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I have a friend and I recently told her about camming and streamate. so she started camming a month ago. I have only been camming like a few months longer than her. Well she is claiming when I am on she cannot make money!! She said That I am only doing mornings because she is, which is not true I work whenever I can. If nights are slow I will do mornings Etc... She even texted me this morning and said get off cam now so she can make money and started a big fight! We are so opposite looks wise. I mean there are hundreds of other models?!?! I even charge way more than her and she said guys only come to me because I have more toys and I am more experienced. I busted my ass to get on the first page in the first couple rows.
I mean I have alot of really good regulars in the mornings and I am really upset and was crying all day. I am not on streamate to be in competition, I am there to support myself. She lives with her parents still I do not. I believe there is enough guys for all of us. So am I wrong for wanting to work whenever I can?!? This is why this job is great no set schedule right? I just feel really bad?! Am I wrong? I helped her because she needed money. I answered every question she had about camming helped every step a the way. Even got her a webcam. What would you Women do in this situation?
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her schedule has nothing to do with yours...u have people to entertain and bills to take care of. so unless she is going to split money that u lost for trying to accommodate her feelings then fuck her. she needs to do what she needs to and step her game up. until that point continue your schedule..u entertaining her insecurities by not keeping your schedule will just result in you losing money.. highly doubt she will put in on bills or offer you a place to stay when shit hits the fan.. just sayin
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/:OYes your wrong ....you should be paying her ...because she has less money than you.....Be a better person and Donate all your earnings to her every week.::)::)
Matter of a fact.....Lemme have it ! I'm broke too.
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ya it wrong when you giving her the time of the day when she should be making money. send some my way too.
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You are not wrong in any way and don't cry. I know she is your friend and its upsetting but she is the one who is wrong, but seems to me that she is blaming you for her problems. Maybe if she stopped stalking you and spent more time in her own chat she would be fine. I would talk to her again and explain to her everything all over again....even the schedule...which you can choose whenever you want and if she keeps being nasty ....ignore
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I think she needs to grow up.
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i think she need more toys and less texting to you.
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You all made me feel so much better thank you all. [email protected] star and jessy
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you welcome hope we did not make u feel bad it was a sense of humour on my end, but serious when bills are due trust me make that money and save.
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Nah - there arent a finite number of customers on SM. Ever. And customers arent possessions anyway? And if you dont even look similar haha what is she talking about. Business sense would make her uh stfu or analyze what she is doing is irrational.
She's just projecting her lack of success onto yours.... and knows youre super nice and will take the bait. Sounds like an emotional vampire or a bully. Does you know how much you earn? I know ppl tend to overshare that but it may kickyou in the ass if someone cranky and irritating is listening in.
Hey if youre not the confrontational type you could just block her state and be like "omg what happened??"
But tbh just drop her as a friend. She's irrational and has no business sense - youre too nice and are doing well. Not a good mix. A friend supports you even ifyoure making way more than them... they wouldnt drive you to tears to get you to sign off. That sounds like a ruthless mafia attempt to take out competition, not he wailings of someone genuinely in distress. Maybe this is her strategy? idk I <3 camgirls but some of us have the inner workings of the most ruthless Forbes 500 CEOs... which I support in theory and for great feminist justice - but dont want in my psychic space. Ever.
Maybe we all need to re-examine how we define friends?
Drop her like a sinking stone and dildo pump your way into wealth. She'd do that to you in a heartbeat I bet.
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I've had my fair share of people who I've thought were friends(including recently) and this chick is not a friend. My 99-year-old great grandmother just told me that you would be lucky to have TWO real friends in this world. Your only 100% true friend is yourself, especially in this industry. Cry all the way to the bank! lol
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My suggestion for a fix is to put a block on the state she lives in... That way she can't see when you are on... If she can't see that you are on then she really can't say anything. I think she has some serious issues for blaming you for her lack of money. She just needs to up her game. Good luck <3 :P
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She is simply ridiculous.
She cant make money because there are other 500 girls online! Not because U are online.
Is she blind? Or does she think u and her are the only models on that site? like wtf!
You probably told her this is an easy job and now when she is struggling she blames it on you... lol
Tell her to blame it on Me and the other models online. Not you..
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I'd say kick her to the curb if she keeps it up. You were nice enough to help her, it's not your fault she's not making $$$$. She could have come to you and asked for tips, etc...but if she just wants to complain and blame it on you that's lame....
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She has a lot of nerve being so ungrateful and completely unfair to the one who gave her the idea of camming and the website and even a webcam. Sorry hun but shes not being a decent friend for complaining after you put yourself out there to help her. I dont know many cam girls that would even share something as personal as what we do with their friends. I wouldnt! So if anything I would do as the others have said and ignore her/ kick her to the curb.
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Wow...so you introduced her to the site, GOT HER A CAM, and basically helped her set it up...and now she's claiming she can't make $ when you're on? LMAO!! Tell her to try working for a change. Not making enough? Not working enough! Put in the time and she will build biz and regs. There are plenty of guys to go around on SM and as someone else pointed out they are not possessions. They are people. Yes, some may act like animals but that's a whole different story LOL. I can't believe she had the nerve to say that to you.
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Does she think it's only you and her online at the same time? There's hundreds on there and she's acting childish blaming her lack of success on you.
My guess is that she thought it was easy money and when she didnt make much she had to blame someone. What else is she doing about her lack of money? Is she doing content? Twitter? Website? etc..lol..if she isnt willing to put the work in then she wont make much.
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Yeah, that's not a true friend. You should not waste your time on her. She's not a good person. I personally have not told ANYONE I do this and I never will. I have some very close friends but this isn't your run of the mill type of job. She may get nasty and try to blackmail you. She could potentially threaten to tell your family/friends/boyfriend. Have you considered that? That's why I keep my business to myself, I don't need any drama/stress in my life. Plus when money is involved, you find out people's true colors. I hope you learn from this because you are not the first to oveshare like that (from what i;ve read on this forum) but it seems to me that it usually ends badly. Sorry you are going through this and I hope it gets sorted out. :)
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I would guess this is not the only issue you have had with this *friend*.
She sounds very YOUNG and very immature. Anyone who would get angry with you because you dare to be on the same hours she chose to be on has some loose screws. Is she always this tightly wound? LOL
I would tell this broad that if she isn't making money, that she needs to look in the mirror, not look for a scapegoat. Is she that blind that she doesn't realize that you two are not the only ones on the site when you are on? LOL
I wish I could blame all my problems on others too. ha
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She defines "frenemy". I would cut all ties with her but do it slowly and cautiously. If she is going to be that nuts over this....
Insecure people only drag you down. She's not the insecure friend you have to bring up all the time,which is hard to deal with, and admittedly, ive been that person in the past, but actually trying to sabotage you and then getting jealous over your success and trying to control you life is insane, and no one should put up with it. I can see this potentially getting abusive.
The fact that she lives at home with momma, and you actually work to support yourself speaks volumes about the place in life the two of you are at right now. And the fact that you actually need to live, yet she demands you change you work for her to make more money than you ( which is stupid, you have nothing to do with it, Ive worked at the same time as my friend and she looks like a model and we both bank,sometimes Ive made more money.) for pocket change or whatever bullshit a child like that needs money for, speaks volumes about the amount of respect she has for you as a person, and what she prioritizes. Move on, but do it carefully.
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I had a similar "friend" at the strip club, whenever she wasn't making money and I was, she would get all bitchy and act like it was my fault. Or she would make excuses for why I did better then her that night, like "Oh you just got to all the spenders before I could" "Well you were drunk so the guys just thought they could take advantage of you". So dumb, because whenever she did well I was happy for her! Even if I'm not doing that great it makes me happy to see someone I consider a friend making money.
Btw, we don't talk anymore, she was toxic in many ways and brought me down. Only reason we stayed friends for so long was because I was young and dumb, I felt like I owed her something because she was one of the only girls that was nice to me when I first started dancing. She's projecting her insecurities on you because she can't take responsibility for her own failures. Lame
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;DYou Ladies are truly AMAZING thanx for all the Great advice....Seriously You are all so supportive and Awesome! <3
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yes yes yes and can everyone PLEASE log the fuck off when I get online?
Im trying to make some money here bitches and I cant because you;re trying too !!!!! :D :))
Better yet, why doesnt everyone else quit?
Just quit please ok?!?!
and Now!
thank you
rolf
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I agree theres just way too many hot bitches camming these days Geez.... ;P
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Wow...total logic fail there! How on EARTH would you be impacting her earnings?? I actually cannot figure out how she thinks that SM works that one person could possibly be directly affecting another person's traffic? You will probably bump her down one slot in placement - big whoop. The difference between one slot and the one next to it is miniscule - and besides, if this is the issue, then maybe she should be working a different time than YOU are - so that there is one less girl ahead of her!! There is NO other way that your presence online would be affecting her - none.
If she is a really good friend, I would cautiously approach this and try to figure out WHY she thinks that you are impacting her - and then explain why you are not. But it sounds like she isn't a good friend at all - friends don't make each other cry. Kick her to the curb and get yourself some nice, positive people in your life!