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It's not just the hypersexuality. There are also elements of grandiosity, inability to concentrate on routine tasks and of course the auditory hallucinations/intrusive thoughts. There's no need to speculate about something like sex addiction when you see a pattern like that.
You can be addicted to anything, not just drugs. Gambling, sex, shopping, you name it. It definitely sounds like your attitude towards sex and sexual relationships isn't healthy at all. If you NEED sex constantly and are unable to function without it, then, yeah, I'd say that's a problem. Turning that into your job is probably not the best idea, either. The sex industry can be a dangerous place for people who have unhealthy ideas about their jobs. Turning to this industry out of desperation and some idea that the job involves having a party lifestyle and supporting your addictions is NOT a good thing. You will burn yourself out and completely crash.
I'm also a little offended at the idea that "intellectuals" cannot have a healthy and honest sex life. You think only "airheads" can have satisfying sex?
I also took some offense at the intellectual vs airhead comment. I consider myself above average intelligence and I've always had a healthy sex life and have never had problems enjoying sex. However I do agree with rap music being demeaning to women.
However slutgoddess, if you're happy with your life and aren't hurting yourself or anyone else, go do you and be happy.
Why not do camming or escorting? Sounds like something you'd enjoy. Or be a sugar baby. Or a sex therapist.
Nothing wrong with what you want. The danger is in how others might abuse you for it (as in your partners). I've been there. I'm lucky I'm still here and generally unscathed. If you can find a safe outlet to satisfy your urges, go for. I second the opinion on taking up camming and passing on escorting. Escorts have to be able to assert boundaries and your "anything goes" attitude will bring the WORSE predators to you.
Dude...if I loved sex that much, I'd start selling that shit SO fast! Just be safe and stay aware. And pay taxes on whatever you put in the bank / invest.
I agree there is money to be made there & more so, Be Safe. Try to place high value on yourself & try to separate the two & as Spinnerette said Boundaries are very key for your Mental & Physical health.
Sex addiction is not a disease per se; is rather a symptom of several mental disorders, like OCD, anxiety, bipolarity, ADHD, etc.
The OP needs lots of help; both medical and collective (like SAA). It might seem cool and all being addicted to sex, but in the long run is a very destructive addiction.
I'm talking based on my own personal experience; I am a sex addict in recovery. The last year (when I decided to ask for help) has been really tough but not impossible. Like three years ago I sounded just like the OP, but I decided to look for help because of all the things I had lost due to the sex addiction.
Why not do porn?
After giving it some thought, I've come to agree with some of the people here who said your whole life can't be about sex. Today I didn't do anything sexual. Instead I read current events and religion and had debates about religion and politics. I'm well rounded and I can still have a healthy sex life. You can't make your whole life about sex.
As with addiction there should be some acting out & There is nothing wrong with sex.
^Of course there is nothing wrong with sex until it starts to interfere with your daily activities.
Understand..& this where I see the problem & that clearly needs said medz & counselling.
I'm guessing you've never known anyone dealing with this addiction. What is wrong is not "liking sex" - everybody likes sex. The problem is the addiction process that leads the person to constantly search for a bigger and better high, which creates all sorts of problems and can mean putting oneself in increasingly unsafe situations with random people.
When fucking goes beyond just a healthy part of your life and becomes a crutch, when it becomes "all you care about", safe sex with one person becomes boring real fast, ditto for 3-somes or group sex with people you trust. Before she knows it she's banging people she barely knows with little concern for her own health or personal safety. I actually knew a girl who had reached a point where "her thing" was to pick up random dudes in public and fuck them within 10 minutes. In her car, at his place, in a public area, condom or not, it didn't matter. Everything else had become too vanilla. She was robbed and beaten up badly twice before she finally realized she needed help.
Another huge problem is personal relationships. Other girls tend to shun these women because they don't want "Blowjob Becky" hanging around their boyfriends or guys they're interested in. Men also tend to treat them like pieces of meat not worthy of any kind of relationship. All this takes a toll on the person's self-esteem and leads them to act out even more, which of course worsens their image. It quickly becomes a downward spiral.
As Jay pointed out, sex addiction sounds glamorous and edgy, but when you actually know people who've dealt with it, you realize it's a pretty dark and depressing place to be in.
I would suggest being a sugar baby. A girl that wants to get laid all the time? You would be adored on there. Just put in your profile that you like sex and really want to have a sex buddy with or without the sugar. Hell your box would be filled to the brim.... no pun intended of course.
Generally all men want to get laid that's just how it is. Yes I understand that women get a bad rap for wanting it in the same fashion generally because we are taught just the opposite. Parents are not handing their daughters condoms and telling them to go get it. We typically get told to wait, save it, don't get used, etc etc. If you're ok with getting out there and having it like men do then why do you care what other people think? Funny thing though is that they even have their own thoughts about women that give it up even if it's exactly what they want. You say something about meds so perhaps sex is a way for you to channel something that's part of the bigger picture.
^ This last part is why people would feel that your behavior is not normal for a woman especially if you have a problem where you're using sex to avoid some deep seated issues. So it's not really about everyone accepting that you "just love sex". It's really about you using sex to deal with a bigger problem. So in other words you have a problem. That's nothing different than someone saying " I love drugs" yet they are using drugs just to get through the day to numb out their "REAL" problems.
So again do what you feel makes you deal with your issues but you love of sex really sounds like you have a problem. Which is why you're getting "society's" wtf is wrong with her vibe. The bottom line is there is something wrong with you and sex is your way to deal. Same thing when people see that coked out girl drooling on herself in the corner. She was all fun when she was ready to f*** in the back booth being so high, but after the guy gets off he sees her as a drug addicted dumb slut. In her mind she's telling herself " I just love drugs" but everyone can see a deeper issue that the girl in question has a problem.
Just realize I sounded like a broken record there. But you get it. Problem and how people deal with those problems differs greatly. You use sex as a way to deal so how is that anything different than the person that punches in walls to deal? Nothing. Both have problems. Now if you want to bank your problem then sure go for it. Escort, Sugar date ,Fetlife it and..DEAL. Just like being a ranging crack head people don't like dealing with someone else's addiction because it can roll over into their life. So you fuck everything and oops I fucked your bf and your father and ooh yeah I sucked your brother off? oops I just love sex? Not you just have a problem. So get the help you need which is why this community is here, to help. Talk about it and get deep into why this behavior is what you need to feel whole or whatever.
Or you can pretend everyone is just a damn prude and needs to get out there and enjoy dick the way you do. Either way if you're not careful it may catch you up. Typically another reason why we're taught differently is that woman are more susceptible to diseases and who wants to carry around some strangers offspring for 9 months, vomiting up food, getting fat all because " I just love sex". Trust that it could fuck up your whole life. But again DO YOU.
I don't think you should escort, do porn or be a sugar baby if you have a serious sex addiction. You'll end up doing things for free or way lower then you should and possibly putting yourself in a bad situation. Of course, I don't know you or your whole story so I can't say for sure...it's just that w /escorting and porn you need to be stable or you'll be taken advantage of. Loving sex is great, being addicted to is something totally different.
I love sex (thats why I do porn and cam) but I can live without it and I don't do porn shoots or camming for free or cheap because I want the sex. I'm just afraid you may end up doing stuff you regret if you escort/do porn etc. Be careful!
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