Re: Does age difference matter to you in a relationship?
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Kellydancer
Was that a sugar daddy site? I haven't dealt with those, but am doing the online sites and the amount of guys much older contacting me amazes and astounds me all the time. The funny thing is one of the paid dating sites has a section just for women where women voice their frustrations and this is by far the biggest complaint. The funny thing is every single one of these women is very attractive yet men their age are rejecting them from about late 30's and up. The men who are rejecting them also have photos and they aren't worth a 25 year old, they aren't even worth women their age. It's bad enough being rejected by men at their level but being rejected by overweight men is even worse. Then these same men complain they can't find a wife. Well duh if you didn't reject women your age.
No it was just a reg dating site. I mean the guy was honest once you read his profile but arrogant as hell. He must do daily affirmations in front of the mirror. I tried in the past to not judge by age but the older men that hit on me do so because of my age. Once I open my mouth it's all over.
Sugar daddy sites breed a whole new group of delusional men. I know they complain about the $4,000-$20,000 sugar babies but still go out of their way to contact them just to say " You're never going to find a sugar daddy at that amount, you should take $200 per meet" lol
Re: Does age difference matter to you in a relationship?
Re: Does age difference matter to you in a relationship?
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Originally Posted by
cherryblossomsinspring
No it was just a reg dating site. I mean the guy was honest once you read his profile but arrogant as hell. He must do daily affirmations in front of the mirror. I tried in the past to not judge by age but the older men that hit on me do so because of my age. Once I open my mouth it's all over.
Sugar daddy sites breed a whole new group of delusional men. I know they complain about the $4,000-$20,000 sugar babies but still go out of their way to contact them just to say " You're never going to find a sugar daddy at that amount, you should take $200 per meet" lol
Online dating is the worst. I am meeting guys from these sites and while some have been cool and potential mates others are just idiots. However have run into a few already who lied about their age.
Re: Does age difference matter to you in a relationship?
I prefer 3-5 years older max. My experience with really older men have been bad. Most of them are power hungry and impatient in the relationship. But hey, that's just based of my experiences with a few guys.
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I read this whole thread. I'm not sure if it was interesting & fun, or really annoying. A little bit of both, lol.
Kelly - I know what you're getting at. I also, however, see where people misunderstand you. You know I res[pect you a lot so don't take this the wrong way - but it's easy to see, because you do come off as bitter. But hey - I come off as an asshole, and that's easy to see too, lol.
Something I just have to say in response to many of the posts here - especially the long posts by CherryBlossom. Everybody, from every angle, makes their determinations based on personal observation and experiences. Your experience may differ. This is really obvious with Charlie and Glitzy posting about how they would never consider a 20-something again (MM would say the same if she were here, lol, you two sound JUST like her) vs Kelly and Cherry (and others on both sides, just naming the most vocal proponents on both sides) who will barely consider a guy more than 5 years older.
Fat loser guys hitting on chicks out of their league are NOT limited to older ones. Lot's of guys of all ages fall into this category. And heir reasons are all different - from thinking their money gets them a girl, to thinking that young girls are stupid, to watchingt oo much porn and TV and believing they're a cath, to delusion based on their younger years, to whatever.
Same with women.
This thread is fascinating to me because people think I'm one of those guys, lol. Truth is, before MM I never dated more than 6 years younger than myself and only THAT young a couple of times. Yet in the 3 years we've been together, I have been called all kinds of things and had women my age and a little younger are especially nasty about it. Hey - not my fault a young woman went for me & convinced me to take a chance on it! We're 13 years apart, and the generational differences are something we joke about, not something that causes friction. When two people are right for eah other, they're right for each other - period.
Dating a younger woman has affected me though, in many ways. For one, women closer to my age are reticetnt to go out with me - a few have flat out told me it's because I "obviously want a newer model". That offended me, but they can only go on what they see.
And you know what? I have had to look at my situation recently and consider some things. A recent experience with a 40 year old caused me to really look at the issue, and I'm sorry to say - they're on to something. I now DO look at younger women more than I used to. I am less attracted to women older than me than I used to be unless they take VERY good care of themselves. 3 years of getting lots of hot 20's tail HAS altered and skewed my desires. Not in age specifically, but in appearance for sure - more than I'd like to admit, frankly! I won't settle for someone older who hasn't maintained their looks very well.
In this regard, I see Kelly's point. But I also see something that gets to these older guys she complains about. If MM & I don't work out (hahaha) - what then? I'll still be where I am - attracted to what I've grown used to getting. But there's where some guys seem to miss the point Kelly is making - if I still want those gorgeous 20-30 year olds when I'm 50, I had better take damn good care of myself! Kelly hates the hypocrisy, not the actions themselves.
That's enough rambling for now, methinks...
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^ If you want the "gorgeous 20-30 year olds" at the ripe old age of 50 you better do more than take care of yourself, you should have a pretty deep pocket of change. Just being honest.
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Originally Posted by
Almost Jaded
I read this whole thread. I'm not sure if it was interesting & fun, or really annoying. A little bit of both, lol.
Kelly - I know what you're getting at. I also, however, see where people misunderstand you. You know I res[pect you a lot so don't take this the wrong way - but it's easy to see, because you do come off as bitter. But hey - I come off as an asshole, and that's easy to see too, lol.
Something I just have to say in response to many of the posts here - especially the long posts by CherryBlossom. Everybody, from every angle, makes their determinations based on personal observation and experiences. Your experience may differ. This is really obvious with Charlie and Glitzy posting about how they would never consider a 20-something again (MM would say the same if she were here, lol, you two sound JUST like her) vs Kelly and Cherry (and others on both sides, just naming the most vocal proponents on both sides) who will barely consider a guy more than 5 years older.
Fat loser guys hitting on chicks out of their league are NOT limited to older ones. Lot's of guys of all ages fall into this category. And heir reasons are all different - from thinking their money gets them a girl, to thinking that young girls are stupid, to watchingt oo much porn and TV and believing they're a cath, to delusion based on their younger years, to whatever.
Same with women.
This thread is fascinating to me because people think I'm one of those guys, lol. Truth is, before MM I never dated more than 6 years younger than myself and only THAT young a couple of times. Yet in the 3 years we've been together, I have been called all kinds of things and had women my age and a little younger are especially nasty about it. Hey - not my fault a young woman went for me & convinced me to take a chance on it! We're 13 years apart, and the generational differences are something we joke about, not something that causes friction. When two people are right for eah other, they're right for each other - period.
Dating a younger woman has affected me though, in many ways. For one, women closer to my age are reticetnt to go out with me - a few have flat out told me it's because I "obviously want a newer model". That offended me, but they can only go on what they see.
And you know what? I have had to look at my situation recently and consider some things. A recent experience with a 40 year old caused me to really look at the issue, and I'm sorry to say - they're on to something. I now DO look at younger women more than I used to. I am less attracted to women older than me than I used to be unless they take VERY good care of themselves. 3 years of getting lots of hot 20's tail HAS altered and skewed my desires. Not in age specifically, but in appearance for sure - more than I'd like to admit, frankly! I won't settle for someone older who hasn't maintained their looks very well.
In this regard, I see Kelly's point. But I also see something that gets to these older guys she complains about. If MM & I don't work out (hahaha) - what then? I'll still be where I am - attracted to what I've grown used to getting. But there's where some guys seem to miss the point Kelly is making - if I still want those gorgeous 20-30 year olds when I'm 50, I had better take damn good care of myself! Kelly hates the hypocrisy, not the actions themselves.
That's enough rambling for now, methinks...
I think you're cool too and you do make a lot of good points. I know I wouldn't be so upset about this issue if these weren't the guys they are. I mean I do understand good looking in shape men with money having more choices but as a in shape woman I feel I shouldn't have to take the crumbs of what's left, which are often bottom barrel men. But yet many of these guys who do this aren't guys who really have the right to, as they aren't all that either. I get told as a woman I need to take what I can, which disturbs me. I know I am ok being alone if it comes to that. It's just that this whole idea of older men/younger women is pushed by the media and not all guys can pull this.
I don't think 13 years is that big of a gap. I mean I see guys my age wanting 20 years younger which disturbs me. The funny thing is I am often approached by younger men but it just seems wrong to date these guys.
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The idea that you should take what you can get is coming from guys who are counting on you being insecure about your age. Because most women who are single at your age, frankly are. Very. The fact that you aren't speaks volumes to your self esteem and much much more. In any event - the guys aren't ONLY retarded - most women in your position WILL take whatever comes their way - or at least consider it!
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Very true. Plus, many women (men too of course)still single later in life are often bottom of the barrel lookswise. Blunt yes, but true. I'm not and while I'm still single is other reasons (like being too picky). Yes I want marriage but will not bend on certain things (like obesity)just to have a husband. Interesting to note that until 10 years or so I didn't even want marriage which is odd but I did avoid marriage minded guys. There are still marriage minded men even older than me but they are harder to find and I refuse to bend until I meet the right one.
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Meh. I was over 24 hours without sleep when I wrote my first reply to this and re-reading it I realize I rambled a lot & actually missed a few of the points I wanted to make. But I'm too lazy to go back and try to remember them all, lol. Annoying.