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what's your phone number?
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What do you mean "wow","yeah"? Is there something wrong with what I said? I assume this is a supportive community where women who love casual sex can feel accepted and supported. So what's up? What's wrong with what I said?
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If you enjoy sex you may as well do what you love and be an escort. However, I sense that there is more involved here. Voices? Have you spoken to a professional?
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Yes I see a therapist and take meds. The meds don't help that much but sex helps me deal with the problem. But I would love sex either way.
I would love to be an escort, I'm just concerned about the legality. Plus I have a degree from a good school and wouldn't want to risk throwing that down the toilet. But maybe I should just be an escort like you said. Thanks.
I hope I didn't make myself seem weird. The voices are more like intrusive thoughts, like "you're a ho" "I don't respect hos", shit like that. I think I've internalized society's messages about promiscuous women.
Any other ideas and support would be appreciated.
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To the OP:
Yeah, this is called sex addiction. At first you'll love it but eventually it can destroy one's life.
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Hi SlutGoddess,
I can't speak for the whole community here, but maybe I can help interpret some of the reactions that surprised you. (Please correct me if I'm wrong here, other posters.)
While this is a supportive space for women (and men) who work in the sex industry and for the most part we as a community promote a healthy attitude towards sex, what you are describing doesn't sound exactly healthy. I am whole-heartedly against slut-shaming, and I do believe that our society has some warped views about women who are in charge of their sexuality. But that's just it- it doesn't sound like you are in charge here. It is wonderful and healthy to embrace one's sexuality as a part of life, but it is only a PART of life. You described yourself as being obsessed with sex, and I think Jay hit it on the head when she mentioned sex addiction.
I honestly don't know if the sex industry would be a good thing for you right now. The thing is, it's an industry - i.e. a business. Many of us enjoy our work, but it is in fact a job and it's important to regard it as such. I entered this industry because it was a good way to make money, and I'm comfortable being naked in front of strangers. That doesn't mean I'm wildly promiscuous. In fact, my sex life is embarrassingly boring at the moment. It is a misconception that most sex workers are in the field primarily because of nymphomaniac tenancies.
I'm afraid that your motivations for entering this industry could lead you to some very unsafe places. Please understand that I am not judging you, and this this is truly coming from a supportive place.
I think it's a good idea to continue treatment, and maybe switch doctors if your current treatment isn't working. (In other words, if the only thing that you feel is "helping you", or that you care to do is have sex, than your current treatment is not working.)
Good luck, and stay safe!!
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"uhhhhh....yeah" Turbo Hips WTF is your problem?
What happened to this board? I used to watch it with my girlfriend and there was a thread called "How Many Cocks Have You Had?" where women admitted to having way more sexual partners than I've had, some in the triple digits. Now everyone has a boring sex life and only cares about money.
I'm not a sex addict. I'm not even sure if there is such a thing as sexual addiction, because there's no pharmacological substance to be addicted to.
I used to be really offended by the words bitch and ho, and rap music, because racist language is banned in America and Europe. Now I like the idea of reclaiming these words and assuming the role they suggest so I will no longer be offended. That means casual sex and a sexual life.
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I think Jay hit it on the head when she mentioned sex addiction.
To me, she seems a lot like someone in or just coming out of a manic phase.
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What about a legal brothel in Nevada?
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I hate to go off the rails a bit, but if you "were" an intellectual (don't understand how one simply stops), wouldn't you know that being able to afford to go back to school to earn your PhD in order to be a sexuality studies professor is pretty much a non-issue? Who pays out of pocket for a PhD?
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I still owe my alma mater $4000 that I haven't paid back and they won't release my transcripts until I pay them back.
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To me, she seems a lot like someone in or just coming out of a manic phase.
Agreed.
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I'm not a sex addict. I'm not even sure if there is such a thing as sexual addiction, because there's no pharmacological substance to be addicted to.
I used to be really offended by the words bitch and ho, and rap music, because racist language is banned in America and Europe. Now I like the idea of reclaiming these words and assuming the role they suggest so I will no longer be offended. That means casual sex and a sexual life.
I agree, those words and all other methods of slut-shaming are hurtful and damaging, and perpetuate the fucked up way society looks at women's sexuality and the fucked up way we sometimes look at our own sexuality.
I am not saying for sure you have sex addiction - I'm obviously not a doctor and don't really even know you. I can say for sure that it is a real affliction. Your brain produces a chemical reaction when you have a sexual encounter, and for some that CAN be addictive. One of the chemicals that gets triggered is dopamine, which is also triggered during opiate use and other things that tell the brain "pleasure".
If you're interested in learning more, here's a good link:
http://marriedtoasexaddict.com/a-sex...chemical-soup/
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Call loveline, Dr Drew'll help u
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I'm not a sex addict. I'm not even sure if there is such a thing as sexual addiction, because there's no pharmacological substance to be addicted to.
Even so, I'd imagine one could possibly become addicted to the endorphins released during the sexual act itself. Therefore, for someone who has become addicted to these chemical reactions that Natallia was talking about, sex basically becomes a drug.
I'm not suggesting that you have bipolar disorder, but that, for example, is something that I know of that can cause periods of sexual insatiability.
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this post really strikes me as a male troll...i'm sorry if that sounds cynical but i hear this kind of stuff a lot as a camgirl.
but in the case that it's actually for real...sex addiction is real. and sexual impulsivity/obsession can also often be a symptom of a lot of other psychological issues. i'm not saying this to slut-shame - if you are happy and it's not interfering with your life, good for you. i love sex. i have two partners. i like getting gangbanged. sex is awesome :) there's nothing wrong with that. but i'd definitely recommend getting professional help if it's interfering with your life and relationships.
re: jobs - camming is good. from my experience with prostitution and escorting i'd recommend being wary because sexual impulsivity is a dangerous quality when you're doing prostitution/escorting (speaking from my own experience). it can make it much harder to set boundaries and take care of yourself. i've never been a stripper so i can't speak to that.
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this post really strikes me as a male troll...i'm sorry if that sounds cynical but i hear this kind of stuff a lot as a camgirl.
but in the case that it's actually for real...sex addiction is real. and sexual impulsivity/obsession can also often be a symptom of a lot of other psychological issues. i'm not saying this to slut-shame - if you are happy and it's not interfering with your life, good for you. i love sex. i have two partners. i like getting gangbanged. sex is awesome :) there's nothing wrong with that. but i'd definitely recommend getting professional help if it's interfering with your life and relationships.
re: jobs - camming is good. from my experience with prostitution and escorting i'd recommend being wary because sexual impulsivity is a dangerous quality when you're doing prostitution/escorting (speaking from my own experience). it can make it much harder to set boundaries and take care of yourself. i've never been a stripper so i can't speak to that.
It crossed my mind that the OP may not be legit, but even if that's the case, I'm sure there are other people that read this forum that can relate to what she posted. There are tons of lurkers that read this forum (if you ever look at the number of users online, there's always about 100 or so members logged in, and like 500 non-members lurking). IMO, even if the OP is a troll, I think treating this issue as a serious and legit question could be valuable to someone out there. It doesn't seem very productive to me to just dismiss the post and cry "troll", as this is a serious issue for plenty of people.
**Tinydancer - I'm not totally directing this at you, b/c you did actually post some helpful info. I think the part in bold is especially great advice. I'm more just kind of babbling about this before the multiple troll accusations come rolling in.
For what it's worth, I choose to believe that the OP is being honest. And to the OP - assuming you are legit, please understand that the nature of this forum invites trolls from all over the interwebz, and we deal with them constantly. When a new member with very few posts raises brings up a subject like this in the lounge, long-time members have reason to cry troll solely based on past experiences.
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i know, that's why i didn't dismiss it and cry troll, i actually answered the issue at hand
aaaaaaaand i posted before you edited, so thanks for clarifying that :)
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The OP isn't a troll. We used to be members of the Steve Pavlina Self Development Forum before it got closed down (RIP). SG you've raised this issue numerous times over at SP, and between this forum and the the other forum you've had at least 100 members give you great advice/suggestions, you're still not satisfied with any answers and you're still at square one. I don't know what you're looking for but I honestly don't think anyone's gonna give you an answer you'll be satisfied with at this point.
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If this was a friend I would tell her sex isn't a bad thing but healthy...Just put value to the yourself & change the Vocabulary...