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I actually asked my mom before I started camming for the first time. She shrugged and said: "If you are comfortable, go for it. Maybe you'll find a husband there". At the moment, I'm telling her I work as a translator - not so much because she's against camming, but rather because she thinks of it as a gig for students and not something a 30-year-old woman with a degree should do.
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I just told them. I explained the money and the scheduling benefits and why I chose this rationally and not because I was in some sort of trouble. Now they aren't talking to me, but at least I feel a thousand times better not hiding anything from my family. It's not a permanent career choice for me, so they'll get over it eventually.
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My whole family knows, has for a long time, my mom doesn't really seem to care, my dad HATES it, but he hates a lot of things, we only talk during important family crisis situations, exchange words on birthdays and holidays, and if I even think about bringing up something about work he just ignores it or goes quiet, so I know he can't stand it. I don't really care though, my life, my choice, if this is how I want to support myself, I will, and you think after almost 8 years of doing it he would just get over it, but he definitely likes to hold grudges. >:( We haven't ever really been that close anyways so this just drives the wedge even further, but I will say one thing, if I ever really need him for something, he always pulls through for me, even though I hate to ask him.
My sisters know too, they don't really comment on it, I don't think they care, and same with all of my extended family, the only person I really think I would care about knowing is my grandma, I mean she's so old school and JUST learnt how to type while on facebook this year (which shocked the hell out of me) so shes most definitely on a 'don't need to know basis.'
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*update* My dad found out 2 weeks ago and hasn't said a word to me since. Everything I've heard from him has been through my mom. I guess he says that I am not allowed to give him(or any of my family members) presents because they might have came from my camming money. I tried explaining that my money goes to bills/savings/things I want for me, and it's my husband's money that goes to everything else... Ugh.
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Oh and I told my little sister(who's 14) that I'm more or less a stripper(best way I could think without going into detail). Her big complaint was now she can't write her role model essay on me, because how well would "My Role Model; the Stripper" go over in school....(I don't think she really cares about what I do though)
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Her big complaint was now she can't write her role model essay on me, because how well would "My Role Model; the Stripper" go over in school....(I don't think she really cares about what I do though)
Don't let them bring you down. You're the same person your sister was going to write about in the first place. I'm sorry your in that position. *hugs*
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Just got into an argument with my mother. She wants me to tell my dad I cam, and I was discussing trying to build up the courage to tell him and trying to explain to my mum what porn stigma is. She told me 'you're being so selfish. Imagine if it was your 20 year old daughter doing this!' (I would accept her no matter what and praise her because camming is awesome if you've got the guts and sense to do it) . Whenever the topic is brought up she tells me repeatedly that she 'will never accept what I do for a living' and that 'taking your pants off for dirty old men isn't a career'. I'm going into porn this month, thinking of training as a dominatrix after a year or so of porn gigs... and I don't think I'll tell anyone.
Stigma sucks yo.
I'm intending to buy this book of essays called Coming out like a porn star, in the hopes it'll give me more legs to stand on.
I love the way my adult career is heading but I can't pretend I don't care about the opinions of people I love.
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Just got into an argument with my mother. She wants me to tell my dad I cam, and I was discussing trying to build up the courage to tell him and trying to explain to my mum what porn stigma is. She told me 'you're being so selfish. Imagine if it was your 20 year old daughter doing this!' (I would accept her no matter what and praise her because camming is awesome if you've got the guts and sense to do it) . Whenever the topic is brought up she tells me repeatedly that she 'will never accept what I do for a living' and that 'taking your pants off for dirty old men isn't a career'. I'm going into porn this month, thinking of training as a dominatrix after a year or so of porn gigs... and I don't think I'll tell anyone.
Stigma sucks yo.
I'm intending to buy this book of essays called Coming out like a porn star, in the hopes it'll give me more legs to stand on.
I love the way my adult career is heading but I can't pretend I don't care about the opinions of people I love.
Selfish? Because you want to make more, doing less work? If my 20 year old daughter came to me and said, "Mom, I am camming to make money." I would say, you are an adult and can make those choices for yourself, be safe about it! Of course, I would want them to proceed in doing something they love but..not to be labeled in society for their career choices that claim to define who they are. I would remind her that camming is not a way out of finding your passion and that having experience with work can be important however, its not everything! I would not discuss camming with her if she explains her feelings regarding not accepting it but, you shouldn't be forced to tell your Dad. This isn't a grand announcement for everyone to take part in, its honestly no one's business! Also, those dirty men may have pockets full of dirty cash and as far as my opinon goes with camming, its no different than watching porn. Pants go on, pants come off..I just get paid to do it!
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Reading this thread reminds me of why I would never tell my parents about my camming. First of all its none of their business. And second I already know they will be disapproving so there's no reason to intentionally bring that kind of negativity into my life. Its hard to make money when you have someone in your ear saying you suck.
Sometimes its hard keeping a secret like that but its for the sake of keeping peace.
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My father does not know, he does not use internet btw.
My mother does knows, and found it amusing that you can meet ppl online. She is not judgmental at all. To her my happiness and satisfaction is the most important fact. When i was a kid, i asked her what for her important in her life. She told me:
- i want my kids to be happy.
I was always very responsible, so she thinks i can only make the best decisions for myself.
My sister knows, and she thinks my job is not serious and i cant do it all my life. Hahah.say who? Well nothing last forever btw. Her husband is not judmental too.
My bro and his wife(she is just cossiper number one is the world) i dunno what they know. They suspected me in stripping, cuz my friends tall,and sexy and all model alike. They actually asked if i do a casting for my friends, why everyone is so sexy. Hahah
My cousins knows.Nobody's judgmental thought.
Some of my friends knows. Damn i cant keep secrets ahahah.
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Bumpity bump!
So, here goes. I’ve been canning on and off since 2014, never meeting my full potential as I’ve always worked it alongside a time consuming vanilla job. Basically, my parents are amazing, open minded and chilled people who are open sexually.. but I still haven’t been able to bring myself to tell them. I really want to now, I hate lying to them about this one thing, it just doesn’t sit right with me due to how close we are otherwise. I’m not saying this is the case for everyone, just for our relationship I mean. I think they will be proud but something is holding me back. These days I do 80% domination shows so I’m thinking of saying in an online domme? Not sure they’ll understand.
Anyone else told their parents into their camming career? Any other experiences people can share? Love reading your experiences even if some of them broke my heart. X
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Anyone else told their parents into their camming career? Any other experiences people can share? Love reading your experiences even if some of them broke my heart. X
Yeah, my parents are never going to hear me say the words. My step-dad isn't someone I would talk to about the sexual part of my life anyway so telling him that a large part of it is sex work just feels weird to me. We aren't close enough to have conversations about our lives; if I call him at all it's because I'm in dire straits and seriously need something. That's just the level our relationship is on. He doesn't ask and I don't tell.
My mom has called me a whore for less. You tell that lady one thing and she'll act understanding and supportive about it up until you do something that irritates her. Then she's airing out all of your shit and basically coming for your throat using information you told her. I went 7 years without talking to my mom, finally made some sort of amends, and then watched her do the same shit all over again. Now we're going on 2 years without speaking but theirs no need to keep count since it'll be that way until the lady dies.
I've told my deepest friends (my cousins on my moms side, my aunts on my moms side, my bf, and my favorite sister). Who else needs to know?
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I told my mum and she was cool. She asked questions then she said she’s probably best off knowing as little as possible!
She’d probs prefer it if I didn’t do it if she had a choice in career for me I think. She said though as long as I’m happy, she’s happy and won’t judge. I’ve asked her not to tell my dad though as I don’t feel comfortable with him knowing. I don’t think he would approve.
It went miles better with my mum than I thought though. She’s not exactly open minded generally about this sort of stuff I’d say
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Here's my situation. I've been in school the past two years trying to finish my degree while simultaneously trying to build up a commercial cleaning business. During this, I decided to upgrade vehicles because I needed more room to haul all my cleaning supplies. Well, one bad move and it all came tumbling down on me. This SUV I bought was a nightmare. Two transmissions, a driveshaft and three months after I replaced the driveshaft, the engine blew and suddenly I was on foot. All the money I had is sitting under the hood of that fucking car. I had to take a break from school because I have no car and I was struggling to find rides to what cleaning jobs I did have. It was a pain in the ass so I said fuck this I gotta figure out another way to pull myself outta this situation.
This has all occurred since May and that's when I started camming on Bonga. My whole family knows what happened with my car and knows that Im not in school and I'm sure at this point they are all wondering what I'm doing to survive. My stepfather keeps saying "Don't you think it's time you find a job" and I just get annoyed because I am working but I can't bring myself to say what. I come from a super religious family. If I tell them it's kind of a toss up as to how they will react. I've always been the black sheep so it may not come as a surprise but it's not really about that. It's about the fact that I'm in quite the financial mess and I needed to sink or swim. What's more is if they knew, and understood why, then it might be easier to ask if they could take my son for the weekend so I could work. Its been hard to work this around his schedule lol. If I don't make money during the day then I gotta wait til after 8pm to jump back on. Usually by then Im ready for bed. And when he's home on the weekends I have to wait til 10pm to get on.
So I dunno, I want to tell my mom. I think if I explained to her all the why's she would get it that this was a decision based on my situation. But to be quite honest, even though I want to finish my degree, I'll most likely continue camming. I like being home when my son gets off the bus, I like being able to work when I want to work, and there aren't very many jobs that have the potential to make the kinda money you can make camming. I think this job is so ideal for struggling single moms and I just wanna do what I wanna do damnit. I'm kind of at the point in my life where I'm not here to appease anyone anymore. I'm living for me from now on. And if people don't like it then I guess just don't associate with me.
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AlexiaJacobs
Here's my situation. I've been in school the past two years trying to finish my degree while simultaneously trying to build up a commercial cleaning business. During this, I decided to upgrade vehicles because I needed more room to haul all my cleaning supplies. Well, one bad move and it all came tumbling down on me. This SUV I bought was a nightmare. Two transmissions, a driveshaft and three months after I replaced the driveshaft, the engine blew and suddenly I was on foot. All the money I had is sitting under the hood of that fucking car. I had to take a break from school because I have no car and I was struggling to find rides to what cleaning jobs I did have. It was a pain in the ass so I said fuck this I gotta figure out another way to pull myself outta this situation.
This has all occurred since May and that's when I started camming on Bonga. My whole family knows what happened with my car and knows that Im not in school and I'm sure at this point they are all wondering what I'm doing to survive. My stepfather keeps saying "Don't you think it's time you find a job" and I just get annoyed because I am working but I can't bring myself to say what. I come from a super religious family. If I tell them it's kind of a toss up as to how they will react. I've always been the black sheep so it may not come as a surprise but it's not really about that. It's about the fact that I'm in quite the financial mess and I needed to sink or swim. What's more is if they knew, and understood why, then it might be easier to ask if they could take my son for the weekend so I could work. Its been hard to work this around his schedule lol. If I don't make money during the day then I gotta wait til after 8pm to jump back on. Usually by then Im ready for bed. And when he's home on the weekends I have to wait til 10pm to get on.
So I dunno, I want to tell my mom. I think if I explained to her all the why's she would get it that this was a decision based on my situation. But to be quite honest, even though I want to finish my degree, I'll most likely continue camming. I like being home when my son gets off the bus, I like being able to work when I want to work, and there aren't very many jobs that have the potential to make the kinda money you can make camming. I think this job is so ideal for struggling single moms and I just wanna do what I wanna do damnit. I'm kind of at the point in my life where I'm not here to appease anyone anymore. I'm living for me from now on. And if people don't like it then I guess just don't associate with me.
Can't you tell a white lie ? As in tell them you do have a job, you are workin on the internet doing some freelance customer support for x companies. Just so they could help you with the kid some weeekends or when you need to.
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^I've thought about that but I am such a shit liar. Even white lies, especially if they start asking more questions. Last weekend I HAD to make something up to avoid a family function so I could work and I know they know something is up. So at some point I'm just gonna come out with it. Fuck it haha
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These days I am not speaking with my family, I am really about keeping my mental health stable.
When I started out camming it was complicated I wasn't living at home and I was camming. they knew they hated me, but dad was filing my taxes. Now I don't care who knows and I don't care what my family thinks, everything they think of me they see me as a failure. I really wish when I started out I cut off my family completely. I don't owe them anything.
The way I see it now is that if you are living on your own, and you want cam to you are making an adult decision. You do not need anyone's approval but your own to start it.
IF you decided you want to, then its make your money, file your taxes, live your life.
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The other day the old lady across the hall asked if I was working she went into saying she was worried about me. I told her not to worry I still work at QVC answering phones she got all excited and happy.
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^I've thought about that but I am such a shit liar. Even white lies, especially if they start asking more questions. Last weekend I HAD to make something up to avoid a family function so I could work and I know they know something is up. So at some point I'm just gonna come out with it. Fuck it haha
They will probably know something is up as they are your parents. But you go like this :i got this online gig, can u take care of my kiddo ? *change subject imediately* LOL .
But yeah it is better if you do tell them eventually.
I am totally sure my mom knows something is up but she does not ask because she is sweet like that.
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They will probably know something is up as they are your parents. But you go like this :i got this online gig, can u take care of my kiddo ? *change subject imediately* LOL .
But yeah it is better if you do tell them eventually.
I am totally sure my mom knows something is up but she does not ask because she is sweet like that.
Yea I hate carrying on living a lie/being evasive. I just want to be who I am and I do think she might understand. She won't want details lol but I think she would get why. Not to go into my whole life story but I'm a recovering alcoholic; four years sober. I know this could be one of their concerns lol like 'did she fall off the wagon and she's too embarrassed to say so'. Which is not the case at all. Although, it's crossed my mind a time or two, I've been strong and just think of my kid. I like to think that jumping into camming blindly as I have lol to keep everything together, makes me resilient, as opposed to curling up into a ball and just letting life bend me over. And I hope they will see it this way too.
And like minniesoporno just said, "make your money, file your taxes, and live your life". That's what I'm gonna do regardless. <3
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My family knew because I told them which I wish I didn't but that's another story that I don't want to get into nor have the time for.
I will say that be careful with people who say they are very open minded... study them, watch their action. Words may be how people speak but action is how they reveal themselves. A lot of times the two don't match.
For example, some lesbian on Facebook said that she is very liberal and open minded yet she finds sex work, adult work, sex workers, adult entertainers, etc OFF PUTTING. There are plenty of people like her. Their mouths say one thing but their actions say otherwise.
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My family knew because I told them which I wish I didn't but that's another story that I don't want to get into nor have the time for.
I will say that be careful with people who say they are very open minded... study them, watch their action. Words may be how people speak but action is how they reveal themselves. A lot of times the two don't match.
For example, some lesbian on Facebook said that she is very liberal and open minded yet she finds sex work, adult work, sex workers, adult entertainers, etc OFF PUTTING. There are plenty of people like her. Their mouths say one thing but their actions say otherwise.
Exactly. I had something like this happen recently, I wrote it on whats on my mind thread in detail. But this instagram girl which seemed sweet was like: omg i am not a judgemental person but I would not be a cam girl evan if I didn't have water to drink . I was like WTFFFFFFFFF !
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I wish my parents didn't know, particularly my mom. She's one of those super religious bible thumping, highly judgmental, and hypocritical types. She over exaggerated it to my entire family, making it seem like I was some big time porn star screwing everyone and anyone. In reality I sit my pregnant self there in my bedroom and cam, alone. I don't throw wild sex parties every night or have sex with anyone other than myself. My life isn't that exciting. Meanwhile she was trying to find out how she could become a cam model herself.
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I saw your post! I cannot stand people like her. Don't stay something like 'i am not judgmental' 'i am not judging'. Don't even start or end your sentence with that bullshit. Just say it!
Plenty of girls on instagram, social medias and in real life say the exact same thing while they're parading themselves half naked and not getting paid for it but okuuuuuur LOOOOOOL. It ain't my business though ;D;D;D
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Exactly. I had something like this happen recently, I wrote it on whats on my mind thread in detail. But this instagram girl which seemed sweet was like: omg i am not a judgemental person but I would not be a cam girl evan if I didn't have water to drink . I was like WTFFFFFFFFF !
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My dad doesnt know I do webcam but he knows I have been a PSO for almost 20 years and has no issues with it. It pays the bills and I can live my life around my schedule. He even is listed with my phone sex companies that I have a boss with (not like NF or TTM but a couple other ones I'm with) as an emergency backup for my payment if a hurricane happens where all hell breaks loose and I need my checks to get up to him or he needs to call and tell them I'm okay or in the hospital, etc. He told me he even told my stepmom what I do and she doesnt care either. Its money, its work.
He does ask me how my day/night was. He doesnt want details, he just wants to make sure I'm making money. I guess webcam is the only thing in my life I dont tell people about (except if a potential relationship comes along) but I have the PSO work to kind of mask it and I tell everyone about that if they ask what I do. No one cares. I know thats not helpful to those who work just webcam but if you do PSO work, just know thats a perfect cover for everything.
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There is a shit ton of freelance work now, on the internet. Most of the people who work for companies, are moving to home work. Is easy to make up a while lie like: taking care and doing maintenance for online stores (I tell people that I do upload products on some several online stores, write descriptions, prices, take care of discounts, update prices, yada yada you name it ;D), accoutancy (but I left that aside when I had people asking me if I can help them with that), video/ photo editing, youtube content ( some random vloggers hired me to edit videos/ put subtitles for the clips, or I am taking care of the youtube and social media channels of whatever companies), customer support (wich is the closest to camming), online coaching (wich is also close to camming, there are a shit ton of skype life/ fitness coaches there) etc.