Rick was on the mark and it's something I never thought about when I was in my 20's but do now. Granted you could lose someone at any age (my 50 year old uncle just lost his 45 year old wife)but it's more likely as you age.
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Rick was on the mark and it's something I never thought about when I was in my 20's but do now. Granted you could lose someone at any age (my 50 year old uncle just lost his 45 year old wife)but it's more likely as you age.
I never will marry a younger guy but I used to fuck em and they are great! Train em, keep em near you! Keep the old farts for $$$$$$ and the young studs for fun with the $$$$$
The only point that comes to mind when people start throwing numbers & perspective is? How well do you take care? I've seen people in there 20's that can't run & I've seen people in there 50's that run marathons. Lifestyle & Genetics play a huge part in this discussion if age & limitation is...
that reminds me unbeleavable i need to get my butt to the gym tomorrow morning!!!
My husband is 15 years younger than I am. We've been together for 14 years.... I guess we will have to cross any age related problems as we age. I don't see him not being with me as i age before him though. he's just not that shallow and loves me that much. :)
where older guys are concerned, there needs to be two things in writing ...
A - his Viagra prescription
B - your name in his will
I prefer older definitely (I luv me some salt n pepper or silver fox men }:D) -I usually tend to get along better w/ men that are at least mid 30's & up, but I have done younger a few times. Most of the time younger doesn't work w/ me just because there will almost always wind up being too many fights or arguments. I guess, though, I also have to admit the idea of dating a man in his early or mid twenties just doesn't appeal to me because it almost seams like a joke in a sense that the idea of being able to settle down w/ someone in that age range when I'm almost 30. :-\
Ironically, this just came up. I am on a dating site and was just contacted by two men: one is 56 and the other 59. Not that it matters but they look like their age and are grandpas. I told both of them I am not interested in them because of the age and being grandpas and they kept telling me they were different and nice guys. I then said they needed women their age. I am 41 what will I have in common with 56 and 59 year old grandpas?
A 60 year old friend of mine just celebrated his kids 7th year birthday at an amusement place with 10 of the kids friends. Not many 30 year old parents would be able to invest time and money to make it all happen first class including fine dining for any parent who accompanied them. Time required to plan = 7 days. Expense = $3000. And all paid by the dad from pocket change. Mom was taking her state nursing exam that day. He even had 2 nanny types to see to the kids comfort and safety.
There is an advantage to age. My kid and I went with them.
Didn't read the thread so I don't know what has already been said. My man is 15 years older than I am. It's generally not an issue. Sometimes there are things that crop up. He has "old fashioned" values. It's nice when it's stuff like, "the man pays for the woman" and "A gentleman opens doors and caries packages" but sometimes it's annoying like, "you're the woman, you make dinner" and "a true relationship isn't an polyamory." Well, I suppose lots of people feel the same way he does on the latter.
And don't tell HIM I said this ;) but there are physical issues sometimes when a man is older. Issues like that little pot belly that doesn't seem to go away no matter what he does, bald spots getting ever larger or body hair cropping up in odd places, that kind of thing. His stamina in bed isn't anything like a younger man but that's rarely a problem, since he knows more of what to do in bed than a younger man does! He's much more focused on my pleasure than any other guy I've ever dated. Of course, that could be just him.
It was kind of weird when we first started getting serious. A lot of my "friends" didn't want him around because, "he's so much older, it would be weird". It really hurt his feelings so now unless we're hanging out with his friends he doesn't come out with me much. Even though I don't hang out with those friends much anymore he's really gun shy. Sometimes that's nice because I can do my own thing, but other times it's annoying. It's fun for me when he's talking to his friends and they talk about being in college or a show they went to in high school and I sort of think, "Oh wow, I was 5 then." Like, I was 2 when he got his first job.
Sometimes strangers think he's my dad or I'm a trophy wife when we're out in public. I love that. I joke him about it endlessly. I kinda like being thought of as a trophy wife. People look at him like, "what does he have to get her?" Makes me feel good about being thought of as a prize. Makes me proud of him because God only knows what strangers will conclude is so cool about him, lol.
The only thing I'm really sad about is that it's just the nature of the game that I'll outlive him. Men live shorter in general and if we both have natural lives and natural deaths I'll be alone for a little bit longer than similarly aged couples. Given my family history I'll probably be senile as hell then so I won't really notice, but if I do I'll miss him like woah.
Isobel..life is short..as seen in a post...love...not...Take from.
I'm definitely ready for 'silver fox' guys ...
http://theinspirationroom.com/daily/...esting_man.jpg
... well, for a week or so anyhow !
Well for him I'd make an exception, being he's the most interesting man in the world.
best quote ...
"He once travelled to and explored the Virgin Islands, when he left they were just "The Islands." "
Hahahahaha ^
I do think age makes a difference, but it all comes down to that person. I dated a guy who was 9 years older... he only dated younger girls .. the older he got the age of the girl stayed the same... This is an odd thing and I believe is wrong. If a man doesnt explore the ages and stays in one limit then there is something wrong with him. Such as a 25 year old dating a 20 y/o female is OK, then him being 35 and still looking for females around 20 y/o is not right, when he has many options open, why disclose yourself?
So, I dated that guy who was 9 years older, he was controlling, acted like he knew more than me and that I was stupid since I didnt go through the life experiences he went through. He wouldnt help me, support or guide me, but always talk about how I should follow him, since he knows better than me, in the end he was controlling and only his opinion counted. I started dating guys who were 2-3 years older than me, all of them were lost puppies, bad in bed and just the typical "20" y/o who couldnt impress me. I dated a 25 then, now 26, and our age sometimes plays differently, such as im in school and he is in a business job, he has way more stress and things that he wants to talk about and vent that I really cant help but listen. Other than that, I do think age matters to me in a relatiionship, I couldnt date a guy my age . never did and never will, never will date a guy over 8 years, i think 5-6 is a perfect age gap - at least for me, and I will stick to that. It depends on each person, what they want and are looking for.
Generally I've noticed men who only date much younger are controlling and this has been my experience. There is something wrong with these men who constantly date much younger and seek out much younger instead of dating around their age. It's one thing if it just happens but not talking that, talking the guys who seek out much younger. I see this a lot on online dating sites. Why a 60 year old would think I would be interested I don't know. Probably gets it from the media or guys like Hefner who can date younger because of money.
To flip the script for a minute, I have a friend who is in her thirties, married to a NINETY-FOUR year old rich guy she thought would be dead by now.
Sometimes it pays to live in the present.
^ lol.. Then again she may need to slick up that railing and she'll be alone in a hot minute.
lol i totally agree with this cuz this is what im dealing with at the moment. Not to mention they dont have a lot of time for you cuz they've put money as number one priority in their lives and are busy establishing themselves. I slightly envy the girls who will happen to be there at the right time when they finally have time to devote to a woman....siiigh its v day and im in a shitty mood.
[QUOTE=Kellydancer;2297124]Generally I've noticed men who only date much younger are controlling and this has been my experience. There is something wrong with these men who constantly date much younger and seek out much younger instead of dating around their age. It's one thing if it just happens but not talking that, talking the guys who seek out much younger. I see this a lot on online dating sites. Why a 60 year old would think I would be interested I don't know. Probably gets it from the media or guys like Hefner who can date younger because of money.[/QUO
imho, I think this might contribute to the general issue women have with aging. Even if it isn't something that is intentional, say, the middle-aged divorcee who genuinely falls in love with a 20 something year old--the overall collective message (to me) is that women, no matter how educated and powerful they might be, have a shelf life in the hearts of men.
Im not saying every man on the planet is like this, btw. It just seems like it is typically part of the mid-life crisis stage for some men.
It is sadly. Women are afraid of aging because some men are jerks like this. I see far more attractive women my age than men yet these men think they can date younger and that women can not. Because I look younger thanks to genetics, health and exercise I am considering men several years younger myself. I figure if I can be rejected by a man around my age I can reject him as well. I am getting rejected online by some guys my age because of all the false assumptions of women my age, from that our breasts are saggy to that we are all in menopause to all of the other fake things. I'm not saggy at all nor am I in menopause yet men think 35 and up are "old" women. In person I am approached by all ages and the younger men are usually the nicer guys. Yes the younger guys are probably just thinking sex but at least the ones I meet don't flat out ask. However, I've been approached by much older men for sex. Online men see my age and sometimes pass me by if we are close in age, and many much older men contact me. Certainly not interested in guys in their 60's and 70's. I'm really not interested in a man more than 10 years older than me either unless he looks good for his age.
I'm afraid of aging, but if genetics hold up then I will be 60 and look 40 like my mom, who in the last few years started going grey and has no wrinkles. My mom still gets hit on.