My friends disapprove and I have about six tattoos (thigh, arms, chest). I stand out pretty well and I work at a popular club. Any ideas how I can hide myself?? Make myself look different???
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My friends disapprove and I have about six tattoos (thigh, arms, chest). I stand out pretty well and I work at a popular club. Any ideas how I can hide myself?? Make myself look different???
I mean, the next town over is much too far. It takes 40 minutes to get to my job as is. Thank you for the help at least. Would coverup work on the tattoos? Like a tattoo cover up that I own. I just imagine I would sweat it off--not a good look.
Maybe the friends who disapprove aren't worth moving to a new club / spending hours covering up your body art.
Sometimes, in this profession, we have to question the difference between friends who care unconditionally and those who are only on your side when you agree with them.
If you aren't involved in a day job of some sort that could be compromised by your involvement in the industry, and your friends don't have any control over your independence / finances, then perhaps it's worth the risk of offending them.
And anyway, if they disapprove, then they probably never come near the club in the first place, right? So why worry about them finding out?
Thank you. You are completely right. I just don't know how to tell them yet (when I'd beat around the bush of the idea, they would be like "get a real job." which is terribly offensive). But if it's what I really wanna do, fuck it.
And I'm sure they wouldn't go in but I know others that do...finding out through others than me would be stupid. Oh well. Thank you
That's tough...I feel for you.
Do it in a way that's calm and logical...explain why you're doing it. Explain that you're being safe about it. If they don't back you up with emotional support, then you just have to evaluate whether or not they're worth keeping around.
I have people in my life (like my mom) who don't agree with what I'm doing / have done, but she still supports me on an emotional level. That being said, I have different 'requirements' for my friends. If your friend got a job at McDonalds, you'd probably still support him / her despite the downsides of the job. Same thing if one of your friends became a stuntperson. And they should do the same for you.
Every job has upsides and downsides, and as long as you're being responsible and safe, then there's nothing wrong with what you're doing. This is your life, not theirs. And your decisions reflect who you are. So if they don't agree with your decision, then in a way they're rejecting you. Which, for me at least, is unacceptable. You will want to surround yourself with supportive people who can handle hearing about a bad day at work without telling you to quit. It's not easy to find people like that, but it's worth the wait when you do.
Real friends support each other through thick and thin. You have to make a living somehow, this is your choice, and if your friends can't or won't understand this, they really aren't your friends. In a lifetime we will have a whole lot of acquaintances and very few "friends."
If you do decide to dance, without telling your friends/traveling to another city to work, and wish to change your look using wigs & covering up your tattoos will help (as mentioned above). Dermablend is a very good cover up & depending on where your tattoos are, you may be able to hide them with outfits also i.e. pulls up/fish nets, gloves, corset etc.
Unfortunately it still does come with a stigma attached (people outside of the industry sometimes are not able to understand or accept the profession). If they are real friends who know you OTC/ in RL they will hopefully understand that what you do is not who you are, as they already know & love who you are as a person whether you dance or not.
True friends will support you no matter what you do. If they disapprove I would question how true of a friend they really are.
I've lost a few friends doing this job and to be honest I don't miss them.
I am working and thanks everyone. It means a lot and it does make sense. I just think it's insulting to be told to "get a real job". Like, seriously? But thanks! Guess I'll find out who the real friends are. Being a dancer really affects your personal life :p
^ That's why it's so nice to have an online support community like SW.
Exactly. I'm so thankful I found this site!
Best to you hun, & good luck..I like your tatts!
thank you hun! and i changed my picture...i'm so paranoid
Some friends will come around if you give them time, too. I heard a lot of "ick, get a real job" comments from one friend in particular at first, but over time, drinks, and a lot of conversation she got over it. Stripping just has a huge stigma for some people, and they don't really understand what's involved. My friend will never be thrilled with what I do, but she's become very supportive when I need her. People *can* change. Sometimes. :)
If these people know you well enough, no amount of wigs, make up, fake eye lashes and derma blend will help you. They will only by you a few minutes if you manage to spot them before they see you. In that case you can run to the back and wait for them to leave. Believe me, I know.
I told everyone! Everyone is okay with it. Some disapprove heavily but it's okay :)
^ Congratulations sweetie!! Good for you!!
Fuck everyone, do you.
That's what I said :) And it's all good!