. When I started I didn't know what to expect and have been so pleasantly suprised by everything that has been coming from it for me personally.. I am so happy I took the plunge :D
I am finally starting University in January and quit my full time office job in the end of September (I was MISERABLE there). I had money saved from that and was not planning on getting another job right away since I will be moving soon but I was always interested in trying camming and thought what the hell - I can work from home, I choose my hours, so why not. I didn't want to just sit there and watch my savings dwindle away. Now I add to them, when I want, and I get so much more $$ out of the time I put in. I wish I had started sooner!
Before I started camming: I didn't even know how to masturbate properly, getting myself off was next to impossible, and having been celobate for over a year - yeah, you get the picture.
NOW? Holy. I get to cum all the time! I have had some of the best sex of my life with myself in these past few weeks. I've been learning so much about my own body, what works for me, what doesn't... My endorphins are at an all time high. I AM HAPPY ALL THE TIME, even when I feel shitty and lazy I am still in a good mood (generally).
Before I started camming: I didn't like my body as much as I do now. Since I've started I swear my boobs are perkier and look better than they did before. Even my lower lady parts look better to me? What? Is this even possible? I don't know if anything has really phsycially changed or if it is just my thinking that is making it come across this way, but really.
I am so much happier with just about every aspect of myself. It's exciting, I'm making money from just being me. I'm way more confident than I ever have been before in my life and I keep telling myself this is just the start but I think I'm finally starting to find myself after all these years? Who woulda thunk it ... ;D
So I guess my question now is what changes have you girls noticed in yourselves since starting? Are you even the same person?
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That's so great that you've had such a positive experience!
I've noticed that I have more incentive to keep fit. I don't harangue my man for sex as much as I used to (I'm sure he's into that). He's perfectly happy to have sex once a week. I'm more like once a day (at least!) so taking it all out on cam works out for both of us. I've also realized that just getting into the adult industry in general has made me more assertive and more certain of my self worth. I don't give ANYTHING away for free anymore unless I'm sure that it's worth it. No attention seeking behavior. I don't show my titties in the club, people PAY for that! No. I DON'T want to date you. I have learned to say no, after being socialized to say yes and never to cause a scene or make anyone feel bad this is a big step and feels AMAZING.
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I cant agree with these 2 posts more! This business has made me a lot more confident and stronger too. Now if an annoying guy tries to follow me around, I have no problem telling him to get the fuck away from me. I know now that I don't "owe" a guy sex just because he took me on a few nice dates. It makes me sad to see some of my friends who still think they are required to be nice to losers who harass them in public for their number or a date. I wish more women would realize that no, you are NOT required to give an excuse or nicely turn a guy down if he is harassing you. You can absolutely walk away and ignore them, who cares about some thirsty losers "feelings".
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Exactly! So true, I feel the exact same as both of you. I'm going clubbing tomorrow night for the first time since I have started camming, should be interesting bahahaha - it's my bestfriends birthday, otherwise i would be at home on cam, ugh, clubs, I've never liked them >_<
It's funny, I was at my old job for a year and had the biggest crush on the IT guy there, totally gorgeous sexy hunk type of guy ... I would have jumped all over that oppurtunity a few months ago given the chance.
Now that I've quit and started camming he will text me every once in awhile to see "what's up" (usually after 9PM at night, we all know what he wants) and I have never replied, not once. lol.
Like I'm gonna put all the work into shaving, doing my hair and make-up, and dressing up to give you some ass because you decide to text me when I could do that, sit on my bed at home and get paid for it. Hehehehehe. And I'm sure I can do me better than he can anyways :D
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neliana
It makes me sad to see some of my friends who still think they are required to be nice to losers who harass them in public for their number or a date. I wish more women would realize that no, you are NOT required to give an excuse or nicely turn a guy down if he is harassing you.
Exactly! I wish every woman would work just a month in the sex industry so they could 1) become more assertive toward loser guys, and 2) stop being so judgmental of other women being "sluts." Sometimes I get sad that my newfound assertiveness sometimes turns into really pissy, jaded bitterness; but most of the time I'm very happy with what the sex industry has taught me about men and life.
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I haven't been at it that long -- but I have noticed two changes that have been slowly happening with myself.
1) I seem to be making peace with the person I see reflected back in the bathroom mirror. I used to look at myself and a voice in my head would say 'ugly, stupid, worthless worm' but lately when that voice sings me that old familiar tune; a small quiet voice has been answering it back with the reply, "Then how do you make a living off your looks and personality?"
2) My time is way more valuable to me. I've started joking with my most adored friends that hanging out with them is 'totally worth a buck of minute'. I used to not value my time at all but now I am much more choosy with how I spend it because I could be in front of my cam making the much needed money to pull myself out of the financial hole I am currently in.
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I'm no longer jealous or like mean to other girls (I could be catty at times before). Now when my friends are all like "look at that slut" or something, I do NOT join in!!
And I'm kinda a bitch to guys now ... guys who aren't either my boyfriend or my friends. I feel like I have a sixth sense about guys - yay or nay. I just don't tolerate a lot of guys any more.
Oh, and I'm more comfortable with my body in general.
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I agree so hard on assertiveness and valuing your time.
Pre-sexwork I was super social. Too social. Indiscriminately social. Problem is - I'm also introverted so I would be worn the fuck out all of the time. I had no sense of how to create boundaries.... I was overly socialized in how to be "nice" and I hated it. Oh you need to crash somewhere? My couch is always free. Think my body is attractive? Sure Ill let you make comments that make me uncomfortable but Ill just laugh nervously until it is over. In another terrible relationship? Sure Ill sit and let you talk my ear off and never take my advice. Talking about a subject I know more about than you? Sure Ill sit eagerly through you babbling even though I couldve interrupted you 20minutes ago.
Jesus wept.
Sex work has torn apart my superego (unless I am in settings where being charming works to my strategic or eventual advantage) and undid society's collective fawning over men... and I am so grateful for it. I am a way better and happier person for it.
I basically wish I could take pre-sexwork me and drag her through a "this is what sex work taught me" lifecoaching bootcamp or something. Itd save a lot of angst, tears, and friendships I should've never bothered with. Ugh and penises I never shouldve let anywhere near a hole except a guillotine. I also wouldve had sex with more women. hahahaha.
Seriously though. I was all bicurious until I started sex work then sex work kicked in and I becam e this raging pervert for boobies.
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Yes, to this! I used to feel jealous of other women on tv. Now, I feel more a sense of camaraderie and understanding with other women. We should be working with each other not against each other. We're on the same team, ladies! That's why I really have enjoyed reading the threads on this site.
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innes
I'm no longer jealous or like mean to other girls (I could be catty at times before). Now when my friends are all like "look at that slut" or something, I do NOT join in!!
And I'm kinda a bitch to guys now ... guys who aren't either my boyfriend or my friends. I feel like I have a sixth sense about guys - yay or nay. I just don't tolerate a lot of guys any more.
Oh, and I'm more comfortable with my body in general.
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Aurora_Sunset
Exactly! I wish every woman would work just a month in the sex industry so they could 1) become more assertive toward loser guys, and 2) stop being so judgmental of other women being "sluts." Sometimes I get sad that my newfound assertiveness sometimes turns into really pissy, jaded bitterness; but most of the time I'm very happy with what the sex industry has taught me about men and life.
There was a time when I manage the office for adlt website.. and well...
Some of the girls who worked "month in a the sex indutry" CYBER SEX INDUSTRY started to be really prostitute...
that all depends on a girl....
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I won't small-talk with guys I don't feel like talking to, more of an ego, I won't laugh off disrespectful comments, and I don't care about hurting my co-workers feelings.
I'm taking a break from camming and working a normal job, which sucks, because I actually have to be civilized and cheesy friendly to people and talk to people about how cute their baby or cat is, etc etc. A little over $7 isn't nearly enough to listen to annoying people all day and pretend to be interested.