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This topic upsets me...I wish I could tell my dad, and be open about it with my whole family. Not the gory details just that I do webcam and phone sex.
My mum knows and she resents me for it. We've always been really close but she's always told me she thinks porn is damaging, and that even the non-violent stuff is inherently violent and misogynistic. I've watched porn several times a week since I discovered it in my childhood, and was always covering up for it, so that's why I love camming so much. I thought she'd accept it, since I'm making pornographic material on my own terms, but she thinks I'm degrading myself and is always asking me to get a 'real job' or 'think about going to university'. I don't even have the grades for university nor do I want to go so it makes me really sad. I'm kind of crying right now.
My parents are divorced. I am not close to my dad, I wish I was but he lives far away and I really don't want him to think that he's done something wrong. It would break my heart to have him disapprove of me as well. Neither of my parents are religious.
It sucks because every single one of my friends that I've told respects me for doing it. I love my parents and I wish I could be really open with what I do.
Thank you for posting this though. I was looking for somewhere on stripperweb I could talk about this openly. Love you bbs.
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My Kids are aware I do it. One is 30 and the younger one is 26. "With them doing it'? Humm... I think so. However as hypocritical as it sounds; as a parent, I have a natural instinct too protect that might put the stop on independent thinking. Parents tend to be afraid for the welfare of their kids most times no matter if they cam or even cross a street. So maybe telling them might not always be wise. Only b/c parents are not friends in the long run. But just that; Parents. And kids aren't either. I know they worry about me all the time.
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my mom.. I didn't tell her but she kinda figured it out as I was making good money without an education...lol.. 13 yrs later she is just proud of how I raised my sons and how I conduct my life and help others.. that's all.. everyone I know pretty much knows..
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anonymous camgirl
my mom.. I didn't tell her but she kinda figured it out as I was making good money without an education...lol.. 13 yrs later she is just proud of how I raised my sons and how I conduct my life and help others.. that's all.. everyone I know pretty much knows..
That's amazing..Good for you. I'd be proud of you too if you were my kid. 'Worried like a mom", but proud'. ;) Continued blessings your way!
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Yea they even sent me a check for $100 to help me out yesterday..lol
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emma383
That's amazing..Good for you. I'd be proud of you too if you were my kid. 'Worried like a mom", but proud'. ;) Continued blessings your way!
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anonymous camgirl
Yea they even sent me a check for $100 to help me out yesterday..lol
Aww...see that's the kind of shit I do all the time. Most of my cam money goes to my kids and grand babies. I love your story. Right up my alleyway..
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I told my parents (mom and stepdad) because I kind of had to. My ex was trying to use my job against me in court...(saying it made me a bad mother or something...) So in a panic, I let everyone know what was going down in case I lost... My mom hated it lol. She still does... but that doesn't stop us from talking to each other or hanging out. Every now in then she tries to do this, "intervention" thing to get to me to stop. All I have to do is ignore her for a few to days and she stops. She has to know she can't lecture me or tell me what to do anymore. I'm not a child and demand to be treated with respect-no matter what i do for a living. If she can't respect that then I don't need her negativity in my life lol. Like I said though, 99% of the time we're good. Sometimes she just pushes her opinions too far. I understand where she's coming from though... It's just her mother instincts.
Oh yeah..forgot to write about my dad.
One day my dad just up and deleted me from facebook lol. I can't help but think he found me on pornhub or something... He's still active, and though I've initiated a few conversations before...he's never added me back. I don't even bother asking why he did that...
I don't even talk to him anymore. He used to be a porn addict. I'm sure he still is too...but WHATEVER!! Maybe if he wasn't such a piece of shit father in the first place, I would have turned out different lmao! Maybe he just couldn't take it. Idk and I don't care. Loser knew when I got married and pregnant yet didn't even congratulate me on those things. So fuck him.
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Mine know and are fine with it. My mom's only request was to not shoot xxx video's which is fine since I didn't plan to anyway.
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Both my parents know. My mum even read my AW profile! They think I'm nuts, but they like that I'm financially independent and I have the time and money to study and volunteer and do what I like. x
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My Roman Catholic mother prays for my soul daily over it and my father refuses to ever discuss it. My brother still doesn't know because we all agreed that with his temper that it is better not to tell him.
All my friends know though and could care less.
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I told my mom and she was interested in trying it herself. She did cam a little, until her husband got jealous. I always call her and tell her when I get an outrageous show: like the cam lickers or when a panty fetish had me put two thongs on my head lol. I can tell her these things because she understands. We laugh our asses off about the weirdos.
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I just love the way you word things! You gave me a chuckle about your Roman Catholic mother! lol
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justanothercamgirl
My Roman Catholic mother prays for my soul daily over it and my father refuses to ever discuss it. My brother still doesn't know because we all agreed that with his temper that it is better not to tell him.
All my friends know though and could care less.
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Everyone knows because I was outed without my consent. I'm now known as "Auntie Whori". Whatever, I make more and I'm happier than most of them anyway.
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I was outed last week and I couldn't care less.I meant to tell my mother for so long but I just couldn't.I was outed and I almost want to thank my ex for making my life easier lol.My mother is okay with it.
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Thats brilliant that they didn't care what an idiot your ex must look now and how gutted!
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My family doesn't know. And I'm okay with that. They'll probably be real angry at first, but I doubt they will disown their only daughter. I've never asked for handouts, and I've been working and paying my own bills since I was 17.
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Nope and they will never know.Not coming from me at least.I have 8 brothers and sister .All of them know except for one of my brothers.He's a lot older then me and a lil judmental well his wife isBut im pretty open to my friends.My parents would never accept it .NEVER.Their haitian.Enough said.LOL
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My mom knew I danced and made weird fetish videos. She babysat for me while I danced. Walked in on me once when I was filming a weird custom involving balloons. The look on her face was priceless. She didn't ask me about it because she didn't fully approve, but it paid my bills and she understood that. My whole side of the family knows. No one was surprised. My husband's friends know. My mother and brother in law know I dance. MIL is really understanding and I had to tell my BIL because he turned 21 and started going to strip clubs.
We aren't telling my husband's dad and step mom though. You would think they would be cool about it since their vacation house is in a gated nudist community, but they freaked out when we were all out for dinner and I got drunk and suggested we all go to a strip club. They know my friends own a strip club and think I fill in when they need an emergency bartender.
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it's been a while since I've posted/cammed and I saw this thread and what a great place to start! I was outed to my mom when she found an old check for a large amount of money.. Since then, I've been called a prostitute, a whore, been told I'm 'being bought' and that I'm degrading myself. I'm not that close to any of my family but it's been really hurtful so got pressured into quitting camming for a minute and tried getting a 'vanilla' waitress job. I ended up getting fired because I needed to take a sick day. (I got way too used to making decent money and also realized I can't deal with the reality of putting up with 'regular' crazy bullshit for $7.25/hour.) Anyhow, it's been discouraging to believe camming isn't a "real job". It's hard to keep up with doing something you like that pays but isn't supported by the people around you so you don't really know if you're doing the right thing. :(
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nolita_xoxo
it's been a while since I've posted/cammed and I saw this thread and what a great place to start! I was outed to my mom when she found an old check for a large amount of money.. Since then, I've been called a prostitute, a whore, been told I'm 'being bought' and that I'm degrading myself. I'm not that close to any of my family but it's been really hurtful so got pressured into quitting camming for a minute and tried getting a 'vanilla' waitress job. I ended up getting fired because I needed to take a sick day. (I got way too used to making decent money and also realized I can't deal with the reality of putting up with 'regular' crazy bullshit for $7.25/hour.) Anyhow, it's been discouraging to believe camming isn't a "real job". It's hard to keep up with doing something you like that pays but isn't supported by the people around you so you don't really know if you're doing the right thing. :(
That's the unfortunate realities that have been discussed in the pro and con threads. Right now, the people on this forum already have more than others in the industry. Your family may not support you, but there is a ton of support on this (and other) forums. With sex work you are just able to maximize money earned vs time spent working. At the end of the day, as long as you are making money to support yourself (and family, if applicable) it doesn't matter how you are making the money as long as you are comfortable with it and it doesn't cause anyone harm.
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my mom knows... kinda.... I was trying to come out to her and started explaining what I do and she blurts out "Phone sex" and I said "yea" (phone sex with a webcam ) So then for a while she was curious about becoming a phone sex worker too.... my mom.. she's special though.. love her
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Hi
My mum knows, as does my brother,and my aunt. This may sound weird, but I've always had an affinity with anything sex-work related, one of my first memories was of being in awe of the "lady of the night "who lived near us, I'd watch her going out every night, PVC boots, black long hair, and bright red lipstick, she had red nails,and a bright red car. I loved her! I must of only been 5/6. I love anything to do with escorts,fetishes, etc.
Thats how I started camming, I watched a documentary on camming, with my mum, I immediately knew I wanted to do it. the next day, I joined MFC,and off I went.
I've had the same career since I was 16,I thought I loved that, until I started camming.
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I came out and told my mom, just because I didn't want her finding out from someone else. She seemed uneasy about it and said "It's not something I would choose for myself or for you. But it's between you, your husband, and God.". I explained a little more about it, and my views on it. She kind of agreed with me that it was better than making half as much and not being able to get rid of people being mean/bothering me. We had a decent conversation about it after and she told me about the stuff she'd considered herself. Haven't talked about it since. I haven't told my dad, I really have no clue how he'd react. My sibling are 14, 4, and 1 soooo yeah ha. None of them know. I think my BIL might know. Not sure ha. My friends all know, and like hearing about weirder things. They really don't care though.
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I told my mum. She wasn't very happy at first but like the economist she is she eventually just wanted to know how it worked in a practical economic sense and after a few days she was like "I'll help you do your taxes!! SAVE YOUR RECEIPTS." I'll take that as acceptance.
My sister and brother and all my friends know and they really don't care. Even my colleagues at my vanilla job know... found out one of them used to work as a gay sex PSO that way.
My dad doesn't know and he doesn't need to, bless his heart. I don't think it's something he could ever comprehend or understand, his heart is still stuck in like 1964.
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My mom knows now that I cam, but for years she thought I was only doing PSO work. When I told her that I was thinking of doing phone sex work, her response was priceless: "Well, you do have a talent in that area. Go for it!" The backstory is that she moved in with me and my (now ex) husband and kids about 7 years ago and has overheard me having sex many MANY times...I'm a bit of a screamer and sound carries well in the old farmhouse we live in. When my husband left me and the kids, I had to move downstairs and rent out the upstairs floor, which meant that if I was doing a show that involved the kitchen or living room, I had to basically lock her into her in-law apartment to prevent her from walking out mid-show. She didn't quite grasp that I needed that level of privacy until the day I broke down ad told her that even if she said she was fine with it, I personally didn't want her walking in on me fucking a dildo in the middle of the kitchen floor. We've got a system in place now, thankfully. She knows I need to cam to support my family and supports me fully.
My dad...he died 7 years ago. He was rather conservative and I've always wondered what he would think of my risqué career path, considering how proud he was that I have three Bachelor degrees (all of which I use when camming!). I figured that because he was so conservative, he would have been a bit ashamed of me. I asked my mom one night what she thought his opinion would have been. She told me that he wouldn't have cared what job I took, whether it was stripping, lobbying, or farming...that he would have been extremely proud of me and how I've taken on the monumental task of supporting myself, my mother, and my two kids. That made me cry so much that night...and I'm teary-eyed right now thinking about it. My dad would have been proud to tell anyone who asked that I was a cam model.